DawnM Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 would this be said of you if you were to die tomorrow? It would NOT be said of me. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heidi Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Nope! :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SailorMom Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Nope. There are far too many normal humans in the world for them all to act kindly all the time. But I generally (with few exceptions) only say things about other people that I wouldn't mind being repeated to them. I'm pretty upfront. Not rude, but honest about things that most people just ignore or shy away from. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angela in ohio Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Failing to say an unkind thing that needed to be said has caused me untold grief in my life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Hahahahahahahah!!!!!:lol::lol::lol: Uh-............no Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 ;)No- I am sure that isn't something that would be said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scrapbabe Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Nope. But when people die, those left behind tend to "forget" the bad qualities. My aunt was in an a volatile marriage, but when her husband died he was all of the sudden a saint. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Unfotunately not, l'm working on it. I'm trying to live out the rule to keep my mouth shut unless I have something nice to say. God keeps putting people in my life to test me :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 would this be said of you if you were to die tomorrow? It would NOT be said of me. :tongue_smilie: I'm not sure what people would say about me if I died tomorrow other than I died young. They'd probably say that I was either "crazy" or "sweet". Those seem to be the two that I get called most often. :p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
k2bdeutmeyer Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 umm......no Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Y'all know me. What do you think? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Y'all know me. What do you think? :lol::lol::lol::lol: They'd say "Remuda loved horses" :p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lang Syne Boardie Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 I'm pretty sure there will be some sort of commentary on my tombstone, but it probably won't be that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 would this be said of you if you were to die tomorrow? :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol: Umm... no. Not a chance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sputterduck Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 No, but it's extremely rare when I don't like someone. I can think of... 2? people in my whole life. If I don't like someone, you can guarantee it's warranted! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Belacqua Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Heck, I'm just trying to get through today. The only person I know who even comes close is my mother-in-law. She isn't a Pollyanna, but she has truly mastered not saying anything if she has nothing nice to say. The worst I've heard her say is that somebody from her church "can sometimes be difficult." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Probably won't be first on people's list, but then, again, I probably won't be known for unkind words either. Never is an awfully powerful word. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momacacia Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 I'm not going to answer that for fear of incriminating myself. ;) But, it does make me think of the statement: "Great people talk about ideas. Average people talk about things. Small people talk about people." Hmmmmm . . . . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BMW Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 I'm sure it wouldn't... But in December I read The Happiness Project and decided to have my own... and used one of the author's personal commandments as one of my own, "Be kind to everyone". That really helped me nail down my problem with not always speaking kindly. Then in a couple of Bible studies recently it was discussed that our words should be building up others, to bring glory to God and be a testimony. That, along with "Be kind to everyone", has been so much on my heart... This very day I decided that I would try to stay quieter and use my words to build up. It had a great effect on my relationships, just today, with my teens. When I felt irritated by "this or that", I waited to speak... then tried to stay kind with what I said. When I gave a very strong correction, I chose my words wisely and focused on what to do to move forward. Anyway... a long rambling note to say... I am sure that cannot be said of me, but it is something that I am working on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Nope. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 No, not a chance. I have worked on having a filter, but it doesn't come naturally. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebecca VA Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 I often feel that I *have* to be blunt honest about people when I'm discussing them in the privacy of my family. My husband is very kind-hearted and is easily taken advantage of. My daughter isn't always perceptive and really benefits from hearing frank discussion of other people's good points, faults, and motivations. I tone it down around my son, though, because he is too easily swayed. However, when I'm in public I do try to smile a lot and say nice things.:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
********* Posted February 8, 2012 Share Posted February 8, 2012 Unfotunately not, l'm working on it. I'm trying to live out the rule to keep my mouth shut unless I have something nice to say. God keeps putting people in my life to test me :) Yeah, this. Unfortunately. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWOB Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 Define "unkind". In my opinion, it is much kinder to inform someone of their stupidity than to have them inflict that stupidity on unsuspecting people. Right? RIGHT?!?! That's my story and I'm sticking to it.:tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetMissMagnolia Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 nope...... only human :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 "Great people talk about ideas. Average people talk about things. Small people talk about people." That's a great quote! :) I've never heard it before. Who is the originator of it?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unscripted Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 Oh absolutely! ~says the lady with the two digit post count ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zebra Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 People tend to lie at funerals....so YES :lol:!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 People tend to lie at funerals....so YES :lol:!!!! ROFL :lol::lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackie in NE Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 Hahahahahahahah!!!!!:lol::lol::lol:Uh-............no Yeah.... me too. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elizabeth Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 Failing to say an unkind thing that needed to be said has caused me untold grief in my life. Hell yeah.:grouphug: I speak my mind and like honesty even when it makes others squeamish. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 Nope. I try to think and say good thoughts about all, but some of y'all just make it too hard.:tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 (edited) Hell yeah.:grouphug: I speak my mind and like honesty even when it makes others squeamish. I am an honest person and don't desire to change that. However, we are not obligated to share everything we think and I really try to think about whether something is helpful to share and what are my own motivations. So, if I see my friends do something bonehead or someone else do something wrong I'm not going to keep my mouth shut. I try to make sure when I say something it is with a good heart and not with ill intentions. Of course on the internet no one knows your intentions and I don't convey myself well, although I try hard to keep that rule. In real life I find myself venting at times in inappropriate ways, maybe a good idea for a lenten resolution :) Edited February 9, 2012 by soror Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RanchGirl Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 (edited) Failing to say an unkind thing that needed to be said has caused me untold grief in my life. :iagree: I'm going for "loving mother, loyal friend, and hard working, intelligent employee" on the headstone instead. and on a less serious note, I'm reminded this quote: "If you haven't got anything nice to say about anybody, come sit next to me." - Alice Roosevelt Longworth (1884-1980) Edited February 9, 2012 by RanchGirl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted February 9, 2012 Author Share Posted February 9, 2012 :lol::lol::lol: Words to live by! :iagree: and on a less serious note, I'm reminded this quote: "If you haven't got anything nice to say about anybody, come sit next to me." - Alice Roosevelt Longworth (1884-1980) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted February 9, 2012 Author Share Posted February 9, 2012 I assume they must mean gossip, or my years of teaching History and talking about people all day long made me a very small person. I really don't think I agree overall though.....there is nothing more important in life than people, just look at Jesus' life...he told stories about people, he talked to and about people, he lived for people. Dawn I'm not going to answer that for fear of incriminating myself. ;) But, it does make me think of the statement: "Great people talk about ideas. Average people talk about things. Small people talk about people." Hmmmmm . . . . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
juelle Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 After an observant but unnecessary comment (about an umpire) flew out of my mouth at one of ds's innumerable baseball games, I told the parents sitting close by that if anyone at my funeral says I never had an unkind word for anyone, they'll know they're at the wrong funeral.:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 umm, no. :001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassy Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 My nearest and dearest hear all of my opinions on everything and everyone, so they'd definitely not agree. Generally, though, I try not to speak unkindly about people. I actually hate it when other people gossip and are judgemental about others, it always makes me wonder what they say to others about me. Cassy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 If anyone says that about me, they are lying. OR they really do not know me at all.:glare: :lol::lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 No. I'm not a nice person. No way would that be said about me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G5052 Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 A friend calls me "the whistleblower" because I've been the one to call out dishonesty and injustice when everyone else was playing "nice." "Never unkind" isn't necessarily a good thing all of the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 Hahahahahahahah!!!!!:lol::lol::lol:Uh-............no This. In fact I suspect what would be said would be more along the lines of "that finally shut her up" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daisy Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 No. If I died tomorrow they'd say, "That one was saved by grace; lots of it." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted February 9, 2012 Author Share Posted February 9, 2012 :lol::lol::lol: This. In fact I suspect what would be said would be more along the lines of "that finally shut her up" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laundrycrisis Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 Failing to say an unkind thing that needed to be said has caused me untold grief in my life. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tex-mex Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 Most definitely, this cannot be said of myself!! My headstone would either read, "I told you I was sick." or "I told you she was a _________." LOL :lol: Love gossip and anything with pop culture that is tawdry or scandalous. I think I would have loved to be in a past era where small town talk over the fence or at tea would have been the way to communicate rumors. I'd be the one with the look of a bird in my mouth. :D My hubs is used to my endless fascination with gossip and I managed to get him hooked on certain topics on stars and if I have a good one on one of his fave sports or political celebs... oooooh, can we talk!! ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tex-mex Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 and on a less serious note, I'm reminded this quote: "If you haven't got anything nice to say about anybody, come sit next to me." - Alice Roosevelt Longworth (1884-1980) :smilielol5::smilielol5::smilielol5: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meriwether Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 No. If I died tomorrow they'd say, "That one was saved by grace; lots of it." :lol: I don't know what people would say about me - I think there would be mixed reviews.;) My paternal grandmother is the kindest and best person I know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkInTheBlue Posted February 10, 2012 Share Posted February 10, 2012 My husband is the only one to know all my true thoughts and strong opposing opinions on most things. I find sharing that opposing opinion and/or correction to usually be an enormous waste of my time and effort. Most people don't want to hear, and DON'T hear, different thoughts. So, yes, probably but it won't be my husband who knows the true truth of me. I will agree with the pp that not sharing what *I* think others should benefit from hearing has cause me stress and grief on many, many occasions anyway. Can't win! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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