Home'scool Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 My daughter (senior in high school) came home and told me that she was sitting at lunch with a few of her friends when a student who is mentally challenged came up and asked if he could sit with her. Mikey has a crush on her and it is quite obvious when he is around her. Sometimes his aide has to intervene because he gets a bit touchy/feely with her, but my daughter shows a lot of patience with him. He sat down and some of her friends starting rolling their eyes at her, etc., generally trying to be "too cool" for this whole thing. Then my dd noticed another mentally challenged student named Tony holding his tray and going up to different tables, asking if he could sit there. Every table said there was no room, or that any open chairs were being held for someone. Maybe this was actually the case, but as my dd said, "Really? You couldn't make room for one more??" Finally he went and sat down at a table by himself at the other end of the cafeteria. My dd got really mad and made her way across the cafeteria to him. The cafeteria gets pretty crowded so she had to work her way between tables and ask people to move in their chairs and such, so she was definitely noticed. She went up to Tony and asked him if he would like to join her and Mikey and her other friends at their table. She said he was so happy when he came over. Of course, now her friends were really rolling their eyes, and after lunch one girl said "why did you invite them over?" They know that sometimes this type of stuff can be social suicide because who you sit with at lunch is a BIG DEAL and everyone watches who sits with who. My daughter turned to her and said "Because mean people suck. And every day I try my best not to suck." I told her that every day I am proud of her academic and social accomplishments, but that nothing she could ever do would make me more proud then when she is kind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AK_Mom4 Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Woohoo!!!! :party: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simka2 Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 You have every right to be proud!!!!!! Brought tears to my eyes. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joannqn Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 That is awesome! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisainOhio Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Love it! You should definitely be proud! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AprilTN Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Brag away!! That is wonderful! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UnsinkableKristen Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 That is one pretty awesome girl you have. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeekingSimplicity Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 :D She is just too cool :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
athena1277 Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 You have a wonderful daughter! I'm sure she will do great things with that attitude of kindness! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Oh man, I am so proud of her too. That brought tears to my eyes. Give her a huge hug for me and tell her to keep at it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest LMG462 Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Awesome and great job mom on raising a wonderful daughter! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tammyw Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 The world needs more people like your daughter. You have every right to be proud. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithManor Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 WHOO HOO MAMMA!!!!! Zooming :auto: to the party:party:! What a wonderful young lady you have raised!!!!!! I love her response. It was succinct, honest, true, and in a language that "cool people" will get. Faith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teachin'Mine Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Oh my gosh that is so beyond amazing!!! You have an amazing daughter!!!!! :hurray: :party: :hurray: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KristinaBreece Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 What an awesome attitude! It gets easier to have an accepting attitude as you get older and your peers are generally more accepting of differences, but it shows great character to take that stance in high school, where social standing is often the biggest motivating factor in kids' decisions. Yay!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 That's wonderful :party:! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pink Fairy Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 You are obviously doing an awesome job, mama, to have raised such a wonderful dd! :party: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
East Coast Sue Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Wow! Your daughter is just totally awesome!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChocolateReignRemix Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
k2bdeutmeyer Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Fantastic!! You should be so, so proud! This is exactly who I want my DD to become! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Home'scool Posted September 22, 2011 Author Share Posted September 22, 2011 Aww thank you all so much! I am tearing up again reading the responses. Parenting has got to be the hardest, most thankless, most stressful job in the world. But moments where our kids shine makes it all worth it. She did say that one of the teachers who was in the cafeteria smiled at her in acknowledgment as she was working her way back to her table, so at least someone gave her some positive feedback! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KRG Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 :thumbup: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 You should be very proud. She definitely does not suck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slartibartfast Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 :party: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2cents Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 You have an awesome daughter!!! So happy there are young people like her in this world! :hurray: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pdalley Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 :grouphug: Your kid is awesome! :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clementine Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Thank you for sharing that!!! I don't blame you for being one proud Mama!! That took courage on her part & I love her response too!! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theYoungerMrsWarde Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 :hurray: What a great motto! I'm stealing that :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamajudy Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 You have every right to be proud!!!!!! Brought tears to my eyes. :D Mine, too. She sounds like an awesome young lady! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sun Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 That is wonderful! I teared up when I read it. Good for her! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeacefulChaos Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Woohoo!!!! That's awesome. :D It made me happy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bbmom Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 This story made me happy-you have an amazing young lady there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Live2Ride Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 That is awesome! I teach the same to my kids. My daughter is the same way and there are a number of girls who find it better to remain 'cool' than be her friend. Woe to them I tell my daughter. She recently befriended a sweet girl at church who is the sister of another girl, but the girl is not 'popular' among the others because she is different from them. My dd doesn't care. She knows how it feels to be on the outside. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 I wanna be like your dd when I grow up :D That really made me tear up, I can put myself in the mother's shoes of that boy when he got home and announced he was INVITED to sit at a lunch table with the other kids. I know for me personally that would have reduced me to a blubbering mess, as a mom of sn kids, I know when they are out I want so badly for them to be accepted. You dd so does not suck, she rocks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Home'scool Posted September 22, 2011 Author Share Posted September 22, 2011 I wanna be like your dd when I grow up That really made me tear up, I can put myself in the mother's shoes of that boy when he got home and announced he was INVITED to sit at a lunch table with the other kids. I know for me personally that would have reduced me to a blubbering mess, as a mom of sn kids, I know when they are out I want so badly for them to be accepted. You dd so does not suck, she rocks! I always tell me daughters this. That as a mother, the biggest heartache you can have is when your child is experiencing sorrow. And to have something good happen so the mother can know that not every moment is an uphill battle ..... that chokes me up. And I want to be like my daughter too! I never had that much self-confidence or sense of right vs. wrong at 16. Oh, the places she will go! :crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MelAR05 Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 (edited) My daughter turned to her and said "Because mean people suck. And every day I try my best not to suck." Great story!! Tears here as well and this quote will be up on our white board next week. :D Edited September 22, 2011 by MelAR05 misspell Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nono Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Not only did she do a kind thing, but she also had a snappy response when challenged. Impressive. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa in Jax Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Of course' date=' now her friends were really rolling their eyes, and after lunch one girl said "why did you invite them over?" They know that sometimes this type of stuff can be social suicide because who you sit with at lunch is a BIG DEAL and everyone watches who sits with who. My daughter turned to her and said "Because mean people suck. And every day I try my best not to suck." I told her that every day I am proud of her academic and social accomplishments, but that nothing she could ever do would make me more proud then when she is kind.[/quote'] WOW. I'm not a person who is likely to tear up over stories I read online, but this really touched me. I have tears in my eyes. You're raising a wonderful human being. Good job, Mom! Lisa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kalypso Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 This story made me happy-you have an amazing young lady there. :iagree: You should be feeling very proud. Thanks for sharing this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
macpuffins Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 But moments where our kids shine makes it all worth it. She did say that one of the teachers who was in the cafeteria smiled at her in acknowledgment as she was working her way back to her table' date=' so at least [i']someone[/i] gave her some positive feedback! Your daughter may have made the biggest impact on someone not even at her table. The boy that sat w/ them, and the one she 'fetched' will each tell their friends that she was nice to them. In places where bullying is not curtailed, or is more subtle, that statement alone can make the difference in a teen's life. In light of what's been on the news of late (another teen committing suicide over the weekend, bullying a major factor), she's the anti-bully in a kind-hearted, savvy teen's body. She may never know, this side of Eternity, the difference she made when she did that. But I'm willing to bet that someone does. (more than just the teacher imho) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arghmatey Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Love it. Good job! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happy2BaMom Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 *sniff* Not only wonderful, but a truly "it" comment about why she did it, one that not only explained it, but was strong to boot. Bet she gave those other girls something to think it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 :hurray: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
May Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 How proud you should be for raising such a compassionate young lady:001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2scouts Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 :thumbup: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funschooler5 Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 I love hearing stories like this!! :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs. Darinski Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 :iagree: with all the above. Your daughter rocks. It may make those other 'eye rollers' think, when they are by themselves, how much they wish they had her courage to do the right thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 and I love her answer. Nothing wishy-washy, no big speech or lame excuses, just straight up. You should be proud. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy22alyns Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 You've done one awesome job, mama!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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