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  1. Checking back again this evening... hoping someone will see this and have something to share...
  2. Ever feel like you have a question and you don't know how to ask it???:blushing: So... I got this.... "Post menopausal female seeks recommendations for estrogen cream or ??? to help with... well... you know... um.... teA" Don't want to take hrt (hormone replacement therapy)... experienced surgical menopause (uterine rupture at age 30)... and the libido is just not there. OMGoodness, did I just hit the post button?? lol
  3. I understand points assigned and calorie limit, but, what does a monthly fee look like and is it worth the money? Can buying a book and working on the same principles work instead of spending money month after month? I have lost weight with Atkins before, but end up putting it back on when I use carbs again... and my dh hates atkins... wants me eating more fruit and veggies... I usually avoid breads anyway... don't have a sweet tooth... But, I am post menopausal and my body insists on looking like a plump pear...
  4. Not fancy... plain and simple... I used up scraps that I made my grandson's nursery with. It was fun and quick!
  5. Absolutely go over the basic rate and the increase for additional time as well as letting her know that drop off and pick up the two of you must meet up. Perhaps you live in a very safe location and she felt comfortable, but anything can happen in a minute or two or even less! Your basic rate stays the same if she brings him later because you are committing to that time frame and you are available for her. That said... I have at times been the wishy-washy mom of many young kids. I was never intentional about it, but life had a way of getting crazy on me with all my little ones and I am sad to remember, looking back, that I took for granted some of the help I had along the way and didn't have the social skills with the women who did help me at the time. I was very needy at times. Fortunately, I learned from some who cared enough to speak into my life as well as help... So, I encourage you to be firm BUT GENTLE the first time. After that, be firm and ask her to find someone else... Just my thoughts...
  6. I currently have two jobs outside of the home, but most weeks they add up to 25 hours work... I work at a retail store... fast and friendly... usually upbeat and fun. Flexible schedule. I like 4-5 hour shifts a few days a week. I also work as an elder caregiver and love that!!! I wish I had more clients and/or longer hours. As it is, I have one client 3 hours in the morning twice a week. The "problem" is, elder care involves elderly and they don't get younger each day, so I have lost a couple of clients. I am really hoping that my hours/clientelle pick up soon. And the endless hours of work that being a mom requires.... without pay. PS I enjoy working my jobs. Sometimes heading out to work is a stress relief for me. I also appreciate days at home SO much more now. I am more likely to play with the teens now, too, because my free time has limits and I want to make the most of those times...
  7. Earlier today: Put on playlist and had it play in the background while I make Dr. appt.s for back to school stuff... took 8 songs to get through that call! I started two loads of laundry so far today... need to get on the dried load and get the next going... I made a quilt top because life has been so much about responsibilities and juggling a LOT of adult business (court, custody, teen in rehab), that I needed some "fun". The top is made, now I need to decide if I border it and then back it or just keep it simple and back it.... Next up: Pick up dd and grandson for an afternoon visit... Plan dinner... Freshen up and hope to catch dh's eye... 'cause he's been awfully distracted with the boat lately and I think he's forgotten that we're married... LOL! (He's a great guy... this is in no way a complaint...) Maybe somewhere in here I will make some iced tea...
  8. My son was given one immunization at 2 weeks of age... I think it was a hepatitis, but could not be sure... It was obvious by 6 weeks that he had multiple food allergies and he received no more immunizations during his infancy/toddlerhood... The Dr. was fairly old school and wouldn't diagnose his autism (he had very specific qualifications by two years of age and should have been diagnosed) because the Dr. said he (my son) had an emotional bond with me and gave family members eye contact (he didn't give many other people eye contact)... Anyway... he was diagnosed with aspergers by a new pediatrician at age 6... Now he is 12 and goes to public school and is such a bright, witty boy who tries so hard!!! I adore him, of course... And he still has not had immunizations. Most of my children are immunized, although I insisted on delayed immunizations for them, thimerosol (sp) free options and over many years... definitely not the recommended protocol/schedule by any means... I put in a call to our pediatrician because the school requires up to date immunizations (I have always signed a waiver without any problems)... and anyway, I thought I would get the ped's recommendation for if my son should get any immunizations... which ones to pick... He no longer has any food allergies. Please let me know your opinion, but also provide some support for it... If we could avoid getting personal/debating that would be great. I don't mind reading through strong opinions for or against. But, can we let each other alone as we share? Thanks... it's hard to make this decision... my son is SO great... I don't want his health or his brain messed with in ANY way... sigh... and the only reason I am considering immunizations at all is that he has an entire life ahead of him and perhaps he should have some of them....
