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At the end of April, my 44 yo xh married a 20 year old he started dating in January.

 

She is a student at the college where he teaches.

 

How's that for role-modeling for my teenage boys? Our oldest is only a few years younger than his new stepmother.

 

I don't know what's worse - the fact that xh can't have a relationship with an adult, or the fact that she married him. Ew.

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At the end of April, my 44 yo xh married a 20 year old he started dating in January.

 

She is a student at the college where he teaches.

 

How's that for role-modeling for my teenage boys? Our oldest is only a few years younger than his new stepmother.

 

I don't know what's worse - the fact that xh can't have a relationship with an adult, or the fact that she married him. Ew.

 

Ew. {{hugs}}

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And folks, she's homeschooled. Well, she's using a distance course - so it's not a traditional school. Wonder if that'll be brought up as this progresses. There's some speculation that she's not actually 16- but time will tell. She looked fairly age appropriate in the Trump beauty pageant in 2009, so maybe she's just had a rough time since then. Reeeealllly rough time- she seems to have aged about 20 years!

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At the end of April, my 44 yo xh married a 20 year old he started dating in January.

 

She is a student at the college where he teaches.

 

How's that for role-modeling for my teenage boys? Our oldest is only a few years younger than his new stepmother.

 

I don't know what's worse - the fact that xh can't have a relationship with an adult, or the fact that she married him. Ew.

 

I'm sorry. That *is* ew. My father is dating (and sleeping with) someone my age. It completely creeps me out.

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Gross! I found her website (sorry, I forgot to copy the link here!) and it's not that she looks older in just that picture -- she looks older in ALL her pictures. I truly can't believe she is only 16. If you find her website, there is a picture gallery. She doesn't look 16 in a single one of those pictures, and if I were her mother, there is no way I would let her dress like she does. I also wouldn't let her marry a 51 year-old man, but I think for most people that goes without saying!

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I'm sorry, maybe I'm missing something... How is that legal?

 

I got married at 16. The parents (who in this case are obviously not in their right mind) can sign for her to marry. I don't know if it's still the case, but 20 years ago some states allowed marriage at 16 in certain circumstances without a signature from a parent.

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Absolute abuse.

 

She's just started her period. His age peers have stopped theirs.

 

Love is universal and ageless. Intimate love is not.

 

Who is being abused? The 16yo woman? The 51yo man? Or the single menopausal women who didn't have a chance with him?

 

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Who is being abused? The 16yo woman? The 51yo man? Or the single menopausal women who didn't have a chance with him?

 

I don't understand what you mean...intimate love isn't ageless? Sure it is. Call it Juicy Couture meets Viagra.

 

The 16 year old girl is being abused. It's an abuse of power/status/control. Regardless of her professional resume, she's a 16 year old girl.

 

I don't see anything funny about it. :glare:

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The 16 year old girl is being abused. It's an abuse of power/status/control. Regardless of her professional resume, she's a 16 year old girl.

 

I don't see anything funny about it. :glare:

 

Who's laughing? This is not a typical 16yo. She's writing and recording her own music professionally, modeling, etc. I'd be surprised if she'd look twice at most 16yo boys.

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51 and 16? Gross.

 

If I didn't know their ages, the picture of them looks ok. She looks more like late 20s/early 30s and he looks like 30s.

 

But it is disturbing that a 51-yo man is interested in an adolescent. Even waiting two years would have felt more...decent (and not just because of legal age).

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Who's laughing? This is not a typical 16yo. She's writing and recording her own music professionally, modeling, etc. I'd be surprised if she'd look twice at most 16yo boys.

 

You made a joke in the post I quoted. I don't think that sexual violations are funny, or fodder.

 

As I said, her professional resume notwithstanding, she's 16. She's still developmentally, 16. Her brain isn't finished developing even if her boobs are. She's a girl/child.

 

A man who is 51 interested in a 16 year old has problems.

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I think it's crazy. Her parents are younger than her husband.

 

I watched a couple of her music videos and they are quite disturbing. She doesn't have musical talent (but I'm sure plenty of musicians out there don't), but she just sits there rubbing all over herself and it's just really disturbing.

 

I don't think she looks 16 either.There's something not right about the whole story.

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You made a joke in the post I quoted. I don't think that sexual violations are funny, or fodder.

 

As I said, her professional resume notwithstanding, she's 16. She's still developmentally, 16. Her brain isn't finished developing even if her boobs are. She's a girl/child.

 

A man who is 51 interested in a 16 year old has problems.

 

Maybe I haven't heard the whole story? Has she been violated? Did her father arrange the marriage against her will?

I don't know these people so I have no idea about the maturity of either of them.

I thought you were in favor of engaging with the popular culture? They're both involved in the entertainment industry so I expect they are quite steeped in the culture of show biz. They have a shared interest.

