bettyandbob Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 (edited) I had an interview Friday and you responded to my request and I felt good going in. But I guess I didn't do well. I found out on Saturday that at least one person had been set up with a second interview. It doesn't help that this person was sort of gloating. I just didn't respond to the gloating person, but I was annoyed. That person is always talking about how she doesn't need a job and that her dh thinks her working takes too much time, etc. So, it didn't help to have her try to approach and ask if I'd gotten a second interview. I just ignored her like I didn't hear, I was actually focused on another task so that wasn't hard. This place operates, likely they arranged all call backs immediately after first round interviews, which ended at 1 on Friday. So, I feel like I failed. I had people who spent a lot of time helping me prep. I spent a lot of time reviewing. It's like I wasted all that effort. I am so tired. I've been applying for jobs that are a step or do up from where I am for a year and a half. I think I've applied for 8 positions. Every time I find a local opening I apply. So I usually have a job application open. It's so frustrating. At first I was positive. I could see my applications got further in the process each time. I'm feeling like such a loser now. And I have a short phone interview for another job this morning. This is a job that pays more. But certain things about it make it undesirable. But if you can stick it out that organization is slated for a big expansion in two years. Another wrinkle is I know two other people (both work friends) who are getting phone interviews tomorrow. The place is emailing questions 15 minutes before the interview. One of my work friends asked me to send her the questions after I'm done ugh. I get that she's nervous and needs this job even more desperately than me. She has not been applying to as many jobs as I -- there are less jobs she's qualified for. I put together my own list of questions to help me prepare last night. I sent that to her. Since I made those questions up or got them from Google I think that's ok. I am not going to send the specific questions that I get today. Anyway, I'm depressed. I want to give up. I don't want to go through with today's phone call. I just want to skip work (after phone call) and stay in bed. I don't want to go to work ever again right now. I hate these interviews. I hate rewriting my a job description to match each new job. I hate that I check websites almost daily for new postings. Before Friday, my boss told me that another position at this level will open soon within the same organization. I feel like why bother applying. If I can't get a second interview on this one what's the point. So I'm sad and frustrated and beaten. I will pull myself together to talk on the phone in a couple hours. Edited October 23, 2017 by Diana P. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twolittleboys Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 I am sorry you are having a rough time and really hope the next interview will lead to the kind of job you are looking for. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 :grouphug: Don't give up just yet. I wonder what your boss meant by "soon". I hope your phone interview goes well today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 (hugs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 I'm sorry. Praying that your heart is encouraged soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 I'm sorry :grouphug: No advice, but just want to chime in that your gloating coworker acted like a jerk. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 I am so sorry. I haven't had to search for a job for a long time but Dh has many times since we married and it is so, so, hard and frankly demoralizing. I just hurt for him every time he doesn't get calls back or they say no. (((Hugs)))) something will shake out. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janeway Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 I am so sorry!! This is what my husband has been going through. It has gone on a long time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selkie Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted October 23, 2017 Author Share Posted October 23, 2017 Thanks. It doesn't help that the vast majority of people I'm interviewing with are younger. My boss is younger. Bleah. I was making a joke out of it saying applying for jobs was my hobby, but I think I can't laugh anymore. I took a shower, got my stuff ready to get to work after the phone call. Now, I'm looking through my notes and gathering my thoughts for the interview. Here I go again. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halftime Hope Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 Best wishes, Diana! What you are going through is so, so hard. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: This can feel spirit-killing, but try not to lose hope! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 I'm sorry. I keep hearing that job opportunities are getting better and easier, but almost every person I know of who has job searched in the past two years has had a really, really difficult time of it. Great candidates are barely given a glance sometimes. It is really baffling! I hope the perfect job is right around the corner for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 I think it's unusual you know so many people interviewing for the same jobs as you? I'm sure that is especially discouraging if others are having success? Have you considered brushing up your interview skills? You could just google and see what you find. There are a bunch of videos out on you tubes with tricks of the trade. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Okra Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 Hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 Best wishes for today and hugs for your last experience. :grouphug: I hope when you look back on things you end up glad that some things fell through because you ended up with the perfect job. It may or may not happen, but that's my hope. In the meantime, vent away. You're experience is certainly vent-worthy. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 Just a note of encouragement......I applied for LOTS of jobs before starting to get interviews after 10 years of not working. And even then, I interviewed at several places before being offered a position. Don't let one "rejection" discourage you. Sometimes I am amazed at who DOES get hired when I didn't get the job. I think sometimes they are looking for something specific I can't provide (a male, someone who speaks a certain language, someone who is the ethnicity of the community, etc....) and I can't really make myself into something else, so....... Hoping you find something else even better! 