Luanne Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 (edited) Is it flirting for a female to take a paper towel, wad it up, and put it down the back of a man's shirt? Edited February 23, 2016 by Luanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bolt. Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Depends on the context, but I'll opt for "probably" or "more likely than not". 15 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Acorn Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Not flirting but also left wondering why? 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Southern Ivy Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 I think it's a rather juvenile attempt at flirting, much like a boy pulling a girl's braids. 22 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xahm Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 How old are they? 14? Yes 40? Other issues probably at play. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 If it is the context of teasing, then probably. Unless it is your dad or something. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 depends upon context. could be flirting - or could be plain obnoxious and expression of dislike 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luanne Posted February 23, 2016 Author Share Posted February 23, 2016 She is 27 and he is 39. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yvonne Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 What else would it be? 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Dh and I have a group of friends that we're pretty close to and if any of us engaged in this kind of thing it would just be seen as goofing around. So I guess it depends on context and the normal relationship between the people. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kitten18 Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Maybe, maybe not. I would have to witness the interaction to really know. It sounds like something that could happen with my DH and SIL. They like to tease and irritate each other. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kitten18 Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Dh and I have a group of friends that we're pretty close to and if any of us engaged in this kind of thing it would just be seen as goofing around. So I guess it depends on context and the normal relationship between the people.Yep. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 (edited) I don't understand why someone would do that. Nor can I fathom in what universe it would be considered flirting by anyone over the age of 5. Goofing around, possibly. Doing it to tick someone off, probable. Edited February 23, 2016 by kewb 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luanne Posted February 23, 2016 Author Share Posted February 23, 2016 Then why would someone who is my friend want to anger me? I don't fathom why anyone over the age of 14 would do this unless it was to their significant other. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Flirting or not, it's just weird. It's not especially annoying or cute or fun or a very good joke. It's just plain odd. 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 I'll go with weird/odd. Can't say I've heard of it before. I might expect it from some middle or high school students, but those ages are known not to think before acting. If someone did it to me I'd be angry and they'd know it. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Then why would someone who is my friend want to anger me? I don't fathom why anyone over the age of 14 would do this unless it was to their significant other. Did you express to your friend that you didn't like it? It sounds like something my XH would do....one time when we were separated ds told me that his dad had put a slice of watermelon down a young woman's pants. She was a neighbor in his apartment complex..years later they briefly dated. Weird. Inappropriate. Probably flirting. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snickerplum Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Either way, it's a lack of maturity. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
73349 Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Maybe flirting, definitely a boundaries issue for many relationships to be messing with somebody's clothes. Unless they are like siblings, I'd consider it inappropriate. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TXBeth Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Then why would someone who is my friend want to anger me? I don't fathom why anyone over the age of 14 would do this unless it was to their significant other. I don't understand this. Why would it anger you? Is the man your significant other? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ausmumof3 Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 I don't understand this. Why would it anger you? Is the man your significant other? I'm not Luanne but I think it was in response to the previous poster who said it was probably done to "tick someone off". Slang for annoy. I think there's a fine line between fun and flirting and it's better to walk well on the safe side personally. But that's only opinion and it would depend on the friendship. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomatHWTK Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Age difference, power difference, touching someone's clothing. Not appropriate unless between close friends. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Depends on the players. I would do that to my dad, or husband, or son, or possibly BIL if we were in the middle of a silly fight or something. We've had marshmallow gun, water balloon, Nerf wars where when you run out of ammunition you get desperate. LOL. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JFSinIL Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Touching another person's body and/or clothes is most likely flirting. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valley Girl Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 She is 27 and he is 39. Is the 27-year-old the daughter you've mentioned? If so, I'd ask her what she intended and why someone would feel the need to call her mom about it. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GAPeachie Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 I agree with these: I think there's a fine line between fun and flirting and it's better to walk well on the safe side personally. But that's only opinion and it would depend on the friendship. Fine line between fun and flirting. Maybe in a park setting I can see the original scenario. In the workplace, absolutely not. Age difference, power difference, touching someone's clothing. Not appropriate unless between close friends. I'd add close family to this too. I can see my brother in law doing this to me. We enjoy laughing, watching comedians and goofing off. (The three of us: BIL, husband and me.) My other brother in law is very serious and we don't have that kind of relationship. Depends on the players. I would do that to my dad, or husband, or son, or possibly BIL if we were in the middle of a silly fight or something. We've had marshmallow gun, water balloon, Nerf wars where when you run out of ammunition you get desperate. LOL. YES! We have had water balloon fights, nerf wars, silly string wars, etc. Outside of a relationship close and familiar enough to do that, I'd call it flirting... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luanne Posted February 23, 2016 Author Share Posted February 23, 2016 The 27 year old I am referring to is a friend of my daughter. The man she did this to is someone I have feelings for and she is aware of that fact. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HRAAB Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Whether joking or flirting, it's very childish behavior. Really, it sounds like an immature attempt at flirting. She ought to be embarrassed. