Mrs Mungo Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I don't think it would bother me. *shrug* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teeniebeenie6 Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 It wouldn't faze be but then again I grew up around a family member that called their significant other "Papa Bear" and "Daddy" (he did not have kids). It grossed me out as a kid, lol. I'm embarrassed to say I have called my husband Daddy in public more then once and have gotten some strange looks afterwards. It embarrasses me when it slips. :blush5: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Belacqua Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Oh no! I call my DH "Love" (when I am talking to him). Not lover. And I never *refer* to him as my lover! I agree that is :ack2:. But now I'm all paranoid about "Love"! Is it bad to call him "Love"? Or "My love"? It is my name for him (to his face). When I'm talking to others I always call him "my husband" or use his name. I never, never call him his name when I am talking to him. It feels so unnatural to me!!!! I just can't do it. He calls me Sweetheart, and I call him Love or My love. So give it to me straight... are we horrid?! I'm scared to ask, but I also don't want to be freaking anyone else out! (We use those names in the presence of others also.) :leaving: Love is entirely different from Lover, in my estimation. Love, Luv...fine. I had an elderly great-aunt who would call me Lovie. Irritating, but not icky. Love Machine? A-ok. It's just Lover that gives me the skeeves. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 No, love does not bother me but lover sure does. I guess we all saw the same SNL skit since that is the first thing that popped into my mind. eeewww like others said. I am happy I have never run across this. And if I heard a woman who was married say this, I would think she was open about having affairs like Bob, my lover versus Steve, my husband kind of thing.:001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SquirrellyMama Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I knew someone who always referred to he dh this way. She would also call him that on the phone, "Oh, hello, Lover..." Maybe it was just sort of a nickname to her and she wasn't thinking of the mental imagery. When I first read "mental imagery" I thought it said "mental injury" :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dangermom Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Love is entirely different from Lover, in my estimation. Love, Luv...fine. I had an elderly great-aunt who would call me Lovie. Irritating, but not icky. Love Machine? A-ok. It's just Lover that gives me the skeeves. :iagree: "Love" and "my love" are totally different. It's amazing what a difference a little R can make! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ipsey Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Oh no! I call my DH "Love" (when I am talking to him). Not lover. And I never *refer* to him as my lover! I agree that is :ack2:. But now I'm all paranoid about "Love"! Is it bad to call him "Love"? Or "My love"? It is my name for him (to his face). When I'm talking to others I always call him "my husband" or use his name. I never, never call him his name when I am talking to him. It feels so unnatural to me!!!! I just can't do it. He calls me Sweetheart, and I call him Love or My love. So give it to me straight... are we horrid?! I'm scared to ask, but I also don't want to be freaking anyone else out! (We use those names in the presence of others also.) :leaving: Oooh, I love "Love". I call my dh that all the time. Maybe I'm horrid too, but I don't care. :) I love it. And yes, I call him that in public too, but I don't refer to him as "my love" when talking to other people. I'm going to try "Sperminator" on him tonight and see what he does. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigMamaBird Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 When I hear someone use the term "Lover" I think swingers from the 70's or something weird like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mytwomonkeys Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 makes me giggle. i don't think i could keep a straight face in that scenario. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KRG Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 When I hear it and when most people I know use the term they are usually referring to an affair or a homosexual relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tutor Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I would think it was sweet and romantic. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassenach Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Oh no! I call my DH "Love" (when I am talking to him). Not lover. And I never *refer* to him as my lover! I agree that is :ack2:. But now I'm all paranoid about "Love"! Is it bad to call him "Love"? Or "My love"? It is my name for him (to his face). When I'm talking to others I always call him "my husband" or use his name. I never, never call him his name when I am talking to him. It feels so unnatural to me!!!! I just can't do it. He calls me Sweetheart, and I call him Love or My love. So give it to me straight... are we horrid?! I'm scared to ask, but I also don't want to be freaking anyone else out! (We use those names in the presence of others also.) :leaving: I use the nickname "Love" with my kids and DH. I don't think it's anything like "lover." I picked it up from friends who are South African. My dad always called my mom Love and he picked it up from a colleague who was British. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I'm going to try "Sperminator" on him tonight and see what he does. :) :lol: If it goes over well are you going to than start talking to others about how you and your "sperminator" are going to hook up? ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Cornelia Snook Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I really needed this thread tonight. Everyone in the family has had at least one bout of crying till they sobbed today (the younger three screamed, too. I wanted to, but the thought of what memories I am giving my children held me back). Except DH, I suppose. Maybe he cried at work, I don't know. I needed to laugh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 (edited) My first thought is that she watches too much SNL!:lol: :lol: Edited September 27, 2012 by LibraryLover Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stripe Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 When I was a kid, I only knew "making love" to mean "having s3x." So you can imagine how horrified I was by the song "Under the Boardwalk." :D I thought people were Pretty Darn Kinky. Well, I always imagined the two of them getting it on under the boardwalk, and ditto for "Brown Eyed Girl," in the green grass, behind the stadium. It was recorded only three years later! :auto: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shellers Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 My first thought is that she watches too much SNL!:lol: That's what I'm thinking! LOL, I think it's funny. If I heard someone say that I would laugh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DaffodilDreams Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 My first thought is that she watches too much SNL!:lol: Me, too! And then my second thought would be "ewwww! Just ick!". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I.Dup. Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Weird and gross. I also don't like "my beloved." All of it is just too dramatic. Just call them by their name. I mean I understand pet names when you're talking lovey-dovey to each other but those 2 squick me out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KRG Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 When I was a kid, I only knew "making love" to mean "having s3x." Me too, so you can imagine the scars I carry from hearing a preacher say 'make love to Jesus' lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Me too, so you can imagine the scars I carry from hearing a preacher say 'make love to Jesus' lol :lol: Oh my. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I have heard it and always thought they meant "the one they share love with" not the person they have s3x with. It doesn't bother me, but I live in the PNW where hippies still live and thrive. :D:D:D:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marylou Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Could you ask her if she kisses her kids on the lips? The Hive needs to know :p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted September 27, 2012 Author Share Posted September 27, 2012 Could you ask her if she kisses her kids on the lips? The Hive needs to know :p :rofl: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I've never thought much about it when I heard women call their husband their lover. Now I will always think of this thread. ;) And I'll probably burst out laughing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted September 27, 2012 Author Share Posted September 27, 2012 I am glad to know that I'm not the only person who has heard this said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
higginszoo Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Is she part of Marriage Encounter? LOL As a ME kid (my parents have been team for 32-ish years), I guess I'm desensitied. I don't use the term, but I'm used to hearing it from my childhood. I have a friend who uses it mostly because it bugs his young adult daughter and it has become a joke between them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan in TN Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Weird and gross. I also don't like "my beloved." All of it is just too dramatic. Just call them by their name. I mean I understand pet names when you're talking lovey-dovey to each other but those 2 squick me out. :iagree: It sounds like they're trying way too hard - like when they start making obvious compliments about their spouse to you, in front of their spouse. "Oh, something I really like about Pete is how he folds his socks on laundry day!". Great...thanks for sharing this week's "Have the Best Marriage in 7 Easy Steps" homework. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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angela in ohio Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 My first thought is that she watches too much SNL!:lol: Yep, we quote that one sometimes... but only to each other privately. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angela in ohio Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 :iagree: It sounds like they're trying way too hard - like when they start making obvious compliments about their spouse to you, in front of their spouse. "Oh, something I really like about Pete is how he folds his socks on laundry day!". Great...thanks for sharing this week's "Have the Best Marriage in 7 Easy Steps" homework. :lol: Yes, this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elizabeth in MN Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Sounds to me like they aren't legally married. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWOB Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I only call dh "lover", and various other names I will not share;) to his face. No one needs to be reminded that we still brew teA. I think the 3 kids are a dead giveaway. I too cringe when I hear the "soulmate" crud. Dh is my sanity-keeper. He keeps me out of jail and mental institutions. That's much cooler than "soulmate".:tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stripe Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 No one needs to be reminded that we still brew teA. I think the 3 kids are a dead giveaway. Indeed. Unless someone wants to ask, "Are you trying for more?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I too cringe when I hear the "soulmate" crud. I knew a woman who went on and on about how her dh was her soulmate, and I have to tell you, it was incredibly annoying. I probably shouldn't admit it, but both my dh and I laughed a few months later when we heard that the "soulmates" were getting a divorce. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SunnyDays Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I knew a woman who went on and on about how her dh was her soulmate, and I have to tell you, it was incredibly annoying. I probably shouldn't admit it, but both my dh and I laughed a few months later when we heard that the "soulmates" were getting a divorce. :tongue_smilie: LOL... it's probably wrong, but that is funny. :D Actually, the first thing I thought of, even before the SNL skit, was the S*x and the City episode where Carrie announces to the girls that she's "taking a lov-ah"... :lol: I think on a particularly snarky day I would gasp and say, "Your LOVER? Oh my, does your husband have any idea??" ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jujsky Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 what would you think? This person will say things like "My lover, Bob. . . " or "I'm going out tonight with my lover." She is not saying it in a joking way and there is no doubt that she's really referring to her husband. I realize that my husband is my lover, but it throws me off somehow when she does this. That would make me....uncomfortable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blakereese Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 My first thought is that she watches too much SNL!:lol: :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Murphy101 Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I'm embarrassed to say I have called my husband Daddy in public more then once and have gotten some strange looks afterwards. It embarrasses me when it slips. :blush5: Weird and gross. I also don't like "my beloved." All of it is just too dramatic. Just call them by their name. I mean I understand pet names when you're talking lovey-dovey to each other but those 2 squick me out. I have always called my dh either Daddy or my beloved. But from here on out, I'm bestowing the title of The Sperminator upon him. Better yet, let's make it very formal and regal official sounding: The Beloved Big Daddy Sperminator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Murphy101 Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Indeed. Unless someone wants to ask, "Are you trying for more?" You know, not a week goes by that I don't hear that question. Or asking I know what caused it yet. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWOB Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I knew a woman who went on and on about how her dh was her soulmate, and I have to tell you, it was incredibly annoying. I probably shouldn't admit it, but both my dh and I laughed a few months later when we heard that the "soulmates" were getting a divorce. :tongue_smilie: I'm mean. I totally would have laughed too:lol:! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWOB Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I have always called my dh either Daddy or my beloved. But from here on out, I'm bestowing the title of The Sperminator upon him. Better yet, let's make it very formal and regal official sounding: The Beloved Big Daddy Sperminator That would be appropriate in your case:tongue_smilie::lol:. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BugsMama Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I totally call my husband "Lover", not so much as in "My lover, bob, and I went to the movies" but I will say "I've got a date with my lover!" in front of my girlfriends and answer the phone with "Hello Lover" 50 percent of the time when he calls. Sometimes its "why hello handsome man" and sometimes its "WHAT!!!???" when its a bad time. I probably annoy the heck out of people. (California born tree hugger) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yslek Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 You know, not a week goes by that I don't hear that question. Or asking I know what caused it yet. lol A bit OT, but I just had to say that I hate it when people ask that ("have you figured out what causes it?") Ugh. I heard a great comeback to this from a woman at a hs thing last year. She said her response is to say, "Well, yeah. That's the best part!" :D Have also never heard of Marriage Encounter before. Off to gooooogle. :auto: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 Better yet, let's make it very formal and regal official sounding: The Beloved Big Daddy Sperminator :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jan in SC Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 If I heard someone say that is a serious way, I would throw up in my mouth a little!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mlbuchina Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 OH MY GOSH. :eek: I could not be around anyone acting like that. LOL I have always called my dh either Daddy or my beloved. But from here on out, I'm bestowing the title of The Sperminator upon him. Better yet, let's make it very formal and regal official sounding: The Beloved Big Daddy Sperminator BWAHAHAHAHA!!!!:rofl: I think if I heard it once, it would give me pause. More than that, and I'd have to ask why she calls him that. I didn't think of the SNL skit, as I had never seen it (thank you, LibraryLover *hehe* for posting the link!), but I did think of the old movie Nina Takes a Lover. I actually like that movie. :blushing: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I.Dup. Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 :lol: Gotta love SNL. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I prefer the term, "Stud Muffin" or "Love Machine" *runs like heck* :lol: I use Baby Daddy or Chai Wallah :lol::lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted September 27, 2012 Share Posted September 27, 2012 I would fall over on the floor laughing. :smilielol5: Seriously. I think I would too. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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