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Little Nyssa

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Little Nyssa last won the day on January 1 2013

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  1. Not to derail your discussion too much... but your experience of Orthodoxy is so much different than mine... at our place kids are encouraged to ask questions... there is not that much griping about noise... re: Patriarchy and women's experiences: in my experience women have quite a lot of power... you might read Carrie Frost's Maternal Body (new book). Also, Orthodoxy has a lot of room for 'don't know' and 'it's a mystery' type answers, which you might find more comfortable in your present state as you talk to your daughter.
  2. Almost missed a wedding reception... the directions we were told were 'the restaurant is 1213 Porter Street.' After following Mapquest out into the desert for 40 minutes and not finding it... and travelling back into town to get cell phone coverage so we could call someone and ask... we found that that wasn't the ADDRESS. That was the restaurant's ACTUAL NAME! (Name changed in this post to protect the innocent)
  3. I would have asked him about the purchase right away and told him kindly how I felt about it, if indeed it was for me. I wouldn't want to accept it, trying to be kind, and then have to wear it and secretly resent it perhaps for years! But I would have expressed this right away, not waiting for Christmas morning. How did it go?
  4. WTH? This happened in class? Where was the teacher? How could the teacher not respond, if the kid moved his chair and began abusing your DS for 5 minutes? How can any learning take place in such an environment? Why was the teacher not in control of the classroom? I would ask for a meeting with the teacher, and if I wasn't satisfied then I'd talk again with the VP from that point of view: that the teacher needs some further training etc.
  5. In our experience, MIL’s doctor would not touch the problem of driving. In California there is a state authority you can call to report an unsafe senior driver, but I did call in one case and after several months there had been no consequences, so I would not rely on that, because you need something to happen quickly. For my MIL there was no solution except having her move to where we are (different state) and the car was left behind. I would explain to her what the problem is, having taken away the keys already so you don’t get into a shoving match over them; also have nephew & wife hide their own keys when not in use. This will be really hard but it concerns everyone’s safety. ?
  6. 1. Visit a range of places in your area. 2. Visit on a Sunday night- that is when you’ll see the times when the supervisory staff may be absent and the rest of the staff may be taking it easy- so you will see the place at its worst. That will give you an indication of how bad it may get. If it’s okay then, likely it will be okay otherwise. 3. Are you sure that mom has good cognitive health? In our experience, MIL was accepted to live in a lovely assisted living place: think big windows, palm trees, waterfalls, but the DAY before she was to move in, they evaluated her and found her to have dementia and needed to be in the locked part of the facility- which was like a hospital, dark, and dirty, way in the back. It would be good to be sure of what she needs beforehand so as not to be blindsided. (SIL did not let her move in there- we found another place.) 4. Find a place that has a nice memory-care wing attached, so if she needs it later, it will be there and not too much of an upheaval for her to move to it. 5. Ask the local Alzheimer’s association for several recommendations. Even if she is cognitively well, those folks know the neighborhood. 6. It’s best to move into a facility which is brand-new, because then it will be state of the art and the staff will be on their ‘A-game’ trying to recruit more residents, so it will be in much better condition than it will be in 10 years. good luck!
  7. Truly he is risen! I was off the WTM for Lent so I had no idea about the forum change til I came back! I’m finding it hard to get used to because the letters are so tiny, it’s hard for me to read with my middle-aged eyes...
  8. (Hugs) I hope you were able to to enjoy other parts of Holy Week?
  9. The new forums are hard for me to read because the letters are too tiny... I’m here squinting. ? Is there any way I can reset it? Thanks!
  10. So glad to hear that you are going ahead with your dream, after considering all factors! Best wishes to you!
  11. Prayers for you! So glad about the sleep. I have a close relative who had schizoaffective disorder and it was awful for our family. I know what you are talking about. In my experience nobody understands like another family member. I hope that you are already connected with NAMI? It's run by family members of people with severe mental illness. They have support groups & classes. They have chapters all over the country. I really really love them.
  12. Thank you so much for all these suggestions- MIL was scammed over the phone and by mail to the tune of thousands of $$. In her case the only way to stop it was when she moved into a 'memory care' unit. She no longer has her own phone. All her mail is forwarded to us... now we have to deal with the mounds of junk.
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