  9. I didn't have the great ideas here... so, when my youngest was too afraid and kept insisting that he wasn't interested in bikes, that he's just as well play with the scooter, we left him alone. A couple times a year we'd point out how his brothers enjoyed riding and would he like to learn, but no, he didn't want to. Finally, when he was 11 he decided he'd like to try and dh went out with him and had him riding that afternoon. He has aspergers and a great fear of being physically hurt... so, he had to really want to or it would have just not happened.
  10. My oldest daughter was quite well read and often mis-spoke, too... One of the favorites was when she went out on a canoe with friends, came home and said that she had a great time on the "can-oh". We still tease her about that!
  11. Well... Since you asked... And I am in the mood to let the cat out of the bag... I will be 49, I think... LOL! I think that my youngest graduates in 2018... What I DO know is that the year he graduates we are having a HUGE party... Since my ex has made life incredibly difficult, has lied more times than you can imagine about me and the past and since he has been abusive in multiple ways to our kids... I will be hosting a HUGE party in 2018... I wont have it connected to my youngest's 18th birthday, nor will it be connected to my youngest's graduation because the reason for the celebration is that I am past the time where I am expected to hold my tongue and my youngest will be an adult and did I mention we are having a HUGE party? I am starting a savings for it NOW... because it will be on my birthday that year... people close to me from several states are traveling to be here (yes, they know the party is planned and they are invited) (no, I haven't talked about this in front of my younger children) (yes, I know this is a public forum)... we are going to have live music, a dj, a dance floor, lights... catered food... hired clean up... I am SO excited... and saving money. Anyway... I adore each of my children so very much. I have always tried to grasp hold of each moment as it happens, because the seasons pass.... they will grow up and live their own adult lives... but, goodness, there are so many of them and life is like a continuous soap opera with our family (minus the routine exchange of who's sleeping with who...)... and I know from the first handful that have gone out the door that parents are oftentimes still very involved in their kids adult lives. I just try not to be "that" mother-in-law... and I realized just this evening that I spent a dozen years at home raising them through the early years and will spend the next two dozen years working and paying for them to get a start in life... All is good. :001_smile: PS... What will I do then? Well, after the party I will continue working to pay off bills and/or earn money to spend on them as they enter adult life and also continue earning to spend on the grandchildren... and I"ll plan family reunion parties every couple of years... and I will wake up on some mornings to a quiet house with nothing to do and I will inhale deeply and smile. I hope to end up with some type of career where I can work in the medical field or with the elderly (both??). I hope to go on missions trips as an older lady, too. I hope to travel out of the country multiple times. Gosh... I hope I come into some great sum of money to make all this happen... but, for now, I'd better get some sleep...
  12. Re: rewards.... It might be a "3 nights in a row and not wetting and we'll get an ice cream cone" and he does... I've done 5 and 7 day rewards. He does not stay up and go... He is a sleeper. He almost always goes to sleep by 9pm... used to be 8pm... on his own and sleeps until 7am or so. Once I got him up to pee at 10pm... then between 120-1am... then at 4am... and again at 6pm and I tell you that boy would pee and pee. Anyway, about the rewards... I get tired of it because I cannot get those all the time... nor do I think it's okay for him to stay dry night after night and get rewards when the other brothers do not get them... So, then I am buying everyone ice cream... He has gone a few weeks at a time staying dry! (rewards involved) That's what drives me nutty over it. Then he goes weeks not able to stay dry one night.
  13. I am using leftovers/scraps from the nursery set that I made for my grandson... http://mytripleo.blogspot.com/2011/11/nursery-is-done.html Basically, the material is leftover from the curtains/crib skirt... jungle print, cut into about 5-6 in squares... and green/white checked cut in squares to match... and I have a lot of cream.... I am making a simple quilt for a friend who is having a baby boy... money is tight, so I would like to make something using what I have on hand. I plan on the back of the quilt being the green/white checked material (because that's my large piece!)... it fits 5 squares across and 5 top to bottom... I can make it 4 by 5 if that works out better... or 5 by 5.... Thanks again!!
  14. I have 10 jungle squares.... and 15 checked squares and I can make as many solid colored squares to add in for the top... I am having a hard time planning how to lay out the 10 and 15 (can be 9 and 14 or whatever)... Anyone want to help take a stab at it? Thanks!!
  15. How are your gardens out there doing? This morning I had to thin out lots of tomatoes... to help my squash improve... and it was time to clip the artichoke (that was a test to see how it would do... next year, lots more artichoke!!!)... and I use up the jalapenos as fast as they grow! We are also ready to try the first couple of corns... How about you?
