Rivka Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 My husband's birthday is tomorrow. He came home from work today with a cake. Apparently, one of his coworkers has decided that this year she's going to bake everyone a cake on their birthday. Not for everyone to enjoy at the office, which I think would be sweet, but for the birthday person to take home. He suggested sharing it around, and she was determined that he should not. Well, I baked him a birthday cake. I'm his wife. I think it's distinctly odd to supply a birthday cake for someone who has a family to bake for him. As it happens, I'm an excellent baker, but even if I weren't I would feel as if my role was being supplanted. And now we have two cakes in the house. Am I the weird one, or is she? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lorrainejmc Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 She's weird.:lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 Not weird if she shared it in the office. Definitely weird for insisting it was to be taken home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama_Rana Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 MY husband's birthday is tomorrow too! That is a bit.... odd. I assume she wants an outlet for baking rather than consuming her own baked goods. But then why not let him share it around the office? My dh has a coworker that brings a bunch of cakes on HER birthday to share, and sends home slices with T to share with us. We always record L singing Happy Birthday to her as a sort of thank you. But I've got nothing on this one. :/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Peach Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 Cake for the office, yes. To take home, weird. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xilka Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 The more cake the better! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tabula Rasa Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 It's weird she insisted he take it home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 Tonight you have unbirthday cake and tomorrow you celebrate his birthday. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 I think it is nice. I would be thankful, even more thankful if she made his favorite, German Chocolate, so that i don't have to! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 Not weird if she shared it in the office. Definitely weird for insisting it was to be taken home. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gramlingk Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 A nice gesture to bake the cake, especially if she really is doing for everyone. But, I would feel uncomfortable, too, if another woman made my husband a birthday cake and insisted he take it home to his family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 Definitely weird that she insist he take it home. Maybe she's projecting and assumes everyone else in the world suffers through their birthday without a cake. It would go to waste in our house, no one here could eat two cakes before they'd get stale. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EKS Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 Cake for the office, yes. To take home, weird. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aggieamy Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 Not weird if she shared it in the office. Definitely weird for insisting it was to be taken home. :iagree: Can you send your yummy fantastic cake to the office to share? Also, it's would be great if your husband could let everyone know that his wife baked that wonderful cake they're all enjoying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 I'm not understanding why so many people think it's weird. I think it's very nice of her! She's doing this for EVERYONE in the office? How sweet is that? I bet her feelings would be crushed if people were talking about how weird her sweet gesture is behind her back. I also don't think it's weird she's insisting the birthday person bring it home. While it's more popular a choice to share in the office, I don't find it weird she's baking special treats for birthday employees to take home. I would understand your feelings more, Rivka, if she only did this for your husband or just a couple/few people. But for everyone? She sounds like she has a very generous and sweet spirit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carpe Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 Sweet to bake a cake for the office. Weird to send it home. Possibly a sad projection because no one makes her cake for her birthday. I'd bake a cake and send it with DH for her on her birthday. If she's a creep that meant to insult you, she'll be as insulted as she expected you to be and might stop. And if she's intending to be sweet, then she'll really appreciate it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rivka Posted January 23, 2012 Author Share Posted January 23, 2012 The more cake the better! It's a boxed mix (I can tell, because it's "funfetti") with canned icing. It's also somewhat the worse for wear, because...:lol:... he put it in his backpack to bring it home. Yes, really. ("What else was I supposed to do with it?" "...Carry it in your arms?") The kids will eat it, and I think he'd better eat one piece so he can tell her how much he enjoyed it, but other than that I don't think it will get eaten. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hilltop Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 Not weird if she shared it in the office. Definitely weird for insisting it was to be taken home. :iagree: It is his birthday... He should get to decide what to do if someone gives him a cake. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie in CA Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 She sounds like she has a very generous and sweet spirit. Generous? yes. Sweet? yes. Weird? Absolutely! They're not mutually exclusive. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura in MI Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 Not weird if she shared it in the office. Definitely weird for insisting it was to be taken home. :iagree: She probably was trying to be nice but it is weird insisting to take home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aggieamy Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 It's a boxed mix (I can tell, because it's "funfetti") with canned icing. It's also somewhat the worse for wear, because...:lol:... he put it in his backpack to bring it home. Yes, really. ("What else was I supposed to do with it?" "...Carry it in your arms?") The kids will eat it, and I think he'd better eat one piece so he can tell her how much he enjoyed it, but other than that I don't think it will get eaten. Boxed mix? That makes it stranger. I was expecting her grandmother's special from scratch coconut cake or something similar. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 Once she gave him the cake, it was his. He should be able to serve it wherever he likes. Eating it at the office would seem appropriate. It is weird for her to demand it be taken home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OLG Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 I'm still mentally picturing a cake in a backpack! :D I suspect she meant well and din't think about impinging on your right to bale him a cake. Let the kids enjoy it and tell him to thank her. Let it go.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 Boxed mix? That makes it stranger. I was expecting her grandmother's special from scratch coconut cake or something similar. Now I think it's really extra weird. Yuck! I'm sure in her head she thinks she's being nice, but who wants an extra nasty cake made from a mix sitting around their house? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lang Syne Boardie Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 I think he should have thanked her and then gregariously insisted that everybody in the office have some. Just profusely thanking her, laughing and gesturing really grandly while grabbing some napkins, ignoring her commands to take it home. I also think that if he were to come home with another woman's home-baked cake he could have done no better than to bring it in a backpack. Well played! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aggieamy Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 I think he should have thanked her and then gregariously insisted that everybody in the office have some. Just profusely thanking her, laughing and gesturing really grandly while grabbing some napkins, ignoring her commands to take it home. I also think that if he were to come home with another woman's home-baked cake he could have done no better than to bring it in a backpack. Well played! :iagree:. Tibbie offers good advice for next time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiobrain Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 Yummmm. Nothing says Happy Birthday than a creepy, insisted upon, obligation riddled, family/wife insulting, boxed mix, backpack smooshed, weirdo cake. Yes- nice, then not so nice, then really not nice and totally awkward, then gross, then in my trashcan. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsBasil Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 I like box mixes, because cakes are the one thing I can reliably screw up. Always dry and bland. Anyway, it's off putting that someone would give a birthday gift of cake and then instruct them on exactly how they were to enjoy it. I'd find it nice, but weird. You can not eat it here or there. You can't just eat it anywhere. Eat it at your house I say, your house and don't delay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daisy Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 I'm not understanding why so many people think it's weird. I think it's very nice of her! She's doing this for EVERYONE in the office? How sweet is that? I bet her feelings would be crushed if people were talking about how weird her sweet gesture is behind her back. I also don't think it's weird she's insisting the birthday person bring it home. While it's more popular a choice to share in the office, I don't find it weird she's baking special treats for birthday employees to take home. I would understand your feelings more, Rivka, if she only did this for your husband or just a couple/few people. But for everyone? She sounds like she has a very generous and sweet spirit. I agree. Maybe she wants to be more like a present in which case one would be expected to bring it home. I don't know, but I don't think it is weird. She seems like a sweet gal. My husband gets stuff like this all the time from his fellow teachers. They'd REALLY want him to take it home so they are not all tempted by it. LOL. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 I'm still mentally picturing a cake in a backpack! :D I suspect she meant well and din't think about impinging on your right to bale him a cake. Let the kids enjoy it and tell him to thank her. Let it go.... :iagree::iagree::iagree: And I think it is rude for people to put her down for baking a cake from a mix. She meant it to be a present. One that she will be able to provide for everyone at some point. I doubt that she meant it as some baking competition. Or as a competition for the person's affection. It's just cake. Perhaps next year she'll give everyone a potted plant instead. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 I agree. Maybe she wants to be more like a present in which case one would be expected to bring it home. I don't know, but I don't think it is weird. She seems like a sweet gal. that's exactly what I was thinking. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 I think she meant it as a kind gesture. Also, sharing it in the office might have meant she'd need to make much more cake...and then listen to people complain that they don't like chocolate, are on a diet, etc. Perhaps this is her 'pay it forward' plan- maybe she never gets a cake for her birthday and wants everyone else to have a cake. Who knows. I think it's kind, but I wouldn't feel obligated to eat it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Woodhaven Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 Very weird!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer3141 Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 That's weird! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pretty in Pink Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 I think he should have thanked her and then gregariously insisted that everybody in the office have some. Just profusely thanking her, laughing and gesturing really grandly while grabbing some napkins, ignoring her commands to take it home. I also think that if he were to come home with another woman's home-baked cake he could have done no better than to bring it in a backpack. Well played![/QUOTE] :D Yep. Especially to the second part. Ha ha! It does seem odd to me because it's not something that most people would do. It seems especially...odd...that she insisted that he bring it home to enjoy, but I doubt she meant anything by it. The more cake, the merrier (though perhaps not after it's gone for a joyride in a backpack. Heh.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 I think it was a sweet gesture. I think it would be weird if she only did it for your dh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 It is a bit weird but more sweet. She is probably baking for everyone because to not to would be rude. If she just baked for people she thought had no one to bake for them odds are someone would get their panties in a twist because they didn't get a cake. Just freeze her cake and pull it out for company as a dessert and conversation piece. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 Just freeze her cake and pull it out for company as a dessert and conversation piece. Would that be before or after she hauls it out of her husband's backpack? :tongue_smilie: Personally, I think it was a sweet gesture, if a bit unusual. Maybe she didn't want him to share the cake, so he would have all of it for himself and his family. In most offices, it's Open Season on cake, so the birthday boy would be lucky to get more than one slice of it. I would be curious to know if she actually follows through with baking cakes for all of her other co-workers, though, because if she doesn't, I would seriously think she might have a little crush on Rivka's dh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lovin Learnin Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 Call ME weird but because of her insistence that he take it home I would want to see HER eat a piece first. My head immediately goes to "What's wrong with it?" If she's weird in general I would not eat it. Just saying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 I think it's a nice gesture but still weird for her to dictate where and when the birthday person can have his/her cake. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wendi Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 Weird. . . ish. Baking a cake is sweet, but insisting that he can't share it at work is weird. If it's a gift, why can't he do what he wants with it? :confused: Wendi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pdalley Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 I had to choose the third answer simply because it's a line from one of my very favorite movies ever. :D I think the gesture is sweet, I think the insistence that it be carried home was a little weird and I would feel put out if someone else baked my husband a birthday cake while still being appreciative of the thought. I wouldn't think there was any particular meaning behind it since it's known she's baking a cake for the birthday of everyone else in the office. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zaichiki Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 She's weird and controlling. (Does she know he's married?) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
H0MEFree Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 I'd say its more than "weird". It's controlling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sewingmama Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 To share at the office is sweet - to take home is weird Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BarbecueMom Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 Weird. . . ish. Baking a cake is sweet, but insisting that he can't share it at work is weird. If it's a gift, why can't he do what he wants with it? :confused: Wendi Yes, the insistence on not sharing it at work is odd. Not as weird as my mom's new, male, married, back-out-of-retirement coworker buying her a pearl necklace for Christmas, but still a little weird. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :iagree: She probably was trying to be nice but it is weird insisting to take home. That's what I think is the weird part--insisting that he take it home and not share it at the office. It would irritate me, too, as the wife. Maybe you can put it in the freezer and serve another time? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ereks mom Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 Apparently, one of his coworkers has decided that this year she's going to bake everyone a cake on their birthday....Well, I baked him a birthday cake. ...As it happens, I'm an excellent baker, but even if I weren't I would feel as if my role was being supplanted. And now we have two cakes in the house. She's apparently not coming on to him because she does this for everyone else as well. I think it's sweet. Can you send your yummy fantastic cake to the office to share? Also, it's would be great if your husband could let everyone know that his wife baked that wonderful cake they're all enjoying. :iagree: I'd bake a cake and send it with DH for her on her birthday. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 Perhaps next year she'll give everyone a potted plant instead. Preferably that she raised by hand from a small seed, right? I happen to use those boxed cake mixes and premade icing too. Oh well, more cake for me! Funfetti actually rocks, thank you very much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I talk to the trees Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 It's a boxed mix (I can tell, because it's "funfetti") with canned icing. . Until I read this, I was thinking that maybe she's trying to make a little extra money by baking cakes, and is spreading the word by sending home samples. But now...I'm voting weird. Perhaps she spiced the cake up with a little "secret ingredient" that would make the cake, ummm, unfit for consumption at work? ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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