dirty ethel rackham Posted August 28, 2019 Share Posted August 28, 2019 (edited) So, last week I started classes for the Medical Sonography program. I am loving it. Long days, but I am so happy to have something that occupies my mind and where I am getting to know new people ... inside and out, literally. So, we have scan labs where we scan each other to learn scanning techniques, protocols, and what those grayscale swirly images really are. Yesterday, we were practicing trans abdominal pelvic scans. We often find differences that are often not clinically significant. But sometimes, we find things that need to be checked out. When it was my turn to be a patient, when they were searching for my ovaries (hard to find on postmenopausal women), they found a rather large cyst where an ovary would usually be and was approximately the size of an ovary The instructor told me it was probably nothing, but given my age and menstrual status, it would be a good idea to get it checked out. So, I got in to see the PA today so that I could get the referral for an official scan and a referral to a gynecologist. My scan is scheduled for Sunday. Please pray that this turns out to be nothing. (No family history of ovarian cancer that I know of and I am asymptomatic.) I staying busy enough not to worry too much, but the waiting between appointments is really hard. My other issue has to do with K. We had a serious issue last March and K was arrested for assaulting dh. She has been out of the house and life is calmer and less hostile at home. She has chosen to go to trial (why, I don't know ... I think she just hasn't had any good legal advice despite my efforts to get her some through back channels.) Which means dh was issued a subpoena to testify. We had some reports of less hostile feelings towards us since she has been out of the house, but this may put her over the edge and may escalate any danger ... and make things worse for herself. The trial is in 3 weeks. In the meantime, she has really struggled ... couch surfing, squatting in a rental house with friends who then abandoned her. I have been putting small amounts of money in her account to make sure she can get medications and food, but not enough for her to do something stupid. My heart is breaking ... for the loss of relationship with her, for her lost future, for the difficulties she is facing now, and for what may come. UPDATE: I had the scan yesterday. As much as I tried not to worry, I started imagining all the horrible things that could happen, especially since this is a postmenopausal finding. The tech took a long time visualizing things that were not this cyst, so of course, I made myself pretty crazy. However, it is amazing what a good night's sleep can do. I woke up able to put it out of my head and study like crazy for 3 quizzes I have this week. I wasn't expecting the results until Wednesday, but I received a notice on MyChart that they came in. Nothing else on there but a nearly 5 cm cyst on my right ovary. It looks like a fluid filled sac, nothing bad in there and nothing else remarkable in the entire area. So, I just need to check in with a gynecologist and will likely just need some follow up scans to make sure it doesn't become something more troublesome. I think you for your prayers and good thoughts. We still don't know what will happen with K. Trial is in 2 weeks. Not sure if she will be homeless by then. I hope she was able to connect with some of the resources we sent via backchannels. Edited September 3, 2019 by dirty ethel rackham 4 31 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheReader Posted August 28, 2019 Share Posted August 28, 2019 (((Hugs))) to you. I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of that. Prayers for all the issues, and for peace & strength for you & your DH in the midst of all of it. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MysteryJen Posted August 28, 2019 Share Posted August 28, 2019 ((Hugs)) I will keep your family in my prayers. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted August 28, 2019 Share Posted August 28, 2019 Hugs to you- that’s a lot to deal with. We’ve struggled with dd’s mental illness and it’s really been a rocky relationship. It’s hard - so many emotions! Praying for your medical scare to be no big deal. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
school17777 Posted August 28, 2019 Share Posted August 28, 2019 Praying for your scan and K. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junie Posted August 28, 2019 Share Posted August 28, 2019 Praying. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
almondbutterandjelly Posted August 28, 2019 Share Posted August 28, 2019 ((hugs)) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kareni Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 Sending good thoughts for your health and for your family. Regards, Kareni 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scholastica Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 Prayers. That is so much at once. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corraleno Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 Sending lots of ((hugs)) and postive thoughts 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janeway Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 I am so sorry you are going through so much!!!! My prayers will be with you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScoutTN Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 Praying for your health and for K, for you and your dh. So sorry for this intensely hard journey. Praying for peace, wisdom, rest, healing. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selkie Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 I am so sorry that you are dealing with so much stress. Hugs! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frances Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 So glad to hear you are enjoying your program! I’m sending good thoughts that the cyst is nothing and things resolve peacefully with your child. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 Sending love and well wishes! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimberly in IN Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 Prayers for your health and for your family. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyoffive Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 Sending some good luck for the scan. Sending some hugs your way. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeppermintPattie Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 Praying for good results for both requests! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klmama Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 Praying for you and for your family, that you all get the help you need to come through these difficult situations stronger and healthier - in mind, body, and relationships with each other. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 Praying for a clean scan and peace for K. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 I hope the scan is nothing or else, something easily dealt with. How fortuitous, though, that this anomaly was discovered through the class. One of the troubles with ovaries is the propensity for problems to go undetected for too long. I am so sorry about the relationship with K. I was just talking to a friend whose child has similar problems and it just breaks my heart into pieces. They are about the most outstanding parents I know but their child has profound mental illness and it’s hard to repair. Those are times I wish I had a magic wand and could just fix it. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 hugs and prayers for you, strength and peace for this difficult time 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 huge hugs 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 (((Hugs))) I'll be keeping you in my thoughts. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 Hugs for you and many prayers. I'm sorry it is so tough with K--I know that pain runs deep. ((( Ellen ))) (And also cheering for you with your medical sonography pursuits. It is just like you to take a tough season and choose a path that is affirming and life-giving.) 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mumto2 Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 Sending hugs and prayers...... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valley Girl Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 Prayers, absolutely. I'm so sorry you're facing yet another trial, Ethel. I hope the scan gives you reassurance. As for K, sometimes no matter what we do or how hard we try and how much we love someone, things are out of our hands. You and the rest of your family matter, too. You need to be safe as well. I so admire how you have pushed through every difficulty with such love. Best wishes. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mominco Posted August 29, 2019 Share Posted August 29, 2019 (((hugs))) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted August 30, 2019 Share Posted August 30, 2019 I will pray. Hugs to you. ❤️ 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Florida Posted September 1, 2019 Share Posted September 1, 2019 I'm so sorry you've got stuff piling up. I will be sending healthy thoughts for you and peaceful thoughts for your family. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted September 1, 2019 Share Posted September 1, 2019 I don’t know how you and your husband cope. I am so sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junie Posted September 2, 2019 Share Posted September 2, 2019 I hope that your scan went well today and that you get the results quickly. Hugs! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted September 2, 2019 Share Posted September 2, 2019 I will pray for you. Tomorrow I was thinking of heading to the Holy Sepulchre; if I make it down there I will pray w special intention for you. You know I have had difficult years w my ds; just want to say it can get better. He told me a few weeks ago that he understood our intentions and that made our decisions (for treatment) ok with him. He is letting go of some of the anger and pain he felt WRT his residential programs and such. It was good to hear, and allowed me the grace to say we made mistakes, too (which I've acknowledged before, but this was another opportunity). All to say, I do hold hope for you and your daughter. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mumto2 Posted September 3, 2019 Share Posted September 3, 2019 So glad your results came so quickly and were essentially good news, Sending more hugs and prayers your way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scholastica Posted September 3, 2019 Share Posted September 3, 2019 (edited) So glad you got good results. I will be definitely praying for you and your whole family the next 2 weeks. Edited September 3, 2019 by scholastica Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted September 3, 2019 Share Posted September 3, 2019 I'm glad part 1 resolved well, and I'm hoping that the situation with K resolves itself in the best possible way. Hugs to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Florida Posted September 3, 2019 Share Posted September 3, 2019 On 8/28/2019 at 5:13 PM, dirty ethel rackham said: UPDATE: I had the scan yesterday. As much as I tried not to worry, I started imagining all the horrible things that could happen, especially since this is a postmenopausal finding. The tech took a long time visualizing things that were not this cyst, so of course, I made myself pretty crazy. However, it is amazing what a good night's sleep can do. I woke up able to put it out of my head and study like crazy for 3 quizzes I have this week. I wasn't expecting the results until Wednesday, but I received a notice on MyChart that they came in. Nothing else on there but a nearly 5 cm cyst on my right ovary. It looks like a fluid filled sac, nothing bad in there and nothing else remarkable in the entire area. So, I just need to check in with a gynecologist and will likely just need some follow up scans to make sure it doesn't become something more troublesome. I'm very glad to read this part of the update. I've been doing assorted scans and diagnostic procedures for the last four or five weeks, and I know how tough it is to avoid conjuring up the worst case every time. So happy that at least this doesn't need to become a bigger issue for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyoffive Posted September 3, 2019 Share Posted September 3, 2019 I am so happy you got good news from the scan. Sending some good thoughts your way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted September 3, 2019 Share Posted September 3, 2019 Great news about the scan! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zoo Keeper Posted September 3, 2019 Share Posted September 3, 2019 So glad to hear about the scan! Still praying for the other family matters. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted September 3, 2019 Share Posted September 3, 2019 So glad it was just a cyst! I've had many and they all disappeared on their own. More hugs and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pen Posted September 3, 2019 Share Posted September 3, 2019 I’m so glad it is just a cyst. I hope the trial will go okay. What would be a good outcome to pray for? Or just a general God’s will be done prayer? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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