JennifersLost Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 I don't want to say "missing" because I don't want to over-dramatize, but I saw him last night - we went last minute CHristmas shopping together - and he was in a good mood. I asked him to come to dinner tonight (Christmas Eve dinner) and he said yes. Then he didn't answer emails or his phone all day. I've emailed repeatedly asking him to just drop me a line and tell me everything is okay. So far nothing. He's 20 and has been on his own for over a year. We don't micro-manage his life, but this is weird behavior. I'm mostly posting because I feel like if I say something publicly (here) it will turn out to be no big deal, you know? It is really creeping me out right now. It's 1:30 am on Christmas. He hasn't emailed yet. Where the heck could he be and why would he blow us off? Prayers would be lovely. I'm sure it's just a 20-year-old boy being a 20-year-old boy...but I'm spooked. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tress Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Praying that he emails you just after you hit post :grouphug:. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 ((Hugs)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom in High Heels Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 I hope he's just being 20. Please update us when you hear from him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 I hope it's nothing, and he checks in soon with. I would be a nervous wreck. When my extreemly reliable and never late DH and I were dating, he was three hours late to pick me up once. It was so out of character that I was certain something had happened. I walked around campus in the rain looking for him. He had ended up falling asleep with his phone silenced. It was after midterms and he was so tired that he fell asleep when he sat down to tie his shoes to come meet me. He was so out of it that he didn't even wake up when I was pounding on his apartment door looking for him. I was a sobbing mess by the time I found him. I can still remember the terrible sinking feeling. Hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lanny Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 There is a possibility that he is sick or had some kind of accident. If he lives nearby, after a certain amount of hours, I think you should consider verifying that he is OK. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hannah Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 I hope he has been in touch. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkyandtheBrains. Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 There is a possibility that he is sick or had some kind of accident. If he lives nearby, after a certain amount of hours, I think you should consider verifying that he is OK. Agreeing, if you have the option I'd suggest going to check on him. I'd verify he is ok. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gerka528 Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 I hope everything is alright and you hear from him soon! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 I hope he'll be okay. Praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Any update? Can you go check on him where he lives? I hope he's fine and his phone is just out of battery, but I'm with you that I'd be concerned since it's out of character. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 :grouphug: I hope he's ok. Praying for you this morning. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Hoping he has checked in. ((Jennifer)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Hoping to hear a positive update soon! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 When my dd20 did this, it was because she fell asleep at a friend's house and they didn't think they should wake her. When she woke up and saw all of my texts, she was horrified because she knew how worried I was. Hopefully your son just fell asleep. Does he live nearby? If you don't hear from him by the morning, could you go check on him to see if he's at home? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Terabith Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Hoping for a positive update! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Praying :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Please update us! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HomeschoolMamaOfTwo Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Hoping he is OK and you hear from him soon! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristineP Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Have you heard from him? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SunnyDays Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Hoping that all is okay. I'm sure that's a very scary feeling! Please update when you can. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JennifersLost Posted December 25, 2013 Author Share Posted December 25, 2013 Still nothing. It's only 8:30 am here so we're waiting a bit longer, then dh will go and ask the building manager to open his door if he doesn't answer it. I'm about to start calling him every five minutes. I've held off in deference to 20 year old sleep patterns. I've asked one of my other sons to start asking around online to his friends to see if he can locate him. We're all supposed to get together at 11 am for brunch and presents. I'm still sure this will work out fine and am also still totally panicking. Time to put on my happy face and stuff the turkey so the littlest one doesn't panic, too. Thanks for the prayers - they are appreciated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flyingiguana Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 I did this to my parents once. Left for a few days for a friend's house and never considered they'd wonder where I was. I hope that's all it is. ETA: Now that it's come out ok I can share even more of my story -- Not only did I leave town and not tell my parents where I was going (and there were no cell phones back then), but when my mom finally called the police to go check on me, the police got VERY quiet when she gave the address. It turned out the apt building just next door had burned down the night before. To the ground. And while they hadn't yet found anyone in the burnt rubble, they were still looking. Except for everyone losing their stuff in that building, everything turned out ok. I eventually called my parents from the city I'd ended up in. It wasn't entirely my fault this took so long. The place where I was staying had an odd father who really didn't want anyone using his phone. And I hadn't had a chance to call before leaving because my friends had to leave NOW. There are 2 morals to this story: 1. Call your parents if you're leaving town. Even if you are 25. 2. Don't try to thaw water pipes with a blow torch. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JennifersLost Posted December 25, 2013 Author Share Posted December 25, 2013 Argh - found him! In bed. With a cold. He "figured I would call" and then he'd tell me he wasn't coming to dinner. Was too sniffly to make the call himself. Or answer emails, or.... Would it be bad to hit your kid with a 2 x 4 on Christmas morning????? I barely slept last night!