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 The 27 year old I am referring to is a friend of my daughter. The man she did this to is someone I have feelings for and she is aware of that fact. Possibly flirting, but it still depends. Is she very close to this person? I might have with close guy friends in college without any flirty intent, but that was so very long ago! LOL. She may also have feelings for him.If you're not in a relationship with him, all's fair I suppose. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Pulling at another person's clothing is almost always a violation of personal space, unless you're a Quarterback or a wrestler. I remember one time when I was a teenager, I was joking around and playing goofily with my friend and her brother. But a line got crossed when he grabbed some french fries off a plate and stuck them down the front of my shirt. I still remeber how upset that made me and how defensive my friend was over her brother's behaviour. I'm sort of envisioning this event in the OP happening similarly, so yes, to me, it sounds like a person taking liberties with touching someone's mate. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomatHWTK Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 Well then you are competing with a younger woman for the attention of a man. Not a whole lot you can do about it- not like you can call dibs on single men. 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TechWife Posted February 23, 2016 Share Posted February 23, 2016 She is 27 and he is 39. Then it's immaturity. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TXBeth Posted February 24, 2016 Share Posted February 24, 2016 The 27 year old I am referring to is a friend of my daughter. The man she did this to is someone I have feelings for and she is aware of that fact. Unless you think she was doing it on purpose just to bother you, I don't think you really have any standing to be mad. I mean, feel what you feel, but she didn't actually do anything to you. It's between her and him, and if he didn't mind then it's no one else's business. I agree with the others, though, that it sounds like a slightly weird and immature thing to do (unless they have a playful brother/sister relationship where that is normal for them). 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsMommy Posted February 24, 2016 Share Posted February 24, 2016 If it's flirting, she's not very good at it. 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted February 24, 2016 Share Posted February 24, 2016 The 27 year old I am referring to is a friend of my daughter. The man she did this to is someone I have feelings for and she is aware of that fact. If the feelings go both ways, then did he tell her to "cut it out"? Really, though, she's probably just immature and was goofing off. Without knowing the whole context of the situation, it's hard to say if it's flirting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
purplejackmama Posted February 24, 2016 Share Posted February 24, 2016 Not flirting, just very annoying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luanne Posted February 24, 2016 Author Share Posted February 24, 2016 She claims she has no interest in being anything but a friend to him. He has told both her and me that he has no interest in her. He's never said how he feels about me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GAPeachie Posted February 24, 2016 Share Posted February 24, 2016 She claims she has no interest in being anything but a friend to him. He has told both her and me that he has no interest in her. He's never said how he feels about me. I think this falls under possibly flirting. I wouldn't be offended though. No one has any level of commitment. Sidenote: This is why I mainly hung out with guys in school. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted February 24, 2016 Share Posted February 24, 2016 This is starting to sound very high schoolish for a group of three grown adults. 13 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted February 24, 2016 Share Posted February 24, 2016 She claims she has no interest in being anything but a friend to him. He has told both her and me that he has no interest in her. He's never said how he feels about me. I'd say that it sounds like goofing off........ and is a bit bizarre if they aren't close friends....... and some people do flirt even if they aren't trying to get into a relationship. Try not to over-analyze it........... If you aren't in a relationship with him beyond friends and want to be, then ask him out....... nothing wrong with that........... 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuga Posted February 24, 2016 Share Posted February 24, 2016 (edited) Is it flirting for a female to take a paper towel, wad it up, and put it down the back of a man's shirt? Wat? Why would someone do that? It sounds like something a sister would do to her little brother when asked to clean the bathroom with him or something. Teasing is often flirting among adults. So unless this was a sibling thing or a medical thing, I guess so, but weird. Edited February 24, 2016 by Tsuga 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Florida. Posted February 24, 2016 Share Posted February 24, 2016 In middle school it is. Adults? Why? 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
8circles Posted February 24, 2016 Share Posted February 24, 2016 Who cares if it is? If it isn't, it doesn't affect you at all. If it is, and this guy likes it, you don't want him anyway. If he doesn't like it, he's still available to you. But really, this whole situation is quite strange in adults. 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Florida Posted February 24, 2016 Share Posted February 24, 2016 I guess I think it might well be flirting, although it's a pretty immature version of the practice. But I also think that human beings aren't anyone else's property. As someone else said, you don't get to call dibs on a person just because you have feelings for him and expect that no one else will ever flirt with him. He's an adult. If he isn't interested in her or doesn't like her behavior, it's up to him to tell her so. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted February 24, 2016 Share Posted February 24, 2016 It's very poor flirting, but yes... if you're touching and grabbing at someone's clothes then it's an attempt at being more intimate with them. I'm surprised this is a 27 year old. Sound more like a 7 year old's idea of flirting. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renthead Mommy Posted February 24, 2016 Share Posted February 24, 2016 It would depend on the people. Among my friends, even with that age span, so it would not be flirting. At all. As in ewww! And the paper towel would hav likely been wet. And possibly in the freezer beforehand. So no not flirting among people I know. I don't know among people you know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xahm Posted February 25, 2016 Share Posted February 25, 2016 If this happens to be the friend of your daughter's that the two of you are, if I recall correctly with, living with, I would really try hard to be the bigger person and let it go. It would certainly annoy me deeply, but is it worth being right if it causes fights with roommates? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luanne Posted February 25, 2016 Author Share Posted February 25, 2016 We really didn't get into a fight. I just kindly told her I didn't like her flirting with him. She claimed it wasn't flirting. That is why I thought I would see what all you think. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomatHWTK Posted February 25, 2016 Share Posted February 25, 2016 I think it is ridiculous to believe you can control what someone else does with regard to another adult. If you think it is your man and don't want her around him, don't bring him to her house. Or maybe hang a tag around his neck so everyone knows you are in charge of who gets to touch or talk to him. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted February 25, 2016 Share Posted February 25, 2016 I would have to see the situation and the behavior of those involved to guess whether or not I'd call it flirting. Could be having fun/being silly or could be flirting…though it is a bit immature in any way. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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