celticmom Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Me too. Congrats...and just don't say anything. They will figure it out...and when they do, you can say why you kept it a secret. Maybe, by then dh will have a job....and you can relax and enjoy your baby. Prayers and :grouphug:Faithe :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErinE Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 Congratulations! What a blessing to you, your husband, and your family! And hugs for the tough situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dustybug Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I have been there and I only have 3 children! Congratulations! And anyone who would say that they hope you miscarry is a sad, disgusting individual. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiebird Posted December 29, 2011 Author Share Posted December 29, 2011 Thank you, everyone! I have tears in my eyes as I write this. You are all very uplifting! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CalicoKat Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 Congratulations! What a blessing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 Well, I suppose you don't have to tell them, and with any luck, your dh will get a job and you'll be moved out of their basement before they ever get a chance to hear the new one's cries from below. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MHowell Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 And anyone who would say that they hope you miscarry is a sad, disgusting individual. :glare: :iagree::iagree::iagree: Congrats! And :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
astrid Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 Congratulations! Your ILs may not be happy, but you don't need their validation in order to enjoy the new life growing inside who will join your family soon. . No, but she does need their hospitality at the moment. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy, OP, and a prosperous New Year! astrid Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pgr Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 Congratulations!!! A new life is a blessing, I wholeheartedly agree :D, and, at the end of the day, you are only accountable to God. He entrusted you with this new life, and He will make a way. In the meantime, may all the negative comments just roll off your back - it certainly isn't easy...:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virg Posted December 29, 2011 Share Posted December 29, 2011 Congratulations! Babies are always blessings and like my dad told us the other day there is never a "perfect" time to have a baby. You just do it and it turns out wonderfully. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiebird Posted January 2, 2012 Author Share Posted January 2, 2012 bumped this a bit to thank everyone for keeping me in their thoughts. DH had phone calls right before New Years and now has TWO interviews at schools (he was a middle level math teacher and can do general k-8) next week. This is AMAZING after 4 months of nothing at all. Even if the interviews don't lead anywhere, this will hopefully bring some of his confidence back. And maybe I won't have to bring a new little one into the world into this very uncomfortable living situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FO4UR Posted January 2, 2012 Share Posted January 2, 2012 bumped this a bit to thank everyone for keeping me in their thoughts. DH had phone calls right before New Years and now has TWO interviews at schools (he was a middle level math teacher and can do general k-8) next week. This is AMAZING after 4 months of nothing at all. Even if the interviews don't lead anywhere, this will hopefully bring some of his confidence back. And maybe I won't have to bring a new little one into the world into this very uncomfortable living situation. Praying that your dh gets a great job, and things get back to normal for your family.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pretty in Pink Posted January 2, 2012 Share Posted January 2, 2012 Congratulations on your pregnancy! I didn't read the whole thread so maybe it's already been said, but I just wouldn't tell anyone about the pregnancy. I would keep my lips sealed and wait until it was so obvious that someone asked me point blank. Maybe by then you'll be out of their house anyway. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jhschool Posted January 2, 2012 Share Posted January 2, 2012 I want to re-send the 1. Congratulations 2. Prayers for your husband's job 3. Prayers for your whole family Pick a name for baby! If it's a girl you could call her Hope! The truth is I am jealous! I wish I were pregnant! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiebird Posted March 11, 2012 Author Share Posted March 11, 2012 bumping this- :grouphug: This thread, my husband, my kids, and the kids' religious education teacher at church still remain the only ones that have congratulated me on this baby. Everyone else has scolded me, given me opinions on birth control, or otherwise told me they hope for my sake, the baby doesn't go to term so I don't have another mouth to feed and to not get the shots the OB suggested to maintain the pregnancy. :sad: I had my second ultrasound, and she is a little girl :001_smile:. She is halfway there. I need a shot every week to try and keep her in, so as a side of that, I have had the chance to hear her heartbeat every week. Thank you, everyone, and I hope the next 15-20 weeks are uneventful and boring, Ha! I just kind of felt like telling someone in the world besides DH that she's a girl. (The kids will be surprised because she'll be a tie-breaker.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 … Everyone else has scolded me, given me opinions on birth control, or otherwise told me they hope for my sake, the baby doesn't go to term so I don't have another mouth to feed and to not get the shots the OB suggested to maintain the pregnancy. :sad: I had my second ultrasound, and she is a little girl :001_smile:. She is halfway there. I need a shot every week to try and keep her in, so as a side of that, I have had the chance to hear her heartbeat every week. Thank you, everyone, and I hope the next 15-20 weeks are uneventful and boring, Ha! I just kind of felt like telling someone in the world besides DH that she's a girl. (The kids will be surprised because she'll be a tie-breaker.) :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:. I am so sorry you have recieved so much meanness. :hurray::hurray::hurray: Congratulations on your new (half way there) baby girl. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MSNative Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 :grouphug: to you that people are being pills. :party::party: for your new little baby girl. She is a blessing! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mabeline Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 Congratulations on your baby girl! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meggie Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:I am so sorry people have been mean to you. It makes me sick. What a terrible thing to tell someone who's pregnant. As long as you and your husband and your other children love this baby and each other, that's all you need. We'll be praying for you. Congrats on having a girl. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FlyingMOm Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 Congratulations! Girls are just so much fun! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AuntieM Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Only a few months to go before everyone falls in love with your adorable new daughter and feels deeply, deeply ashamed for the way they treated you both during the pregnancy. I am sorry your joy is not more widely shared. But I am happy for you, the new life you are home to, and I look forward to reading about the many wonderful ways the Lord is going to meet your needs in the coming months and years. Hang in there, hon! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs. A Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 I did not see this thread earlier, so I'm a bit late in adding my CONGRATULATIONS! A baby is always a blessing, no matter the circumstances. I'm sorry those around you can't see that. :grouphug: I will keep you in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 bumping this- :grouphug: This thread, my husband, my kids, and the kids' religious education teacher at church still remain the only ones that have congratulated me on this baby. Everyone else has scolded me, given me opinions on birth control, or otherwise told me they hope for my sake, the baby doesn't go to term so I don't have another mouth to feed and to not get the shots the OB suggested to maintain the pregnancy. :sad: I had my second ultrasound, and she is a little girl :001_smile:. She is halfway there. I need a shot every week to try and keep her in, so as a side of that, I have had the chance to hear her heartbeat every week. Thank you, everyone, and I hope the next 15-20 weeks are uneventful and boring, Ha! I just kind of felt like telling someone in the world besides DH that she's a girl. (The kids will be surprised because she'll be a tie-breaker.) Congrats! What a pain to have to deal with the rude people. Regardless of your situation or their opinions, the only polite thing to say to a pregnant woman is congrats and to wish her well. Any chance of applying to public housing or something so you won't have to live with people like that any longer? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LG Gone Wild Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 Did you say that people are hoping your baby dies in utero so that you don't have feed it?! Sorry but that warrants a "WT(you get the idea)!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 :grouphug: I will keep you in my prayers...as one mom of 7 to another....:grouphug::grouphug: Babies are wonderful! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyinTN Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 Praying for you and your littlest blessing. :group hug: I hope your husband will find a great job and you can leave that negativity behind..far behind. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama Geek Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 :grouphug: and prayers for your family and your new little one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cottonmama Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: It's heartbreaking that the people around you refuse to love and welcome the beautiful little girl you are carrying. I pray they won't steal the joy that's rightfully yours! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 bumping this- :grouphug: This thread, my husband, my kids, and the kids' religious education teacher at church still remain the only ones that have congratulated me on this baby. Everyone else has scolded me, given me opinions on birth control, or otherwise told me they hope for my sake, the baby doesn't go to term so I don't have another mouth to feed and to not get the shots the OB suggested to maintain the pregnancy. I'm so sorry to hear that people are being so mean. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: It makes me so angry to know that even your husband's own family isn't ready to welcome your new baby girl. :angry: But please know that we are all so happy for you, and we are praying for both your health and the health of the baby. I cannot imagine ever wishing a miscarriage on anyone, ever, even if it was the meanest, nastiest person in the world. What a horrible thing to wish on someone. I truly can't imagine how awful a person you would have to be to want something bad to happen to someone's baby. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: BTW, has your dh had any luck finding a job yet, so you can get out of your in-laws' house? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hannah C. Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Congratulations on your little girl in utero! Your in-laws sound truly toxic. I hope your finances improve so you can get far far away from them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nova147 Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 Congratulations! I'm so sorry you aren't getting emotional support. While our situation was not as intense as yours, I got many of the same comments when I got pregnant with #4. It is so painful. I will keep you and your family in prayer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
southcarolinamom Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Congratulations on a girl!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimmy Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 That sounds stressful :(. Congratulations on the little one! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsBasil Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 Congratulations on the little girl! Sorry your in laws are so awful, hope you can get away from them soon. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lotsofpumpkins Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 Congratulations! :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
indigomama Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 Congratulations on your little girl!!! I will be praying that your husband will find a job soon that will enable you to get away from those horrible negative people. In the meantime, I would also suggest that you look into housing assistance just to get away form such negativity. Blessings! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moxie Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 bumping this- :grouphug: This thread, my husband, my kids, and the kids' religious education teacher at church still remain the only ones that have congratulated me on this baby. Everyone else has scolded me, given me opinions on birth control, or otherwise told me they hope for my sake, the baby doesn't go to term so I don't have another mouth to feed and to not get the shots the OB suggested to maintain the pregnancy. :sad: I had my second ultrasound, and she is a little girl :001_smile:. She is halfway there. I need a shot every week to try and keep her in, so as a side of that, I have had the chance to hear her heartbeat every week. Thank you, everyone, and I hope the next 15-20 weeks are uneventful and boring, Ha! I just kind of felt like telling someone in the world besides DH that she's a girl. (The kids will be surprised because she'll be a tie-breaker.) Congratulations on the baby girl! Sorry about your horrible family. Anyone who wished harm on my child would be cut from my life like a cancer (or wish they were :mad:). That would not be a day they would soon forget! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 I hope you miscarry? Who the heck would hope for the death of a baby? I don't get it. :grouphug:N i hope your situation turns around for you soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiebird Posted March 11, 2012 Author Share Posted March 11, 2012 (edited) Thank you! I do feel blessed. My husband has not found a job in his field yet, but this is just starting the beginning of his hiring season. He's going to look in other fields by summer. We now are back on our feet with just the unemployment and my babysitting money, and we have a car paid off, but we are still living with his family. We looked into housing assistance at first, but so many people are on that list in this county, it would be awful. (And things always seem to run strange in Cook County, IL.) I believe God is waiting to guide us to an area that we will love as a family. I am curious to what is in store for us. It's hard not to have questions, but I need to trust Him. Just thinking now- our move here, while unpleasant for the year, has done two things for us. It has solidified my resolve to homeschool when I'd been having doubts in April and May of last year. Having no options but to send them to public school has set that in stone. And secondly, I am within 5 blocks walking distance from a hospital that is helping me on a sliding fee basis for the baby care, and it makes it easy to go for my shot each week. I am a mile from a high level NICU at a children's hospital if needed, and I am not very far from about 3 or 4 more (I am in a little suburb surrounded on three sides by Chicago.) On top of this, we are enjoying being at DH's childhood parish for Mass, and I discovered that a woman I'd made friends with at the library (I saw her homeschooling her older son mid-day and we bonded over that) is the wife to the pastor of a Methodist church down the road where my kids have scouts. They have both been a kind ear. It is just amazing how His hand is weaving all this together. I know in my heart we don't belong in the city, but at least outside of the house, I've found things to keep me going. I guess I have to learn to quit being so impatient, but it's hard! :lol::lol: Edited March 11, 2012 by prairiebird Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 bumping this- :grouphug: This thread, my husband, my kids, and the kids' religious education teacher at church still remain the only ones that have congratulated me on this baby. Everyone else has scolded me, given me opinions on birth control, or otherwise told me they hope for my sake, the baby doesn't go to term so I don't have another mouth to feed and to not get the shots the OB suggested to maintain the pregnancy. :sad: I had my second ultrasound, and she is a little girl :001_smile:. She is halfway there. I need a shot every week to try and keep her in, so as a side of that, I have had the chance to hear her heartbeat every week. Thank you, everyone, and I hope the next 15-20 weeks are uneventful and boring, Ha! I just kind of felt like telling someone in the world besides DH that she's a girl. (The kids will be surprised because she'll be a tie-breaker.) I am so sorry for you. There are some very sick people in ypur life. Focus on the blessing and refuse to think about these toxic people. Please. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teachin'Mine Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 It's a girl!!!! :party: So glad to hear that you and the baby are doing well! Praying you can go full term and delivery a healthy, beautiful baby girl. :001_smile: Praying your husband's work situation improves and you can become independent from the in-laws soon. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TGHEALTHYMOM Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 :grouphug: First of all, thank you for sharing your struggles! And congratulations!! I have never had in laws and we were threatened with forclosure last fall, when Chase could not take our payment ( their site was messed up, then we were late on the next payment!) That was scary by itself... I had to have surgery for endometriosis, and got pregnant immediately after surgery! We are not Catholic, but believe God is the Creator of all life, and that the methods of controlling it ( which I used to try with no luck!) are not good for our health and may cause miscarriage even without knowledge. I can't imagine how difficult it is on you now, and I hope no one actually wishes you ill. I have been scorned and ridiculed with every child since our 2nd, and our 8th is due in late May or June. I hope you have peace each day in this time, and that your DH finds a good job so you can move out. I have worried about what would happen to us if my dh lost his job, and there is no way I can work or go back to College right now. I have to trust God more than ever. I am having to use a wheel chair to get out of bed now, and can't do much without becoming debilitated and in so much pain. I read that it can be very painful after having abdominal surgery. I have never had this much pain walking in pregnancy. :grouphug: God is with us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 :grouphug: I hope you can let the comments go in one ear and out the other. :iagree: Take good care of yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happyhomemaker Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 CONGRATULATIONS!!!! :D I am so sorry you have to deal with negative remarks about your pregnancy. :glare: Every baby is a gift from God. Do not let others' negativity take away from the joy that this pregnancy should bring. I know it is hard to be pregnant, live with IL, and have dh out of work. BTDT. God worked our situation for good, even though it was hard for a while and it's still not perfect. I know God is with you and working in your situation too. I'll be praying for you and your family! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 :) You are very lucky. If we could afford 7 kids, we would have 7 kids! Feel blessed. So many of us can't do what you're doing! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleIzumi Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: CONGRATS on that precious little gift from God!!! I know you'll get where God is guiding you when His time is right. I hope it's spectacular (to make up for all of this rubbish, lol). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celticmom Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 Congratulations and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trailofsparks Posted March 11, 2012 Share Posted March 11, 2012 Said a prayer for you.... Hang in there. I, too, have negative relatives re our life choices. Stay focused on "the joy set before you" which is the joy of Christ, Giver of all good gifts, and your newest little gift within you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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