DawnM Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I have gone to this guy before and he wasn't so bad. This time I asked him to do something different. I shouldn't' have. I can't even fix it without going super, super short and even then, I will just hate it. Just commiserate with me. I am heading to see people I haven't seen in 10 years and I am sick over this. My hair was half way down my back. I asked for a little past shoulder length and layers. The top layer is super short all the way around, looks like a bowl, then the next layer is much longer and it only goes to my neckline.....it is BAD. just cry with me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bagel270 Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I'm sorry. I'll cry with you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alisoncooks Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 So, so sorry. :( I had my most awful haircut right before my 10-year high school reunion. I was so upset. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Go find a highly respected hair dresser in your area for a consultation. See if what they say speaks to you. There may be ways to fix this that a professional stylist that is really good at their job can achieve. It won't be perfect since you don't seem to want short hair, but it might be livable until your hair grows out. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 25 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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DawnM Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Go find a highly respected hair dresser in your area for a consultation. See if what they say speaks to you. There may be ways to fix this that a professional stylist that is really good at their job can achieve. It won't be perfect since you don't seem to want short hair, but it might be livable until your hair grows out. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I am so afraid to do that. I have gone to those folks before and they have ruined it more. And they cost a LOT of $$$. I have already spent $35 on this bad haircut. $60 more with no guarantees? Oy. It is bad, bad, bad and the only way to fix it is to go super, super short. On my round fat face and head it will look absolutely horrible. I think I am going to go get some barrette and pin up the one side where it is so bad and just wear it that way until it can grow a bit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I had someone do that to me once. I'm sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I am so afraid to do that. I have gone to those folks before and they have ruined it more. And they cost a LOT of $$$. I have already spent $35 on this bad haircut. $60 more with no guarantees? Oy. It is bad, bad, bad and the only way to fix it is to go super, super short. On my round fat face and head it will look absolutely horrible. I think I am going to go get some barrette and pin up the one side where it is so bad and just wear it that way until it can grow a bit. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MEmama Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Ugh, that stinks!! Can you wear your hair back, in a bun or twist of some kind? Maybe try a cute hair band to hold the awful layers in place? I think seeing another stylist is a good idea. There must be YouTube videos out there on how to deal with hair disasters too. I spent a childhood and beyond suffering terrible hair cuts. I'm definitely crying for you. :( 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I am so sorry. What about a flat iron? When my layers get squirrelly that seems to help them blend together. Sounds like he was trying to give you the Mom Cut. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Zh75XWRaugg 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
38carrots Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkTulip Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I'm so sorry. I have had a similar experience before and it really just feels like a punch in the gut. Maybe some cute summer floppy hats or baseball hats until it grows out a little and you can even out the layers a bit? Hugs! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 Ugh, that stinks!! Can you wear your hair back, in a bun or twist of some kind? Maybe try a cute hair band to hold the awful layers in place? I think seeing another stylist is a good idea. There must be YouTube videos out there on how to deal with hair disasters too. I spent a childhood and beyond suffering terrible hair cuts. I'm definitely crying for you. :( WAY too short for any type of bun or pony tail or any such thing. Seriously, about 4" layer all around my head, then the next layer is like 3 to 4 inches UNDER that. It sticks up in spots and is shorter at the bangs than on the sides. It is HORRIBLE. If I spiked the top layer I would look like a Crested Crane. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MEmama Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 WAY too short for any type of bun or pony tail or any such thing. Seriously, about 4" layer all around my head, then the next layer is like 3 to 4 inches UNDER that. It sticks up in spots and is shorter at the bangs than on the sides. It is HORRIBLE. If I spiked the top layer I would look like a Crested Crane. :( 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MEmama Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 A wide headband? A light summery Buff to hide the entire thing? A cute hat that you just never take off? Seriously, that just stinks. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 A wide headband? A light summery Buff to hide the entire thing? A cute hat that you just never take off? Seriously, that just stinks. I just hate wearing all that in this heat and humidity. We are leaving for our West Coast trip soon and I can't imagine wearing something on my head all the time. I hate stuff on my head, esp. in the heat. It makes me sweat. What is a Buff? And I have gray hair that shows so easily. I hate pulling my hair back because the gray is always on the underside no matter how recently I have colored. I know I am just being whiney but I look SO bad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 You should get the $35 back! That might help ease the sting of a better fix. :grouphug: I am always nervous getting haircuts after two really horrible ones myself! 