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  1. I'm wondering if others have this issue, because it seems as though we are dealing with this issue more and more...when one of our teens emails an adult (scout leader, camp instructor, volunteer coordinator, etc) the email will inevitably get ignored and eventually, so that we can follow through with whatever issue needs resolved/finished/managed/planned, dh or I must email the person and ask the exact same question that the teen has already asked. Inevitably, our emails are answered promptly, with no acknowledgement of the fact that our child was just ignored for the past 5 days. It is NOT that the emails are poorly written or not clear, as they are usually approved by one of us, to make sure all questions are answered or that what is needed is spelled out for the recipient. I'm also not talking about an email going unanswered for all of 15 minutes--I'm talking emails ignored for 4 or 5 days, or forever. When I hear from a teen (or an adult) asking me a question, especially if I hold some sort of authority over them, I give them the respect they deserve and answer their email. Apparently, that's not the norm. Do you struggle with this, or is it just a fluke that we're lucky to know these people?
  2. I am getting better. I have a planner with calendars and all of that. I write everything down. But I STILL miss things :crying: I'm waiting to hear from my kids' baseball coaches about the season starting next week. I just pulled out the sheet I got when I signed them up. Aries had tryouts last week and I completely missed it! :crying: I let him down. Again. I read the sheet when I got it. I put it aside. I never put it on the calendar. I don't know how I forgot. Just when I think I have it together, something like this happens. Honestly, I don't think he would care very much if he got cut. He didn't really want to play. Gem is DYING to play Tball, and he's all set. I wanted Aries to play too, because i think he will like it. I talked him into it, and then I dropped the ball. It's a rec league, and a ...ahem...low quality one, at that. I doubt there will be serious repercussions. But I'm still just so upset. I can't count the times I've missed an appointment or shown up on the wrong day, or at the wrong time, or forgotten an address. Ok, probably not that many, but gracious, it's a terrible feeling.
  3. The scientific consensus on the "why" of America’s obesity problem has recently- since about 2002- undergone a profound paradigm shift. The old way of thinking illustrated by the food pyramid with grains and carbs as the base of the pyramid is and was wrong and damaging. We should be eating far fewer carbs/grains (whether whole grain or not) and more fat and protein. Respected physicians who head the nutrition science departments at Harvard and Duke have conducted clinical trials (not observational studies - for those who care about the distinction) which have shown: 1. Carbs cause insulin resistance which promotes obesity and weight gain. 2. Fat does not as previously thought cause heart disease. 3. Type 2 diabetes can be cured by practicing a LCHF (low carb/high fat) diet. If diet, health, and weight gain/loss is a concern for you, please look into LCHF diets and do some research. Here are some valuable links: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17684196?dopt=Abstract http://www.nytimes.com/2002/07/07/magazine/what-if-it-s-all-been-a-big-fat-lie.html?scp=1&sq=what%20if%20its%20all%20been%20a%20big%20fat%20lie?&st=cse http://www.hsph.harvard.edu/nutritionsource/what-should-you-eat/pyramid/ Stepping off my soap box now......
  4. Apparently, I missed the meeting where everyone decided that the cool, modern thing to do is to back into parking spaces. EVERYONE is doing it now. I sort of get that it decreases the odds of hitting someone when you back into a space then pull out to the moving traffic. (This is the best explaination I could think of. Feel free to enlighten me.) However, for the love of all that is decent and holy, PLEASE do not back into a space if you lack the skills to do so efficiently. I really wish they'd have separate licensing requirements for driving mondo big vehicles . I'm not convinced everyone currently on the road would pass that test. I get that there is a learning curve, but it would be really nice if people would puzzle this out before hitting the road then annexing part of my parking space. I think I'm finished now.
  5. This is a Just Agree With Me. I don't want to hear her perspective, I just want someone to agree with me that telling a stranger that her kids have boring names is rude. Today I was told that my kid's have boring and unoriginal names. I thought that was rude and told them so. Rude Person: Oh, so cute! What are their names? Me: They are W--- and S----. Rude Person. Oh(subdued voice) that's...nice. Kind of boring. Me: What? Rude Person: Well, just not very original. You know. Boring and plain. Me: That's (I lose tact) really rude. It was SO nice to have met you. Rude Person: You don't have to be upset. I'm just saying what I think. Me: Yeah, me too. I'm just saying. You're rude. Buh-bye. I walked away. She yelled at me, "Hey wait, I didn't mean.." but after that I couldn't hear her and stopped paying attention, because I was floored.
