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  1. I like bottomless panties for stunt panties. Yandy.com has them (incognito mode of course). For panties that could go stunt and are ok for everyday wear, adoreme.com.
  2. I'm so glad you didn't eat your cat!!! I have drunk after my cat a few times. Plus, we have one of those counter-mounted water filter systems (the kind where the filtered water has its own faucet beside your regular faucet). The handle that controls it is one you just push down or pull up. My cat knows how to operate it. He taps it all the time just enough to activate it before it sort of bounces back up. So, he gets a drink whenever he wants it. Dh is always worried that the cat is licking the faucet part, though, in the process of lapping at the water stream. Maybe he is, maybe he isn't. Who knows? I clean it regularly, but we may all be drinking after one of the cats. 😋
  3. We have a CareCredit account and take advantage of the no interest payoff periods. I know most people don't advocate using credit, but this is what has worked out for us. It has also come in handy for some dental emergency situations too. *We have a couple times a year where we get extra money that we don't count in our budget, so that might be why this works ok for us. I don't usually issue a blanket recommendation for credit use. But, I also do not believe that carrying debt is the extreme enemy that I see some people tout it to be. We are a "do what you got to do" kind of family. Just be as smart about it as you can.
  4. We have many pets, but I mostly just miss my cat. He is my sweet Lovey who stalks me every morning in the kitchen, meows at me, and sits in my lap every time I sit down. Right now, for instance, he is on me. There is also another cat to my right and one to my left and a dog at my feet. I love all of my animals. We also have rats and ferrets. I love them all, but my cat is my favorite (just don't tell the others). Thankfully, all of the pets love my mom who takes care of them if we are out. She gives them all too many treats but takes very good care of them.
  5. We did this for dh's grandmother. I don't know if it differs by state. We had to go through an attorney and go before a judge because she was being deemed mentally incompetent due to her mental health. We were given a conservatorship (which gave us the ability to make financial decisions) and a guardianship (authority over medical and legal matters). Once all of her funds had been dispersed and dealt with she qualified for Medicaid, and then we ended the conservatorship but continued the guardianship. While under the conservatorship, we had to get bonded and had to file reports to the court (can't remember how often) updating what we were doing. It was stressful, and I was very glad when we were done with that part. Had there been a different way to do it, we would have chosen it. A simple power of attorney is a much better option if it fits your circumstances. I don't know if everyone who does this has to get bonded or if it was unique to us because of our age at the time. Dh was only mid-twenties and I was early twenties. There was no other family willing to do it though. There were no other options in her case because she was a paranoid schizophrenic who had functioned well all her life until dementia began to creep in. Things got ugly fast, and she needed a certain type of facility that she could only have access to if she was on Medicaid. It was one of those frustrating things where she had too much money but not enough at the same time.
  6. The best baked potato method I have ever used: clean potatoes, rub potatoes with olive oil, roll in salt (or pat with salt), bake directly on rack for about an hour at 350. So delicious!. We always eat the skin, and this makes the best potato.
  7. You get more cats! That way you use a whole can split between them at each feeding and don't have any leftover to store. That's how we do it. Now dog food is a whole other story...I'm not getting any more dogs.
  8. This boy was held this long because it took that long to stabilize him. He was violent and an active danger in our home. I would not expect the same amt. of time automatically. There is a lot to look at. If they feel meds are needed, they might give it a few days, but please don't think that 10 is an automatic thing! The docs will recommend what seems best for your child and then you will be able to share your concerns about length of stay etc. They will communicate with you on all that. ETA: You can refuse, but please hear them out and think hard before making any choice. Allow time for it all settle in. It can be easy to get overwhelmed emotionally and then be tempted to act on those emotions. Been there done that! It is a good thing to know that the therapist thinks well of where you will be going! ETA2: I edited the first post to be more clear. It was not my intention to freak you out further!
  9. I'm so sorry! Does the therapist have any recommendations? In my experience with mental health crisis (not suicide but still serious), the closest children's hospital to us took it very seriously. They handled it well, I felt. The child in question was held for 10 days **** for evaluation after being transferred to a an appropriate facility. Just give them all the info you can. My prayers will be with you and your child. ETA: A better way to put this would be: held 10 for stabilization and further evaluation for treatment options. This is after the initial eval. that occurs to determine if treatment is needed. That initial process took 48 hours.
  10. Same here my dog had to take Apoquel last month. He is doing so much better. He has taken Zyrtec and benadryl before.They helped with itching a bit, but the Apoquel actually healed his skin. He had developed black patches where he had been licking and scratching for so long. Now those places are fading back to normal. We were also given a prescription shampoo that we had to bathe him with every other day for 2 weeks. That was a major pain but worth it.
  11. We go to Howl O'Scream at Busch Gardens every year. I am not a huge haunted house type of person mostly because I can't handle strobe effects. It messes with my balance too much (I have a vestibular imbalance due to inner ear damage). But, I have gone into some and just shut my eyes during those parts, trusting dh and dd to guide me. Some I just skip all together and wait outside sipping hot cocoa or iced tea depending on the temp. I actually like the atmosphere of the park itself...pumpkins and bats and lanterns etc.
  12. A lady at our church is a red hatter. Her group gets together every week for brunch and cards.
  13. Yes. Water and bread have been very difficult to locate. We went to 7 different stores yesterday! We found bread but not water. My mom and dd located some water today. We are storing filtered water too of course. My mom has a good amt of emergency prep supplies (next door), and we have some so we will be fine. Our church is in the mandatory evac zone along with some of our older congregants, and I am worried about them. I have been making calls all evening. Our Pastor just had hip replacement and his wife can only do so much. Thankfully they have good neighbors but we are on standby if they need us. We did our yard prep Saturday just in case and I bought extra pet food. I have checked our meds supplies to make sure no one was close to needing refills. and I will be finishing up laundry tomorrow.
