Mandylubug Posted September 11, 2012 Share Posted September 11, 2012 My Aunt passed away this week. As a child of a deacon in a conservative baptist church (people in the south will totally understand) I was drug to every funeral possible. My best friend was killed in a car accident at age 6 and I was drug to that. I was traumatized by the amount of funerals I attended. I can still "smell" the place. I get nauseous and my palms sweat. I just don't like it. I dislike it so much I have made my husband swear to not have a funeral for me. To just meet at the top of a mountain and enjoy some coffee or something with family. Well, I had my mammogram/ultrasound today; just got home an hour prior to the funeral. Me and DH have already discussed it and we don't want to subject our kids to funerals unless it is family they truly know. They don't know my aunt. She was 78. We moved away to AZ for two years and they came back to GA not remembering anyone. She honestly scared my girls to death the one time I made them give her a kiss at Christmas. Well, I was going to attend but I don't have a babysitter. My MIL is busy and its too late to drive to my aunt's an hour away. So, I tell my mom the news of my lumps not being cysts but masses. You know, I am upset myself a wee bit (not torn to bits upset but not happy either) and she breaks down saying I should get over myself and bring the kids. Then throws in my face that my nephews are there. I flat out told her I am not their mother but in my opinion they shouldn't be there. Idk.. I just feel torn. I want to support my mom. It was her sister and my aunt. But it is also a place I don't want to go to and I definitely don't want to subject my kids to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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