Rebel Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 I just copied this from my blog and changed hubby's name to dh. I'm not bashing my husband. I am supporting him through this nightmare. This is going to be short, to the point, and detail-free, as I only have an hour of computer time at the library. Tuesday morning, we were awakened at 7:30 by pounding on the door and shouts of, "FBI!" They took dh outside and wouldn't let him back in the house. I got KJ up, dressed, and sent him to the neighbors. 7 FBI agents swarmed the house. They had a search warrant and took all the computers, disks, flash drives, etc...including the one I take with me to teach at preschools. Dh was subsequently arrested for "online solicitation of a minor." KJ and I are devastated. I bailed dh out of jail yesterday evening and he and I have had some l-o-n-g talks. (I had taken KJ over to a friend's house and they took him on to fencing.) I am choosing to believe my husband and stick with him until the trial. I still love him more than anything. He just did a very, very stupid thing. In the long term, who knows? If anything comes out, (other than what I already know), as evidence is processed, KJ and I will be gone. Dh is a broken man. He is sorry, ashamed, and embarrassed. His first words to me were that he would sign whatever I needed to get a divorce, that I could have everything including all his 401k money. Oh yes, he was also fired yesterday after the FBI contacteded his employer so they could search his work computer. Keep us in your thoughts and prayers, Rebel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam "SFSOM" in TN Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 I just copied this from my blog and changed hubby's name to dh. I'm not bashing my husband. I am supporting him through this nightmare. This is going to be short, to the point, and detail-free, as I only have an hour of computer time at the library. Tuesday morning, we were awakened at 7:30 by pounding on the door and shouts of, "FBI!" They took dh outside and wouldn't let him back in the house. I got KJ up, dressed, and sent him to the neighbors. 7 FBI agents swarmed the house. They had a search warrant and took all the computers, disks, flash drives, etc...including the one I take with me to teach at preschools. Dh was subsequently arrested for "online solicitation of a minor." KJ and I are devastated. I bailed dh out of jail yesterday evening and he and I have had some l-o-n-g talks. (I had taken KJ over to a friend's house and they took him on to fencing.) I am choosing to believe my husband and stick with him until the trial. I still love him more than anything. He just did a very, very stupid thing. In the long term, who knows? If anything comes out, (other than what I already know), as evidence is processed, KJ and I will be gone. Dh is a broken man. He is sorry, ashamed, and embarrassed. His first words to me were that he would sign whatever I needed to get a divorce, that I could have everything including all his 401k money. Oh yes, he was also fired yesterday after the FBI contacteded his employer so they could search his work computer. Keep us in your thoughts and prayers, Rebel No words. I am so, so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 Oh my. I can't possibly express how sorry I am to hear this. Barb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rich with Kids Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 I am so very sorry for you and your family. You will be in my prayers. That must have been terrifying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 Praying for wisdom for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
st_claire Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 Very very sorry. My thoughts are with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emmy Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 What a horrible situation. I'm so sorry you are going through this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5knights3maidens Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 I am so sorry. I wil be praying for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sleepy Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 Oh, Rebel, I'm so very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura in VA Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 I pray you will have strength, wisdom, and peace. I'm just stunned. So sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tutor Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 Oh goodness. Prayers going up for you for strength, peace and wisdom. Prayers for KJ for understanding, compassion and strength. Prayers for your dh for repentance and wisdom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelli in TN Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 I am so sorry that your life has been turned upside down like this. I have prayed for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mamagistra Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 Praying here for comfort and clarity for you, (((Rebel))). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 I pray that you will absolutely know the truth, whatever it is, and that God shows you exactly what to do, every inch, every step. (((Rebel))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 I can't even imagine how horrible this must be for you. I am praying for you to have the strength to make it through this ordeal and wishing you peace eventually. :angelsad2: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*anj* Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I am praying for all of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
percytruffle Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 How devastating. (((Rebel))). Praying for healing for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LG Gone Wild Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 That is terrible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elaine Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 ((Rebel)) You will be in my prayers. I'm so sorry, my heart aches for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sue G in PA Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 strength, wisdom and more healing. So devastating. Any chance it was all a "mistake"? I'm so sorry... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 How awful! You will be in my prayers! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in IN Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 I'm so sorry that you're having to go through this. What a nightmare for you and your family. I'm praying for you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cricket1178 Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 I am very sorry you are having to walk through this. I am impressed with the strength you are exhibiting this far and will join with others in prayer for your continued strength, wisdom, and peace in this very difficult trial. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTMindy Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 Praying for you here!! I'm so very, very sorry. May God carry your family though this time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kay in Cal Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 I'm so sorry, and will be in prayer for you. My only advice: You'll need someplace healthy to debrief all this and get some good in-person support. Family and friends may or may not be as helpful as you'd like... as many things as are going on right now, don't forget to take care of your own mental health--think about carving out time for some counselling for yourself to help deal with the avalanche of emotions. Blessings, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