  14. I don't like that people are willing to ignore evac orders. A good sized portion of our surrounding area is under mandatory evac. We know some people that are toying with the idea of staying put and ignoring the orders even though they have the means to evacuate. We are at one of the highest places on the peninsula, thankfully, so it's easy for me to have that opinion and I realize that. I try not to be too opinionated about it, but I wish people would show more caution. I firmly believe that more should be done to aid those in mandatory evac zones. Schools have already been cancelled until further notice in most of our surrounding cities. I think they should use the school buses to help get people to shelters.
  15. gyn. Dd had that problem at 14, and when she did cycle it was horribly painful. Her pediatrician sent her to a pediatric gyn. I was grateful for that option. Anyway,they were able to determine through blood tests that dd has pcos. Gyns are better at hormones and lite endocrine overlap. Things are better now and at least she could start treatment for the pcos before she started gaining a lot of weight (which happened to me at 17 before they identified my pcos.)
  16. I am no help at all...but I just had to say that I found the title so amusing. It made me think of like a rat-sized piano running around your house (and I love rats!). Sorry, I'm just weird, carry on!
  17. I absolutely could make more money somewhere, but this isn't all about money. I would rather make this work because I think, if balanced right, it benefits all involved. I am blessed to be able to homeschool. Right now, for whatever their reasons, sil can't stay home full time. The benefits of me being home can be extended to my nephews. I think that they benefit from that. My dd has her space away from them here as she needs it. I don't make her help or allow dn into her space. She spends time with him as she sees fit. If I have a need she steps in. Otherwise I am here for her all the time, and I only have 2 yrs left as her homeschooling mom. Dn doesn't really get in the way of any of that. Granted, 2 nephews in the house will be more to work around and could end up changing that; but this fits our lifestyle right now. As long as I am accomplishing what I need, I like and feel better knowing that dn gets to be with extended family. I just have to get the situation better balanced. If, at some point, it ceases to be a benefit to my immediate family then I will do what has to be done (as I see I need to make changes now). It's a good time to transition to new established boundaries. It definitely needs work, and thank you ladies for helping me to parse all this out. I know a little better what I want and what I need.
  18. After catching up a bit, if I told ya'll what I make a day I think some heads might pop off of some of y'all. So, I will just say there is room for improvement. I realize that there may be a pattern here. When sil went back to work post first dn, we had a lot of running late and asking me watch him on her days off etc. She seemed to want to maximize every second of childcare. That slowly subsided as he got older and she seemed more comfortable being alone with him. It was going pretty well until she got pregnant. I cut her some slack because ya know pregnancy. She seemed to need a lot of downtime so it was back to old ways. New dn came along, she is still on maternity for another month, and it may be that this is the same pattern repeating. It may take her a while to get back to a comfortable place now that there is two of them. We got into a pretty big issue when 3yr old dn was a baby over her similar behaviors. I don't want to repeat that experience and may be why I have chosen tolerance this time around. I need to find balance. As far as the stairs. I am trying to determine how much is actually the stairs and how much is everything else. I do think there is some mixing. However, I think some of it is actually what i see in dn. Dd was very physically adept as a toddler and on older. She got her first pair of stilts around 5/6. She was climbing doorways and poles long before that. I was not the type to freak out. Dn runs into a lot of things and doesn't demonstrate as much balance etc. I got him a slide last yr for our living room, and am fine with letting him work out that ability climbing on it, and kicking a ball, using playground equipment, etc (safe ways, because he is already a very bruised child from his own exploits). I do hear y'all though and will evaluate going forward. I do know that I will stand firm on the 4 days a week once she goes back to work. Before that, while she is still on leave, I will insist on taking a couple days in the near future. I am thinking really hard on all sides of this. Lastly, for the record, they are good people and love their dc. Sil just needs a lot reinforcement and time to build confidence, I think. My brother is absent minded and hard headed. He is just used to me being me and while they do take advantage, he probably doesn't realize how much. I am responsible for letting him be used to me and my overly accommodating ways. Some other things that sil has said in the past leads me to believe that her default state is just not one where she sees her impact on others and simultaneously has high expectations of other people. I will need to be more vocal.
  19. I totally agree that I need that day. I plan to push the issue. Financially, they are better off than us. My brother makes more than my dh. Even with both of their salaries, I know that they have had tight moments. I don't get it but I don't ask.
  20. I have already asked if sil could go back to working her old schedule. It is complicated, but basically it would be 40 hrs spread by slightly longer 4 days a week and a half day Sat.(I don't babysit the Sat. My brother is home for that). She did this once before but I still ended up watching dn on most of the days off for various reasons. But I told sil that I would actually need that day off so that I could do labs and more intensive work with dd uninterrupted since I will then have the new baby here as well. I am concerned it will be a lot to homeschool through. She thinks it might work out. I am leary about how hard she will actually try for that schedule though. New baby is 1 month old and she has not yet had both of her kids with her without my brother being there. She said she wasn't ready to try having both home solo. My brother hasn't either. When he had an evening thing, she went to my mom's so that my mom could help her. This makes me wonder if she will really push for that weekday off or not. As far as pay goes, we will address that in the coming weeks.
  21. My dh is trying to encourage me to not feel guilty and to demand better. He knows I guilt trip myself without help from anyone else. He wants to help me be less like Fluttershy (a my little pony reference which is a whole other fictional world conversation ?). Dd thinks I am half Fluttershy and half Twilight. I love that my dh gets MLP references just as much as Star Trek ones. Of course Discord (Q: John de Lancie) crosses over both worlds...so there's that.
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