  6. From some recent threads and by starting to take a look at some of the other boards (other than SN and K-8 where I usually post), I have come to realize that there are many forum members that have children that learn differently (visual, tactile, kinesthetic, combination, etc.) that do not post here because their kids do not have a label and therefore are not considered special needs. Others do not post here, even when their kids have labels because their kids are not behind and therefore feel uncomfortable sharing what they have figured out about their kids by tweaking various methods. I myself have often felt unwelcome here because we do not have an official diagnosis, but hey, I am a pest so I am still here :lol:. Kids with SN's also have various learning styles so we may be missing out on some valuable input from people that are veteran homeschoolers and have found ways of adapting traditional curricula to suit their special learner. I would love to see for example how people have adapted the WTM for their special learner. We have been homeschooling for 5 years now and PK-2 hardly places me anywhere near veteran status :lol:. Anyway, it is just a thought I would like to share with everyone and I would love to hear your input. The name change I would like to propose is: Parents' Forum Special Learners Board This general name would cover any learner that does not fit the auditory model, basically.
  7. The homes on both sides and behind mine all have dogs. The ones on the sides are totally fine, but we are having issues with the dog behind us. Whenever my kids are in the backyard he barks and runs back and forth at the fence. He also runs at the fence and tries to jump it, which terrifies my kids. If they go within ten feet of the fence or so he growls, so they don't do that. It scares my little two especially. I'm outside the whole time they are, so I'm sure they have not done something to antagonize him. The neighbors are essentially never home. The dog can't go inside, but he has shade and water. I've nicely tried to talk to them about the barking- especially when he does it for hours at night, but they aren't really receptive. I'm kinda concerned that one of these times he's going to clear the fence. It's a six foot wood one, but when he jumps he is at mid chest. It's getting to the point where my two year old doesn't want to go in the yard. :( Wwyd?
  8. How should I handle it now? Last Monday, I had a company come to my house to do some handy type work. One of the jobs was to fix the toilet. I told the man I was not happy with one of the jobs that he did, which caused the wall needing to be patched, painted etc... Anyway, I paid him a check for approx: $245. He left and went to his van. I checked the toilet and it was still not working properly, so I went outside before he had pulled away to let him know, and he looks at me and just takes off. I immediately called my bank and explained the situation to the mgr. She told me that I had a right to stop payment on the check because the work was incomplete. I put a call in to the company owner and he called me within an hour. I explained the situation to him and he said he would send another worker out later that day to fix the problems. I was not happy as this caused me to lose an entire day. I had company coming the next morning from out of town and needed to get things done. He did not apologize at all for my inconvenience and sounded like I was messing up their schedule because he had to send another worker out. I refused to let the original worker come back to my house. The worker that came out to my house later that day, did fix everything, including the terrible wall repair that the first guy did. The job is complete. I've checked my bank account and the check did not clear but I've not heard from the company at all. How should I handle it at this point, or what should I expect?
  9. ETA this is not about cereal that was one point of aggravation please do not respond over the cereal that is not the point I was stating how my daughter was acting and it seemed that was hard to understand so to be clear this is not about the cereal I have a 15 year old daughter who is a really great kid 99% of the time. She has some small moments nothing ever major. She helps me out with the youngers doesn't run wild has great manners other adults adore her but every now and then I am just kinda at a standstill. This is the situation... A few nigts ago she came to me with Can my friend stay all night? OK there has only been one friend who comes here often which I totally adore and calls me mom. I just love her considering the relationship it is not an ask situation so right off I knew this was someone else. She talks about a kid I have never even heard of before. Well I say I guess it is summer we do live in the boonies not many other kids around etc. Right off she says the kid is coming Friday and leaving Sunday night.Um NO! I don't know this kid I would not feel comfortable with all that. OK fine she will leave Saturday afternoon. I fully expect the kids mother to drop her off I have been giving directions over the phone assuming it was the mother No it was the sister in law who looked about 16 to be truthful. Not happy but the kid is here what can I do right? OK move forward it is dinner I hear my kid go into the bedroom telling her what we are having for dinner the kid is all I don't eat that tell your mom I already ate, OK for me and 4 kids we have a 600 a month budget for food and not food items this includes the animals food too toilet paper etc. Everything is budgeted I have a kid with food issues (tourettes adhd etc) Meals even breakfast is totally planned down to how much cereal is needed for a week. I always make sure to get a bit extra in case of guests a bit ..... I tell the kid I will wrap her dinner up and she can have it later if she gets hungry. I catch the door to my daughters room locked this is a major NO NO we do not lock doors I knock I enter there is no reason to lock doors especially since she is sharing a room with her sister. This ticks me off I say nothing I wake up this morning to make my youngest breakfast the bag of cereal is gone. Just gone I am like OK where did the cereal go? They had taken it in the bedroom at some point and ate over half the bag. Just snacking on it like chips or something. I am very angry. That kids plate is still wrapped in my fridge along with lastnights leftovers. The rule in this house being if you are hungry later you eat the leftovers period. Now she tells me the kid will be picked up tonight instead of this afternoon. I want the kid to leave I am angry and I feel like I am going to snap. Am I overreacting?
