Haiku Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 When I want something to eat, I am fine with eating from the plates and bowls my dh and kids used. I'll even use the same utensils. Dh thinks this is gross. (Yet he will French kiss me ...) Who is right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 Well "right"...I think it's just your personal preferences. I'm not icked out by that. My DH isn't either. But I guess I don't think it's weird if others are icked out. But then again if he is willing to kiss you (and heck that's germy) then I hardly see the difference. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Girls' Mom Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 Not gross. Unless it is a glass used for milk. Sharing milk or milk covered items is gross. Don't ask me why. The irrational part of my brain insists this is true. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haiku Posted January 10, 2015 Author Share Posted January 10, 2015 Not gross. Unless it is a glass used for milk. Sharing milk or milk covered items is gross. Don't ask me why. The irrational part of my brain insists this is true. Apryl, you have a completely adorable haircut! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sarahbobeara Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 Never silverware. Mostly clean plates that have only bread crumbs or a bowl that held sliced fruit...ok. And that's usually if the dishwasher is getting full or we're about out of plates. I've never been good at eating after others. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Girls' Mom Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 Apryl, you have a completely adorable haircut! Thank you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dory Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 I won't share silverware with my kids. That grosses me out. I will share it occasionally with dh, but even that is not really inside my comfort zone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merry gardens Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 Sharing utensils--gross. Cups, mugs and glasses--gross if intentional, although mistakes happen with people refilling or picking up wrong one. Plates or bowls okay IF the items previously eaten on said dishes were dry, (perhaps leaving only a few crumbs) and IF if we were out of clean plates. Sharing with spouse, not as gross generally. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 That's a no-go, for me. I don't mind washing an extra plate and fork. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joules Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 We really don't share around here. I was on immuno-suppresants the first few years of ds's life. Because sharing anything was completely unacceptable then, it became the norm. He probably seems a bit like a germaphobe, but eating or drinking after anyone just feels wrong to all of us now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
foxbridgeacademy Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 I'm fine with most of the things you listed but I grew up sharing everything with my sisters. I will often wipe a fork or spoon off if what's on it is wet but not always. I would probably rinse out a cereal bowl before reusing..... but I'm a nut about keeping the dishwasher going so we rarely run out of dishes (unless we have company). DH on the other hand only had 1 little sister and parents who were more particular then mine so it has taken many years to break his bad habits. He will now drink after us (if drink is 1/2 full or more) and eat after us if certain (unknown to me )conditions are right. Seriously, if you grew up the way I did, eating after your children would be no big deal, we were kind of like a little wolf pack. ETA: I think it helps that I still consider my kids to be part of me, even though they're not babies anymore I still will try to wipe their noses, brush their hair, etc... So eating after them is no big deal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 Considering that a significant part of my diet is my kids' half-eaten leftovers, I have no problem eating out of their used dishes. I am a big fan of household efficiency. :P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forget-Me-Not Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 We are so casual about this here. We'll all eat after each other. I have one kid who doesn't like to, but I noticed even that person has relaxed about it. As for DH and I . . . yeah, like you said, we kiss each other, and we made several babies together. Sharing a fork with him doesn't even give me pause. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 To re-use without at least rinsing off the dish/utensil? Eeeuuu. To re-use after rinsing off with hot water first? Ok. I can go with that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheres Toto Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 In the evenings we generally have a couple glasses of water that everyone shares. One with ice and one without because ds doesn't like ice in his water. So, there could be four of us sharing one glass of water. Before we were married and had kids, Dh was extremely picky about having anyone eating off his plate or sharing food. He got over it, especially once kids were involved. :laugh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyoustxmama Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 I do that all the time ~ less dishes = more free time for all :laugh: ! I'll add though, dh will grab my toothbrush if it's easier for him. I don't like that so much. I want my toothbrush to be mine only. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 I don't like food touching. I don't like using my salad plate/bowl for the entree unless I rinse it off first. And putting dessert on the dinner plate still smeared with dinner food? Oh heck no. So I don't even re-use my own plates and utensils! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 Doesn't bother me at all. I am not remotely germophobic though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrsrevmeg Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 Ew. It would never even cross my mind to reuse someone's already used dish/utensil. If we have dessert I don't use the same plate for it that I used for my meal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pronghorn Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 I might drink out of the same container or finish my daughter's food but never during flu season. