Heather in Neverland Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Three months ago I sat across the table from my friend Christy at a 4th of July BBQ. She was 6 months pregnant at the time and we were laughing and talking about pregnancy and motherhood, etc. She and her husband Jason were expecting their first baby, a boy. They are one of those magical couples that you see in the movies...met when they were young and have loved each other ever since. I am not talking just about the comfortable love of companionship after many years together...no, they were still head-over-heels, butterflies-in-the-stomach in love even after 15 years together. She was one of the kindest souls I have ever met. And she died yesterday. You see, about 2 weeks after that 4th of July BBQ, Christy found a lump in her armpit. It was melanoma in her lymph nodes and it was on her lungs as well. She was pregnant and could not get chemo. They started her on steroids to develop the baby faster and he was born on August 28th, 7 weeks early. It seems that as soon as the baby was born the cancer began to spread rapidly...like it was waiting at the starting gate for the gun to go off. It spread like wildfire quickly engulfing her organs, filling her lungs with fluid until she couldn't breath. Too late for chemo. Too late for anything. Except for a miracle. I would love to tell you that God miraculously healed her and that she and her baby and her loving husband lived happily ever after. But I am even happier to tell you what really happened. In the final weeks of her life God worked a miracle...he called Christy's soul to Him and she accepted the gift of salvation. She died peacefully, quietly, in her sleep. She was 29 years old and she leaves behind a beautiful 5 week old baby boy who is her mirror image...a little piece of her for those of us who will miss her. The Lord gives, and the Lord takes away. Blessed be the name of the Lord. Thank you so much to all of you who prayed with me for a miracle. Our prayers were answered and she's with our saviour now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GraceinMD Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Thanks for sharing that, Heather. I'm so sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Amy in Orlando Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 (((Heather))) I'm so very sad to read this. I'll keep you and Christy's family in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scrappymom Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 OMG!!!!:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fractalgal Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Three months ago I sat across the table from my friend Christy at a 4th of July BBQ. She was 6 months pregnant at the time and we were laughing and talking about pregnancy and motherhood, etc. She and her husband Jason were expecting their first baby, a boy. They are one of those magical couples that you see in the movies...met when they were young and have loved each other ever since. I am not talking just about the comfortable love of companionship after many years together...no, they were still head-over-heels, butterflies-in-the-stomach in love even after 15 years together. She was one of the kindest souls I have ever met. And she died yesterday. You see, about 2 weeks after that 4th of July BBQ, Christy found a lump in her armpit. It was melanoma in her lymph nodes and it was on her lungs as well. She was pregnant and could not get chemo. They started her on steroids to develop the baby faster and he was born on August 28th, 7 weeks early. It seems that as soon as the baby was born the cancer began to spread rapidly...like it was waiting at the starting gate for the gun to go off. It spread like wildfire quickly engulfing her organs, filling her lungs with fluid until she couldn't breath. Too late for chemo. Too late for anything. Except for a miracle. I would love to tell you that God miraculously healed her and that she and her baby and her loving husband lived happily ever after. But I am even happier to tell you what really happened. In the final weeks of her life God worked a miracle...he called Christy's soul to Him and she accepted the gift of salvation. She died peacefully, quietly, in her sleep. She was 29 years old and she leaves behind a beautiful 5 week old baby boy who is her mirror image...a little piece of her for those of us who will miss her. The Lord gives, and the Lord takes away. Blessed be the name of the Lord. Thank you so much to all of you who prayed with me for a miracle. Our prayers were answered and she's with our saviour now. I'm so sorry for your loss. :grouphug: My father just found out that his colon cancer has returned and is now in both lungs. Perhaps we can say a prayer for both of them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam "SFSOM" in TN Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Thank you so much to all of you who prayed with me for a miracle. Our prayers were answered and she's with our saviour now. Oh, Heather. I'm so so sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Thanks for letting us know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newlifemom Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Nothing to say. ((((((sigh))))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
partyof5 Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Oh Heather! I am typing through bleary eyes, filled with tears that are now dripping down my face... I am so sorry to hear your friend is gone but your joy is so evident, I find it hard to do anything except say PRAISE GOD!!! :) Thanks for sharing this with us. My prayers are with you tonight & the family as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam "SFSOM" in TN Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 I'm so sorry for your loss. :grouphug: My father just found out that his colon cancer has returned and is now in both lungs. Perhaps we can say a prayer for both of them. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovemyboys Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 They are one of those magical couples that you see in the movies... She was one of the kindest souls I have ever met. And she died yesterday. She died peacefully, quietly, in her sleep. She was 29 years old and she leaves behind a beautiful 5 week old baby boy who is her mirror image...a little piece of her for those of us who will miss her. :grouphug: Heather, on the loss of your cherished friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 I'm very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy in NY Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Heather, I am so sorry for your loss. My heart and prayers are with you and her family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ncmomo3 Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Sorry is such a woefully inadequate word. Peace to you and her family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beansprouts Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Words escape me, but I couldn't not post something. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelli in TN Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Oh, my heart just breaks for your friend and her husband and dear child. And for you. I am so sorry, so very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zelda Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missplacedalaskan Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 I am so sorry for the loss of your dear friend. Praying now for her Dh and Baby Boy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doran Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 ...thank you for sharing a glimpse of just how wonderful Christy was. You tell her story quite tenderly, and I am moved to tears. My heart aches, for how much I know she'll be missed. Peace to you and to Christy's loved ones, and blessings to that baby boy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vida Winter Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Oh Heather, I am so sorry. I am praying now. :grouphug: Dana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom to Aly Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 So, so sorry <hugs> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
********* Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 The Lord gives, and the Lord takes away. Blessed be the name of the Lord. My two little boys love to sing a song based on this scripture. My DH and I recently made a point of explaining exactly what it meant. Praise and Bless the Ancient of Days, and thank him for his blessings. Thank you for posting this, what a beautiful reminder that we should bless His name in every situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 {{{many tender hugs for you and all her family}}} When I was in college, my college fiance's sister went similarly after having her first child. The pregnancy and birth accelerated rapidly a cancer that was undiagnosed and asymptomatic. She was gone before her baby could crawl. Death is never easy, death of a young person is harder and death of a young mother is beyond words. {{more hugs}} and prayer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 I'm sorry, and I agree on the miracle. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brigitte Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 I'm speechless. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Once Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad she is comfortable now. May you know the peace that passes understanding and may her little one know God's loving hand in his life. :grouphug: to you too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plaid Dad Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Oh, Heather, I'm so sorry for your loss. The family will be in my prayers, as I also give thanks for the blessing of her life and for her acceptance of the message of hope. Memory eternal! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 I'm so sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura in VA Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 :grouphug:, Heather. I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
astrid Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 I"m so sorry for your loss. There are no words. Please know we're thinking of you and your friend's family as you cope with your grief. astrid Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 "Blessed be your name When the sun's shining down on me When the world's all as it should be Blessed be your name Blessed be your name On the road marked with suffering Though there's pain in the offering Blessed be your name Every blessing you pour out, I turn back to praise When the darkness closes in, Lord Still I will say... Blessed be the name of the Lord" :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1bassoon Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 :grouphug: Praying for them, Heather. Have you thought about printing out the beautiful post you wrote? The dad might like for his son to have it, when he's old enough to read it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ma23peas Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Wow! I want to be sad for your loss...but you wrote the most joyous ending one could imagine...I actually started out crying for the tragedy but when I got to your message of her salvation, a bubble burst inside me and actually made me REJOICE!! I was just writing how God cares so much for the sparrow that He would not overlook our needs...possibly ten years ago, the pure sadness of the situation would have overcome my faith to KNOW that God has that precious baby in His hands and will provide abundant blessings, it is a miracle of our medicines today that the baby was born and I hope she was able to hold him in her arms.... Also so touched that God put someone like YOU into the path of this child. Thank you for your words of truth and courage to share them! Tara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudyJudyJudy Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 :( I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
King Alfred Academy Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 :grouphug::grouphug:I am sorry for your loss, but grateful for her gain! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 I am so sorry for you loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spy Car Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Terrible news, I'm sorry :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debbie in OR Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 :grouphug::grouphug: Feeling for you and her family. Wow. And thanks for sharing the hope at the end...so thankful for that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johanna Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Heather, What a beautiful post and tribute to your friend and our Savior! Words can't express the sadness that I feel for your loss....and yet, the happiness/ peace that I feel for you seeing her walk into Jesus' arms. A miracle in deed! Oh, and that precious son!! Wow....what a Legacy she has left.... :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy loves Bud Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
3lilreds in NC Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Oh, Heather. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 :grouphug: I am sorry for the loss of your friend. My this child grow up surrounded by love. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kat19 Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 So sorry for your loss :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mamagistra Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Heather...:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momof165 Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Heather, I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. :grouphug: Sonja ________________ Mom to ds 8 Married to the love of my life (10 yrs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in IN Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 (edited) So sad, and yet so beautiful. I'm certain that your friendship has been a wonderful gift to your friend and her family. :grouphug: Edited October 10, 2008 by Denise in IN Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frogpond1 Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 She did a noble sacrifice for her child. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teamturner Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 I will keep you and Christy's family in my prayers! That is so very sad. What a blessing that she is now with Christ. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 I am so sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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