Desert Rat Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 I got to hold his hand as he slipped from this world. We signed the DNR and told him we'd be okay. He didn't have to fight anymore. Within 3 hours, he was gone. My dad was the first man I ever loved. He taught me to be a good person, how to ride a bike and tie my shoes. He always smelled like celery from his job at the grocery store. He worked 2 jobs to support us and decided late in life that his true calling was the ministry. He was fiercely loyal and kind. He had polio at 3 and was told he wouldn't make it past 20. He was told he couldn't have children. I also have a brother. He loved my boys and was there at their births. Once he was homebound, he continued his ministry on facebook. He always sent cards to all his "old ladies" in his old congration. He loved to argue politics and was a fierce Cardinals fan. He raised 4 younger brothers all by himself. I'd like to think that he is with his mom tonight. She died when he was 9 and I have her name. He is no longer gasping for breath. He is breathing easy and at peace. I just can't believe he's gone. Your prayers and good thoughts are coveted. I'm just going to miss him so much. And the next week and month are going to be hard. September 26 would have been my parents' 42nd wedding anniversary. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 I am so terribly sorry for your loss. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeacefulChaos Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1bassoon Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug: What a beautiful tribute to a wonderful dad. I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy+2 Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Praying for you... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug: So sorry for your loss! He sounds like a wonderful Dad! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparrow Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 I am so, so sorry :grouphug::grouphug:. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fourcatmom Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug: I am so sorry. My Dad passed away almost 6 years ago and although my pain has subsided, the girls and I speak of and think of him almost daily. It sounds like you were very lucky to have had a Dad like him. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug: The most difficult part of life is always watching others go before us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idnib Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug: You were so lucky to have that time with him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joker Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 I'm so very sorry! I remember holding my dad's hand 12 years ago in the hospital and telling him those same things. I am so glad I was able to be with him when he passed, but it is so very hard. You're in my thoughts. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Florida Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 That was beautifully written, Kalah, and I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jujsky Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :crying: I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kitten18 Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: My Dad died 5 years ago, yesterday. I wasn't able to be with him when he died but I was with my Mom 2 years ago when she passed away. I'm so glad I was able to be there. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aggie Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: I'm so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful man, father, and husband. I'll be praying that your memories of him bring you comfort in the coming days. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helena Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 Sending love and hugs :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWOB Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug: What a beautiful tribute to your dad. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eternalknot Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :( I'm so very sorry. What a special gift you gave to him, your presence and your permission, letting him leave this world embraced by your love. The love you shared glows through your words, and the legacy of his loyalty and goodness is obvious to all who read them. :grouphug: My dad was the first man I ever loved. He taught me to be a good person, how to ride a bike and tie my shoes. He always smelled like celery from his job at the grocery store. He worked 2 jobs to support us and decided late in life that his true calling was the ministry. He was fiercely loyal and kind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsBasil Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I am so very sorry for your loss. What a loving tribute to him, he sounds like he was an amazing man. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veritaserum Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted September 7, 2012 Author Share Posted September 7, 2012 (edited) Thank you, Everyone. He was such an amazing man. And it's funny the things you think of. He and I both hated the fourth of July. Me because it was the three things I hate most: smelly, loud and dirty. He because he couldn't breathe with all the smoke in the air. So the two of us would chat and watch movies while all the yahoos were whooping it up outside. I made Mom laugh when I looked him while we were waiting for the mortuary and said, "Thanks a lot! Now I'm gonna have to either sit inside alone or sit outside where it is smelly and dirty and loud!" That's how my family rolls. We joke. He would have laughed, too. Edited September 7, 2012 by Kalah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peaceful Isle Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 I'm so sorry :'( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 I am so sorry for your loss. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Perry Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mybluesky Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 I'm so sorry. Prayers for you and your family... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara in AZ Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 Oh, I'm so, so sorry, sweetie. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Thank you for sharing a bit about your wonderful dad. He was an amazing man. I got chills as I read about him.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 I'm so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like a wonderful man. I'm sure he brought smiles to many peoples faces, and will be missed by many. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redsquirrel Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newlifemom Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug:What a beautiful tribute. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mabeline Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug: What a great dad! So sorry for your loss.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I am so very, very sorry for your loss. :crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jelbe5 Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug: I'm sorry for your loss . . . What beautiful words and memories . . . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pdalley Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LizzyBee Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug: I'm sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reflections Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug: I'm very sorry. He sounds like he was a wonderful Dad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 I got to hold his hand as he slipped from this world. We signed the DNR and told him we'd be okay. He didn't have to fight anymore. Within 3 hours, he was gone. My dad was the first man I ever loved. He taught me to be a good person, how to ride a bike and tie my shoes. He always smelled like celery from his job at the grocery store. He worked 2 jobs to support us and decided late in life that his true calling was the ministry. He was fiercely loyal and kind. He had polio at 3 and was told he wouldn't make it past 20. He was told he couldn't have children. I also have a brother. He loved my boys and was there at their births. Once he was homebound, he continued his ministry on facebook. He always sent cards to all his "old ladies" in his old congration. He loved to argue politics and was a fierce Cardinals fan. He raised 4 younger brothers all by himself. I'd like to think that he is with his mom tonight. She died when he was 9 and I have her name. He is no longer gasping for breath. He is breathing easy and at peace. I just can't believe he's gone. Your prayers and good thoughts are coveted. I'm just going to miss him so much. And the next week and month are going to be hard. September 26 would have been my parents' 42nd wedding anniversary. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I'm so sorry Kalah. What a lovely tribute to him you wrote. I will be praying for you all. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 Thank you for sharing him with us. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CAMom Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug:I was going through something very similar this time last year. My dad died Sept. 22, 2011. I'll think of you when I think of my dad.:grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UmMusa Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 He sounds like a great father. Sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug: I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted September 7, 2012 Author Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug:I was going through something very similar this time last year. My dad died Sept. 22, 2011. I'll think of you when I think of my dad.:grouphug::grouphug: Thank you. I'm sorry you lost your dad, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama2Many4 Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 I'm so, so sorry. I lost my dad last June and although the pain has passed, the memories never will. Please take care and keep your sights on your own precious children. Your DH and children will help you through this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 Oh gosh... I'm so sorry :( Not enough words for how sorry I am :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DaffodilDreams Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug: I feel the love in your words. I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twilight Woods Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Evergreen State Sue Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 What wonderful memories you have of your dad. He sounded like a great big brother, father, and grandfather. What a blessing he is at peace. (Just had to say that today was my mom's birthday - she would have been 88 - but she died at 58. Memories are a beautiful thing to hang onto.) :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sandst Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug: Praying... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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