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ILiveInFlipFlops Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 LOL I have a feeling a lot of responses will include some gut-feeling type thing that doesn't necessarily make complete sense. I share water bottles and glasses with my kids and huz, no problem. And I'll give them a bite of something off the fork I am using. But I would never share a spoon with my kids because it goes all the way inside their mouths and I think that's gross. I will share a spoon with my husband, like to eat ice cream for example. And I won't share glasses or bottles with my kids if I can help it, because I can usually see what's floating in there after someone has drunk from it! Backwash is inevitable, and I try to avoid it :lol: I'll usually use a plate or bowl after oldest DD or DH, but not after youngest, because she's not as sanitary as I'd like, in spite of my nagging. I'll re-use a utensil if I must and be OK with it, but if there are clean ones, I'll grab one of those instead because it's just an extra layer of cleanliness. None of this horrifies me, but I'd also prefer clean dishes or utensils generally. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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SKL Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 I do have one 8yo daughter who is weird about other people's spit. If she shares, say, a water bottle, she'll wipe the spout off on her [not-so-clean] t-shirt before drinking out of it. Ohh kay. She generally refuses to share food / eating utensils with her sister in particular. I don't know where she got that from, since everyone else in the house is much more laid back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amyco Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 Unless someone in the house is sick...I don't mind re-using a dish, but I'd like my own flatware...unless it's just to "take a bite" of their food...you know, how sometimes someone hands you a forkful of what they are eating? And you just eat it off the same fork? That's not gross. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farrar Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 Because dh is on a different schedule, we often do this. We'll have finished eating and he'll wake up and want something, so I'll just take one of the plates and stick food on it again. Voila. Less dishes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Serenade Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 My DH and I often share plates, bowls, silverware, cups, etc. Generally, I prefer not to use my kids' stuff, however. Even though they are a teen and almost teen, their stuff is usually grubby. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 I'm actually not sure how to vote. I wouldn't reuse a cereal bowl. I don't prefer to drink out of a glass that DH drank out of, but I'll have a drink if I wanted to try it. I would take a bite of his food off his plate (with his utensil) but I have my own plate. I wouldn't like reuse his dishes after he finished. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisbeth Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 I don't like food touching. I don't like using my salad plate/bowl for the entree unless I rinse it off first. And putting dessert on the dinner plate still smeared with dinner food? Oh heck no. So I don't even re-use my own plates and utensils! :)This is me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jasperstone Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 Sharing glasses or drink bottles of water registers fine with me. But not cutlery, or used plates- unless non messy things were on it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nevergiveup Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 Everyone knows that Mommy germs are not the same as other people's germs. Ex. a dab of my spittle on a handkerchief is an excellent way of cleaning anything. Therefore, it is OK and acceptable if I wish to take a taste of something off my family's plates before they eat (with my used fork) or serve them something from a plate I have used. However, it does not work the other way around! They are filthy beasts and I would not eat off their plates and utensils after they have dug in. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebel Yell Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 COmpletely depends on the food and the person eating before me. A plate with "dry" crumbs on it is almost always OK. Using a utensil after one of those slobbery sloppy eaters? :ack2: Poking a fork into a separate food bit on someone else's plate? usually OK. Dipping your slobbery soup spoon into their bowl? :svengo: Drinking from a cup or straw: as long as I can't see lipstick or that gross mucous-y lip print, I'm OK. Also assuming the previous drinker does not leave crumbs and gruesmeness in the cup all floating around. :ack2: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 Um--why would I reuse a dirty dish when there are perfectly clean ones in the kitchen? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy in NH Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 That's gross. But I will leave a knife on the cutting board to use again if I've only cut an apple with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LMV Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 It is definitely not something we do in our family. I'll have to side with your husband and agree with gross! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 The fewer dishes the better. :laugh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momofkhm Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 For dh and kids, not gross. I tend to use my own utensils though. With *my* folks, not gross. Well, plates. Utensils, for a bite/taste, not gross. To eat after them, gross. For my MIL, nope. not going to do it. Not even leftovers left here. ETA: my whole family seems to think my travel water is for group consumption. It used to be a water bottle with some kind of flip top mouth thing. Now it's a Tervis. But still, group consumption there. And I tend to take water in the car every time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haiku Posted January 11, 2015 Author Share Posted January 11, 2015 Um--why would I reuse a dirty dish when there are perfectly clean ones in the kitchen? Fewer dishes to wash! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AMJ Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 When I was growing up my folks failed to explain certain matters to me, and left it up to 8th grade health class. I was the ONLY kid in class who didn't already have a clue when we started in on the mechanics of human reproduction, and the entire class busted up when I blurted out, "that's GROSS!" In later years as I found out even more details of what can go on in intimate acts I had to overcome a similar revulsion at the mental concept before I could find out what the physical result could be. I have also, in my younger days, attended two archaeology field schools, worked a summer for a Forest Service archaeologist of the opposite sex, gone backpacking at high altitude with someone prone to high altitude sickness without a sufficient clue beforehand, done fieldwork (farm and archaeological), been in some rather dicey travel situations in pretty foul weather, and lived in a bunkhouse closet (for privacy, as I was the only gal) for a winter because my own quarters froze solid due to unseasonably frigid weather. I have been in up-close-and-very-personal situations with folks I was in no way amorous on several occasions, and we occasionally had to not only share dishes, utensils, and drinking containers, but also had to scrub them clean with sand at times, too. Oh, and I performed the Heimlich maneuver on my own mother when I was 9 months pregnant. Yes, I really did. She was rather frail at the time, and smaller than me, or I wouldn't have been able to manage it. I think I have seen and been through enough grosser things in my life. I voted no, not gross, simply because I've survived worse. Really, when food is concerned there's not much grosser than the after effects of the Heimlich maneuver. I do teach my kids the basic common sense about sticking to your own dishes, especially when someone might be contagious. But if I have the only water bottle on a hot summer day I'll share, with pretty much anyone. And I'll clean up what my kids don't eat, though I'll usually use my own utensils since I already have them out anyway. And I'll have the kids clear my dishes from the table since I'm clearing theirs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AMJ Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 That's going too far lol I've had to be given water when I didn't have any and was quite dizzy from the lack, and I've found others in a similar situation. Oftentimes when dehydration is strong the person doesn't think they need to drink, thinks they can wait, but their ability to function is already strongly compromised. I will not let any child get to that point, and I'll insist strongly with adults, too, if I think they need it. I'll even drink baby spit, if I have to. Been there enough times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AMJ Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 I do that all the time ~ less dishes = more free time for all :laugh: ! I'll add though, dh will grab my toothbrush if it's easier for him. I don't like that so much. I want my toothbrush to be mine only. :tongue_smilie: Same here, though the kids can't "forget" their toothbrush to get out of brushing on trips. We've had toothbrush mix-ups before, so into the mouthwash they go and then they get used again. My Dad used to run them through the dishwasher, but I think they taste like soap afterwards. Listerine kills quite a lot, though! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 I will eat off of my children's plates and drink from their water glass. I do not share silverware. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KrissiK Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 I'm sorry, but really? I have never heard of using other people's utensils without washing them first. That really is gross to me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 I'm sure we all do things that might not make sense, based on some gut reaction. For example, when I was a kid, I would happily share an ice cream cone with my dog. (He'd get one lick, then I would.) I still would have no problem doing that for whatever reason, but I don't because I know it probably doesn't make sense and other people would think it's too weird. But sharing an ice cream cone with a person -- even my own family -- would kind of gross me out. Now THAT doesn't make sense, especially with my husband, because we do kiss a lot! And I've gotten better at sharing things with my husband. My husband doesn't have any problem sharing things with me and using my utensils and my plates. A couple of my kids are like that as well, but the others are kind of germaphobics and would never do that. Sharing beverages is the worst for me, because I think about the backwash that's in there... On the other hand, I'll gladly share a toothbrush if someone forgot theirs. Go figure! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haiku Posted January 11, 2015 Author Share Posted January 11, 2015 I'm sorry, but really? Yes, really. These are the people I live with and love. I don't really see anything gross about it. I'm not licking the insides of their mouths (with the exception of my husband). :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Florida. Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 ETA: my whole family seems to think my travel water is for group consumption. It used to be a water bottle with some kind of flip top mouth thing. Now it's a Tervis. But still, group consumption there. And I tend to take water in the car every time. Ds does this and drives me crazy. I often suggest he bring some water when we're going somewhere where he might need it (in Florida that means he'll often need it). He says no, he'll be fine. Then later he wants my water. I wouldn't mind sharing if he didn't have a tendency to guzzle. Want a few sips of my water? Sure. Want to drink it all and leave me a half inch in the bottom of the bottle? You should have brought your own like I suggested. Of course I probably taught him he can do this because I didn't refuse him. Lately I started saying no and I feel bad when I do (even though I shouldn't). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 Dishes or plates--no problem. Utensils--gross! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyThreeSons Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 No problem here. Heck, I'll even share a soft-serve ice cream cone with a member of my immediate family, as long as I know they are not sick. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luanne Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 It sounds like a great way to share germs to me. You never know when someone is going to come down with someone and if you just used the same fork or cup that they did..... ewwwwww!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 I'm voting for bunnies because, while it isn't totally revolting, it's also not my favorite thing ever. I will use a utensil used by dh or kids in a pinch, but if the option of having my own is present, I prefer that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 I'm up-voting this thread, not because it's a five-star thread, but because this damn thread rating thing annoys me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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