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Hoggirl last won the day on April 4 2014

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  1. Not everyone has a “choice” about the number of children they have. Not every Boomer has made a “choice” about retirement - many are forced into it because of ageism. Someone else mentioned (I’m not smart enough to do multi-quote) Boomers not stepping up to help with the care of grandchildren. My ds has chosen to live on the opposite coast. To be fair, we moved from where his childhood home was in flyover country, but he was never planning to return there anyway, and we are on now on the opposite coast. He has no SO, so I have to assume I am a long way from grandchildren, but if he makes the choice to stay where he is, I cannot afford to relocate and live in California just to help care for grandchildren. Yep, I’m a Boomer, so I might be a tad defensive. My point is that it isn’t always the Boomers who are making the “choices.”
  2. Is it your son who is wanting to come home often or is it your wanting him to come home often? If it is the former, he will likely find out quickly that he neither wants to come home that often nor has the time to do so. Was this an up and back trip in one day? I agree that is a lot and something I would not do frequently (ever). There are going to be many differences between Baylor and Hendrix. Size, student population, school spirit levels, vibe. What was it about Hendrix that appealed to him? ETA: Our ds attended college 1,800+ miles away. Other than his initial move in (so he could have his digital piano), and getting his car to him junior year, he/we only flew. He came home TG, Christmas, and Spring break his freshman year. After that, he only came home at Christmas. We went to him for two TGs. If you are concerned about distance because of challenges related to the ASD, that needs to be discussed with him.
  3. Thanks for clarifying!
  4. @plansrme - kinda harsh. Alabama offers nice merit money for high stats students. I know of at least one boardie’s kid who had a great experience there who had a wonderful outcome. It was a safety and early acceptance for my ds. He didn’t choose to attend, but it has a lot of redeeming features.
  5. I woke up thinking about this thread! So glad he went and has hopefully had enough stern lectures that he will be more attentive to his health.
  6. She will not change. You can only change how you choose to react to her. Easier said than done, I know. I’m very sorry. Is she expecting that you will ask to come up to meet them? And will she be angry if you don’t initiate making that happen? Definitely sounds like a no-win, manipulative situation. Why are you going to visit her? If you feel compelled to reply, I would reply, “Thanks for letting me know your travel plans. We’ll see you [whenever date].” If your son is 16 (as is indicated in your signature), I wouldn’t try to keep anything from him. My fil was an a$$. Not nearly to the level of your mother, however, and his behaviors were different. When ds was little, I did not say anything disparaging to ds about his grandpa. As ds got older, I quit “protecting” fil. If your son indicates he is hurt by her behavior, support those feelings. “I know, son. I have spent a lifetime of being hurt by her. I wish it were different, but she isn’t going to change.”
  7. You fill up the space you have. We downsized and are in a 935 sq ft condo. I finished up going through the entire place yesterday after starting January 1. Took it at a nice easy pace, yet it still got tiresome. I probably purged 300 “items,” but only a third were things that I could donate. Lots of expired food, spices, medicine, make-up, etc. Everyone needs to find a purging system that works for them, but I am a fan of the “a little bit each day,” approach. Good luck to all!
  8. Swarthmore requires the CSS Profile as well.
  9. Does he understand that gaining acceptance to an unaffordable school is going to force him into a gap year? Was the ED school (was it Vassar??) going to be affordable if he got in? I am confused on whether Dad is willing to contribute at all or only for certain schools or ????
  10. What about the University of Tampa? He seemingly qualifies for a scholarship there (though I couldn’t tell if there was a deadline that has already passed for it). It only requires the FAFSA. Tuition is actually lower than Eckerd to begin with. It’s slightly larger than he wants. Idk what area of the state you are in. I have no idea what it’s like - just throwing something else out there to consider.
  11. Thanks. I was finally able to somehow login yesterday evening. The notification of issues was up there today. Wonder what causes stuff like that to happen??
  12. I can get to their website, their articles, etc. However, I cannot get into the forums. It suggested trying to login again, but that didn’t work either. Thanks!
  13. It might help if you listed schools where she has already applied. Some schools are going to have priority deadlines for scholarships that may have already passed - November 1st or 15th are common. As an example, I found a competitive one at Grove City, but it had a November 11th deadline for applying.
  14. @Evanthe - having a child attend somewhere they are excited about that does not require any debt is a huge win on all fronts! I think it IS spectacular! Congrats to all!
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