Lara in Colo Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 update on post 41 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bodiesmom Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 Will do Lara. D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 Praying, Lara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 Praying. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 Praying. I am quite sure my mother falls into the borderline personality disorder category as well. I get it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jrn Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 praying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tress Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 Praying :grouphug:. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Kate Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 Praying! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 praying :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elfgivas Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 praying. peace. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 praying for you Lara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 Praying, Lara!! Anne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 Prayers for both of you...so sorry you are having to deal with this. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 :grouphug: and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Chris in VA Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 prayed. hugs! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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unsinkable Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 Praying, Lara! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenn in FL Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 Adding prayers. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted January 3, 2014 Share Posted January 3, 2014 Sending my heartfelt prayers, Lara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lara in Colo Posted January 6, 2014 Author Share Posted January 6, 2014 .. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 Praying more :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Twigs Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 Sending prayers to you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted January 6, 2014 Share Posted January 6, 2014 Still praying, my friend. ((((Lara)))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted January 7, 2014 Share Posted January 7, 2014 I was hoping for a happier update, Lara. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lara in Colo Posted January 9, 2014 Author Share Posted January 9, 2014 She did the right thing (after I forced the issue and physically drove her around town to insure she couldn't back out) I am no longer on the hook for about 200,000.00 of her debt. The lender took the deal we offered (which she kept being "weird" and not keeping promises and making strange statements in meetings) The paperwork isn't signed, but I think this will happen. Thank you ladies for your very much needed and appreciated support. My faith wavers daily and it got a huge bolster today! So--- back to my own (very large financial) problems!!! Lara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 Glad it went well. When will the papers be signed? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lara in Colo Posted January 9, 2014 Author Share Posted January 9, 2014 When the lawyers agree on the content. She could get "weird" then, but I don't think so. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 When the lawyers agree on the content. She could get "weird" then, but I don't think so. Please let us know. We want it all buttoned up nice and tidy for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lara in Colo Posted January 11, 2014 Author Share Posted January 11, 2014 Well, she is starting to go all weird about the paperwork. Pray she holds it together until Wed when we sign them. I really tried to have it all done on the same day (last Wed,) but I couldn't arrange it. Now she has had the time to think and is getting mad and just weird . Please pray she keeps it together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twinmom Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 Praying!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twinmom Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 Let us know when those papers are signed!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 Praying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PollyOR Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 Hang in there! (and I hope you mom does too) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lara in Colo Posted January 11, 2014 Author Share Posted January 11, 2014 You know, I was sort of hoping I could get that book about boundaries and have some sort of relationship with her-- but I don't know. She is just too disruptive to my life. I was thinking the other night about how everyone always leaves me holding the bag (literally!! LOL) When I was little my brother moved out (twice) and left me alone with her. My dad, stepdad and uncle--- they leave and I am the one who has to help her. I don't know if I can stay sane much longer if I am the one who is the fall guy. Just the thought of this still happening in two, five, ten years is enough to make we want to jump off the roof. I really think that God hates me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmyontheFarm Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 God doesn't hate you Lara. I'm sorry you are going through all this. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 Stay calm. Don't overtalk this with her. Can you plan something "fun" for signing day? Take her for tea before or do something she specifically considers a real treat? Take her a bag of groceries? Bribery can go a long way. If you get the papers signed, it will be well worth spending some time pandering to her craziness. Praying. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hen Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 I think Harriet is on to something there. Treat her like royalty on the way to signing, pander, be grateful. and then after, maybe it's time to distance yourself, it sounds like being the fall guy is too much on you- maybe it's time to walk away, after you've gotten this signed. {{hugs}} Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
8circles Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 I get it. Hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lara in Colo Posted January 11, 2014 Author Share Posted January 11, 2014 It's not about making her feel good-- I don't think. She threw away a piece of property and now feels like she is being "cheated". Last week she was desperate and cornered, now she has had time to think and is feeling persecuted. It's sort of like taking the puss off a wound and you start feeling better so you don't go and get it lanced. Her borderline issues are mainly about feeling "less" or a failure and all of her failures have been her doing (like this one). Honestly, the biggest thing I have going for me is that she likes the lender's attorney and I think she wouldn't want to look like a loser in front of him. (she keeps talking about hiring him for other stuff) (see me rolling my eyes?) What I am going through right now is the unfairness of being the only one who gets stuck with her during the really bad stuff. Last week her friend who has been "helping" with the issue (but actually making it worse by feeding her what she wants to hear) finally decided to just walk away (at the 11th hour) so I had to "make it happen". Just like when the others in my life have also done that. You see, they just walk away and I was either too young or (like now) too stuck to move and either way she would just follow me so I would have to move to China to get far enough away. So once again, I have to do "the hard work" of separating myself. You see, brother just moved, (in her mind) and I will have to set emotional boundaries and be the bad guy when she calls and needs help with **whatever**. The weird thing is when she wants someone to blame, its always me. She went on a four hour rant a couple of weeks ago about how I never help her-- and I took it so I could get this deal signed. Sigh bigger sigh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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