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 You should get the $35 back! That might help ease the sting of a better fix. :grouphug: I am always nervous getting haircuts after two really horrible ones myself! I know. This guy owns his own salon, a very small one, out in a town about 45 min. from me. My friend grew up there and has used him for 40 years, they are personal friends. I have gone to him before and haven't had this happen. I would feel very bad about making a stink out of it with my friend being friends with him, and I would need to go out 45 min. to get it. Anyway, I am just going to let it go and never go back there. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsMommy Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 That happened to me early last year, and I'm still growing out all the weird layers. You have my full sympathies...a bad haircut is horrible. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Oh no! I'm so sorry! :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 oh no!!! :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I know. This guy owns his own salon, a very small one, out in a town about 45 min. from me. My friend grew up there and has used him for 40 years, they are personal friends. I have gone to him before and haven't had this happen. I would feel very bad about making a stink out of it with my friend being friends with him, and I would need to go out 45 min. to get it. Anyway, I am just going to let it go and never go back there. Gotcha. It was a friend's beloved hairdresser who butchered mine once. I cried for a couple of days. Right after a baby and it was just soooo bad. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junie Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TeenagerMom Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 You really should go talk to another stylist. It would be pricey, but a really good stylist could add in extensions to create more layers and blend it all better from what you are describing. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 :grouphug: that stinks! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I'm sorry- I've had that happen with layering before. You really should ask for your money back. The guy can mail you a check- no need to go back there. Your friend should understand. EVERYONE makes mistakes. He just had a bad day and you shouldn't have to pay for that. I agree with giving another stylist a chance to improve it. No, it won't be perfect but maybe it can be improved by cutting in a layer between the two that are so far apart. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I'm sorry. I have memories of some very bad haircuts. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 (hugs) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamaraby Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Get a wide headband meant for runners. They'll be lightweight/technical fabric so they'll be breathable/cool. The Carrie Underwood line at Dick's is usually pretty cute and reads more fashion-y than sporty. Maybe Gaiam makes some too? Kohls carries Gaiam activewear. Sorry to hear about the haircut! 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MommyLiberty5013 Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Is there an Aveda salon near you? They are all trained the same at their Aveda University. If you called and got in with an experienced stylist, s/he may be able to soften the layers so they look less harsh and bowl like. Yes it may involve going a bit shorter, but that may be better than a horrible cut that looks bad. Even if they can soften the layers, you may be able to further bend them with a curling iron and soften them. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Is there an Aveda salon near you? They are all trained the same at their Aveda University. If you called and got in with an experienced stylist, s/he may be able to soften the layers so they look less harsh and bowl like. Yes it may involve going a bit shorter, but that may be better than a horrible cut that looks bad. Even if they can soften the layers, you may be able to further bend them with a curling iron and soften them. This is a great idea. I'm so sorry about your bad haircut and the terrible timing! :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I'm so sorry. I was going to suggest getting it professionally styled before you saw old friends, but if it's after a long car drive that won't help. What about temporary extensions? I know they are sold at Ulta but I've never used them. My fall back when I don't like my hair is to wear a hat. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 You know, there are people who specialize in fixing bad haircuts/colors. There is a great salon chain in our state where you can get in to see an emergency stylist who can make something nice out of a terrible cut. (Ask me how I know! :D) A few days before our ds's wedding, a stylist totally ruined my hair with both a cut and some highlights -- which turned my hair a weird SILVER! It was pretty horrible. My mother and sister took me to the "hair emergency" stylist and she was fantastic. And yes, it was pricy... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kitten18 Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Is there an Aveda salon near you? They are all trained the same at their Aveda University. If you called and got in with an experienced stylist, s/he may be able to soften the layers so they look less harsh and bowl like. Yes it may involve going a bit shorter, but that may be better than a horrible cut that looks bad. Even if they can soften the layers, you may be able to further bend them with a curling iron and soften them.I agree with going somewhere else and having it looked at. It really sounds like the layers need to be blended. You shouldn't be able to tell one layer from the next, they should blend together. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zinnia Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I had a bad one recently. It's having to grow out before it can be fixed. I feel you, and I am so, so sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tammyw Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Oh no! Okay, what I would do is immediately find the BEST stylist in the area. Doesn't matter the cost. Go to them and have them turn it into something nice. Honestly, good stylists are worth their weight in gold. You will never have to feel this pain again. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4Kiddos Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Oh I am so very sorry. That happened to me once. My hair was so long and pretty and I just wanted some nice layers. What I ended up with was a very weird pixie cut with the layers all in the wrong places. It was so bad. I am so sorry and hope it grows out soon. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I'm sorry. I've had a lot of cuts that were bad until they grew out a little (cutting curly hair when it's wet is always a crap shoot), but one cut in particular made me want to cry every time I saw myself in a mirror. Since it was much too short already, there was nothing I could do except wait for it to grow. In your case I would try to find someone else to fix it by blending the layers or cutting more layers so they aren't so harsh. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
38carrots Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I know. This guy owns his own salon, a very small one, out in a town about 45 min. from me. My friend grew up there and has used him for 40 years, they are personal friends. I have gone to him before and haven't had this happen. I would feel very bad about making a stink out of it with my friend being friends with him, and I would need to go out 45 min. to get it. Anyway, I am just going to let it go and never go back there. Send him a photo. Maybe he will refund on his own. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 A stylist could add in more in between layers to help. BTDT 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MEmama Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I just hate wearing all that in this heat and humidity. We are leaving for our West Coast trip soon and I can't imagine wearing something on my head all the time. I hate stuff on my head, esp. in the heat. It makes me sweat. What is a Buff? And I have gray hair that shows so easily. I hate pulling my hair back because the gray is always on the underside no matter how recently I have colored. I know I am just being whiney but I look SO bad. You don't sound whiny. Bad haircuts are awful. Here are a couple sites that show how to wear a Buff to cover your head. They come in some really cute patterns, even if it's not your favorite style. And bonus it will cover the grey! 👠http://www.loveto.camp/gear/how-to-wear-a-buff-in-13-useful-ways/ https://www.divergenttravelers.com/how-do-you-wear-your-buff-headwear/ Hope that helps give some ideas. Covering up in summer especially is never really ideal. :( 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 Here is one of the issues. He cut the entire top layer at 3-4" around, but my hair doesn't stay that way, so it is LONGER in the bangs (and still really short, like half way up my forehead) and SHORTER on the side of my head. If they even out my bangs portion, it will be up to my scalp. Seriously. I am going to shower and put in gel and see what I can do with it before going anywhere else. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ondreeuh Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I have gone to this guy before and he wasn't so bad. This time I asked him to do something different. I shouldn't' have. I can't even fix it without going super, super short and even then, I will just hate it. Just commiserate with me. I am heading to see people I haven't seen in 10 years and I am sick over this. My hair was half way down my back. I asked for a little past shoulder length and layers. The top layer is super short all the way around, looks like a bowl, then the next layer is much longer and it only goes to my neckline.....it is BAD. just cry with me. The exact same thing happened to me last summer! I did cry. Even my complimentary kids and husband said it was bad. I paid for another haircut at a different place and the lady was so nice. I did have to get it cut much shorter than I wanted and the lady was able to do some blending. With some hair product to scrunch it with, it looked passable. I had to wait for it to grow before the top layer could be blended better. If you're gutsy enough, maybe go back and ask for a refund. I wish I had. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyoffive Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I am so sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Haven't read all replies but I would call around and specifically ask if someone was good with layering and corrective cutting. I had something like this happen not too long ago but it was fixable. Top layer all one length and bowl-like looking. I went to a Supercuts of all places and found a young woman who fixed it fabulously. I am now having hair cut there and color done at the other place because they are good with that. If there is a disproportional space between top layer and bottom, someone should be able to feather in some longer layers and blend it. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Oh no. I'm so sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Oh no. I'm so sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hellen Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I know. This guy owns his own salon, a very small one, out in a town about 45 min. from me. My friend grew up there and has used him for 40 years, they are personal friends. I have gone to him before and haven't had this happen. I would feel very bad about making a stink out of it with my friend being friends with him, and I would need to go out 45 min. to get it. Anyway, I am just going to let it go and never go back there. That happened to me. I received the worst hair cut from a friend of a friend. Complaining to my friend about the haircut was not good for the relationship. I hate my hair less than I did initially. This haircut made me cry. It's an uneven mullet. I definitely didn't ask for anything resembling a mullet. I went back to see if she could fix it but she couldn't. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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