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  1. I'm not quite sure why people think a teenager can't activate a phone. You go to the store, buy a pay as you go phone, buy a gift card for a service and activate online. There is no requirement to prove your are an adult. You might need to provide a birthdate but that's easy to do.
  2. My bff gives directions like this “as you’re driving you’ll see this daycare center on the left that is called Kandace’s Kiddie Korner “ spelled with K’s which makes me wonder two things one is Did they write that down and not notice the initials and two even if you didn’t who wants a preschool teacher who can’t spell corner? Anyway other than the sign it’s very cute they have these paper plate flowers on the big window that they made with tissue paper and I was thinking we could make some of those at home with Mary, wouldn’t that be fun? Anyway when you see the window just keep driving, you don’t need to turn there or anything.” So I end end up stopping like every two blocks because I recognize some landmark and I think I need to do something but nope.
  3. I agree that it’s hot pot. However as someone who likes to go out to eat alone, can I just say that I would be mortified if someone decided I needed a teddy bear date?
  4. We crate trained in a similar situation. My son did most of it, so I don't have all the details, but we had the crate up in the living room for years and he wouldn't go in. He basically started putting treats closer and closer to the crate, and then throwing the treats in so he'd go in eat them and come out, and then throwing the treats in, letting him go in and closing the door just long enough for him to gobble the treat and then opening it. Then once we had that, we started feeding him in the crate with the door closed, and letting him out right away, and then gradually built up time from there. Now, he gets up in the a.m., eats, goes back in the crate and lies down like he knows that's his place when I go to work. I don't close the door on work days, but I do if a workman in coming in or something, but even when I don't, I don't see any evidence that he comes out. He's always in there when I get home.
  5. Alice is exactly the kind of pet name I tend to chose, so I'd leave it, but since you don't like it I'll say that I also like North. It makes me think of Suri's Burn Book, in which "Suri" repeatedly refers to the Kardashian/West child as "North West The Person". I think I'd want to call the kitten "North East The Kitten" as their full name. On the other hand, some people might not see a Kardashian connection as a plus in naming. In which case, I'll add that I think Dagny is adorable. It's very spunky, which is perfect for a kitten.
  6. Legally, the classes my students want to attend are open to any area resident who is at least 16. That is clearly stated in their documents. So, legally my students are as entitled to attend these classes as anyone else. There are other classes that they don't meet the requirement for, but they definitely meet the requirements for the classes they are hoping to attend. They met with disability services, and were approved for accommodations. The school was asked, by multiple people, to put together a "program", that would provide more comprehensive supports, including supports that are not available to nondisabled students such as job coaching. They declined to do so. That doesn't prevent students from bringing their own supports to campus.
  7. I asked about putting kids on a wait list, and was told that there are only wait lists and add/drop on the credit side. Apparently, once you're registered for noncredit there's no going back. I just looked up the numbers to see if I remembered. Last year, over the whole year, they served 55K students in credit and noncredit combined. In an average fall or spring term, they have about 24K credit students taking classes, and over the course of the year about 32K credit students taking classes.
  8. It's a community college that serves about 30K students. If I said "university" then I mistyped. Community colleges have a different goal. They're designed to be community facing and welcome the community in in a way that schools don't. I have no idea if allowing people taking noncredit classes to use the facilities is common, but it's definitely allowed there. I don't want to go into the specifics of why the gym is an important part of the plan. I'd need to talk about specific students, and specific needs, and it's just off topic. I'm just going to say that I have my reasons.
  9. It's not a university, it's a community college. And yes, I'm very sure that it works. I've talked to the disability services office when the original plan was to actually take the noncredit class. I've talked to the manager of the gym. I've talked to the registrar's office. The gym is small, and the hours are limited except that they happen to work for us. There are local gyms you can join that are much nicer that cost less than even the ballroom dancing class, which is the cheapest class they offer. All those things probably keep the numbers manageable.
  10. I think that if I got closed out of ballroom dancing, and a student with a disability had a more successful transition to adulthood because of it, I'd think "good for them". I don't see someone's "need" to take ballroom dancing as more important than my student's "need" to use the gym. I would feel different it was a credit class, or something like CPR or a childcare credential that someone might need to get a degree or a job. You have to swipe your card to use the gym or the pool, but not to eat in the cafeteria. The library says the library is just for college students, but to be honest, I haven't checked if they actually check the ID's. We had to show ID to get in the library of both the college where I went to undergrad and the one where I went to grad school, so I assumed it was the same way. The gym is the thing I'd most like for them to use. The campus isn't closed, just specific places on campus that we'd like to access, with the gym on the top of the list.
