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Catwoman Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I am so very, very sorry. :crying: How horrible of his wife not to have called at least one member of the family to ask them to inform the other relatives. Even if you weren't close, he was still your BROTHER! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebecca VA Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 That is shocking. I'm terribly sorry for you! Was this unexpected? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest inoubliable Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 :grouphug: I am sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy in TX Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm very sorry for your loss. ((((hugs)))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lavender's green Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GailV Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassy Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 :grouphug: That must be very hard. I'm so very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janie Grace Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm so very sorry for you, and for how you found out. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Marple Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm so sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mytwomonkeys Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: my heart & prayers go out to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathryn Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm so sorry :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PachiSusan Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 Oh my gosh, I am so very sorry hun!!! I can't believe someone would be so calloused as to announce it like that. HUGS and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle in MO Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm so very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caitlinsmom Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: And it was horrible for her to post that. Maybe she couldn't find a way to pick up the phone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm so sorry! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mumto2 Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 Many hugs to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Starr Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: A terrible shock for the whole family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom28kds Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm so sorry. Hugs and prayers your way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 Apparently his wife did leave a phone message for my mom (his step-mom), but she hadn't received it yet. My brother just turned 40. His death was unexpected. We don't know the cause yet, just that he stopped breathing in the middle of the night. Well, at least she called someone in the family, but am I the only one who wouldn't even think of posting on Facebook within hours of a huge tragedy? I know people want to get the word out when something happens, but IMO, this is not the kind of thing that close family and friends want to learn about on Facebook. It seems so insensitive. At least wait until you know that all of the "important" people have been personally notified! And while I'm complaining, what kind of insensitive idiot would leave a phone message for a mom, telling her straight out that her son had died? Wouldn't you have waited to talk to her before you said it to a machine???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm so sorry. I'm not close to my brother, either, but I'm sure no one in my family would FB a notification like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giraffe Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 Well, at least she called someone in the family, but am I the only one who wouldn't even think of posting on Facebook within hours of a huge tragedy? I know people want to get the word out when something happens, but IMO, this is not the kind of thing that close family and friends want to learn about on Facebook. It seems so insensitive. At least wait until you know that all of the "important" people have been personally notified! And while I'm complaining, what kind of insensitive idiot would leave a phone message for a mom, telling her straight out that her son had died? Wouldn't you have waited to talk to her before you said it to a machine???? Let's give her the benefit of the doubt. Her husband died unexpectedly. I'm not sure I would be thinking rationally. It just seems kind of harsh to be calling a new widow names. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 And I found out on Facebook. Granted, we haven't been close for years, but still. His wife posted a status update instead of calling any of his family. He leaves behind a beautiful 5 year old son. I'm kind of numb. I'm so very sorry :grouphug: . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jrn Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 :grouphug: I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JenniferB Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm very sorry. May his memory be eternal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsBasil Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 So sorry. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. I would tend to give a new widow quite a bit leeway in a situation like this. It was unexpected and he was so very young. Very sad. :crying: If my DH died unexpectedly, it wouldn't necessarily be on my radar to comfort family he wasn't close to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I am sorry for your family's loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Izzy Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 :grouphug: I'm so very sorry. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Catwoman Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 Let's give her the benefit of the doubt. Her husband died unexpectedly. I'm not sure I would be thinking rationally. It just seems kind of harsh to be calling a new widow names. We're going to have to agree to disagree on this one. I don't think you would need to be thinking incredibly rationally to realize that it is incredibly poor taste to call your MIL on the phone and leave her a message on her answering machine that her son died. :eek: Even the dimmest-witted person on the planet should realize that a mother would probably prefer to hear that kind of horrible information directly... as would other close family members, who apparently had to find out on Facebook. I'm sorry, but even when you're going through something as awful a shaving your dh die suddenly, it doesn't excuse you from having a little common courtesy toward his mom and siblings. But enough about the insensitive SIL -- we should be focusing on amana and her feelings. What an incredible shock for her and her whole family -- no one expects this, and especially not to a 40 year old man! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 oh my goodness! How shocking for you to find out that way. I'm so very sorry for your family's loss. Even if you weren't close, it's still got to be hard Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I don't think you would need to be thinking incredibly rationally to realize that it is incredibly poor taste to call your MIL on the phone and leave her a message on her answering machine that her son died. :eek: Even the dimmest-witted person on the planet should realize that a mother would probably prefer to hear that kind of horrible information directly... as would other close family members, who apparently had to find out on Facebook. I'm sorry, but even when you're going through something as awful a shaving your dh die suddenly, it doesn't excuse you from having a little common courtesy toward his mom and siblings. Sometimes your callousness shocks me, Catwoman. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiegirl Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I am so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Eagle Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm so very sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kari C in SC Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 Well, at least she called someone in the family, but am I the only one who wouldn't even think of posting on Facebook within hours of a huge tragedy? I know people want to get the word out when something happens, but IMO, this is not the kind of thing that close family and friends want to learn about on Facebook. It seems so insensitive. At least wait until you know that all of the "important" people have been personally notified! And while I'm complaining, what kind of insensitive idiot would leave a phone message for a mom, telling her straight out that her son had died? Wouldn't you have waited to talk to her before you said it to a machine???? I'm very sorry for your loss. I remember when my son died that in my haze I was very worried one of is friends would post something before I had to make sure most people knew. I don't believe anybody did, but I remember saying this to my husband as he contacted people in many different states. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 Amana, I'm so sorry for your loss. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Freckles Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm so very sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 People are nuts! I am sorry....so sorry about your brother. I will probably hear about mine through a text message 2 weeks after the fact.....sigh.....I sometimes just don't get it. I am sorry for your loss and for the rudeness of your sil. Poor little nephew....sigh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tearose Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 I'm so sorry for your loss, amana. my condolences to you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted January 18, 2013 Share Posted January 18, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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