DawnM Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 I think honestly it is because this man drives me nuts anyway, but he is very nasally in his tone and I find that every time I hear him, his voice is like nails on a chalkboard. I feel bad for thinking this way, and it really may not bother me so much if he weren't so irritating anyway (always arguing, always needed to be heard above everyone, etc...) But then I really wonder if his voice wouldn't be irritating anyway, even if I liked him as a person. Hmmmmm.......just stupid musings of the day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lmrich Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 YES! I think she actually triggers a migraine. I have left a meeting early when she sits next to me. She is also so opiniated and talks non-stop!! I avoid committees that she serves on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JumpyTheFrog Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 Captain Janeway from Star Trek Voyager used to irritate me. I eventually got used to her voice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Library Momma Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 Ariana Grande! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Southern Ivy Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 I used to work with the sweetest lady - but she talked 1000 miles an hour, flapped her hands while talking, and though her voice was airy, it was the loudest voice EVER. She also just couldn't stop talking. It was non-stop. If you're a highly sensitive person like I am and noise affects you ten-fold, it's hard to handle a person like that. She had a generous, kind heart though. My mom saw her a few weeks ago and purposely went down some wrong aisles to avoid her. :/ She said, "I heard her voice across the store and just got out as fast as I could. I knew I didn't have time to talk to her." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Southern Ivy Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 I think honestly it is because this man drives me nuts anyway, but he is very nasally in his tone and I find that every time I hear him, his voice is like nails on a chalkboard. I feel bad for thinking this way, and it really may not bother me so much if he weren't so irritating anyway (always arguing, always needed to be heard above everyone, etc...) But then I really wonder if his voice wouldn't be irritating anyway, even if I liked him as a person. Hmmmmm.......just stupid musings of the day. No. Even if you like them, they can drive you crazy. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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AK_Mom4 Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 The first Latin program we used had videos and the narrator's voice drove us all batty. We made it through three lessons before declaring the videos a fail and just using the workbooks and Google. DD21 actually threw a temper tantrum and tossed set of DVDs for US Government in the trash because the lecturer's voice drove her mad. I made her dig them out so I could resell them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mergath Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 Yup. Because she intentionally spoke in a nasally little girl voice. Drove me nuts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndyJoy Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 I used to babysit a 3rd grader after school every day when I was in high school. Fortunately his two best friends (brothers 11 mo. apart in age) lived in my neighborhood so he got lots of playtime with his buds who he otherwise saw only at school. Unfortunately they had matching, high-pitched, intense voices that grated on me. It sounded like constant whining (though the real whiny voices were worse). I felt sorry for their mom :) I can only hope this improved with puberty. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JumpyTheFrog Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 I used to work with the sweetest lady - but she talked 1000 miles an hour, flapped her hands while talking, and though her voice was airy, it was the loudest voice EVER. She also just couldn't stop talking. It was non-stop. With people like this, I always end up wondering why their parents didn't work hard on social skills with them. Maybe the parents were just as bad? Or maybe it never ocurred to them that social skills are skills that can be developed with practice. In any case, I get the impression that these things need to be worked on when your kids are young enough to not be constantly offended. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 I had a Zumba instructor that I really liked but her voice - especially her laugh - was like a witch's cackle. It was really jarring and unfortunate because I think a lot of people avoided her class just because of her voice, even though she was likable in every other way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TechWife Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 With people like this, I always end up wondering why their parents didn't work hard on social skills with them. Maybe the parents were just as bad? Or maybe it never ocurred to them that social skills are skills that can be developed with practice. In any case, I get the impression that these things need to be worked on when your kids are young enough to not be constantly offended. Sometimes parents do work on these things and it doesn't make a bit of difference. I have spent countless hours and a lot of money on social skills teaching. It just hasn't helped. All of this to say, don't assume the parents didn't work on social skills. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elisabet1 Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 Not to be political, but every time Obama comes on TV, I have to turn it off quickly because his voice bothers me so much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndyJoy Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 With people like this, I always end up wondering why their parents didn't work hard on social skills with them. Maybe the parents were just as bad? Or maybe it never ocurred to them that social skills are skills that can be developed with practice. In any case, I get the impression that these things need to be worked on when your kids are young enough to not be constantly offended. Some people's parents work on it, but it's too strongly ingrained. IMO you can't assume their parents didn't try or that it's even perfectly fixable. My dad can be like this--his mom was super-aware and strict. My son is like this, and we work on it constantly, but after seeing my dad I am not expecting teaching social skills to 100% erase signs of ADHD. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 one of the yoga instructors whose dvd's I use has an odd speech pattern. I will clench my teeth . . . and just had to deal with it and overcome it because she's a good instructor. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dmmetler Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 With people like this, I always end up wondering why their parents didn't work hard on social skills with them. Maybe the parents were just as bad? Or maybe it never ocurred to them that social skills are skills that can be developed with practice. In any case, I get the impression that these things need to be worked on when your kids are young enough to not be constantly offended. This may not be a social skills issue, but a neurological one. I have little/no natural control over my speech. If I don't keep pretty close conscious control, I get very high, very fast, and very loud without even realizing it. It took years of therapy to get it to become something that I could hear and pick up on and change, and honestly, college theater classes which were focused on developing speech patterns for a character were more helpful in some ways than therapy because, really, I'm playing a role every time I carry on a normal conversation. I hate to see parents blamed for not working on "social skills"-it's really, really hard to remediate neurological disabilities out of existence to the point that the person can "pass for normal", and it's not done by just saying "Slow down, honey. People can't understand you when you go too fast" or "Be quieter-your voice is too loud". All that does is make the kid, who, if they're like me, really doesn't "hear" a difference, feel like it's not safe to talk at all-which is what I pretty much did through most of my public school years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JumpyTheFrog Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 I understand that some of these people's parents worked on their issues, without enough obvious success. However, not everyone is like those of us on these forums. Many parents don't do much to make sure their kids read and do math well, so it's not hard to imagine that many don't make much attempt to work on social skills. I believe someone on this forum mentioned that her husband (?) worked at a ritzy private school for a while. What stood out in his mind was all the work both parents and teachers put into teaching the "soft skills" as she called them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Southern Ivy Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 With people like this, I always end up wondering why their parents didn't work hard on social skills with them. Maybe the parents were just as bad? Or maybe it never ocurred to them that social skills are skills that can be developed with practice. In any case, I get the impression that these things need to be worked on when your kids are young enough to not be constantly offended. She was very backwoods Arkansas. :) I'm pretty sure the social skills she learned were when she grew up and moved out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Southern Ivy Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 This may not be a social skills issue, but a neurological one. I have little/no natural control over my speech. If I don't keep pretty close conscious control, I get very high, very fast, and very loud without even realizing it. It took years of therapy to get it to become something that I could hear and pick up on and change, and honestly, college theater classes which were focused on developing speech patterns for a character were more helpful in some ways than therapy because, really, I'm playing a role every time I carry on a normal conversation. I hate to see parents blamed for not working on "social skills"-it's really, really hard to remediate neurological disabilities out of existence to the point that the person can "pass for normal", and it's not done by just saying "Slow down, honey. People can't understand you when you go too fast" or "Be quieter-your voice is too loud". All that does is make the kid, who, if they're like me, really doesn't "hear" a difference, feel like it's not safe to talk at all-which is what I pretty much did through most of my public school years. Thank you for sharing this. I honestly never would have even considered this aspect. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JumpyTheFrog Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 honestly, college theater classes which were focused on developing speech patterns for a character were more helpful in some ways than therapy because, really, I'm playing a role every time I carry on a normal conversation. Do you think that over time, "playing the role" of an average person will start to feel more natural? Does it take less work than it used to? I'm glad you found something helpful. Several other people on the board have mentioned various unexpected benefits their kids gained from acting classes. They impressed me enough that today my oldest is starting a homeschool acting class. We are hoping to steer his dramatic tendencies in a positive way, just as we started him in gymnastics because of his wiggliness. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dmmetler Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 Do you think that over time, "playing the role" of an average person will start to feel more natural? Does it take less work than it used to? I'm glad you found something helpful. Several other people on the board have mentioned various unexpected benefits their kids gained from acting classes. They impressed me enough that today my oldest is starting a homeschool acting class. We are hoping to steer his dramatic tendencies in a positive way, just as we started him in gymnastics because of his wiggliness. It absolutely gets easier over time and more natural, and just being able to control my own schedule so that I usually don't get into that overloaded, completely exhausted state helps. I will say that I prefer working with kids to adults because kids have no trouble saying and showing that they can't understand me. Adults are often too polite, and often tend to do a better job of hiding irritation or misunderstanding in their body language, so I don't always catch that I'm "drifting" quite so easily. I also prefer public speaking over casual conversations-if I'm giving a talk, or teaching a class, I can prepare and while it sometimes drifts, I'm in that "mode". When it's over and everyone else figures now you can relax, I really need to pull it together, because it's actually a harder situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
isaac_megan Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 I quit a job once because of a co-worker's voice. It's not my proudest moment, but I did put up with it for two years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xuzi Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 There's a librarian at my local branch who I try to avoid because of her voice. She hardly moves her teeth when she talks, so her voice is very soft and sibilant, but trying to be loud enough to be heard.. it's like she's trying to talk through her smile. I don't know how else to describe it. It's grating. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fruitofthewomb Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 My ex-sister in law! The way she said my bro in laws name was unbelievably irritating. I can still hear it & it's been 5 years!! And when she was nervous her voice would be so different-high pitched & squeaky-also unbelievably irritating. I am glad I never have to listen to it again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wildcat Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 Captain Janeway from Star Trek Voyager used to irritate me. I eventually got used to her voice. Dh and I felt the same way back when Voyager premiered. We were so happy to have another "Trek" to watch, and when she started speaking we were like "noooo". It took us several episodes to get used to her voice and then we actually liked it. I think it was just so different, you know? I have known several people IRL whose voices set my teeth on edge. As someone mentioned upthread, Fran Drescher (The Nanny) has one of those voices, but I have seen her in interviews and it doesn't bother me. I guess she 'did it up' for the show? My honest-to-goodness-must-plug-my-ears-because-I-can't-stand-the-voice is..... Rosie Perez. I just can't take it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 Ariana Grande! Yes. This. She can almost trigger violent reactions in me. When my kids are watching her on tv, I'm very tempted to toss the tv off the balcony. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SageRebel Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 Smacking or clicking while talking, nasally voices, and just some dialects sound like nails on a chalk board. There is a Latin DVD we listen to and it is so hard for me not to want to throw the thing out the window. Very high pitched, or loud. I had a relater agent that screamed not talked the whole time we were talking to her. I asked hubby if she had a hearing impediment. Nope she was naturally that loud. I couldn't be in the car with her, or on the phone. I always thought it was the Aspie in me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TXBeth Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 9th grade - the algebra 1 teacher for Abeka Video School. Sniffles, snuffles, heavy breathing in the microphone. It was horrible! I would fast forward through the videos and just learn the material on my own. There was also a lady I know who is so sweet and kind and generous, but her voice drives me nuts. She always sounds like she is talking to a 2-year-old, very high pitched, soft, syrupy sweet kind of voice. It feels like she is either condescending or completely insincere until you get to know her, but that is just the way she talks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScoutTN Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 Oh yes, my high school chemistry teacher. Listening to her was torture! Awful voice and abd grammar to boot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted February 13, 2015 Author Share Posted February 13, 2015 Smacking or clicking while talking, nasally voices, and just some dialects sound like nails on a chalk board. There is a Latin DVD we listen to and it is so hard for me not to want to throw the thing out the window. Very high pitched, or loud. I had a relater agent that screamed not talked the whole time we were talking to her. I asked hubby if she had a hearing impediment. Nope she was naturally that loud. I couldn't be in the car with her, or on the phone. I always thought it was the Aspie in me. Oh, I hate that too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmyontheFarm Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 Unfortunately, it's my sister's voice. When she sings. Please stay on the other side of the church, sis! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanier.1765 Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 If Bernadette from the Big Bang Theory really talks like that, I feel bad for her because it most drive her friends and family nuts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clemota Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 The office manager at my DD's speech therapy office. The waiting room is open to where she works and her voice just makes me want to rip my ears off. She's a very pleasant person, it's just her voice that gets to me. Since I typically am sitting there for an hour per week, I've learned to tune her out as much as possible by bringing along a really interesting book. And headphones. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan in TN Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 When my oldest two were young they used to have a kind of high-pitched "play voice" that made me nuts. It felt like my head was going to explode. Since going through therapy with ds10 for auditory processing disorder, I think it is likely that I had/have this as well. In some people there are specific frequencies which hit the auditory nerve particularly hard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 Captain Janeway from Star Trek Voyager used to irritate me. I eventually got used to her voice. YES! So glad I'm not the only one! I've never been able to stand Kate Mulgrew's voice in any role. I've avoided television and movies with her in them just because of that. Her voice sets my teeth on edge like nails on a chalkboard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiwik Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 I am too loud and not aware of social stuff. As far as I'm aware there are no social skills classes in rural NZ and there certainly weren't 40 years ago. My parents wouldn't have been aware it could be fixed so instead tried to keep me with younger kids in school because I was socially immature. Unfortunately I was very bright, very bored and still socually inept. Still am but I am happy enough. But I can't really help my kids can I? I am mostly OK with voices but a lot of laughs make me want to jump out a window and run. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jasperstone Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 The woman on the show The Nanny. Didn't bother me when I was young but now I just cannot take hearing her talk. In real life, she's not as nasal-ly, but in that show and now that stupid commercial she's doing for the hair remover thing she turns up that accent and it sounds ridiculous! Another is a preacher who comes on our small, local Christian radio station after lunch. I think he's actually syndicated maybe, but his voice makes me want to put a fork in my ear. Some of the other pastors are bad to listen to also, but this guy takes the cake. I was just going to post that about The Nanny. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Little Nyssa Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 There is a new, young NPR lady with a terrible Wisconsin accent and pretentious way of talking that drives me nuts! I don't understand how she got so far in radio with a voice like that At least we are in good company-- St. Therese of Lisieux wrote that one of the other nun's voices drove her up the wall. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted February 16, 2015 Author Share Posted February 16, 2015 If Bernadette from the Big Bang Theory really talks like that, I feel bad for her because it most drive her friends and family nuts. She actually doesn't normally talk like that. However, I have to add in: Conan's voice is grating to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lynn Posted February 16, 2015 Share Posted February 16, 2015 Not a voice but I have a friend who does that forced laugh after she says something especially if she thinks she's correcting you or she's right, your wrong on a subject. I think that's the reason she did not have long term relationships. It's extremely annoying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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