  11. At our school, preferential registration is limited to students working towards a degree. It's for situations where someone's disability impacts what classes they can take -- e.g. I need the a.m. session because I have dialysis in the p.m., or I need the section that meets on the first floor because the building has no elevator. Being unavailable because you're still in high school and can't do day time classes isn't a reason for preferential enrollment. In this particular case, our kids (who btw are paying the same tuition as kids taking it for credit) aren't impacting anyone's degree path. Two of the three classes in question are "concurrent enrollment", so there are both credit and noncredit students together. The one that was cancelled for underenrollment is a degree requirement, but obviously our kids didn't cost anyone a space there. The one that closed due to overenrollment is one of many P.E. class options. The third class, ballroom, is just a community class. It's not a credit option, and can't be applied towards any degree. There are lots of other classes, they just don't work time wise. A lot of them meet during the school day, or too soon after the school day for us to get there. Or they meet at campus B or C, and we need A because it's the one on the bus route from school. Or they're just on the wrong day. We waited to schedule other things, like job coaching or sports practices until we thought we knew what day the classes were going to be, but now those things are set, so there are certain weekdays that aren't options either. None of that is the college's fault. When kids graduate and the can spend time on campus during the day, then they'll have lots of options. Yes, there are lots of exciting things going on in the field of post secondary education for students with ID! Cincy is a great example, and I could give you many more. Unfortunately, this particular school has been approached many times, by many people about opening a more inclusive program. It's not that it hasn't been tried. They do have some very segregated programs, but that's not what my students are looking for.
  12. So, the college is like your top example, except that community education classes for adults that don't carry credit are included. They don't actually say "you don't really have to attend", but they are definitely not kicking people out for non attendance. There's nothing like the underlined in their policies for non credit classes. Credit classes are different in that they take attendance, and will remove you from the roster. I have no idea if the ID would still work in that case or not.
  13. They are busy kids, and there's just a time conflict with the ballroom class. It's not that I don't think they'd love the class and do well with the class, it's just that something else is already happening at that time on that day of the week, and that other thing is also important. Gate keeping and low expectations for people with ID is a huge problem in this area. Our public school system, and the community college both run very segregated programs for students with ID, and are invested in the idea that that is where they belong. So asking for help would be more likely to lead to having doors shut them open. The fact that we asked for help could easily become an excuse to exclude. We're not hiding what we're doing. If we need an accommodation, then we ask the people who can grant the permission, but we're also not trying to gain the attention of the people at the top. Vocational Rehab is a different thing. The office here, or at least the counselor assigned to my students, is great, and our kids will get job coaching and internships after graduation, but they only provide support for students in classes that are either for credit, or directly connected to their identified employment goal, and neither student has identified ballroom dancing as an employment goal. That was already taken into account when their graduation dates were set.
  14. I want to ask this another way. Because there are lots of complexities to working with a large government agencies, and pros and cons and barriers to forming a more formal relationship that I won't go into. Suffice it to say that whether or not a formal relationship is a good idea, with the new semester starting on Monday, it's not going to happen in time for this year's seniors. Let's say I was a person, without a disability, who lived in the area. My husband and I wanted to work out in the gym on campus, or swim in the pool, since it was close and cheap. So, we registered for the very cheapest noncredit class, but didn't go because it was the same night one kid had soccer practice, and the other had ballet and we both needed to drive. There's no way the college would make anything of it. They have 30K students, they're not going to do anything about the fact that someone didn't show up for ballroom dancing. Do people see that as unethical? I don't think I'd think twice about doing it. But I wonder what other people would think? To me, the way that disability comes into it is twofold. One is that I know that more people will be watching them, and eventually someone might decide that they don't think people with intellectual disability should be in X class. So they'll complain and someone will notice that hey this person didn't even show up last time, and it will be used as evidence that they don't belong there. Because that's how people think. On the other hand, I think that learning to use the college campus, and make a gradual transition is a much more compelling reason to sign up for ballroom and not go, than wanting a cheap gym, and frankly is a more compelling reason for signing up for ballroom than you want to take ballroom. If the class does fill up, and 2 people have to wait another semester to learn to dance, well I'm not heartbroken. It's not like they're signing up for a graduation requirement and delaying someone's degree. It's non credit swing dancing. I'm going to call our DSS counselor and see what she thinks.
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