  10. Okay I am asking because we only allow initials. A lady on our ds's baseball team took it upon herself to put our last name on ds's ball shirt!! We had already asked her not to and she said she would put the initials, but she did not. We have always been concerned with placing our children's name, first and last, on anything they will be wearing or carrying. What is your opinion and reasoning?
  11. I was at my daughter's soccer game listening to another homeschool mom (the only other homeschooler on the team) brag to the other moms about her son. It all started when the other moms started asking general questions about homeschooling like "what do you do?". So this other homeschool mom starts bragging how her 2nd grade son reads on a 5th grade level and he's just sooooo advanced she doesn't have to do anything really, he pretty much just teaches himself. I wasn't really part of the conversation so didn't comment but it bothered me because I have a hard enough time fighting the stereotypes explaining that my kids aren't weird unsocialized homeschoolers. UGH!
  12. Dear son, if you just. sleep. one. night. Turning 8 on June 1st, this will mark almost three thousand days of crappy sleep. I really, really hope that some day he will sleep all night without me needing to sleep with him half the night. Seriously I don't even think money would work, though I thought about it for a split second at 4 am. And no, I'm not joking. He has not slept by himself one night of his life. He is JUST the sweetest, most loving boy in the world, but I think I may need to medicate very, very soon. (myself:lol:) Thank you for listening.
  13. STOP IT. There is no excuse, absolutely none, for imposing your scent on fellow church-goers. My family and I moved seats THREE times, which means we sat in four different spots, on Easter morning. I was so peeved after we'd been chased out of the third spot that I could not focus on the sermon. I just sat there pondering whether the ladies who reeked of perfume were selfish or just thoughtless. On a typical Sunday morning, we sit in the less-populated balcony solely to avoid perfume, as most perfume makes two of my children sneeze and sniffle so much that they have to leave the service. When one of my daughters was younger, the perfume also could trigger her asthma. With the extra crowd at Easter, more people sat near us, and we ended up playing musical pews to avoid their perfumes. You know what? If you don't reek of body odor, NO ONE CARES how you smell, especially the people sitting behind you in church. Vent over. Terri
  14. My SIL is in the middle of a divorce. She is the one that left and there are no biblical grounds for the split. It hasn't even been a full year since she left and she has already been "talking to" (dating) four different guys. This past Sunday, she brought her most recent boyfriend to the Easter service at the church my FIL pastors. I was highly uncomfortable. She is not even divorced yet and then she entered church with her boyfriend(blatant adultery). She proclaims to be a Christian and has been reaching out to DH. He tries to give her sound counsel in a loving manner, but she doesn't seem to really want to hear it. I get that she is an adult and will make her own choices, and I've kept mum about my opinion on the matter, but I was really not all that okay with her parading her most recent conquest at CHURCH. I'm becoming more and more uncomfortable being around her because I know eventually the issue will come up. I already stepped on toes when I refused to go to her "I'm celebrating my marriage being over" party masked as a housewarming party when she got her own place after the split. She openly comments joyfully about how glad she is to have "gotten rid of her problem." :glare: It seems DH and I are the only ones uneasy here. Even though my pastor FIL has told US he has issue with what is going on, but won't bring it up with her. I'm just not sure what to do or say or what not to do or say. ETA: She also has two children who she brings around every guy that she dates and one of the children has expressed multiple times that he is uncomfortable about it. Any advice? Suggestions?
