prairiebird Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I just discovered I am expecting #7. My DH is fine with this, just worried about my own health, but we are in such a patch of economic hardship that EVERYONE ELSE in my life is going to come down on me like a reign of terror. Because my DH lost his job and we lost our home two months later, we are currently living in my in-laws basement- DH, I, my 6 other children. It was our last option before being homeless as I do not have much family. This was traumatic for me as I had to give up homeschooling (their rules) and they do not like me, even after years and years. I am still afterschooling around their local public school and plan to homeschool when DH finds a new job and we move. I am a practicing Catholic- something that is mocked often by my ILs (even though they claim to be Catholic). DH and I use NFP- but since we moved here 4 months ago, we've been abstaining except for 1 particular :D during my 'safe' week because of the entire situation. Well- God clearly wanted this baby to be here, and I'm not going to question that. If possible though, keep me in your prayers a bit so that I may have strength to face all the negativity, the "Well, I hope you miscarry," comments, "don't you know how that happens", the "why didn't you get your tubes tied during your c-section," the "pregnancy after a c-section can endanger your life," type comments I'm going to get from everyone else? I know I'm more of a lurker, but this board has been very comforting during all this stress going on in my life right now. I got many of those types of comments when I was expecting #6, and we were in a comfortable situation two years ago; I don't want to know what they'll all say now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 :grouphug: I hope you can let the comments go in one ear and out the other. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
C_l_e_0..Q_c Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I'll pray for your peace. And a huge CONGRATULATIONS for this new baby! What a blessing! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I have no idea how to address snotty family, but I will just say Congratulations!!!! (which I was always taught was the ONLY appropriate reaction to news of a new baby. Too bad everyone else wasn't taught that!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug: I have seven, other mothers here have more. Just ignore them and get out of dodge as fast as you can. To a certain extent, you're going to have to deal because you're there, in their house, but that doesn't mean you have to own their opinions of you and yours, you know? I'll be praying. And :party::party::party: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Wishing you Peace, strength, and health. We've had to live with my parents a few times. It was stressful, but temporary. Remember you are not your circumstances. :grouphug: Congratulations!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Myeightkiddies Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Congratulations! I'm going to pray for your family. I know ignoring them is hard but stay focused on the joy. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cammie Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 :grouphug: Good luck! I am sure this baby will be a blessing to you and your family! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Photo Ninja Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Congratulations! As you said, "God clearly wanted this baby to be here", and this baby is a blessing. Your ILs may not be happy, but you don't need their validation in order to enjoy the new life growing inside who will join your family soon. This is a blessing in the middle of a difficult time in your family's life, a reminder that God does have plans for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
obsidian Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 :grouphug: and :party: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scuff Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I cannot believe they would say that they hope you miscarry! What a horrible thing to say! Congratulations on your new blessing! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thenichols Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Congrats!!!!! Baby's are always a huge blessing! Praying God comforts you in this time! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teachin'Mine Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I am so sorry that you are in that situation. :grouphug: I'm praying that your husband gets work and you can all move soon! Congratulations!!!!! What a wonderful blessing this baby will be for you and your family! :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I'm praying for your family and job and lots of love for the new baby! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funschooler5 Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 :grouphug: Congratulations! We are expecting #4 right now, at our most financially-challenged time. We haven't had the comments from people that you have, but I'm sure there are people out there that think we're irresponsible. I hope you're able to ignore the comments and enjoy your pregnancy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Just don't tell them, that's what we're doing!! :D Congratulations! When are you due? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holly IN Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Congrats!!! What a blessing this baby will be to your own family. Sorry for the circumstances you are in with your hubby and kids. Not a catholic but we do believe in not using BC (only naturally based BC such as calendar method and such).... Hopefully your circumstances will change with jobs and home that is exclusive to you/hubby and your kids. :grouphug::grouphug: Holly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Lulu* Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! :grouphug: I know how much it hurts when people are less than gracious about pregnancy announcements. Our last two were "we just bumped elbows" babies and it felt like DH, the kids, and I were the only ones in our world who were excited about the news. I pray that 2012 holds more favorable circumstances for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WeeBeaks Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Aw, congratulations. :grouphug: I hope your in-laws can keep their mouths shut. How could they say that about their own grandbabies? Best wishes in the coming PG and year for a new start for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeW88 Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Awww, congratulations!! Babies are always a blessing! Don't mind the mean people...they are obviously small and pathetic to wish a miscarriage on anyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 :grouphug: congratulations! Your hubby's opinion is the most important. Prayers your way for an improvement for your financial situation to go along with your new bundle of joy. oh, and get a pair of earplugs for when you have to be around your ils.;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Congratulations. Praying for good news of a job for your dh too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whereneverever Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Congratulations! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UmMusa Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Congratulations, praying for a healthy pregnancy! No negative comments here :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 First and foremost, Congratulations! I will send you good thoughts and prayers for peace and patience in the months ahead. And a job for your dh! We've been through a long layoff and I'm still twitchy over it. I hope your situation improves soon! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happypamama Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Congratulations!!! We were in somewhat similar circumstances a year ago when we discovered we were expecting number four. We weren't living with parents, but we weren't exactly financially stable. Well, we still aren't financially stable, but we don't regret our sweet baby boy one little bit. Money will come and go, but we can't imagine not having this little guy -- he adds so very much sweetness and joy to our lives! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silliness7 Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug:Congrats and hugs!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eternalknot Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 No advice, just lots of hugs for the uncomfortable situation. And most importantly, many congratulations on your pregnancy ~ that's wonderful news, whatever the situation! As long as you, your husband, and children remember so ... everything will turn out well, naysayers be ... "darned" ...! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ezrabean2005 Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Congratulations on your precious blessing!! I'm so sorry that you are going through a tough season, but it will end. You are in my prayers and thoughts. Hold tight to your DH and children through this. You will come out on the other side. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PentecostalMom Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Congratulations! As you said, "God clearly wanted this baby to be here", and this baby is a blessing. Your ILs may not be happy, but you don't need their validation in order to enjoy the new life growing inside who will join your family soon. This is a blessing in the middle of a difficult time in your family's life, a reminder that God does have plans for your family. :iagree: and :hurray: God never makes mistakes! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I'll pray for your peace. And a huge CONGRATULATIONS for this new baby! What a blessing! Me too. Congrats...and just don't say anything. They will figure it out...and when they do, you can say why you kept it a secret. Maybe, by then dh will have a job....and you can relax and enjoy your baby. Prayers and :grouphug: Faithe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PentecostalMom Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Just don't tell them, that's what we're doing!! :D Oooo, this may work for awhile! Just keep it a secret between you and dh! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dtsmamtj Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 :party::party::party: sorry about the comments -they can hurt-congrats on your new blessing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kolamum Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 :grouphug: You know what, I simply wouldn't tell them! ;) I'd let them know when I was showing. I'm mean like that. :D Oh, and congratulations! Babies are always worth celebrating.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jhschool Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I think you are very lucky to be pregnant! I think your seventh child will be blessed and lucky and will bring you joy! I send you good thoughts and I pray that you have a peaceful time. I pray that your husband will find a job soon. Just say to IL's: That's not a very nice thing to say. Or: That doesn't make me feel very happy to be treated like that. Or just ignore them--they sound like they are not worth answering, really. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindergretta Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I wouldn't tell them. People who are going to rain on your parade deserve no such consideration. When you start showing and they ask, then I guess they will know. Until then, embrace the joy!!!!!! :grouphug: Congratulations!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Praying for a job for your dh. Congratulations! :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coffeefreak Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 :grouphug: and Congrats!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 congrats and praying! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beaners Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Congratulations!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Congratulations! Babies are wonderful! I agree with the pp - don't tell them until you have to. I'm sorry you have to deal with people like that. I will pray that something opens up for your dh and you can get out of there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quiver0f10 Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Congratulations! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 :grouphug: Congtulations! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Congratulations. Don't tell. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura in MI Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 You & your family are in my prayers, :grouphug:'s & Congratulations! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Congratulations. Don't tell. :iagree: Wait until the baby's crowning! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2denj Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Congratulations!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SailorMom Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 :party: Congrats, and ignore the rude comments :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetMissMagnolia Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 :iagree: what a blessing!!! :grouphug: hang in there..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jewellsmommy Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Congratulations! Prayers said. :grouphug: Stay strong. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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