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In out current culture a 16-year old marrying a 50+ year old man is weird/gross/disturbing/etc.

 

But several generations ago it was routinely done - even arranged by the young lady's father with very little recourse for young lady if she didn't like the idea.

 

These two look happy.

 

Personally, while I don't think it is an ideal situation for the average 16-year old, I think it is better that they are married than having an affair. I think it is better for any children that come along that the parents are married.

 

Truly this isn't the first May/December wedding the world has ever seen.

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Gross! I found her website (sorry, I forgot to copy the link here!) and it's not that she looks older in just that picture -- she looks older in ALL her pictures. I truly can't believe she is only 16. If you find her website, there is a picture gallery. She doesn't look 16 in a single one of those pictures, and if I were her mother, there is no way I would let her dress like she does. I also wouldn't let her marry a 51 year-old man, but I think for most people that goes without saying!

 

 

I'm sure there'll be some perks and profits to be had for pimping your kid out to a wealthy old actor. :glare:

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Who's laughing? This is not a typical 16yo. She's writing and recording her own music professionally, modeling, etc. I'd be surprised if she'd look twice at most 16yo boys.

 

Despite her job, she's still a 16yo. With a 16yo's ability to reason and make mature decisions. And a 16yo's life experience. A 51-year-old who wants to marry a 16yo has some kind of problem, IMO. Age differences are not always insurmountable, but 35 years, when one of the people is still not even an adult, is not healthy. I'm 44; when I look at teenagers, I see kids. This guy's 51, and sees a 16-year-old as a peer and life partner. And her parents (who are younger than the groom!) approve?

 

If a woman older than me wanted to marry my son in a year and a half, I'd recommend counseling.

 

Wendi

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Despite her job, she's still a 16yo. With a 16yo's ability to reason and make mature decisions. And a 16yo's life experience. A 51-year-old who wants to marry a 16yo has some kind of problem, IMO. Age differences are not always insurmountable, but 35 years, when one of the people is still not even an adult, is not healthy. I'm 44; when I look at teenagers, I see kids. This guy's 51, and sees a 16-year-old as a peer and life partner. And her parents (who are younger than the groom!) approve?

 

If a woman older than me wanted to marry my son in a year and a half, I'd recommend counseling.

 

Wendi

 

:iagree:

 

Gross.

 

He is a sicko

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First- I don't think any parent should sign off on their 16-year-old daughter getting married. And I think it's disturbing that a 51-year-old man would be interested in someone who's not fully grown yet.

 

That being said- when I was 22, I married a man who was 40. That's an 18 year age difference. It was the first marriage for both of us. We are still married. We were both adults. My mother is only 5 years older than him, and my dad is 10 years older than him. I'm really thankful that they were willing to be supportive and give him a chance despite the age difference....they could see that we had similar interests, values, and priorities. I hope if one of my children came to me with an interest in someone markedly older/younger, we would prayerfully and carefully evaluate the situation based on lots of factors, not just age.

 

Just some food for thought- it's not always a dirty old man/trampy young girl scenario. :)

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First- I don't think any parent should sign off on their 16-year-old daughter getting married. And I think it's disturbing that a 51-year-old man would be interested in someone who's not fully grown yet.

 

That being said- when I was 22, I married a man who was 40. That's an 18 year age difference. It was the first marriage for both of us. We are still married. We were both adults. My mother is only 5 years older than him, and my dad is 10 years older than him. I'm really thankful that they were willing to be supportive and give him a chance despite the age difference....they could see that we had similar interests, values, and priorities. I hope if one of my children came to me with an interest in someone markedly older/younger, we would prayerfully and carefully evaluate the situation based on lots of factors, not just age.

 

Just some food for thought- it's not always a dirty old man/trampy young girl scenario. :)

 

Their age difference is double the age difference between you and your husband. She is not a legal adult. She is a young teenager. A man that age dating a girl that young has issues. The girl's feelings have nothing to do with my feelings about it.

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Again, as I said- I certainly don't condone the fact that she is an underage girl. I'm aware their age difference is double mine and my husband's. The reason I felt compelled to post is that people were mentioning other relationships with a lesser age difference and the general tone of the thread was still "Ewwww gross!"

 

I was just wanting to bring a human face to the debate and say that not all relationships with a 10/20/30 year age difference are grossly inappropriate.

 

:)

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I think men who date underage women are sick predators. That is the bottom line as far as *this story* goes.

 

I'm sure he's just after her personality. :glare: My husband's 51, and the idea of him with a 16 year old makes me ill. There's a 13 year difference between us, but that's nothing like 35!

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Me either. I don't think either of them look their age.

 

I think she looks 16, trumped up, bouffant version of 16, :001_huh:

 

I also thinking they are using each other, each for much different reasons. Maybe he will pay for her some singing lessons.

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