  15. I was always close to my aunt. I really respected and admired her. I used to call her once per week and we'd chat for a long time, sometimes half an hour, sometimes several hours. I really respected her opinion on things and viewed her as a very wise woman. When I cut my sister out of my life the second time, because she's just too difficult and caused too much stress on dh and I both, things changed with her. I don't believe it has anything to do with my leaving my sister behind for good. She did this with her own sister who was mentally ill and stole from her. She really seemed to understand the first time, and I think she did the second time. The issue is that my sister has always been deeply jealous of me. She used to drive a wedge between my mother and I and it caused me SO much pain in my life. When I was pregnant with my first baby, sister just cut me out of her life entirely when I was in my forth month of pregnancy. She wouldn't return my calls or see me, and she told my mother that she was spending too much time with me and it was hurting her, so my mother cut back on seeing me. It was a very painful time for me, although it should have been the happiest. She came back into my life when my son was born. When I finally cut my sister out of my life at 35 years of age, peace returned and a beautiful relationship with my parents happened at a level I never dreamed possible. It only could have happened without my sister involved in any way at all. We became SO close, something I had never experienced, EVER. Even in my childhood my sister's jealousy of me kept my parents from truly having a real relationship with me. So, once I severed all ties with my sister the second, and final time, and after my mom died, my sister went to town destroying my relationship with my aunt. Do I know for certain? No. But my aunt and I never, ever had words. Ever. I had even been looking for homes with in-law appts. when we were going to move to VA because I was hoping aunt and grandmother would move in with us and I could help to care for them. My aunt never had kids. I also offered numerous times to build an addition behind our house for her and I would care for her. Every time she told me how proud she was of me at how I took care of my mother, I let her know I would do the same for her. I loved her so much. Anyway, I noticed a change. I never asked her about it, I just hoped we would get back to the relationship we had with time. On Easter Sunday, the first Easter after both my parents died, we were outside painting the house all day. I was bone tired at the end of the day when we came inside to make a good dinner. We relaxed with some good food, watched a little tv, then went to bed. As I was starting to fall asleep, it occurred to me that I had never called my aunt! Just as quickly as that occurred to me, I was devastated that she never called us. That's when I realized things had really changed. I was too hurt to address this situation with her. I have always done so much for all of my family and I get kicked in the gut all the time. It occurred to me that our relationship wasn't real if she could just let it go like that. It wasn't fair to me that she listened to my sister an never discussed anything with me. I know some of you will say I don't know this for sure, but I do. I saw the pattern often in my lifetime with my sister. She went out of her way to destroy all my holidays and my relationships. She dated an ex of mine, someone I was in a long term relationship with. She told me about it when all our friends flew out from CA for sister's wedding, adn she told me in a crowded room. She used to try to stab my heart all the time. I know she is what caused this. Dh keeps telling me, regardless of what my sister has done, he has lost ALL respect for my aunt, someone he also admired. He blames her 100% because she is who did this, and I know he is right. But I also know my sister is behind this. It has been almost two years since I last heard from her. The pain has settled a great deal, and I am making peace with the fact that our relationship was a farce. Then today, out of the blue, I get a package from her. I didn't open it for awhile because I knew I could never have a relationship with her again on the level it once was. When I finally did open it, what was inside? The silk quilt I had made for her in China. Nothing else. No note, no card, nothing. I have never known her to do such an ugly thing. This really does surprise me. At first I was going to send her a thank you card and inside say, "How thoughtful!" but I'm not going to bother to sink to her level. I will not be contacting her in any way. Contacting her will never be an option. I'd rather have no relationship at this point because she truly is not the person I knew and loved for almost 46 years. I have no desire to hear from her again. She is in her 80's. What complicates things is my sister's greed. I have a feeling a part of the reason for this wedge is my sister not only wants to try to destroy me further, but she wants all my aunt's money when she dies. My aunt made it clear that it would be divided between the two of us. This obviously won't be happening now. Oh well. My sister has always gotten handouts from my parents, her inlaws, my aunt. I don't know why people enabled her shopaholic spending and lavish vacations they could never afford. When both my parents died, my sister had huge issues with the lawyer who was in charge of my father's trust, so we hired a different lawyer and made dh co-trustee so that everything could be overlooked by someone in our families. Sister an brother are both mentally ill and have paranoia issues, and dh was glad to do this. LOTS of work , all unappreciated. My sister now, 2.5 years after my mother's death, wants copies of