Guest Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 (edited) Geez Louise. All my serious relationships were with oldest or only boys and their moms were always fine or awesome. In-laws take time. Just like step families take time. Time lotsâ€‹ of time. OP she does need to do her due diligence to make a relationship with her future mil if, indeed, she is sure she's going to marry this man. She absolutely has a responsibility to be the other half and that relationship (mil, Dil) and not just expect Grace's to flow down from on high. If it turns out mil is a sour old lady and there won't be much of a relationship, well, she tried. Meanwhile, the boyfriend has to run interference. Whether he sees the problem as such, or not. Both of those things need to happen and they both take time. ETA... Oh and I think it's normal what she said about not being really ready for this. For a grown up child and a Dil on the horizon with all that entails. It's a pretty big deal. People say "I'm not ready" when their kids go to school, too, but it doesn't mean they are holding them back. It's just a thing people say to communicate "oh my god I have a grown up. How did that happen?!" ...And of course she leans on her dh. That's what dhs are good for. Edited April 24, 2017 by OKBud Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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