PygmyShrew Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 Please fill in the blank. I wouldn't want to be pregnant/have a child after the (maternal) age of _____. You can give your reasons if you'd like. just curious. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momma2Many66 Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 For me personally, 40. I had my last child at 40 and it was a very hard pregnancy. It was my first c section after 5 natural births (baby was 10 and a half pounds and breech with failed turning) and a very hard recovery (took a good 6 months until I was feeling back to my old self again). But I have known of many other women who had wonderful pregnancies, births and recoveries well into their late 40's. So I think it is a personal choice, to each her own ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amy g. Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 50 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OregonNative Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 40. I'm currently 37 and would have loved to have had bigger family if DH and I had started earlier. We do not have plans for more children though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hannah Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 40 My 2nd daughter was a very bad sleeper and I always said I want to sleep through the night by the time I'm 40 :001_smile:, so no more babies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
********* Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 I'd give anything to have another child, at any age. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 40. I had my last at 37 and, although the pregnancy and birth were perfectly healthy, I was SOOOOO much more tired ... during the pregnancy and when she was a nursling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 47. That's how old I am now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Perry Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 40. My youngest was born when I was 39. I was exhausted. I'm still exhausted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaAkins Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 For me, it was less about a certain age and more about the age of my other children. I wanted all of my kids to be within 10 years of one another. I wanted all of them to live at home at the same time, to get to know each other, to feel close. We had our first at age 20/21 and our fourth at age 30/31. If this is about age, I would have felt comfortable having children up to age 35 or so. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TxMama Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 40 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarcyB Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 7 years ago..when I was almost 40. No more babies. I can't handle it mentally lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
extendedforecast Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 For me, personally, 30. We started our family when we were young, and I wanted to stop having babies young. The funny thing is that my last two were born past my deadline. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gooblink Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 38 :001_smile: That's when I said I was done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 All I know is that I am beyond it! :lol: I am 44. I would like a daughter, but IF we have one it will be through adoption and it will not be an infant, she would probably be between 4-7 years old. Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pretty in Pink Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 Strictly speaking age-wise, 40. I think we'll be done long before that though, as we already have 4 and I just turned 30. We may try for one more, but that would be sooner rather than later, and we will probably do something permanent after that to prevent future pregnancies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pippen Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 38. I had my last one at 36 and it was so much harder than my previous pregnancies. If it was a first pregnancy, and there weren't other little ones or a demanding job, I might reconsider that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 50. But not for me. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WarriorMama Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 Between 30 and 35 is my theoretical cutoff age - probably closer to 30 though. I started at 20 and I just don't want to be in the baby stage FOREVER (as much as I love it). Also I've found each pregnancy to be harder than the last, and I think I'd only be more exhausted later in life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GraciebytheBay Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 35. My pregnancies were progressively more difficult as I got older. Another reason: My mother was an older mom. She is now 84 and has Alzheimers. While I consider it a privilege to help take care of her (and Dad while he was alive), it is so very difficult taking care of her while I have/had children are young. When my kiddos were a bit younger, there were days that I didn't know if I was coming or going or even what day it was! Caregiving on both ends is brutal on the mind, body and marriage. I would like to spare my children from going through this if possible. I realize that this could happen with a younger parent as well, but it was a decision we made based on our experience. I will admit to being a bit jealous when my friends are going shopping at the mall or out to lunch with their 60-something mothers. I can't even imagine! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lolly Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 death. It would just be too hard to raise the child... No serious, I would welcome a child at any age. Dh disagrees. It isn't a matter of age for him so much as finances and time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Imprimis Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 I don't have an arbitrary cut-off age. My last delivery was the easiest by far, and I had an enjoyable pregnancy. Over 40. Plus, I came from older parents. My mom was almost 40 when she had me and my dad was 68. Both of them were healthy, energetic parents. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tabrizia Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 38 here. It use to be 35, but it has been pushed back a bit for me. That being said, I will have just turned 33 or turn 33 right after newbie is born and newbie is most likely our last. I would be willing not to do anything permanent until I was 38 though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aggie Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 We had our youngest at 42.:001_smile: He has been an absolute joy and we can't imagine our lives without him. Although there would have been much less noise and activity! One of my dear friends from high school had twins at 51. :001_smile: Her other son is in college. For me, the cut-off date would have been 48. I just can't imagine having a toddler right now. How many dc do you have now? How spread out are they? (This would be more of a consideration for us than anything else.) What do you want to be doing when you're 60? Traveling, visiting older dc, working on hobbies? Or sending another dc off to college like we'll be doing?:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kidsnbooks8 Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 40. I had my last at 40, my pregnancy was OK, labor and delivery not so good but I have heard much worse. But now, I have a very busy 3yob and it is so draining!! But, I am enjoying him, maybe even more than the others. I am more laid back and not so worried about alot of things that bothered me when I was younger. So I think it is perfect. I KNOW I could not handle a new baby of my own now or anytime in the future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheres Toto Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 When dh and I discussed having kids before last 2 were born, I always said I wanted to be done by the time I was 40. I was 38 when youngest was born. My pregnancies aren't hard but my deliveries never go well. I'm 41 and I'm glad we said that because I am way too tired now to handle an infant. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freetobeme Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 35 for various reasons. i also don't want to be too old as a g'ma. my youngest will graduate high school when i am 52. but, as far as personal choice, as long as you are healthy and not at any known risk, more power to you! i know there are older moms on this board and they seem terrific! :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kahlanne Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 Ask me when I am not pregnant with nonstop morning sickness and so many trips to the bathroom not to mention exhaustion. LOL. I actually wanted to have my last at 35 but I am 36 now and pregnant with our suprise baby. This is number 6 btw. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dobela Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 I'd give anything to have another child, at any age. Yep. I had a hysterectomy at 35 after struggling for years with infertility. I have 2 beautiful children by adoption and wish I had more. One came to us when I was 30,the other when I was 37. Dh is nearly 50 though and is ready to stop so we will. I think women should stop when they are ready - whatever their own personal reasons may be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iona Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 30 my pregnancies were progressively harder and i can't imagine doing it again. i'm not opposed to the idea of more children though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheCoffeeChick Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 The cut off has always been 30 in my mind -- now that I'm getting closer to that number, I'm starting to question it a little. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SWinner Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 40. I had my youngest @ 39.5 & while it was okay then, it's getting harder for me to keep up. Fortunately, I'm very fit & can still go snowboarding, surfing, windsurfing etc, but they're pretty darn good now & usually end up leaving mom behind. The old dog does still teach them a new trick now & then. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HappyCrazyMama Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 I wouldn't want to be pregnant/have a child after the (maternal) age of _____. 49 I don't like the sound of being 70 when by kid is 20, lol. I do want more babies though and hate to think of stopping.:D (38 now BTW) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissKNG Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 35. Less risk of complications. And I have "older" parents and that's very hard for me to deal with. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 Please fill in the blank. I wouldn't want to be pregnant/have a child after the (maternal) age of _____. You can give your reasons if you'd like. just curious. 31. I had my son a month before I turned 31. :D I only wanted one and he's flippin' awesome. I have no desire or need for another. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angela in ohio Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 (edited) . Edited September 24, 2010 by angela in ohio Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gpsings Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 Used to be 35, but I'm closing in on 40 fast, and I think my views have matured with me. I'd have more as long as God kept giving them to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 Please fill in the blank. I wouldn't want to be pregnant/have a child after the (maternal) age of _____. You can give your reasons if you'd like. just curious. 40-ish. My reasons being that I wanted to have enough of me left over to be a good grandma. I wanted my daughter to be in the spotlight when she (or both of them...or all 3 girls) start their families. Having had kids young, I was kinda worn out by 40. I had my last baby a few months before I turned 40 and I was done. I can see some moms having babies into their 40's especially if they started later and are in good health. I don't know if I see it as a good thing when women who have passed child bearing years artificially (or medically?) to turn the clock back...but...then again...who knows.....hmmmmmm Faithe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 43. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mabelen Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 40 was my cut off age. I had my last one a week after I turned 40. My pregnancy and delivery were fine, not perfect but fine. My reasons are along the lines of maternal/infant risks as well as financial. In my opinion saving for retirement and dependents don't go well together. I had older parents and we were fine but they didn't have so many financial worries as they lived in a country with a robust welfare system (at least at the time). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen+4dc Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 I always wanted to be done by the time I was 30. After a miscarriage at 30, I had #4 at 31 and the pregnancy/recovery were so much harder than they had previously been, especially with the other littles at home to take care of! I had so many complications dh and I decided our kids needed a mom more than they needed another sibling. but, as far as personal choice, as long as you are healthy and not at any known risk, more power to you! i know there are older moms on this board and they seem terrific! :001_smile: :iagree: I think women should stop when they are ready - whatever their own personal reasons may be. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renee in NC Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 Please fill in the blank. I wouldn't want to be pregnant/have a child after the (maternal) age of _____. You can give your reasons if you'd like. just curious. 34 for me, but that is because that is how old I am now.;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Medieval Mom Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 All I know is that I'm not there yet ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 It keeps changing. When I was in my 20's, I said I wanted to be done having kids by 30. But once I was 30, I thought 35 was a good cut off. The reason being because I'd read that from 35 on there were higher risks and that it would be considered more of a "high risk pregnancy." Now that I'm 37 I'd love to have one more, but my husband doesn't want any more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyLittleWonders Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 It was 35; then Little Bean decided to join our family. Now it's 40 (I'm 37 now). I don't plan on having a 5th, but told dh if we did, it'd have to be pretty fast after #4. Given that I usually don't regain fertility until the baby is 18 months, I'm not sure I'd be able to meet my deadline (nor that we necessarily want a 5th ... we don't have the room for it and dh is stressing about how he's going to make enough money to feed 3 teenage boys plus Little Bean! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scrappyhappymama Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 42. I always said 35, and my last baby was born a month before I turned 36. We are *supposed* to be done... but I am not so sure. My last pregnancy and delivery was actually my easiest so far. I could really see having another one or two. But that is currently up for debate, LOL. My husband is concerned about risks of advanced maternal age and about finances. We also plan to adopt in a few years. So, a lot to consider. But strictly considering the physical acts of pregnancy and delivery, I think I'd be comfortable with that into my early 40s. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Natalieclare Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 25. That's how I feel after having 3 more after that age. :tongue_smilie:;) My last one was born shortly after I turned 39. I'm just tired, that's all. My 6yo has had sleep issues her whole life, so I have been in a chronic state of sleep deprivation for 6 full years now. My body could handle that when I was younger, but it's not doing so well now. :glare: I don't like the way the sleep deprivation has affected my personality. I am extremely grateful for my little dears, don't get me wrong. I wouldn't trade them for any number of full night sleeps. I don't think. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 For me it was 40. We had our two a couple of years apart because if we decided to go for a third I didn't want to be pregnant at 40. My dd, who I do love to pieces, cured me of the desire for more children. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah CB Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 30. I like the idea of being young enough to have the opportunity to fully participate in my grandchildren's lives. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 30. I like the idea of being young enough to have the opportunity to fully participate in my grandchildren's lives. :iagree: My youngest was born when I was 29. That's it, done. Plus, I don't want to be waiting up for teenagers when I'm 60. That's just me, ymmv. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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