every single transaction in the trust, every receipt, every letter mailed, etc. She has cost the trust SO MUCH MONEY since back when my dad died, and the lawyer told us it will cost $600 to give her everything she wants. I finally said no, we're done, she can pay for any extra requests out of her own portion. MY parents were once millionaires but there is barely anything left. My brother is on disability, lives in a condo that is paid for, and the trust pays his extra expenses for his car, condo fees, and insurance. Anything not normal spending. His money will run out in about five years, and her constant draining of his funds is also bothering me. I think that since she has to be copied on my correspondence, and she knows we won't be paying anything further, that she is livid and going after me with a vengeance. Again, it's been 2.5 years since my mom died, dad died before her. Dh and I keep wonder why she is causing so many problems after all this time, and the lawyer is so tired of dealing with my sister. She was tired of dealing with her a few months after she met her, and that was years ago! I'm so sorry this got so long. It is probably all disjointed, too. I just need time to gain some peace and healing with this, but my chest and stomach has been hurting for about four hours now, the type of pain you get when you need to let out a huge, long cry. I am so thankful for my friends I have, and they are all true, wonderful friends. But aside from them, I struggle with my thoughts of just how much people suck. The only other family I have are my sister and my brother, and my brother is the only one I am in contact with. Dh and I handle all his business affairs and I am his representative payee. Sister hasn't seen him in two years.
  16. [i think that's the first time in my life I ever typed the word [i]ogling.[/i] Had to look it up :D; I thought it had 2 o's] IDK, is there? What if your dh was on a forum (as much as you are on this one) where the vast majority of posters are men. And what if there were as many references to female singers and/or movie stars being eye candy, hotties and other various descriptive words to convey how wonderful it would be to find himself in their arms :001_huh:. Of course, complete with photos. Yea, I know--it's all in fun. After a long day with the kids, can't we just share a few laughs? We're just unwinding, etc. etc. We love our dhs so much. Take a :chillpill: ! But if the men did the same (on their hypothetical forum), would it be so cute/funny? Is there a double standard?
  17. Hey y'all... I don't think this is necessarily politically divisive in this forum, and hopefully it won't go that way. But have y'all seen the new thing that as of October 1st, stay at home parents or other caregivers without outside employment/income can't get credit cards? http://www.momsrising.org/blog/denied-stand-up-for-stay-at-home-moms-dads-caregivers/ http://www.creditcards.com/credit-card-news/stay-at-home-parent-credit-cards-household-income-1282.php http://www.creditcards.com/credit-card-news/stay_at_home-spouses-credit-card-representatives-letter-1282.php It looks like it's already under review in Congress but it can't hurt to know the situation and/or speak up about it. (FWIW I'm all for the law protecting unemployed young people, college students, etc. from being scammed by the credit card companies... but I don't consider most SAHs to be in that particular situation)
  18. As the title of the thread indicates, I'm about to gripe about work. So, if that sort of thing bores/annoys/offends you, you should probably bail at this point. Anyway, my gripe is this: I made a new friend at my work who happens to be Muslim. Besides her name, you really wouldn't know she's Muslim though, because in her own words she's very "modern," meaning she is very Western in her appearance and her speech. The reason I mention it is we had a recent department meeting, where about 10 of us had to meet with an HR manager for mandatory training. The meeting was held in a hotel board room and there was a bunch of food laid out. However, for the meats, there was only one set of tongs. So, when we had to do a round the table "how are you, what's going in your life" break the ice chit chat, someone asked my friend why she only had a bag of chips. She matter-of-factly replied that she's Muslim, and doesn't eat pork (it's one thing she's strict about). And even though there were non-pork options on the table, they all were "contaminated" in the sense that the same pair of tongs was used as with the ham. The whole table was quiet when she said this, and the HR manager, who happens to be Jewish, said nothing. Just picked up her own sandwich and took a bite. One of the other folks next to my friend offered to order something from the kitchen, but the HR manager overheard, and shook her head to override him, and went on as if my friend never spoke. I'm offended and irritated because it's not like my friend ever asks for any special allowances for her religion. And as religious laws go, the no-pork one actually makes sense, in that my friend at least won't ever be getting brain worms. But mostly what I don't understand the HR manager--whose job is to actually be sensitive about these things, and who I figured as being Jewish herself, would be particularly sympathetic to my friend's dietary restrictions--saying no to my friend being allowed another option. To end this rant, I thought it was a jerky thing to do, and just plain rude. I almost spoke up but I didn't want to embarrass my friend, who took it in stride and didn't protest. But, now I'm having to control myself from giving this HR manager the evil eye every time I see her. So please help me :chillpill: and figure out a way to deal with this woman without showing how much I dislike her.
