zookeeper Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 If you (or your SO) send a text to each other (just saying something along the lines of "love you, have a good day") and you DON'T get a quick response or even one at all, what are the thoughts going through your head? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plain jane Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 Either that he's in a meeting or otherwise indisposed. Or... I sent it to the wrong number. :o Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Florida. Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 Just that he's not able to respond at the moment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 totally normal, I never know when he will gets a message as he often leaves his phone in the car or has it off or cannot get a signal. He usually cannot get much of any signal at work anyway and isn't supposed to be on his phone as it is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KrissiK Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 Either that he's in a meeting or otherwise indisposed. Or... I sent it to the wrong number. :o :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NancyNellen Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 That he's busy and/or turned his ringer off. He will get back later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zookeeper Posted July 3, 2012 Author Share Posted July 3, 2012 FYI, *I'm* the one not responding quickly enough. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TracyP Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 I would not expect a response. *I* would send a message like that to put a smile on my SO's face, not to get something in return. I'm dying to know who texted whom.:lol: ETA: now I know Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama Geek Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 That he was in the middle of something. I'm not into texting, I still mostly use e-mail, but I don't send him e-mail unless I have something else that he needs to know about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StephanieF Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 You have 7 children! Enough of an excuse? Stephanie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dory Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 totally normal, I never know when he will gets a message as he often leaves his phone in the car or has it off or cannot get a signal. He usually cannot get much of any signal at work anyway and isn't supposed to be on his phone as it is. :iagree: I actually sent an 'I love you' message to the wrong person once and had a client a little weirded out, lol. Of course I didn't know what I had done for a couple days so it just seemed to me that my dh wasn't answering again (which is normal). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zookeeper Posted July 3, 2012 Author Share Posted July 3, 2012 I had a friend send me an "i love you" text one time. She meant to send it to her dh. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathmom Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 Text back "I told that I loved you once. If anything changes, I'll let you know!" :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mynyel Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 If you (or your SO) send a text to each other (just saying something along the lines of "love you, have a good day") and you DON'T get a quick response or even one at all, what are the thoughts going through your head? Me? Nada. Doesn't bother me. There was a time when dh would get all upset and think I was ignoring him or something. I set him straight :) Now he doesn't care. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Durriyyah Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 I typically don't think about it after I send the text. I don't really expect an answer back. Now... this has bothered me in the past when I didn't feel appreciated or noticed. So, at least for myself, the expectation kind of goes hand in hand with how secure I'm feeling in the first place, but that's just me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 The recipient must be busy. Or the message just didn't seem to need a reply. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 He'll get back when he can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Candid Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 That he has no clue how to use texting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 Well, we don't text each other, but I can go for days without calling dh during the daytime. We're both generally busy all day long. If that happens, dh will joke about me not loving him anymore, but it's just a joke. If we did text each other, I wouldn't expect an immediate response to anything except an emergency. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
********* Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 If you (or your SO) send a text to each other (just saying something along the lines of "love you, have a good day") and you DON'T get a quick response or even one at all, what are the thoughts going through your head? I don't expect a response to a text like that. If he does respond, that's nice, but that's not a text that *needs* a response. Plus, my dh is a BUSY guy when he's at work. Sometimes I can't get a reply to *important* stuff, you know? So yeah, no response would be actaully my expectation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 Plus, my dh is a BUSY guy when he's at work. Sometimes I can't get a reply to *important* stuff, you know? That is how it is at dh's work, he is very hard to get ahold of, even if I call the company he cannot usually hear the page so I have to ask someone to hunt him down so I only do that if it is something really important, ie someone died, I'm in labor or a kid is sick enough to warrant a trip to the hospital. If something is going on then he will try to call during the day to check but often he's so busy it is hard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen in CO Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 FYI, *I'm* the one not responding quickly enough. Hypothetically, my dh knows I don't usually respond. I'm busy and have not had my cellphone surgically implanted. I have told him if he needs an immediate response to call me, and I'll pick up if I can or call him back when I can. It took him a few years to quit taking it personally when I don't respond - okay maybe he still does, but at least he quit telling me about it. I also don't leave voice mail messages or listen to them either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 We don't check or answer texts while driving... so I'd assume he's still inside the building at work or driving. He can't have his phone past the foyer of the building (they have lock boxes to put them in so you don't have to leave them in your car) so he never responds unless out for lunch. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DesertDweller Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 If it's him not responding, it's probably because he's in a meeting. If it's me, I'm either outside watering, driving, or vacuuming. Those are the few things that I do that would cause a delay in relizing I had a text. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 Him: busy, in a meeting, on the flight line...whatever Me: uh...where IS that cell phone anyway? I can barely remember to take it when leaving the house (and often don't), let alone having it near me while in the house. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zookeeper Posted July 3, 2012 Author Share Posted July 3, 2012 Looks like I'm not the one overreacting then. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlsdMama Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 If you (or your SO) send a text to each other (just saying something along the lines of "love you, have a good day") and you DON'T get a quick response or even one at all, what are the thoughts going through your head? That he read it? My DH doesn't respond to emails or texts unless it is brief and an actual question. It would be out of character if he did! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carrie12345 Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 "Did you get my text today?" is our near equivalent to "How was your day?" Neither one of us has much chance to sit around texting back and forth most days, and certainly not at matched up times that would enable quick responses! :001_huh: I might be in the garden. I might be bathing a kid. I might be hanging laundry. I might be in the shower. I might be walking the dogs. I might be ON the phone, talking to someone. I might be in the middle of a discipline issue. I might be trying to teach some kids some stuff, lol. My hands might be in the sink. Or on a dirty diaper. Or squishing meatloaf mix. And if I didn't hear it come in, I probably won't see it until I go to make a phone call, or when dh walks in and asks "Did you get my text today?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 Dh knows my phone is on vibrate more than half of the time. Eventually I'll get back to him. I know that dh does a semi demanding job. Lots of hurry up and wait. If he is in a hurry up situation, he will get back to me during the wait. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 Looks like I'm not the one overreacting then. :D You have 7 kids and he wants to know why you haven't answered a text? What does he think you do all day? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 that they're busy and don't have time to respond. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zookeeper Posted July 3, 2012 Author Share Posted July 3, 2012 You have 7 kids and he wants to know why you haven't answered a text? What does he think you do all day? Apparently not what I should be doing which is sitting around waiting for his texts so I can answer them immediately. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimm Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 Him: busy, in a meeting, on the flight line...whatever Me: uh...where IS that cell phone anyway? I can barely remember to take it when leaving the house (and often don't), let alone having it near me while in the house. :iagree: This is us. I would assume he was busy, if I thought about it at all. He would assume I've left my phone somewhere and haven't seen it. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 Dh doesn't text me as I don't keep my cell on- I use email to text him. Dh wouldn't expect a reply for.something like.that. though Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristineW Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 :iagree: This is us. I would assume he was busy, if I thought about it at all. He would assume I've left my phone somewhere and haven't seen it. :) :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bee Happy Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 This rarely happens since his phone is usually near by. But I would assume, he's sleeping, working, or driving. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HappyCrazyMama Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 That he has no clue how to use texting. :iagree: Me too. If I got one I would guess it wasn't from him, lol, and so I would ignore it.:tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 I would assume the person is busy. OP said it was her at fault for being a slow texter. I would advise that if you know this is a push-button issue for dh, to text back quickly. It only takes a second and you can blow off other texts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 If you (or your SO) send a text to each other (just saying something along the lines of "love you, have a good day") and you DON'T get a quick response or even one at all, what are the thoughts going through your head? Nothing at all. Wouldn't phase me a bit. "love you have a good day" is a final word/goodbye or sorts. If I were talking face to face I'd expect a "thanks you too. " or something similar, but over a text, wouldn't bother me if I didn't hear back. I assumed they read it, smiled and got busy with their day. No big deal. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AdventureMoms Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 If either of us don't answer, the first assumption is that we are busy and didn't notice the text. She's likely busy with work, I have three little kids - texts are not my first priority. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forget-Me-Not Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 I just assume that the person is either in the middle of something that prevents them from responding or maybe they didn't hear/see that they had another text. DH sometimes doesn't hear his because he has bad reception at his office. Mine doesn't chime if my text screen is up and the phone hasn't gone back into standby, so I sometimes miss something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ssavings Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 I assume he's busy/with a client/talking to boss/in a meeting/ didn't hear phone. He assumes I lost my phone (again), that my hands are in/on something yucky, or that I'm busy w the kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 Dh and I haven't even been married for 2 years....and we text A LOT. Especially for the last 6 months when we've been apart during the week. Totally get how it is sometimes hard to answer a text. I would take his complaints about it though and use it as a chance to show him he is important enough to me for me to make a conscious effort to do better in that area. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
black_midori Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 That he's busy and/or turned his ringer off. He will get back later. ... if he gets around to it... :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 That he's busy and/or turned his ringer off. He will get back later. I assume he's busy and will respond later. He assumes I've left my phone somewhere. Again. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Food4Thought Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 I'm the one like the OP who gets in trouble for not texting back immediately. I've tried. But I don't carry my phone around in my pocket, and if it's not in the room I'm in, I don't hear it. If I have a dishwasher running, or a kid asking questions, or I'm cooking, or pretty much any other reason, I won't hear it. I've changed my notification sounds, turned my ringer full blast, etc etc. I don't text all day. My DH has had to get used to this concept. He sleeps with his phone. I'm lucky to remember I have one. So, yeah. If someone didn't respond immediately, I'd figure they were like me, and not glued to their phone. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 FYI, *I'm* the one not responding quickly enough. Is he a control freak? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom22ns Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 I assume he's busy and will respond later. He assumes I've left my phone somewhere. Again. :tongue_smilie: :iagree: My phone seems to be wherever I am not. Upstairs, downstairs, the car, the bedroom, the bathroom, the laundry room. Just pick the room I'm not in, and you'll find my phone. Everyone in my family knows that. I also keep the ringer off at all times, so if it is in my purse when I'm out, I may not notice it vibrating. For Dh, if we are apart, that means he's at work. I don't assume he can interrupt work at my whim, but I do expect he'll get back to me when he has a minute. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 I would assume dh left his ringer turned off during a meeting. Dh would assume I couldn't hear my phone. :tongue_smilie: It sounds like your dh is texting you when he needs a little emotional boost during the day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
duckabell Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 I'm not much of a texter, but DH usually gets back to texting me pretty quickly. If he doesn't then I assume he's busy. If I really need something I'll call him, which can be frustrating as his phone doesn't always ring. I have to laugh at the timing of this thread though because my DH had sent me a similar text several hours ago and I didn't even notice I had it until he sent me another text recently. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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