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimm Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 :grouphug: Hang in there. The job search is SO demoralizing. I watched my husband job search for about a year and a half (he had job searched casually much longer, but that's about how long he took it seriously). But he finally got a job he loves and no longer comes home from work feeling defeated and hopeless. Eventually something will happen for you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reefgazer Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 It's a numbers game; keep applying and keep interviewing and you will get a job. Chin up, you learn something from every job interview, and good luck with your next one! I had an interview Friday and you responded to my request and I felt good going in.But I guess I didn't do well. I found out on Saturday that at least one person had been set up with a second interview. It doesn't help that this person was sort of gloating. I just didn't respond to the gloating person, but I was annoyed. That person is always talking about how she doesn't need a job and that her dh thinks her working takes too much time, etc. So, it didn't help to have her try to approach and ask if I'd gotten a second interview. I just ignored her like I didn't hear, I was actually focused on another task so that wasn't hard. This place operates, likely they arranged all call backs immediately after first round interviews, which ended at 1 on Friday.So, I feel like I failed. I had people who spent a lot of time helping me prep. I spent a lot of time reviewing. It's like I wasted all that effort.I am so tired. I've been applying for jobs that are a step or do up from where I am for a year and a half. I think I've applied for 8 positions. Every time I find a local opening I apply. So I usually have a job application open. It's so frustrating. At first I was positive. I could see my applications got further in the process each time.I'm feeling like such a loser now.And I have a short phone interview for another job this morning. This is a job that pays more. But certain things about it make it undesirable. But if you can stick it out that organization is slated for a big expansion in two years.Another wrinkle is I know two other people (both work friends) who are getting phone interviews tomorrow. The place is emailing questions 15 minutes before the interview. One of my work friends asked me to send her the questions after I'm done ugh. I get that she's nervous and needs this job even more desperately than me. She has not been applying to as many jobs as I -- there are less jobs she's qualified for. I put together my own list of questions to help me prepare last night. I sent that to her. Since I made those questions up or got them from Google I think that's ok. I am not going to send the specific questions that I get today.Anyway, I'm depressed. I want to give up. I don't want to go through with today's phone call. I just want to skip work (after phone call) and stay in bed. I don't want to go to work ever again right now.I hate these interviews. I hate rewriting my a job description to match each new job. I hate that I check websites almost daily for new postings.Before Friday, my boss told me that another position at this level will open soon within the same organization. I feel like why bother applying. If I can't get a second interview on this one what's the point.So I'm sad and frustrated and beaten.I will pull myself together to talk on the phone in a couple hours. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyoffive Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 Some great advice here. I am so sorry you feel down about it. I do think it has to be so much harder knowing people who are interviewing for the same job. That is so hard. Keep your head up and keep applying. You have worth and you will find the right job for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 (hugs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 I know it is frustrating. I have dipped my toe into getting back in the workforce and I was quite depressed that I didn't get called back for a 2nd interview to be the front desk person at the y who checks your ID. I do remember from my corporate days that job hunting is frustrating and challenges one's ideas about themselves. Keep applying and the right job will eventually show up. Chin up and virtual hug. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 It took both my daughter and son in law a long time with lots of applications and for my son in law, lots of interviews. In the end, he went through temp agencies and there was a bidding war for him. He will be temp for three months and then turn into permanent. However, the guy interviewing him said, they may very well buy out the contract of the temp agency and get him on permanent really soon. He was getting depressed too and then it turned around and people fighting to get him. I hope your situation gets better. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valley Girl Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 I've been through the job hunt process with DH often enough to know how utterly defeating it can feel. Hugs to you. Just know that the collective good wishes of the Hive are behind you on this next phone call. Best of luck. You WILL find something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 It takes forever, doesn't it? It's so hard to face this kind of thing. But, every job you don't get just brings you that much closer to the one that you do! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
East Coast Sue Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 (((Hugs))) I haven't had any response to my recent job applications. It's depressing for sure. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted October 23, 2017 Author Share Posted October 23, 2017 I think it's unusual you know so many people interviewing for the same jobs as you? I'm sure that is especially discouraging if others are having success? Have you considered brushing up your interview skills? You could just google and see what you find. There are a bunch of videos out on you tubes with tricks of the trade. It's not that unusual. There are an army of us working part time. Most us work for at least two employers in the area often jumping around every couple of years to get a wage increase. So everyone knows probably half the people who apply. My boss said just by applying the higher ups are getting to know me. Makes it sound like figure skating-- can't get the gold medal if you just suddenly be appear out of nowhere at the Olympics. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted October 23, 2017 Author Share Posted October 23, 2017 Morning phone interview was ok. If I don't get an in person interview it likely means they decided before doing the interviews and are going through the motions. My ds's school called about scheduling an IEP meeting right as the interview call was come in. That was nerve racking. I just said bad time to talk and hung up. I'll just keep chugging along I guess. Thank you for the support. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanier.1765 Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbgrace Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 :grouphug: I'm sorry. I hope something right comes through very soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OrganicJen Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 I used to work as a corporate recruiter a very long time ago, and I explained to the candidates who didn't get hired that the person doing the hiring has an image in their mind of their employee and what skills or experience or whatever they have, before they even begin looking. They are looking for someone who most closely fits their image and when someone doesn't, it isn't a negative reflection on them at all and the hiring manager or whoever didn't have a negative opinion of that candidate. Try not to take it personally, the right fit is out there. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lmrich Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 HUGS - hoping that everytime the job does not work out, it is because there is a better one waiting for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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