  16. We tried doctor visits... they would only give us a nose spray that encourages the bladder to wake up the boy... didn't really work... We go through a mattress every year with him because while we buy plastic covers, those wear out and sometimes he doesn't tell us and they are ripped and his mattress gets icky and he doesn't want to own up to it... If I give him incentives, such as 3 dry nights in a row and we go get ice cream, he stays dry. Works every time. Until I don't offer him the reward. Why can he stay dry for a reward and not stay dry without????? Baffles me. I don't like having to purchase rewards... He wakes up wet, showers, gets his bedding in the wash, wipes down mattress... over and over. I try limiting his drinking after 6pm, but his dad doesn't and he often gets mad at me if I remind him.... His mom (she died 5 years ago) wet the bed until she was 16. One of his older brothers wet the bed until he was over 14. Two of his older brothers never wet the bed. Sigh. I know I have asked about this before... I am looking for some more ideas... If you used a specific medication and it worked, how old was your child? Is there a recommended med. I can specifically ask the Dr. for? My ped. is generally anti-bed-wetting medication, but she doesn't live here!!! Any tips for how to ask when I know the ped. doesn't like to prescribe them? When I woke him this morning, it smelt SOOOOO bad and I feel bad for him and his brother who share a room... and I dislike the expense and every time I ask dh to buy the boy disposable underwear that lasts for like... one time... Dh just does what he always does, lets the boy wet the bed and wash everything each morning. Anyway, thanks...
  17. I have one who fishes and is great at it... but there are days he cannot go to the docks and is at home and he gets restless, needing something to do... I have two who play tennis, but 4 days a week for a couple of hours... they need more to "do"... One is old enough and responsible to head to the docks and washes boats for hire and is usually occupied... but, there are days he doesn't and sits to play video games for hours... They all have chores. I don't have discretionary income to spend on hobbies... but if the money goes a long way... or if I spend a little to get them started and it takes hold and gives them something to do, I would... I just run out of ideas for what they can do. Outside "stuff" has to be early or late day because of the heat. Sometimes I think they could: refurbish older bikes and donate them to children we know.... work on a puzzle, but that only works for one or two of them... and then I am just plain ol' out of ideas... Any ideas??? Thanks!
  18. :grouphug:to the wee one! I began sleep training ONLY if my 8 month old was stuck getting up at 1am... Now, many years later, I realize those moments are gone and that's a once in a lifetime part of life. I only felt like i had to do this with 2 of my 7 babies... but if I could do it over, I'd hold them more and cherish each moment. Now... my youngest was born autistic and could not be laid down in a crib or he would hurt himself. I held that boy nearly every night for over 2 years. It was exhausting, but we all made it through! Hope the mom meets someone who makes a lovely difference in her perspective...
  19. Kale, broccoli, cauliflour (sp), artichokes, asparagus, salad greens, spinach, zucchini... This year we have grown: corn, tomatoes, bell peppers, jalapenos, snap peas, tomatoes and a couple kinds of squash...
  20. Cool! Love so many of the responses! I went to Chicago... swapped the Sears Tower for the 96th floor of the John Hancock building. Great city. Clean. Fun things to do! I went to Yosemite. Took my breath away! Planted a corn patch - about 6 ft. by 6 ft., about 50 stalks. They are almost ready to harvest!
  21. I would go with the flow on this one, as well. So long as there's plenty for everyone, perhaps your mom will actually enjoy the time more with a friend and maybe be more inclined to join in future events more often, too... Or, if you know your mom is unhappy about it, encourage her to take a stand and blame you (to her friend) if need be... Just give your mom both options and let her work through it and be very excited that she comes!:001_smile:
  22. C'mon, folks, I am starting to iron my drapes... really?? Are you going to just let me suffer here ironing drapes??? LOL! Please, someone rescue me!
  23. DH and the boys are out boating and wont come back until late.... I wish I could play my vhs's and watch The Thornbirds... but I do not have a vhs player anymore... I dont want to spend money... I have a couple nice adult drinks to sip on.... Would love some guilty pleasure Netflix suggestion... I have bath stuff.... I don't want to spend the time reading, although I have done that a lot lately... I've listened to my playlist and danced my heart out so far today... oh, if dh caught a glimpse of me indulging in my playlist songs and dancing... he would be....:w00t: or:eek: or:ohmy: and :blush: maybe :drool5: cuz I am in my booty shorts... lol...Oh, how I love being me! :sneaky2:
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