Plucky Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I want to ask a question, but first I'd like to find out how common this is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
inmyopinion Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 My brother was until he passed away, from the time I was 12 to when I was 25, except for a year or so. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leav97 Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Not currently. But, I have in the past. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Not currently, but dh's younger brother was in for about 6 months when he was much younger. My cousin is in and out of jail frequently for drug related things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i.love.lucy Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 My brother has been but I don't think currently. Not sure because we are estranged. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HappyCrazyMama Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 My uncle, currently and both his wife and oldest daughter have been in prison in the past. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liza Lee Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I voted no, but I think I need to clarify/change my vote. My XH's sister spent some time in prison. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Marmalade Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Yup. A cousin has been in and out of jail since he was 14. Currently I think he's in. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelly in IL Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I do have a relative that legally changed his name to the ?!star Traveller&$ (take out the symbols, i just didnt want google to bring it up) Even says so on his checks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Excelsior! Academy Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Yes. One that is in and out frequently. That is how we suddenly happened to double our family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Hard to believe, I'm sure, but no. Never. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aggieamy Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I thought I'd have to be the only one to vote 'yes'. On my in-law side and my side we've had people in prison and we have a sibling that might be going away for a few years soon. :001_huh: It's so strange because DH and I are two of the straight laced people you will ever meet. Our family, on the other hand, is full of all sorts of interesting types. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
butterflymommy Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 On my husband's side of the family there are any number who are in prison-- but it's a huge extended family (10+ aunts and uncles on either side respectively, plus a number of half aunts and uncles). On my side, no one in prison. Wasn't there an AP article released recently about arrest statistics of young people... something like half of all young people will be arrested before age 23? I can't remember the specific details. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
C_l_e_0..Q_c Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 No, not one. However I have lots of lawyers, judges (mostly criminal judges), and policemen in my family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 No, we are a bunch of cops and military. Not that cops and military personnel don't make stupid decisions but so far none of us have. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MinivanMom Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 No, but I have a member of my extended family who should have been in prison. She had been arrested and booked, but due to certain extenuating circumstances, she spent time involuntarily committed instead. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thea Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 No, BUT my brother was due to be sentenced for drug possession when, the night before, he decided to party one last time. He partied a little too hard and OD'd and passed away. He was 23. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 My uncle is in and out of jail. I think he's out right now, but has spent more time in. He also is famous in my family for joining the circus. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gingersmom Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 No, BUT my brother was due to be sentenced for drug possession when, the night before, he decided to party one last time. He partied a little too hard and OD'd and passed away. He was 23. :( I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pretty in Pink Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I voted 'yes' but then remembered that my family member got out a few years ago. I had an uncle who spend 15 years in state prison for molesting his stepdaughter. He actually impregnated her when she was a young teen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Girls' Mom Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I have a cousin that has been in and out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassenach Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Not currently, but I have a cousin and a brother in law who will undoubtedly end up locked up again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freeindeed Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Extended family member...I've never been close to him, but it's still sad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CAMom Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Not at the moment but I have had close family members in and out of jail and on and off of probation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted December 28, 2011 Author Share Posted December 28, 2011 I have 2 male cousins in prison, one from each side of the family. I'll have to think more about if I want to ask the question. It's good to know it's not as uncommon as it feels. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 No. Not even an acquaintance. In fact, I don't think I know a single person who has been incarcerated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nakia Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 One of my cousins is in jail for murder. He shot and killed his girlfriend last Christmas. So sad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 No Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
linguistmama Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 No, but several extended family members on DH's side should have spent time in prison. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jewellsmommy Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 No. However, we are raising a child whose biological father is in prison. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in MI Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 One of my cousins is in jail for murder. He shot and killed his girlfriend last Christmas. So sad. So sad! My dh has an uncle serving a life sentence for murder. He had been divorced from dh's aunt before I ever knew them. My brother has had two DUIs. So, he was arrested, but didn't serve time. (he has been sober for 18 months!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crissy Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I voted no before I remembered I have a cousin in prison for molesting his step-daughters. I never knew him well, so his incarceration didn't come to mind right away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dolphin Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I voted no as I have never met the person and I don't even know if they count as a relation My SIL on my dh's side, has a cousin who is in and out of prison. My BIL and SIL are raising her 2 sons, so they are my nephews through adoption. The elder one has a lot of problems as she took drugs while she was pg with him, and he remembers his mum, and going in and out of foster care. Through them I know how hard it is to have a family member who does this, and I feel great compassion for people dealing with this, especially when there are children involved. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wabi Sabi Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 My brother has spent quite a bit of time in and out of jail since he was a teenager, mostly things relating to his alcoholism (public intox, DUI, etc.) and violating the terms of his probation. He's never been in prison though, just the county jail. I have some cousins who have also been incarcerated at various times as well but they're relatively distant relations and I've never known any of them very well. One cousin was in jail for many years for murder but I think he's out now (haven't seen him since I was a tiny child.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