  19. How would you feel if a co op teacher said, "You just need to shut your trap, mister" to your 11yo son when he was being overly enthusiastic and talking way too much and way too loud during an 8am science class at a Christian co op? Inappropriate always? Just another way to say, "be quiet"? I had mixed feelings. We don't say "shut up" at all. We say "be quiet" in various shades of annoyance, including yelling! We use virtually no profanity. My friend had been having a bad morning. She is an amazing teacher. She has a very high tolerance for noise (compared to me). This woman is also a pillar of the co op; works nonstop to make it happen. And I totally appreciate her. My son felt embarrassed and my daughter (and another 11yo boy - he was in my car on the way home) were also in the class and they said the whole class got quiet and was upset/surprised that she said "those words". The second adult in the class was gone to grab a supply for the teacher. I prayed and felt awful about calling my (new) friend on it, but felt I had to because I don't think those words should ever be said in a co op setting unless they are followed by "I'm sorry. I shouldn't have said that." I think they are a bad example to the kids and nothing we want to model. I wasn't overly upset because I know this woman's heart; her commitment to the kids and she is a great lady. My son and I talked it over very well and I helped him see that she was stressed, he had disregarded her warnings and she didn't "mean" anything other than "be quiet". I helped him see her perspective and also recognize how his behavior was wrong. We talked it over, I kept him on the phone and we called her. My son started by apologizing for his talking, not obeying. (I had hoped that would prompt and apology but it did not. She was gracious and forgiving and affirmed her affection for my son, his smarts, etc.) So I had my son go ahead and explain how he felt when she said the "shut...trap" phrase to him. He used words like "I felt it was rude and I felt disrespected." She was gracious and seemed to understand that it was a bad choice or words in a co op class setting. But she didn't offer that perspective until we talked a little more. But I've heard her talk like that before in an adult relating-a-story context - so I am wondering if she thinks saying those words to a kid in co op is no big deal? I was very proud of my 11yo son. He was scared to call but our pre-talk and prayer together and my insistence that (as much as possible, I would help him) he needed to handle it since it happened to him and he was the one upset and I supported him and agreed with him. (When I started to suggest that he call her with me on the phone too, I was kind of feeling him out to see if he could handle it. If he had been totally unable (or completely reluctant - he was not), I would have stepped in.) He did very well. What do you think? Like me, totally inappropriate? Or is it, "just another way to say 'be quiet'? Lisaj mom to 5
  20. Last night at a swanky do, (Why was I there?) a polished, sophisticated lady asked me if I was a professional "too." I have never before felt that saying "I homeschool" was throwing down a gauntlet! The she followed up with "Have you ever worked?" :001_huh: I could see the wheels turning in her head - what to make of me. She started talking about the trouble her daughter was having in high school. This polished, sophisticated, intelligent lady actually said "I let them do whatever they want in middle school; the grades don't count. High school is when I make them get serious." :001_huh: I decided maybe I was the intelligent one!:D "Really?" I said, "Middle School is keeping me up at night. It lays the ground work for High School." Again, she gave me an odd look. Then we moved on to language. She was speaking about the practical value of language. That's when I decided to be obnoxious. I remember saying that I found the idea of learning a language for practical reasons "abhorrent." I launched into my husband's masters in Anglo-Saxon and my graduate school experience with Gothic. I know I was projecting too much on to her. I just felt like she was looking down her nose at me and putting me in a small little box labeled, "close-minded, hiding-from-the-world homeschooler." She was snooty so I tried to out snoot her. I told my husband later (this was his crowd) that I probably should have just tittered when she said that idiotic thing about Middle School. He told me if I had just tittered he would have lost all respect for me. :001_smile: I know my behaviour was a bit childish, but come on, don't you want to mess with These People sometimes too?
  21. honestly, I just do not think I need to know about other people's ladyscaping habits or lack thereof. ;) :D Just taking our new acronym for a test drive. :auto:
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