Nestof3 Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 (edited) I have been deeply contemplating cultural and religious things around me, so bear with me. I truly don't want any of these threads to get out of hand. I don't know enough people to get a wide sampling in real life. ;) Call himself "the man of the house" or "the head of the house?" When does he refer to himself this way? For example, is it in response to some situation? Do you call yourself "the woman of the house" or something else? Also, if you feel comfortable posting your religious views, please do so. Please do not feel you must to participate. It's just part of my survey. Edited July 9, 2012 by nestof3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebel Yell Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 neither. He's just John. I do call him "Sir" or "Captain" (Pirate jokes) and when he gets a new crown for his poor teeth, I call him "Your Majesty." But I do consider him to be head of the household. Says so on our tax forms. :lol: ETA: we refer to him as "head of house" when asked... it;s rarely something we bring up in a discussion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myfunnybunch Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 (edited) Not really. Funny, though, when he goes away for a few days he tells our oldest, "You're the man of the house while I'm gone." :) ETA: We are Christian, but not conservative. Cat Edited July 9, 2012 by myfunnybunch Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HappyCrazyMama Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 He is just called Rob, dad, honey, or husband. I'm Deanna, mom, wife, honey, etc. We were Protestants, the younger kids and I just converted to Orthodoxy, he didn't but is now potentially interested in doing so. He had a nominal Lutheran upbringing and I had no religious upbringing.:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom-ninja. Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 No, he doesn't. I don't call myself woman of the house either. Neither dh and I are Christian although we were raised so. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Acorn Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 No, and we're atheists. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melinda in VT Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 No, we don't refer to ourselves as the man of the house or the woman of the house. We never did. We were both Mormon until we were 30. Now I'm a religious liberal and he's an atheist/agnostic. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 I call him by his name or honey, the kids call him Dad. I've never heard him call himself the "man of the house" or the "head of the household". We are Christians (Methodist). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen in CO Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 I've never heard him say he's any such a thing. Equality is very important in both our relationship and my religious beliefs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BugsMama Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 Nope. Sometimes I call him honey, hubby, or when I am really feeling obnoxious, "Husband" (In an accent). Sometimes I call him a more creative word for butt, all in good fun. Mormon until mid 20s.... and now atheist. He called me "the old lady" ONCE. And he never will again :auto: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie Smith Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 No, and we're atheists. Same here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happyhomemaker Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 Dh is the head of our home, but I have never heard him call himself that. It's a servant position, not a boastful, overlord one. I call him by his name (or various nicknames :D) and he calls me by my name. I have never heard of anyone being called the woman of the house, except when someone is quoting The Quiet Man :lol: I think on some forms the term head of household has been used, but other than that, it really doesn't come up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 We are only ever called "man" or "woman" of the house when some stranger calls on the phone, and that hasn't happened for a long time. :) I call him by name or pet name. He does the same. We're both atheist. My parents never use those terms either and both are Methodist. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AHASRADA Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 No, dh has never used this terminology. :glare: We have an understanding that he is the spiritual head of our household, meaning it is his responsibility to ensure we all have a proper religious education and to lead us in family worship. He is also the breadwinner, tasked with supporting our family financially. These are both tenets of our faith (we are Muslim). However, we make all of our decisions mutually, through consultation and compromise. He doesn't even make a purchase over $100 without running it by me (probably since I manage the finances). When asked to make a decision, he regularly replies that he has to ask "The Boss" first. If the other party misunderstands and doesn't realize he's referring to me, he clarifies, "No, the Big Boss!" :D My great-grandfather had a plaque on his kitchen wall (still there 15 years after his wife died) that read: "I'm the king of my castle, and I have my wife's permission to say so." Dh loves this, and quotes it often. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mergath Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 Heck no. A telemarketer once called here and asked me, "Could I speak to the man of the house?" I just about died laughing. We're just Jeramy and Jenn around here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandylubug Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 Dh is the head of our home, but I have never heard him call himself that. It's a servant position, not a boastful, overlord one. I call him by his name (or various nicknames :D) and he calls me by my name. I have never heard of anyone being called the woman of the house, except when someone is quoting The Quiet Man :lol: I think on some forms the term head of household has been used, but other than that, it really doesn't come up. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bcnlvr Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 No, and we're atheists. This. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veritaserum Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 Good grief, no. We are LDS (Mormon) and are both in our 30s. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 Neither. Neither of us. Atheist/agnostic household. I haven't moved far from the beliefs of my parents; he was raised Southern Baptist. Laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaxMom Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 No, except for telemarketers. We either call each other "honey", or by name, or refer to each other as mom, dad, or by name, depending on who we're speaking with. I do, in print, refer to him as The Husband, but that's mostly because I tend to avoid the dh, dd, ds terms and it seems weird to refer to him as "the 42yo", as I do the children. I'm a liberal Catholic with agnostic upbringing, he's undeclared/agnostic with the same. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindergretta Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 My dh is the man of the house and I am the lady of the house for purposes of solicitors (phone and door.) He is the head of the household for tax purposes. I call him honey and he calls me mama. I am 39, he is 40. We are Episcopal. (And I love the king of the castle, wife's permission thing!! :lol: ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleIzumi Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol: No. (Not a mocking laugh, just the thought of anyone thinking that about MY house. It's so, soooooooo not the case here.) We're LDS. 98% of the time, I'm running things. I turn it over to him for fixing things (and he usually calls his mechanic-y/computer-y friend to come help him). He's got his own "things" that I don't mess with, his own interests and whatnot, but if it's a family or household thing, it's my call 98% of the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KrissiK Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 None of the above. He's "honey", "Mark", "Daddy", but that's all. Sure, the buck stops with him, and he takes that role seriously, but not in a "power hungry" way, rather than in a "I'm responsible for the health and well-being of my family" way. He's a good man. We're conservative Christians. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Murphy101 Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 Man of the house. Anytime I might reference myself as lady of the house. Usually govt or business dealings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kricau Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 Nope, never used that term for either of us :) Although (as I said in your other post) he is- in my opinion- the head of our home. We are both in our early 30's Christians (believers in Christ, what He did and what He said He will do) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mama2cntrykids Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 We're Christians and he doesn't call himself anything but "dad or husband". I would feel awkward if he refered to himself as the man of the house (except in joking). Obviously, he IS, but we don't call him that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 No, I cannot imagine my dh ever, ever saying that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lily_Grace Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 Er...........I don't think he refers to himself as anything except daddy or my husband. We don't have a head of household here. It's a co-president position. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kitten18 Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 No. We're Catholic. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joani Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 No. We've only been married a few months, but there is no "man of the house" or "woman of the house". But before we were married, we did refer to my oldest son as the "man of the house". We're agnostic/atheist. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justLisa Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 No, and not religious. When DH is asked a question he says "let me refer you to my boss." :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 Nope. We are Christian. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 No, and not religious. When DH is asked a question he says "let me refer you to my boss." :lol: My dad used to say that about my mom, too. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 I have never heard of him refer to himself that way. I would Never call him that, unless it was on tax forms. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melmichigan Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 No we do not refer to each other in that manner. In public/work DH often refers to me as "the boss", which people get a kick out of because he's 6'7" and I'm 5'6". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 No reference to Man or Lady of the house. How quaint! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Peach Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 (edited) We are Christians. We are partners in our marriage. We make decisions together. We strive for unity in all matters. I also have a more dominant personality and I'm kind of bossy naturally. It works for us. I have always sort of thought that a "head-of-the-house" is not much of a leader if he has to go around announcing his title. :) Edited July 9, 2012 by Princess Peach Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeW88 Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 No. Never. We're LDS. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kirch Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 The only times I have ever heard man/woman of the house have been from telemarketers. I don't think I've ever heard either used self-referentially--dh and I certainly never have, except maybe in goofing around. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 Call himself "the man of the house" or "the head of the house?" When does he refer to himself this way? For example, is it in response to some situation? Do you call yourself "the woman of the house" or something else? No -- neither of us ever says anything like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 None of the above. He's "honey", "Mark", "Daddy", but that's all. Sure, the buck stops with him, and he takes that role seriously, but not in a "power hungry" way, rather than in a "I'm responsible for the health and well-being of my family" way. He's a good man. We're conservative Christians. This. Except he's not Mark. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VeganCupcake Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 No, he does not, and I do not call myself the woman of the house. We are LDS. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EJCMom Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 Only as a joke. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dobela Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 I have been deeply contemplating cultural and religious things around me, so bear with me. I truly don't want any of these threads to get out of hand. I don't know enough people to get a wide sampling in real life. ;) Call himself "the man of the house" or "the head of the house?" When does he refer to himself this way? For example, is it in response to some situation? Do you call yourself "the woman of the house" or something else? Also, if you feel comfortable posting your religious views, please do so. Please do not feel you must to participate. It's just part of my survey. I have heard dh refer to himself as the head of house, but not in a commandering way. The few times I have heard it was as the reason behind his need to be responsible for certain things - like bearing most of the financial burden or the religious training of the kids or for being responsible for setting the tone and example in the family. But that is all. And I think he has said it maybe 10 time in the last 16 years. We make decisions together, we plan together, we respect each other. He helps with the laundry and dishes while I mow the grass :D Sometimes if my son is being a pain I will send him to his dad with the remark, "Your dad is the head of the family. I will let him make this decision. " LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I.Dup. Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 Only as a joke. :D :iagree::D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassenach Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 (edited) No, but he is. It's kind of like speaking in the third person. We both consider him the "man of the house," but I can't remember either of us ever using the phrase. We're conservative Christians. Edited July 9, 2012 by Shannon831 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
********* Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 Well, it is discussed sometimes with the young boys that Daddy is the head of the house. Perhaps when we're needing to remind them that they need to obey, or what have you. Yes, my husband is indeed the head of the house, and we all know it. IMO, that's the way it should be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 I have been deeply contemplating cultural and religious things around me, so bear with me. I truly don't want any of these threads to get out of hand. I don't know enough people to get a wide sampling in real life. ;) Call himself "the man of the house" or "the head of the house?" When does he refer to himself this way? For example, is it in response to some situation? Do you call yourself "the woman of the house" or something else? Also, if you feel comfortable posting your religious views, please do so. Please do not feel you must to participate. It's just part of my survey. No, I don't think in our 18 years we've ever referred to ourselves as such. We're now fully Catholic (as opposed to just Dh before). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Florida. Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 Only as a joke. :D This. We call each other by name, Hon, or Honey. I was raised liberal Catholic, he liberal Methodist. I'm atheist, he's agnostic. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 The man in my house just calls himself by his first name. He refers to me affectionately as, "She Who Must Be Obeyed." :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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