BMW Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 (edited) with my dd who has addiction problems. I try not to give out too much personal information here, but I need some support so badly right now... She leaves without permission. She may or may not come home. She is a minor. I've had her to the pediatrician, to a nutritionist... she has been part of an active 12 week support group for this, but it seems to be going in one ear and other the other... She went to counseling for a handful of weeks, but we needed to get a different therapist because of cost, so I am now going through our medical provider... she has an appointment in a couple of days... Grades have gone down hill. She has stolen from us. She know a few police officers nowadays, too.... They have let her know if she doesn't change her ways they will make her life miserable... sigh... And, most bothersome, she knew two boys in the past 4 years who lost their lives by getting in front of the train... I am just very uncomfortable about her lack of value of herself and her life. So, I will probably edit this later if I feel it's too much... so, please don't quote me. But, I would love to have some hugs and prayers and anything you have that might help. Thanks... now where is the crying smiley face??? Edited March 13, 2012 by BMW Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Lulu* Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 I am so sorry. I cannot even imagine your pain. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laundrycrisis Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm sorry. I hope you find some help soon. Would an inpatient program be a possibility ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Praying for you both. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JessReplanted Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug: That sounds awful. I'm so sorry. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 Hugs and prayers coming your way :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
liber Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 Well if you or your daughter is a Christian there is Mercy Ministries. She will have to want to go. She can't be forced to go and she has to be willing to change. My sister went there. She had to hit rock bottom before she decided she needed help. My mom had approached her with the idea months before she decided she was ready and every time she had a rough time mom would bring it up again. It is free but parents are asked to contribute what they can monthly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MHowell Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melissel Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 Oh Bee, I'm so very sorry to hear this :( I wish there was something I could do to help. I'll be thinking of you, and of her :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lmrich Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug:'s and prayers.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 I am so very sorry. I cannot imagine how frightened and frantic you are.:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 Minors can be involuntarily put into a rehab program. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 I would look into inpatient rehab for teens. You can make the decision now in the hope that something gets through now. Later, after she is 18, you will not be able to do it without her cooperation unless she is court ordered. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happy Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 I would look into inpatient rehab for teens. You can make the decision now in the hope that something gets through now. Later, after she is 18, you will not be able to do it without her cooperation unless she is court ordered. :iagree::iagree::iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hilltop Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 I would look into inpatient rehab for teens. You can make the decision now in the hope that something gets through now. Later, after she is 18, you will not be able to do it without her cooperation unless she is court ordered. :iagree: and :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 Thoughts, :grouphug:, and prayers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 I am just sorry. I will definitely pray for you. We all love our kids and we have invested so much in them, this must be very hard.:grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itsheresomewhere Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 I would look into inpatient rehab for teens. You can make the decision now in the hope that something gets through now. Later, after she is 18, you will not be able to do it without her cooperation unless she is court ordered. That sadly, can depend on your state. In certain states unless the minor is willing to go you can't force them. It has to be court ordered. Stupid law if you ask me. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
treestarfae Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 Addicted to what? Hope it gets better! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redsquirrel Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 I am so sorry. Addiction is a cruel thief. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThisIsTheDay Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug: and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UmMusa Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 I'm sorry you're going through this tough time. I pray for her good health. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackie in NE Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: :grouphug: It is so very painful to not be able to stop the spiral. I pray that you will find the "thing" that works. I pray your dd's eyes will be opened to see the value and the beauty in her life. Blessings to both of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 I am so sprry. I is so overwhelming, so heartbreaking.:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 I am so sorry. It is so overwhelming, so heartbreaking.:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helena Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 Wow that's a lot on your plate! :grouphug: Sending love and strength. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
susankenny Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug:Bee:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geo Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Praying... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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warriormom Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 I had a sibling with an addiction problem. I highly suggest alanon as a support for you and your family during this process. Also if she is a minor, you can force her to get help. Send her away to a camp for troubled teens. Drastic times call for drastic measures. Alanon will tell you to cut off ALL money, cell phones and any other luxuries that could be used, sold or make comfortable to live in this lifestyle. Also if she gets arrested, to allow her to stay in juvenile detention until she will get help. With this type of problem, addiction specialists highly recommend tough love. Also, faith based rehabs have a better success rate. I will be praying. This has to be tough. I am praying that God will give you wisdom.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:I don't have any words of wisdom, but I have lots of hugs! :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 I'm so sorry, Bee. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 Someone dear to me struggled with addictions for some looooong years. It's truly agonizing. I'm so very, very sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 Since she is a minor, can you get her into a treatment facility - not just counseling? Perhaps you can start here: http://www.newlife.com If they don't have anything, they may be able to recommend something. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Brindee Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 So sorry! :crying: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: and prayers for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sheranudeep Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 Wishing you all the best . Dont ever leave hope . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dsmith Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug: Don't give up hope. For my brother, a good counselor made all the difference. He is now doing very well in the army. My brother-in-law needed a bit of jail time to turn things around. He is now working in corrections. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug: So sorry you are going through this. I can't imagine how hard it must be as a parent. Praying things turn around for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisbeth Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 Minors can be involuntarily put into a rehab program. This and big time tough love. I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisbeth Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 Are there military schools for girls? I am being serious. My daughter would find herself in one if they exist, so fast her head would swim. Not the crazy kind that kills kids on hikes, but a reputable, hardcore one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CalicoKat Posted March 13, 2012 Share Posted March 13, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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