I talk to the trees Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 (edited) My whole world is falling apart right now. Please, please, please, send as many prayers and good vibes as possible that my little family makes it through this, and that I can just get through today. I'm too numb to go into details, but I know you all are a great and supportive bunch. eta: Thanks. edited again for the story now that I'm a bit calmer: (Thank the Lord for Xanax.) So last night around midnight, dh tells me that he thinks that dd and I should go home and move in with my parents. He says that he can't make everyone happy even though he wishes he could, and that he needs the freedom to do what he needs to do to pursue his career. So I asked him if this meant divorce, and all he could say is that it's an idea he has entertained. I'm still in total shock. So there's my story. Mods: I hope this doesn't violate the spouse-bashing rules. It isn't intended to. I just need a place to vent. Okay, one last edit, to make my story a bit more coherent. Does any of the above make sense? Edited November 2, 2010 by flutistmom trying to make it make sense Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 :grouphug: Sometimes life stinks, huh. Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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thescrappyhomeschooler Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 :grouphug: Thinking of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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speedmom4 Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 :grouphug: Prayed for you you. God Bless, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimberly in IN Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 :grouphug: Praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 :grouphug: and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I am so sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aggieamy Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 I'm so sorry. Praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hedgehog Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 Aw sweetie, I'm so sorry for you. :grouphug: I'll surely pray for you. Dh and I nearly broke up 3 yrs ago, as our relationship was in a real mess. I nearly had a nervous breakdown. I totally lived in the moment - it was impossible to cope with any more. Eventually we decided to stay together for the kids' sake. We could both see that we'd made some terrible mistakes. We've been working on it since then, and I can honestly say that it can get better if you both want it to work. PM me if you want to, I'd be glad to help you if I can. Hedgehog x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paintedlady Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 So so sorry! :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TN Mama Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug: Praying for you & your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ondreeuh Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 Lots and LOTS of good wishes to you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer3141 Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 Wishing for the very best for you and your family. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5knights3maidens Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenn1129 Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 :grouphug: and prayers! is it possible he is depressed? i have seen many husbands down/depressed over the state of affairs lately... jobs, finances, and such. could you ask him to see a marriage counselor? i'm so sorry you guys are going through this. Jennifer Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam L in Mid Tenn Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katemary63 Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. I imagine you are heartbroken. I'm praying for you and especially your DH. I pray that he comes to his senses and decides to work hard to make his family successful rather then his career. Hold on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoyfulMama Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melanie in WI Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 Praying for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeckyFL Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 (edited) So sorry you're going through this. Is it possible that he needs some words of encouragement (wondering about the can't make everyone happy comment) and some counseling for himself as well as for the marriage? Maybe he is having feelings of failure. Can't keep his family happy, career needs work, etc and the safest bet is the career? Sounds like a lot of negative thoughts coming into his head that may have no foundation whatsoever and with counseling, he may see that. I really have no idea, but it would be good to really find out what he's thinking. Words like that can sometimes be a cry for help or a desire for you to tell him otherwise too. Praying for you! :grouphug::grouphug: Edited November 2, 2010 by BeckyFL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2a&z Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Praying :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 Praying :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bokons Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 Praying for you and your family :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lisamarie Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 :grouphug: and prayers! is it possible he is depressed? i have seen many husbands down/depressed over the state of affairs lately... jobs, finances, and such. could you ask him to see a marriage counselor? i'm so sorry you guys are going through this. Jennifer :iagree: This was my first thought based on how he worded his comment about not being able to keep everyone happy. Also, could something be going on at work that he isn't telling you? Whatever the reason, your family is in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caitilin Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug:Praying for you today.:grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patches Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 Praying for you and your husband. I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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FaithManor Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 (((HUGS))) I am so sorry and will be praying for you. Two thoughts...don't be hard on yourself and just do what you need to survive. Make him see a doctor for a full physical including blood work up as part of any agreement you make with him. My dad went through a really bad time a couple of years after I got married. My mom never told me but he considered leaving her. She demanded he see his doctor....low and behold....very low testosterone. He was a new man after some hormone supplements. I will remember you in the days to come. Faith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myfatherslily Posted November 2, 2010 Share Posted November 2, 2010 I'm so sorry:( No words of advice here, just a hug of understanding. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted November 3, 2010 Share Posted November 3, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I'm so sorry you're going through this, and hope that you and your dh are able to work things out together. Cat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sugarfoot Posted November 3, 2010 Share Posted November 3, 2010 Praying here.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beetkvass Posted November 3, 2010 Share Posted November 3, 2010 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. If I can make a suggestion, do not move out of the house and give him possession of it like that. If he wants to separate I'd expect him to move out. Asking you to move in with your parents sounds like a way to avoid the financial responsibility of providing for you and your child while still keeping his home. It strikes me as very odd that he would ask y'all to move out rather than find a way to move out himself if he wants to separate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted November 3, 2010 Share Posted November 3, 2010 :grouphug: Prayers for you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pretty in Pink Posted November 3, 2010 Share Posted November 3, 2010 I am wishing the best for your family. Hang in there. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lulubelle Posted November 3, 2010 Share Posted November 3, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: and prayers. I pray you are both able to talk things out and understand what is going on . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mama2cntrykids Posted November 3, 2010 Share Posted November 3, 2010 I just said a prayer for you. I'm been through this and in my situation he couldn't be with us anymore. I pray you have a much better outcome. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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lmrich Posted November 3, 2010 Share Posted November 3, 2010 I will keep you in my prayers tonight.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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