MrsBasil Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 This is a Just Agree With Me. I don't want to hear her perspective, I just want someone to agree with me that telling a stranger that her kids have boring names is rude. Today I was told that my kid's have boring and unoriginal names. I thought that was rude and told them so. Rude Person: Oh, so cute! What are their names? Me: They are W--- and S----. Rude Person. Oh(subdued voice) that's...nice. Kind of boring. Me: What? Rude Person: Well, just not very original. You know. Boring and plain. Me: That's (I lose tact) really rude. It was SO nice to have met you. Rude Person: You don't have to be upset. I'm just saying what I think. Me: Yeah, me too. I'm just saying. You're rude. Buh-bye. I walked away. She yelled at me, "Hey wait, I didn't mean.." but after that I couldn't hear her and stopped paying attention, because I was floored. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoLuRu Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I agree - how rude to tell a parent they dislike their child's name!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danestress Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 "Monkey Boy" and "Monkey Girl" are very original names - I've never met anyone else who ever used them. I also agree that she was very rude, and I hope that you being bold in responding to her might help her think about getting a little filter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carina Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Sounds like she needs a filter on her mouth ;) That is something one may think but NEVER say out loud to the mother. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justLisa Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Can I kiss you?! :lol::lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
basschick Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Ouch! I would have not responded as tactfully as you, that's for sure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsBasil Posted November 5, 2012 Author Share Posted November 5, 2012 "Monkey Boy" and "Monkey Girl" are very original names - I've never met anyone else who ever used them. :lol: Thanks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T'smom Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I think you responded very well. I'm impressed, I don't think I would have been able to call her on it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsBasil Posted November 5, 2012 Author Share Posted November 5, 2012 I agree - how rude to tell a parent they dislike their child's name!! Yes! Can I kiss you?! :lol::lol::lol: Let me get back to you on that. Ouch! I would have not responded as tactfully as you, that's for sure. Good to know someone thinks I was tactful and not a complete....donkey. Sounds like she needs a filter on her mouth ;) That is something one may think but NEVER say out loud to the mother. I can't even imagine thinking it, to be honest. But yes, keep it to yourself if you don't like a child's name and are talking to their parent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elizabeth in MN Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 For once I can post in a JAWM thread. Yes, she was super rude. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Incredibly rude. You were quite tactful in your response in comparison. It seems like rudeness (and "weird rudeness" especially) is on the rise. When did name snobbishness become a thing? I don't get it... :001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsBasil Posted November 5, 2012 Author Share Posted November 5, 2012 For once I can post in a JAWM thread. Yes, she was super rude. I know and I debated about this, but I realized I didn't want it to turn into asking what the names were and hearing that someone out there agreed with her. I have issues sometimes. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lang Syne Boardie Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I am happy to JAWY. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I will go so far as to say that if someone doesn't actually JAW(you) they are a numbskull. That is awfully rude. Seriously. Like my mother said- just because you think it doesn't mean it's fit to be said aloud. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thebacabunch Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 beyond rude!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kirch Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Yeah, you weren't the donkey in that conversation.:glare: WHERE have people gotten the idea that the world must hear every single opinion that pops into their heads? WHO CARES what she thinks?? Seriously, though, where and how in the last 50-75 years did we as a culture lose the concept of the brain/mouth filter? I'm sure there were rude people in our grandparents' generation, but it seems like it's much more common/prevalent now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Yep. No filter. When you are grown-up you learn to not always just say what you think. Esp. when what she thinks on the matter is of no consequence whatsoever. I'm sorry she was so rude but I think you were perfectly right to call her on it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bbmom Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 YOU were not the rude one in that conversation. As for names, I much prefer normal "boring" names to the made-up, mispelled, and sometimes quite ridiculous (IIMO) ones that seems so fashionable these days, but I would never TELL anyone that. Oh, your daughter's name is Mystyrikiah? You named your son Whiskey? What lovely children. Oh look at that, I forgot the milk-it was wonderful to meet you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 For once I can post in a JAWM thread. Yes, she was super rude. I'm right there with you! :D What a horribly rude woman!!! :angry: She absolutely deserved to be called out for acting like such an arrogant idiot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greenmama2 Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 You know what, I probably would have thought they were boring too. I don't like dime a dozen names. But my goodness...I do agree with you HOW RUDE! Whatever I thought of a child's name, I would never tell the parent I didn't like it :001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I agree with you, except that it would have been more fun to say "what an unoriginal thought. You must be a really boring person. Goodbye." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I agree with you as well, how rude! Kudos to you for for telling her so! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassy Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I really couldn't imagine anyone not agreeing with you :001_smile:. Nor could I imagine that she might have any valid point of view that would make such comments even remotely OK. Your response was pretty perfect. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amyable Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Rude! I'd be floored too. Yeah, you weren't the donkey in that conversation.:glare: WHERE have people gotten the idea that the world must hear every single opinion that pops into their heads? WHO CARES what she thinks?? Seriously, though, where and how in the last 50-75 years did we as a culture lose the concept of the brain/mouth filter? I'm sure there were rude people in our grandparents' generation, but it seems like it's much more common/prevalent now. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tress Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I agree with you, except that it would have been more fun to say "what an unoriginal thought. You must be a really boring person. Goodbye." This! Totally. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I agree with you. Definitely rude. What a dingbat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sahamamama Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 That was so rude. I really do agree with you. Our girls' names are apparently "old-fashioned" to some people. As in, "Oh.... all old-fashioned names." :glare: Um, yeah, like from the Bible and all... :tongue_smilie: Makes ya wanna wring a neck, doesn't it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaxMom Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Incredibly rude. You were quite tactful in your response in comparison. It seems like rudeness (and "weird rudeness" especially) is on the rise. When did name snobbishness become a thing? I don't get it... :001_huh: :iagree: I don't even care about name snobbishness, but when did sharing every f'ing thought that crosses your mind because "I'm only saying what I think/feel" become ok? Seriously. What is WRONG with people? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momofkhm Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I definitely agree with you. Incredibly rude! She'd probably say the same thing to me - boring names here on all three. But I grew up never being able to find pre-printed personalized stuff. (Now I can find it everywhere, but then...) So I *wanted* my kids to be able to find stuff with their names on it. Boring names of the world unite! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Very rude. No excuse at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
praisefor3 Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I frequently tell my kids, "You do NOT have the right to say everything you feel." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nd293 Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 You didn't need to make this a JAWM - she was super-rude by anyone's standard, and your response was appropriate. You were blunt, but I don't think you were rude. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mazakaal Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I think you responded very well. I'm impressed' date=' I don't think I would have been able to call her on it.[/quote'] Me too. I would have been too shocked to say anything. I think you responded well. Incredible rudeness under the pretext of 'just saying what she thinks.' Wow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarlaS Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 :iagree: I don't even care about name snobbishness, but when did sharing every f'ing thought that crosses your mind because "I'm only saying what I think/feel" become ok? Seriously. What is WRONG with people? I'm just dying for someone to pull this one on me. I will say what I feel in return--which is something people who say that are NOT counting on. They get to "say what they feel" since most people they meet are too nice to tell them "Well, I feel that you are an idiot and should definitely STFU". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pamela H in Texas Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Boring huh? Well, I think I'd rather have the issue of naming my kids boring names than the issue of being rude! And if we pass those things on? My grandkids will have "boring" names, but hers will have a rude mom! I cannot even imagine being in that situation.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Ummm wow! What an ass! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I think you responded very well. I'm impressed' date=' I don't think I would have been able to call her on it.[/quote'] :iagree: How unbelievably rude! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 :lol: I do agree that it was very rude. I hate the mentality that we should all just say what we think. Way to give it back to her. Dawn For once I can post in a JAWM thread. Yes, she was super rude. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Violet Crown Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Not just rude, but wrong. Original and Kreeyative names are so 2000's. Normal is back. I recently met a young mom who'd named her son William, and the parents called him Billy. I wanted to fall down at her feet in homage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crimson Wife Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Even if someone's kids had the most boring/ugly/dumb/etc. names ever, the proper response is something civil. :banghead: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Me: Yeah, me too. I'm just saying. You're rude. Buh-bye. :thumbup: iow--I agree with you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zebra Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Wow, do I ever agree with you! You weren't asking for an opinion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kitten18 Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 This is a Just Agree With Me. I don't want to hear her perspective, I just want someone to agree with me that telling a stranger that her kids have boring names is rude. Today I was told that my kid's have boring and unoriginal names. I thought that was rude and told them so. Rude Person: Oh, so cute! What are their names? Me: They are W--- and S----. Rude Person. Oh(subdued voice) that's...nice. Kind of boring. Me: What? Rude Person: Well, just not very original. You know. Boring and plain. Me: That's (I lose tact) really rude. It was SO nice to have met you. Rude Person: You don't have to be upset. I'm just saying what I think. Me: Yeah, me too. I'm just saying. You're rude. Buh-bye. I walked away. She yelled at me, "Hey wait, I didn't mean.." but after that I couldn't hear her and stopped paying attention, because I was floored. :svengo::svengo::svengo:She was sooooo rude. My kids have boring names too. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dinsfamily Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I really couldn't imagine anyone not agreeing with you :001_smile:. Nor could I imagine that she might have any valid point of view that would make such comments even remotely OK. Your response was pretty perfect. Even if someone's kids had the most boring/ugly/dumb/etc. names ever, the proper response is something civil. :banghead: :iagree: I'm floored that this person thought it was okay to comment on your children's names at all. It wouldn't have mattered if you'd named them Lemon and Jello. I think your response was tactful and controlled in comparison. I can think of many other responses that might have been going too far easily off the top of my head. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmulcahy Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 It sounds like the playground talk that my kids heard while we were on vacation in the mountains a few weeks ago. Another kid told my two girls that they were ordinary and that he was special. Keep in mind that the insults were being hurled by a 8ish year old boy. We all cracked up and now the running joke here at home is "oh your so ordinary". Perhaps this woman has not developed past her 8ish year old verbal filter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindy in FL. Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I'm gonna do what I was told and just :iagree: That was really rude! Cindy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 "Monkey Boy" and "Monkey Girl" are very original names - I've never met anyone else who ever used them. I also agree that she was very rude, and I hope that you being bold in responding to her might help her think about getting a little filter. :lol: :iagree: Sounds like she has no filter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnaM Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 This is a Just Agree With Me. I don't want to hear her perspective, I just want someone to agree with me that telling a stranger that her kids have boring names is rude. Today I was told that my kid's have boring and unoriginal names. I thought that was rude and told them so. Rude Person: Oh, so cute! What are their names? Me: They are W--- and S----. Rude Person. Oh(subdued voice) that's...nice. Kind of boring. Me: What? Rude Person: Well, just not very original. You know. Boring and plain. Me: That's (I lose tact) really rude. It was SO nice to have met you. Rude Person: You don't have to be upset. I'm just saying what I think. Me: Yeah, me too. I'm just saying. You're rude. Buh-bye. I walked away. She yelled at me, "Hey wait, I didn't mean.." but after that I couldn't hear her and stopped paying attention, because I was floored. I didn't realize that there was an official name judger. I wonder at what point she decided that she was the authority on kids names. I'm totally bummed that I didn't know to call her up and get her approval before naming my kids. Now I am may never know if they live up to her...standards. How will I sleep tonight? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momto10blessings Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I completely agree with you. My kids all have more traditional names . I'm just not a fan of different or made up names. BUT I would NEVER EVER tell a mom that her kids names were ugly or that I did not like them. Even if it's the strangest name I just say "Oh that's cute!" IMO it's the same as saying "Oh your kids are pretty plain looking. They have boring personalities" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 That is beyond rude and falls into the gobsmacked category. I don't know that I wouldn't still be standing there dumbstruck by such a comment. Please tell me she was young and didn't have children of her own. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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