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HomeschoolMamaOfTwo Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 So glad he is fine! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyThreeSons Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Would it be bad to hit your kid with a 2 x 4 on Christmas morning????? I barely slept last night!!!! My 18yos says do it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Argh - found him! In bed. With a cold. He "figured I would call" and then he'd tell me he wasn't coming to dinner. Was too sniffly to make the call himself. Or answer emails, or.... Would it be bad to hit your kid with a 2 x 4 on Christmas morning????? I barely slept last night!!!! Oh, my goodness! I am so glad this is all it is, but oh, I would be feeling around for that 2 x 4 also! :grouphug: One day, he may be a parent and remember this and go, "God, what a doof I was!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UmMusa Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Glad he is ok! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 So glad he is fine. My 18 yo did something like this. " oh, I figured you'd know I was ok". Can you hit them and hug them at the same time. Again, glad he is fine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SunnyDays Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 What a relief! Try hard not to strangle him, LOL. Enjoy your holiday! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Must be a man-cold. Because if YOU had a cold you'd still be doing everything you had to do- shopping, cooking, wrapping, etc. I vote for the 2 by 4. Pretty sure that even with a man-cold he could have picked up the phone. I'd be giving him an earful tomorrow- and my kids can vouch for that! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hannah Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Slow torture is called for...how about letting him sit at the table and watch the rest of you enjoy brunch? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Oh geez, he should at least be told part of the hive was worried about him. I'm glad he is okay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaxMom Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Argh - found him! In bed. With a cold. He "figured I would call" and then he'd tell me he wasn't coming to dinner. Was too sniffly to make the call himself. Or answer emails, or.... Would it be bad to hit your kid with a 2 x 4 on Christmas morning????? I barely slept last night!!!! Yay! And, no, I think the whacking is entirely called for. You DID call. Little bugger. Grrrrrr, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alef Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Glad everything turned out! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 So glad he's ok! Hope your day is stress-free from here on out! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Glad he is okay. I vote in favor of a whacking with a 2x4. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kitten18 Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 I'm so glad he is ok. I would be hitting him upside the head. I mean, *i* was worried, I can't imagine how you were feeling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom2OandE Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 I'm glad he's ok. I say you would be in the right mind if you decided to fill a sock with a stick of butter and whack him with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alicia64 Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Argh - found him! In bed. With a cold. He "figured I would call" and then he'd tell me he wasn't coming to dinner. Was too sniffly to make the call himself. Or answer emails, or.... Would it be bad to hit your kid with a 2 x 4 on Christmas morning????? I barely slept last night!!!! YEA!!!!!!!!!!! :party: I bet this will go down in family history -- remember the time your brother scared the blank out of us? Hahahahah! Mom: quit bringing that up!!! I'm so glad he's just sick and nothing more! Have a great day! Alley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arcadia Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Argh - found him! In bed. With a cold. He "figured I would call" and then he'd tell me he wasn't coming to dinner. Was too sniffly to make the call himself.If your son has a cellphone/mobile, see if there is an emergency button on the phone that he can set to autodial you. Then all he need to do is press that autodial button and "yell" into the phone that he is not feeling well. The autodial feature on non-smartphones is helpful for my friends when they were too tipsy to press the correct telephone number to get a safe ride home from friends/family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkyandtheBrains. Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 I suggest hitting him with a pillow, still a satisfying thud without the injury! I'm glad all is well!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 glad he's okay. I've sent e-mails to a college age daughter that it was polite to let your parents know you weren't dead. (she was just busy.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Oh my heck, I'm so glad to hear he's ok! I just read of a child who passed away from cancer early this morning. I was so hoping to NOT hear of more tragic news today! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Argh - found him! In bed. With a cold. He "figured I would call" and then he'd tell me he wasn't coming to dinner. Was too sniffly to make the call himself. Or answer emails, or.... Would it be bad to hit your kid with a 2 x 4 on Christmas morning????? I barely slept last night!!!! Oh my goodness! Yes, wack him with the 2x4. I'm so glad he's ok. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThisIsTheDay Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 Oh my gosh. What a relief. I was very concerned after your first post. Even while reading your update, my stomach was doing flips. I'd be telling my kid they should be WISHING it was worse, because I was about to make it worse, lol. So thankful that all turned out okay. You poor mama!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ausmumof3 Posted December 25, 2013 Share Posted December 25, 2013 So glad he's ok, and yeah go with a pillow I reckon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JennifersLost Posted December 26, 2013 Author Share Posted December 26, 2013 Thank you for all the sympathy and support! I swear, I have never come on here asking for "prayers" and not had it work out in the end. We didn't make a big fuss today, since it is Christmas. He came over on time, and has been a joy to be around. The day has gone smoothly. Dh told me he will have a "word" with son on the way home tonight to let him know NOT to do that again. Seriously, as I was getting up and dressed this morning I nearly threw up I was so worried. I think tonight when everyone goes home I will have a good cry, LOL. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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