PeacefulChaos Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 JAWM. Wonderful woman - had I turned around and looked, I would have probably seen you only had two items, and I would have let you go ahead of me, with my cart full of stuff. Had you said something... 'Hey, I'm kind of in a hurry, and I've only got a couple things - would you mind if I went first?' I wouldn't have even minded. I would have let you. However, I didn't turn around. I didn't see how much you had. And you didn't ask. However, I will say with certainty that when you chose to talk about me on the phone, I wasn't feeling all at helpful. When you said, more than once, that 'you'd really think someone with a hundred items would let someone with two things go ahead of them in line. You'd think that's common sense. But I guess some people just aren't polite.' ...part of me still thought, should I take my stuff off the belt and let this woman ahead of me? Should I tell her, 'I'm sorry, I didn't see what you had, I wasn't paying attention...would you like to go ahead?' But in the end, I chose to pretend I didn't hear you. Even after you said it to the cashier...and the other cashier who opened the register next to us... And loudly behind me again as you left the store. Sigh. I try to be really nice to people. I try to go out of my way for others. And sometimes, people still want to try to make me feel like a jack@$$. Not cool, lady. I hope you always take your own advice, look behind you to see how many items the person has, and let them in front of you. After all, if this was such an ordeal, by all means, it should stick in your head as something that everyone should do no matter what. -.- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Sounds like that lady has some big issues. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 There is a jackass in this scenario. It isn't you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomtoCandJ Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 She should have used self check out or the express lane. Besides she was BEHIND you, she should have seen your cart full and have gone to a different lane instead of complaining about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 She felt it worth the trouble to complain repeatedly but not worth the trouble to ask?!? The mind.it boggles. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 In her defense, she probably thought other people wouldn't be using the store that day. Imagine her shock when she had to stand in line! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tanaqui Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 I abhor passive aggressive people. Ugh. I'm sorry you were stuck in front of one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SemiSweet Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 What a jerk. :( It is nice when people do it, it should not ever be expected. I hardly ever pay attention to the people behind or ahead of me, I wouldn't have noticed either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SadieMarie Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Nice to know that the person you didn't let go ahead of you was such an @%*# hole. It relieves you of all need to feel any guilt or regret and you know that you were part of some larger cosmic reckoning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Wow. Passive aggressive much? (Her. Not you. I JAWY.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Samiam Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 So she was talking about you on the phone....kinda like you are talking about her here???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 So she was talking about you on the phone....kinda like you are talking about her here???? Seriously? :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 I'm so sorry you had to deal with such an idiot, Kara. :grouphug: Between what happened to you and what happened to Luanne's dd at Walmart, I'm glad I stayed at home today! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 I must have missed that post! Now I gotta find out what happened at WM Luanne's dd is a cashier at Walmart, and some nasty customers were very mean to her. The people were so out of hand that the store manager kicked them out of the store. The thread title is, "I feel for my daughter sometimes." I'm sorry I can't post a link, but I'm on my iPad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 I'm sorry I can't post a link, but I'm on my iPad. Threadjack: I've seen you say this before, but you can. You can dooooo eeeeeet. Say it with me... I think I can, I think I can, I think I can. :P Then when you want to link, click address bar to highlight, click again, click copy. Then paste wherever you want. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abba12 Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Wow, I'll admit to thinking it before, like the time I was in line with a packet of diapers for a baby who had an unexpected blow out while in the car, and the person in front had TWO TROLLEYS of stuff But I didn't say it. I waited patiently. Passive Aggressive people amuse me because they often get caught out. Actually, that reminds me of one time I was walking through the middle of a crowded shopping center at Christmas time. This guy behind me says something to his partner, I don't remember what, but it boiled down to a passive aggressive complaint at how slow I was in front of him. My husband stopped us and turned to face him, and you should have seen his face when he realized I was 9 months pregnant! I have never heard such an apologetic man! When my husband said I was legally blind, which is why we were walking side by side and taking up extra space, well, I doubt he has made such a comment since lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimm Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Just be happy you don't have to deal with her selfish passive aggressive whiney attitude on a daily basis. This woman has family, coworkers, people who have to see her often. Be thankful you aren't among them. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stripe Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 OH MY GOD! I know her. I ran into the dollar store once and was looking at something in the aisle. All of a sudden, out comes the phone, "Some people are just standing in my way! They are so rude"... I was upset for days! She's not worth it, honey. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawana Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Yeah, what is it with people who obviously want you to know what they think about you, but won't say it to your face? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 She must be related to the grumpy old man who came up behind me in the express line once and started chewing me out for having too many items. I was right at the limit, but the way he talked, I was buying half the store. Never mind that I had been waiting in another line when the checker waved me over to the one she had just opened because they were remodeling and there were only two or three checkouts total. I was still a horribly rude person who can't read signs. At least he didn't run me over with his scooter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Ugh. I don't make eye contact with people who come in behind me with a few items, after once getting a very nasty look and the passive-aggressive sighing and toe-tapping from someone who came in behind me. She didn't know that I had just let 2 people go ahead of me and I could not afford the time to do it again. I would be shocked, though, if someone asked to go ahead. I would never ask. It's great when someone offers, but I don't want to put someone in an uncomfortable position where they felt they couldn't say no. If someone asked me, I think I would have to say yes, even if I was in a hurry. And who hasn't let someone go ahead because they have only a few items, only to find... an item is not priced, or their credit card is declined, or they don't have the cash after all, or there's a dispute over a coupon.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 What a weiner. I'm sorry you had to deal with that. She's got issues. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zebra Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 This is when I would suddenly need to run back and get one item while they held my partially rung up order.... Just kidding, but I would think it. She was obviously having a bad day and just wanted to take it out on you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angie in VA Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 There is a jackass in this scenario. It isn't you. She felt it worth the trouble to complain repeatedly but not worth the trouble to ask?!? The mind.it boggles. Thank you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zebra Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 This reminds me of how lately, (and I live in a tourist state) there have been so many people honking their brains out for me to turn right on red. Now, I am not planning on going right, I am going straight. It's happened several times lately at different intersections, I am always in the right OR straight lane, and I have never been positioned weirdly or able to move so that they could get by me. I have been completely mystified by this. I can't go right on red, I am going straight. In the lane next to me you can only go left, this lane you can go right or straight, see the arrows painted on the road??? Not to mention it's not a law that you MUST go right on red. Anyway :) . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Wow. She was rude. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomtoCandJ Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 This reminds me of how lately, (and I live in a tourist state) there have been so many people honking their brains out for me to turn right on red. Now, I am not planning on going right, I am going straight. It's happened several times lately at different intersections, I am always in the right OR straight lane, and I have never been positioned weirdly or able to move so that they could get by me. I have been completely mystified by this. I can't go right on red, I am going straight. In the lane next to me you can only go left, this lane you can go right or straight, see the arrows painted on the road??? Not to mention it's not a law that you MUST go right on red. Anyway :) . The intersection by my house is "under study" so they made it a four way stop (there are at least 3 lanes at each). I get honked at because I actually stop, mostly by older people and tourists who seems to think that every one needs to stop but them. I have waited many times so that I don't get hit by someone running the sign (I'm usually turning left). Sorry about the rant, the MDOT people really need to stay with the lights especially in the summer during tourist season. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Wow. It is nice to let people in front of you, I do it myself if I notice. But it is not a RIGHT. It would never occur to me to EXPECT someone to let me in front. They were there before me. Don't you learn that in Kindergarten for heaven's sake? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davysmom Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Wow. Passive aggressive much? (Her. Not you. I JAWY.) Yep! In her defense, she probably thought other people wouldn't be using the store that day. Imagine her shock when she had to stand in line! LOL! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alicia64 Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Fruitcake alert!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azalea Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 This reminds me of how lately, (and I live in a tourist state) there have been so many people honking their brains out for me to turn right on red. Now, I am not planning on going right, I am going straight. It's happened several times lately at different intersections, I am always in the right OR straight lane, and I have never been positioned weirdly or able to move so that they could get by me. I have been completely mystified by this. I can't go right on red, I am going straight. In the lane next to me you can only go left, this lane you can go right or straight, see the arrows painted on the road??? Not to mention it's not a law that you MUST go right on red. Anyway :) . Yes this. And at one intersection in my neighborhood I don't feel safe turning right on the red as it is difficult to see whether there is traffic coming due to a hill before the light. And another place I am getting honked at is when I yield at yield signs. A moments hesitation or brake light at a yield gets a honk these days. I need to figure out how to not let this bother me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Wait a minute. She was standing behind you and you didn't see what she was buying? You are a mother, aren't you? I thought once you brought a child home, an eyeball grew in the back of your head? You don't have eyes in the back of your head?! Poor thing! :P (I am just joking. She was out of line and stuff like that sticks with me and I dwell on it for days. Sorry it happened to you.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slartibartfast Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 OH MY GOD! I know her. I ran into the dollar store once and was looking at something in the aisle. All of a sudden, out comes the phone, "Some people are just standing in my way! They are so rude"... I was upset for days! She's not worth it, honey. You didn't fake talk on the phone with your hand saying "some people don't know how to say 'excuse me' They are so rude!" What is wrong with people? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Threadjack: I've seen you say this before, but you can. You can dooooo eeeeeet. Say it with me... I think I can, I think I can, I think I can. :P Then when you want to link, click address bar to highlight, click again, click copy. Then paste wherever you want. :) Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. My iPad is quirky. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiana Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 I would have had such a hard time not accidentally backing up and stepping on her foot, then saying "Oh! I'm sorry, I didn't see you!" I'm a jerk. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idnib Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Talk about feeling entitled. If someone lets me go ahead of them I feel lucky. I don't feel like they owe it to me. I'm in line like everyone else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommymilkies Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Yikes! I almost always let people go in front of me if they don't have much. At Aldis last week, though, I let three people in front and then someone else came up behind and got all huffy that I had my stuff up on the belt already and wasn't letting her go. Sorry, lady, my patience with 5 kids on hand only goes so far and I'm already unloaded. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 She should have used self check out or the express lane. Besides she was BEHIND you, she should have seen your cart full and have gone to a different lane instead of complaining about it. This! When I just have a few items and behind someone who has a bunch of stuff, I never even think of taking it up with them. I either stand in line or find another line. Entitled narcissist much? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wintermom Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 That's a pain in the buttinski. A creative response might be to pull out your phone and make a call like, "Hey babe, there is this weird lady in the line-up behind me talking on the phone about me. I think she's really annoying the cashier, who is a sweetheart. I'll bet her mom is at home worrying about all the jerky customers she has to deal with." ;) My fil used to count up the items people had in the express line up, go in front of anyone who had more the 8, and say, "I think you're in the wrong line." Cheek devil! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 That's a pain in the buttinski. A creative response might be to pull out your phone and make a call like, "Hey babe, there is this weird lady in the line-up behind me talking on the phone about me. I think she's really annoying the cashier, who is a sweetheart. I'll bet her mom is at home worrying about all the jerky customers she has to deal with." ;) My fil used to count up the items people had in the express line up, go in front of anyone who had more the 8, and say, "I think you're in the wrong line." Cheek devil! At our store the express lane clerk always waves someone over if her line is empty and other lines are full. I am glad to not have to wait, but I feel embarassed in that line with all my groceries. If anyone comes behind me I always apologize and explain. Also, what express lane only lets you have EIGHT items??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wintermom Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Also, what express lane only lets you have EIGHT items??? The ones that say 8 items or less. It's a joke. Yes there are cashiers that wave you over. This is just a joke. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wintermom Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 Wow. I don't expect people to let me ahead if them in line. The point is that they are in the wrong line. You know those people who have 20 items in the 8 items or less line? It's a way (or sorts) to let people know that there are other lanes designed for them. Just like the lady with 2 items in the OP. She COULD have gone into the express lane, or she could have moved lanes. Instead of moving or just being patient because she picked a slower lane than she was hoping for, she chose to be a doosh bag. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 The funny thing is I bet the passive-aggressive woman thinks she was being polite by not saying anything directly to the OP. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiana Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 The ones that say 8 items or less. It's a joke. Yes there are cashiers that wave you over. This is just a joke. One of the groceries I visit has a 7 items or fewer line. There are enough people who have only a few items that it's reasonable there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlsdMama Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 I abhor passive aggressive people. Ugh. I'm sorry you were stuck in front of one. This. Exactly this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SproutMamaK Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 The ones that say 8 items or less. It's a joke. I hope so, because if they were serious their grammar would need some serious help. ;) We have a store in town that actually does have a "12 items or fewer" sign above their express lane. It makes me want to high five the express clerk, even though they had nothing to do with the sign. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 The ones that say 8 items or less. It's a joke. Yes there are cashiers that wave you over. This is just a joke. Sorry if you thought I was being rude or argumentative. Not intended. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiana Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 I hope so, because if they were serious their grammar would need some serious help. ;) We have a store in town that actually does have a "12 items or fewer" sign above their express lane. It makes me want to high five the express clerk, even though they had nothing to do with the sign. Ha! Wegman's has "or fewer" on theirs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted August 18, 2014 Share Posted August 18, 2014 One of the groceries I visit has a 7 items or fewer line. There are enough people who have only a few items that it's reasonable there. I really have never seen that! I remember ones being 10, but all the ones here are 15 or 20. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeacefulChaos Posted August 19, 2014 Author Share Posted August 19, 2014 OP again! Thanks so much. I had to get it off my chest lol. FTR, our express lanes are 20 items or less, self checkouts are 30 or less. (This was at WM). Anyway, chalk it up to another funny anecdote to tell sometime. :) Seriously, some people sometimes... I just couldn't believe that someone would act that way!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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