I do not give ds money. He has leftover money from summer and some from a small loan this year to pay his on campus expenses. Granted we commute, so much is taken care of anyway. I can, however, see how $75 would go quickly, even in my low cost of living area.
Even over the last few years as a student, I've seen how costs have increased. If our group of friends goes out to eat, it can be hard to get away for under $10, pushing $15 on some days, we go to places where we can linger and chat. Even fast food meals are $6-8 anymore and we do try to eat more healthy than that.
I have no idea how much laundry costs, but even at a dollar a load to wash and dry. If she does 2-3 loads a week, that's $8-12 a month. What about toiletries including feminine products, those can run up costs. Add other sundries to that list and say it runs up to $25 a month, then she has about $12.50 a week for fun. One meal out can use that.
It can be hard to be the one in a group that has to adhere to a strict budget. You miss opportunities and then, yeah, you end up owing people money because they don't want to leave you out. You also make excuses why you can't do things. It may not be one meal, it could be getting ice cream or coffees (which cost an outrageous amount on campus). And it's not always the same group of people, if you want to be involved with diverse groups, there is usually some monetary event involved during the week.
If you don't have it to give, then you don't. If you feel like she needs to provide some of that herself, then there are jobs. If you've agreed to provide funds for activities, then I'd have her track realistically for a few weeks and then negotiate.
I can see how $100 a month would be more realistic. I budget about $25 a week for my own school activities and that doesn't include any household expenses.
Edited by elegantlion, 23 October 2017 - 09:31 PM.