mom31257 Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 My sister could really use prayer right now. Her husband committed suicide just over a month ago following 10 years of dealing with depression, anxiety, and OCD. Despite all of that, my sister believes Tamiflu played a big role in the suicide. Their son has severe epilepsy because of a documented vaccine injury. He is an adult but mentally like a preschooler in most ways. He requires basically 24 hour care. Dealing with losing her husband in this way is difficult enough on it's own, but she has the issue of caring for her son now alone. Over the last year, he has been very difficult to deal with at times. They were seeing a research doctor over a year ago who wanted to try a medication approved in Europe.They got permission and started it, and he almost immediately had radical behavior changes. Even though they worked him off of it right away, the behavior patterns stayed. She can't cry in front of my nephew because it really upsets him. She can't grieve in a normal way because she's constantly having to deal with him. She has a little outside help from a lady, and my dad lives in the same county as her. She lives about 3.5 hours from me, and I'm so sorry I don't live closer. I went up there when it all happened, went back one week, and got my nephew during another week. Our other sister might be able to go there tomorrow. If not I might can go. She's really struggling with the amount of suffering in her life and why it has to be this way. Thank you so much! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2myboys Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Sending prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacia Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Is it possible for her to seek counseling? Or, is there a local organization that would help provide care for her son for a few hours every week or two? (I know a church in our area provides adult-care to give caregivers a needed break.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandylubug Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 :grouphug: prayer said. I can only imagine how overwhelmed she must feel! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 :grouphug: Prayers :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Oh, this sounds terrible. I think she may have to look into more care for the 20yo. Is he with her at home full time? This would wear anyone out, much less someone who just experienced a major, traumatic loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom31257 Posted February 4, 2015 Author Share Posted February 4, 2015 She has her local church which is being very supportive. He is home full-time. She already had help one day a week, and I am going to keep him for a few days once a month. She knows she needs more help, but she's going to be VERY selective with who that would be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 She has her local church which is being very supportive. He is home full-time. She already had help one day a week, and I am going to keep him for a few days once a month. She knows she needs more help, but she's going to be VERY selective with who that would be. Can something be arranged through respite care or some type of home care service that is (hopefully) covered or partially covered by insurance? This whole situation sounds like a very heavy load on one person's shoulders. Glad you are helping out with him but it must be hard for you as well to drive back and forth. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Praying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindy in FL. Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Praying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Praying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Kate Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Praying for your sister. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chocolatechip Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Oh my, I am SO sorry. Hugs and prayers for her! :grouphug: Lord have mercy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jewellsmommy Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Prayers said! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 I hope she can get some respite care of some sort quickly to be able to get some space to grieve and relax. That is a lot of stress for one person to be under and deal with. Stress is so unhealthy that she'll end up ill herself without some downtime. :grouphug: S to all. Hoping for some peace and healing for your sister. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbgrace Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 I will pray. How terrible. I'm so sorry. :grouphug: My sister lost her husband in an accident. She joined an online support group called Young Widows. I know it won't heal or lift the burden, but it did help my sister feel less alone. http://www.ywbb.org/forums/ubbthreads.php Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Praying! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustEm Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Praying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lllll Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 :grouphug: Praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: Praying :grouphug: :grouphug: I would think if she could find a support group (online or IRL) it would be really worth it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyinTN Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 :grouphug: (((Amy))) prayers for your sister, her ds and you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debbi in Texas Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom31257 Posted February 4, 2015 Author Share Posted February 4, 2015 Can I add safe travel to the prayer request? Thank you all so much! My older sister was going to TN to be with her but has developed a sore throat and cold symptoms. She doesn't need to be around our nephew. I'm heading up later today to stay a couple of nights. We just lost our mother a year ago yesterday, so this is a difficult time for all of us! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
speedmom4 Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Praying. My heart goes out to your sister. I can't imagine what she's going through. Elise in NC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 I would definitely be helping her look for long term, regular respite care. It sounds pretty untenable and her health and sanity is of the utmost importance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom31257 Posted February 4, 2015 Author Share Posted February 4, 2015 I think the respite care is a good idea in many ways; however, he can very easily pick up new habits that could become problems later if she tried to bring him back home. He is very routine and introducing new situations and people can be very tricky. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Hugs and more prayers, Amy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vida Winter Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 sending prayers :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Praying. It never does seem fair that some people have more than their share of problems. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenn&charles Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 Prayers for your sister! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted February 4, 2015 Share Posted February 4, 2015 My sister could really use prayer right now. Her husband committed suicide just over a month ago following 10 years of dealing with depression, anxiety, and OCD. Despite all of that, my sister believes Tamiflu played a big role in the suicide. Their son has severe epilepsy because of a documented vaccine injury. He is an adult but mentally like a preschooler in most ways. He requires basically 24 hour care. Dealing with losing her husband in this way is difficult enough on it's own, but she has the issue of caring for her son now alone. Over the last year, he has been very difficult to deal with at times. They were seeing a research doctor over a year ago who wanted to try a medication approved in Europe.They got permission and started it, and he almost immediately had radical behavior changes. Even though they worked him off of it right away, the behavior patterns stayed. She can't cry in front of my nephew because it really upsets him. She can't grieve in a normal way because she's constantly having to deal with him. She has a little outside help from a lady, and my dad lives in the same county as her. She lives about 3.5 hours from me, and I'm so sorry I don't live closer. I went up there when it all happened, went back one week, and got my nephew during another week. Our other sister might be able to go there tomorrow. If not I might can go. She's really struggling with the amount of suffering in her life and why it has to be this way. Thank you so much! Good Lord, that's terrible. I'm so sorry. Praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celticmom Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyoustxmama Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 I am so so sorry, that sounds so difficult - no advice but didn't want to read without offering heartfelt sympathy and yes, I will pray for her! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 Praying for your sister and your nephew. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MeghansMom Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 Prayers for you all! *hugs* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merry gardens Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 Praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 Praying that you had safe travels and that all is going along ok. Sorry to hear about your mom too. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom31257 Posted February 5, 2015 Author Share Posted February 5, 2015 Thank you all! I did have safe travel and very well considering it was through Atlanta in the afternoon. Things are going as well as can be expected. My nephew has a headache almost all the time now, so that really affects his behavior. :crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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