Jennifer3141 Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 I am so very sorry for your incredible loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wyndie Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PollyOR Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 Kari, may the Lord bring peace to your soul today. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:I am sorry you are so sad. It is obvious hou have so much love for him and the pain of missing him is overwhelming. I am so sorry you have to experience this.:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: I hate how losing a child makes every one of your holidays, birthdays and milestones days--days that should be happy days--a grief day. Thinking of you as you miss your son today... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin M Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 Celebrate yourself and him at the same time. Without you, he wouldn't have been born. I know you miss him dearly but he'll be celebrating for you in heaven. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alicia64 Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 My heart just broke reading your post. I am so, so sorry. :grouphug: Alley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danestress Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 What a sad thing. ((((Kari))))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momofsbandeg Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 on your 40th birthday, especially with the loss of your precious son. I turned 40 this year and it didn't bother me on account of myself. But, it did make me think about the limited time that I have left with my parents. Allow yourself grieving time. It is a process and each milestone and celebration without him will bring back that sense of deep loss. I hope you are able to enjoy this day with your family. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 I can't imagine. :grouphug: You are in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 :grouphug: I'm sorry, Kari. It's so hard when you want/need time to get away and grieve, but you can't. You have to keep going, and that can stink. :grouphug: I do pray that you have peace today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 Oh Kari. My heart goes out to you. May you find happiness in all the sadness you are experiencing. Prayers for you ... and Happy Birthday. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenL Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 Many prayers and :grouphug: to you this day. I will say Happy Birthday because if you were not born, you would never have been blessed with your son, nor would you have been able to bless others with who you are to them. You are important to many, including your beloved son, try to celebrate the gift of your life today. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kebo Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 (edited) :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I'm very sorry for your pain. I read something a few years ago about grieving/revisiting traumatic events. The gist of it was that the pain lessens in stages. First the really hard times get spaced a further apart. Then the recovery period is a bit faster. The last thing to lift is the intensity of the pain. For a (long) while, the intensity feels as if the event just happened yesterday. I hope you feel better soon. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Edited April 17, 2012 by Kebo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dolphin Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 :grouphug: and prayers for you. I am sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 :grouphug: I am so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StaceyinLA Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 I'll be thinking of and praying for you today. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 I know it is somewhat irrational. :grouphug: It's not irrational. The smallest realizations can be a locus of grief. I remember bursting into tears that I would never brush my little girl's hair. It doesn't seem like much would hang on that particular point, but that just seems like a sweet, nurturing action for a mother to brush her little girl's hair and it pained me to miss out on it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IsabelC Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 So sorry about your son. Please don't be label your feelings as 'irrational', it's normal as a loving mom who has lost a child to feel like that, and particularly on significant days like birthdays, christmas or whenever. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 :grouphug: I am so sorry Kari. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Peach Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 I cannot imagine your grief. Be gentle with yourself. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 Oh Kari. There is nothing that I can say that can comfort you. I'm so, so sad you lost your son. It's not fair. I can't even imagine. I read somewhere recently that there are names for people who lose spouses or parents, but there isn't a name for a person who loses a child. That's because it's a pain that can't be contained by a label. I pray I don't ever experience that. I've watched my cousin mourn for 14 years and I just can't imagine. Happy Birthday, anyway. Maybe today will just be a fake it 'til you make it day. Try to enjoy your family and your good memories of Tim. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jelbe5 Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted April 14, 2012 Share Posted April 14, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
juelle Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Birthdays are tough. Love to you. I'm so sorry for your pain. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WillametteMom Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 My thoughts and prayers are with you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1bassoon Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 :grouphug: Today is almost over. Which doesn't make tomorrow any easier, but. . . you made it. I'm so, so sorry. Praying. May the God of all peace be very, very near you today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 :grouphug: You are living my nightmare. I am so sorry you are hurting. I also just turned 40, and knowing that my son will have an unnaturally short life and never see 40 himself weighed heavily upon me that day. He's only 11, but his muscular dystrophy has already robbed him of his ability to walk and will eventually attack his heart. I KNOW I'm blessed to still have him, but life is cruel and so very unfair. I am sorry for you today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dtsmamtj Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 :grouphug: :grouphug: T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Merry Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 ........Love to you.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 I am so sorry. I remember all your posts about how proud you were of your son. I hope the pain of losing him is lessening and maybe in a few years, it will just be good memories of him. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 So sorry :( I remember when you were posting about it.... I'm really sorry :( I don't have a similar experience, but just the thought hurts my heart for you :( Really sorry :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in IN Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 Kari, I'm so sorry. :grouphug: I know there are no words to make things better, but hugs and prayers for you tonight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clarkacademy Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 I am so sorry for you. I never had that many years with my little boy so I don't know which hurts more. Imagining him here now or actually knowing what it was like. I just know your not alone and I hope your grief can be overshadowed by all the wonderful times you had with him. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NASDAQ Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Colleen Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 (((Kari))), I'm so, so sorry that this is your reality. There are no words. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Isabella Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 Kari, you've been coming into my mind a lot lately - the mom of Tim, who is 'fovever 21'. Did you celebrate his 21st? I'm so sorry that you're feeling the hurt badly right now...:grouphug:. Maybe you could celebrate his birthdays still with the ones that knew & loved him? Or write a letter or card each year chronicling your feelings for him, and keep it with your mementos of him. Someone on the other thread where a mom was missing her child, mentioned their tradition of letting balloons go on their child's birthday. But, please do know you are thought of, that even strangers think of you, and wonder how you are doing. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melissad2 Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
desertmum Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funschooler5 Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 I am so sorry Kari. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TN Mama Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Kari, I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pod's mum Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 Happy Birthday Kari. My sister and I went out for a pub meal two weeks ago to celebrate my eldest's 18th. She didn't quite make it to her 17th after a very long illness. Today I had another crying day. I'm on my own today and looked through photos of my girls together, listened to sad songs and just let the tears go most of the day. I need days like today though I'm publicly fine. I know nothing stops that empty ache. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 I'm so sorry, Kari. It's not irrational, it's completely understandable. :grouphug: I hope that you can enjoy your birthdays and the others in your family, still. But I don't blame you for feeling the way you do. Maybe on special landmark ones you can do a little something with the immediate family in his honor to commemorate his. Happy birthday, Kari! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twinmami01 Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 Praying for you today. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TXMomof4 Posted April 15, 2012 Share Posted April 15, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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