battlemaiden Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 Oh Rebel. I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. Prayed. Jo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 I pray that you will absolutely know the truth, whatever it is, and that God shows you exactly what to do, every inch, every step. (((Rebel))) Amen. :grouphug: Also praying for your dh's repentance and your family's restoration. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danestress Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 That is devastating indeed. Praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andie Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 I'm so very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quiver0f10 Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Atl Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 :grouphug: no words... just a hug. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
camibami Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 I am so so sorry you and your child are going through this. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twinmom Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 Oh, wow...I am so very sorry. What an awful thing to have to go through! I will pray for you and your family, and will ask God to guide you and comfort you as you deal with this. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Copswife Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 I'm so sorry. Praying for you all... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kris Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 Holy . . . I can't imagine how you're feeling or how you're even dealing with this. Hoping for the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leah Posted April 2, 2008 Share Posted April 2, 2008 I am aching for you and your family right now-you will be in my prayers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LNC Posted April 3, 2008 Share Posted April 3, 2008 I will be praying for you. Know you can come here for support as many of us do. But, I agree with Kay. You need the counsel and support of a real life advocate for you and your child. Maybe a pastor or clergyman? Counselor? Sometimes friends and family just aren't the best to help us through a seriously devastating crisis... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
astrid Posted April 3, 2008 Share Posted April 3, 2008 Oh I"m so, so sorry. Holding you and your son close in thoughts and prayers. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soph the vet Posted April 3, 2008 Share Posted April 3, 2008 I'm so sorry. Praying for you, Rebel, and for your son and your marriage.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenschooler Posted April 3, 2008 Share Posted April 3, 2008 I am so sorry. I will be praying for all of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted April 3, 2008 Share Posted April 3, 2008 I am sorry you are going through this. Agree with Kay, please get and your family the support you need. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trivium Academy Posted April 3, 2008 Share Posted April 3, 2008 Prayers for all of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GraceinMD Posted April 3, 2008 Share Posted April 3, 2008 I'm so sorry. I will pray for you and your family. I have two friends* who have been in similar situations (one is still in it now), and I would like to say that (if their experiences are any indication, which I realize they may not be) there is light at the end of what must seem to you now like an impossibly long tunnel. Please feel free to PM me if you would like. *how odd is THAT? But I think it goes to show that it's not as uncommon as one might think. Both of these friends are Christians, and both of their wives are still with them, so there CAN be restoration and forgiveness (I'm absolutely not telling you what to do, just trying to offer a bit of hope. God is a God who redeems our messes!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackie in AR Posted April 3, 2008 Share Posted April 3, 2008 I am so very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted April 3, 2008 Share Posted April 3, 2008 {{{Many hugs}}} The pain, fear, worry, surprise and anger must be overwhelming. I'm praying you be given "space" and "grace" in order to move forward with decisions mindfully and with wisdom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NicksMama-Zack's Mama Too Posted April 3, 2008 Share Posted April 3, 2008 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
C_l_e_0..Q_c Posted April 3, 2008 Share Posted April 3, 2008 what a horrible nightmare... Praying for you and your family here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CookieMonster Posted April 3, 2008 Share Posted April 3, 2008 I must say I'm surprised the FBI showed up at your door for online solicitation of a minor. I guess I watch too much TV because I thought local law enforcement branches (the police) handled online solictitation in their areas. I thought the larger departments even had a branch devoted to catching online solicitors. I really didn't think the FBI got involved unless the suspect was particularly evasive. I can't even imagine what it would be like to have the FBI banging on the door like that.:ohmy: I second the recommendation to get couseling. I'm praying for all of you here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
readwithem Posted April 3, 2008 Share Posted April 3, 2008 I can't even imagine what it would be like to have the FBI banging on the door like that.:ohmy: Totally agree. Hugs to you Rebel. May you have grace, strength and peace in the coming days. Praying for wisdom for all involved. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MelaniePA Posted April 3, 2008 Share Posted April 3, 2008 I will keep you in our prayers also. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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