love2read Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 My now 62 year old cousin was in and out of prison his whole life. His parents split up when he was a toddler, something unheard of in his small town, and he ended up in the wrong crowd by the time he was 8. He stole things as a teenager and finally went to prison, getting out at 18 because he agreed to join the Marines. He started smoking and doing drugs in the military and never really cleaned up after that. After the military he moved to another state and within a year he was selling drugs. Arrested, prison for a few years, home. He followed that cycle for the next four decades. He just got out after 10 years in the state pen for dealing drugs yet again and has stayed out of trouble for 6 months. No one else in the family has had any trouble with keeping the law, so it's always shocked and deeply saddened us that we weren't able to help him. All of the relatives living near him are keeping a close watch and praying he keeps his nose clean (literally). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Just to clarify, prison and jail are two different things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tex-mex Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 (edited) BIL did county jail time on and off over the years. Niece's baby daddy is back in prison (2nd strike in CA) and her father is the BIL I mentioned above. Apple doesn't fall far from the tree. ;) ETA: Just remembered my first cousin (12 years older than I) who in the early 70's came back from Vietnam messed up -- did heavy drugs, joined a biker gang, then went to a reservation to get in touch with his spiritual side, and while all that was going on was in and out of jail. No prison time, tho'. Dude was nutty on top of all that too. Other first cousin (we are the same age) was in a local gang when we were teens. Luckily for him, his stunts and petty deeds never got him arrested or in juvie. He wised up when he became a baby daddy -- married the girl. Joined the CHP (CA Highway Patrol) and now is a detective working for social services tracking down deadbeat dads. His three daughters are amazing and are in college. He did good in life. Edited December 28, 2011 by tex-mex Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 As far as we know, no. But my dh's leftover family members don't communicate with us, so I would say no is true but we haven't talked with anyone of them in basically two years. (It isn't that we haven't tried but no one answers the phone and no one calls us back). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristyB in TN Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Yes, several. One of whom went to federal pen for price setting. He totally should not have gone. Several friends, too. Not unusual, it happens and it is awful for everyone. Certainly nothing to hide. Sometimes we hire a friend or acquaintance when they cycle out just to give them a fresh start. They need helping getting re-acclimated into normal life and getting a job, even if it doesn't pay well, gets them started. I know someone who works with women as they get out to find jobs and housing, which is NOT EASY when you get out of prison. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OrganicAnn Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 I voted no, but then remembered that there was a second cousin who was in prison for a few years for a white collar crime. I did not know him, but heard about it from parents/relatives. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
m0mmaBuck Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 Not currently but I do have an uncle and few cousins who have been in the past. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 My nephew has grown up in lockups. He went in about 13yo, got out at 18yo. He made it a few months before going back. I don't think he is in prison, but is in jail. My niece (sister to above) is my dd5s bio-mother. She has been in and out of jail for 3 years. She has a felony conviction and keeps going back for parole violations. My brother has spent a few years off and on in jail (not prison) related to traffic issues, failure to pay tickets, and DUIs. My bil is currently in prison for multiple DUIs. He got a year or so conviction. These are just the ones I know about. I don't spend much time with my family......wonder why! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhonda in TX Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 (edited) We came very, very close once, but no. It was the hardest thing our family has ever been through. I no longer see the world, or our justice system, the same. Edited December 29, 2011 by Rhonda in TX Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crimson Wife Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 Not a blood relative, but the ex-spouse of a relative spent time in prison for among other crimes, forging my relative's signature on a falsified tax return. Needless to say, that was the end of the marriage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fhjmom Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 Not really family, so I didn't vote but my DH's ex-wife and mother of my step-daughter spent time in prison during step-DD's teen years. Same DD's boyfriend and father of our 2 grandbabies was on parole after spending time in prison when he and DD started dating. Also, DH's best friend from childhood is in prison serving a life sentence for a drug related murder. DH lived a very different lifestyle when he was younger before we met. His life took one road that led to a better life, while others he knew from that time definitely took a much different path. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nd293 Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 Dh's cousin was in for stealing from her company - she was a gambler. I think dh's nephew may have been in for a while - it would have been drug- or theft- related (he had an extremely traumatic childhood). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 No. Not even an acquaintance. In fact, I don't think I know a single person who has been incarcerated. same here Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWOB Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 (edited) It's a pretty safe bet that at least one of my cousins is currently incarcerated. Let's see: I have two uncles who have served time in Angola. One of those uncles also did a stint in Hunt, another LA state penitentiary. Two of my dad's brothers served 2+ years in the parish jail. About 75% (or more) of my aunts, uncles, and cousins have served some sort of time. Most of my cousins-in-law/cousin's-baby-daddys are ex-cons. We won't go into all the family members who have been to rehab, including my dad. Jail is almost a right-of-passage in my family. Is it sad that I am incredibly proud that I: -have no criminal record or arrests -have been happily married for almost 12 years to my baby daddy (and all my kids belong to him) and he has no criminal record -have no substance abuse problems -have never actually been in a physical fight past the age of 8 -have never pulled a gun/knife/weapon on anyone else -have never been shot or stabbed (by anyone other than myself. I constantly stab myself with everything imaginable) -have never sold drugs -have never stolen a thing in my life? I live 1000+ miles away. Good stuff there. I kinda have to laugh about it or I would get way too sad. Edited December 29, 2011 by wendilouwho Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 No family, but I have an ex-boy friend who dumped me when I sincerely, caringly, honestly told him he was too immature for medical school. He dumped me, went to med school, and I was just sick he was going to make some stupid decision on a patient, due to emotionality. What happened shocked me. I knew him as a marathoner who didn't even drink coffee, so intense was his focus on healthy living. He was also frugal and strongly ethical. Well, some 15 years later he sent to the state pen for selling scripts for narcotics to medicaid recipients, who got them free and then flogged them on the streets. Hundreds of thousands of dollars of them. His poor family. I'm sure they were deeply wounded. I wonder what twist he took to get there. I can only guess he got into some sort of stimulant to help him in ultramarathons. But who knows. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie Smith Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 No, it only because my uncle lacks motivation. He has had various officials talking to my parents since he has written threatening letters to the government. Gibberish ones about how the government needs to be forewarned since he is going to conquer them with the aid of various peoples (as in we the people of the hicky wicky believers ) and farm animals. My moms friend is going to be in jail for several months. If I remember correctly it works out that she will be in jail for 5 days a week for several months. She was driving drunk and hit a police car. Perhaps a infesting question to add to the poll would be Do you have a family member in jail Do you have a family member that deserves to be in jail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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