Teresa in MO Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 My ds is getting married next week. This is my first son, after 3 daughters, to get married. This is also the first out of town wedding, we will be traveling 6 hours away. I love my daughter-in-law to be. They are a perfect fit for each other. My late dh would have loved her also. My dh and ds were very, very close. Out of 4 sons, this ds is so much like my husband. I have had a hard time these past few days thinking that my dh will not be at the wedding. My body reacts physically whenever I am stressed or have anxiety. My dd was sick with a nasty cold last week and we have been trying hard not to spread it around. My other dd came down with it Friday night. Hopefully, it will end there. I can't imagine driving 6 hours with a nasty cold, much less being sick at the wedding. Plus, rain is in the forecast in the city where the wedding will be held. I literally cannot drive in the rain at night. Cannot see the lanes at all. So I have been stressed alot, thus the physical symptoms starting adds more stress and anxiety. I miss my dh greatly. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freesia Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 I am so sorry. That must be so hard. I wish I could access the hug emoji on my phone. Try to do something nice for yourself. Grief is hard. How wonderful that you love your dil to be. One step at a time, ok? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 Aw. I am sorry. I can feel the conflicting emotions.....happy for your son yet missing your Dh so much at times like this. I am really really sorry. And congrats on getting a new DIL. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mominco Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nixpix5 Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 All I can do is send you a big hug. I am so sorry. What a bittersweet day. I am so happy for you that DS is marrying someone wonderful. It sounds like you and your husband loved each other a great deal and passed on that example to your children. What a blessing! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: Such mixed emotions! I can't even imagine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selkie Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 Hugs to you - it must be very bittersweet. I hope you don't catch your dds' cold! Could someone else handle the driving so that you don't have to worry about it? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 Take some vitamins, Lady. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: And ask people for help. Maybe someone will come with you to do the driving, or offer some crash space so you can go down early. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 Oh I'm so sorry! Praying for a lovely and relaxing wedding. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 hugs... lots of hugs. And Congratulations too. Start taking something like EmergenC or Airborn as well as something with elderberry syrup. In the evenings take some chamomile tea to help relax you. I find that my sleep is greatly interrupted when I'm stressed or anxious and that leads to illness. Good luck. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama Geek Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 I'm so sorry, and also so happy for you. It's bittersweet, isn't it. Most of us are probably going to be widowed someday. We will see what it is like to have our husbands miss a grandchild's baptism or a great-grandchild's graduation. But you have reached this point so prematurely, and that's even harder, I think, than later on. Big hugs to you today. And, go early. Beat that rain and beat that cold. Bring your favorite comfort foods and a drugstore full of preventative stuff, and *relax*. Maybe you can stave off having a cold this time. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junie Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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kwg Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 Many (hugs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 I'm with Rosie, ask for some help. Make some plans to make it easier with the driving and all. :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :crying: :crying: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ausmumof3 Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 :grouphug: And yes to asking for help with driving. Much safer... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlsdMama Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Praying for you Teresa. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan in KY Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 I second EmergenC/Airborne and elderberry. Take them often and for as long as you are stressed or until you can crash after the wedding. It will help a lot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 I'm sorry. Is there any way you can leave a day early, and even stop somewhere overnight half-way? I get it, somewhat. We have a different situation but there are similarities. I hate driving in bad weather, doing all the driving myself, having to solve everything by myself, etc. etc. And at the same time trying to be happy for everyone else and wanting so much to just enjoy the event. I've learned to allow myself wide margins. So in this case I'd try and leave half a day early, take it slowly, and find a hotel along the way that has a hot tub and a glass of wine. :) If you're really worried about driving on the night of the wedding, can someone else drive you once you are there? Can you take a Lyft, or have one of your other children drive? These are all things I'd be worried about too. You take care. I'm sure it will be a beautiful event. You must be so happy for your ds and future DIL. Congratulations! Many :grouphug: :grouphug: to you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 Huge hugs :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vintage81 Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann.without.an.e Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JFSinIL Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 Do you intend to drive home that night, or stay nearby at a motel and drive home next day? That is what I would do. Plus share driving with any kids old enough and healthy enough to do so safely. Hope it is a lovely day. I am sure your son misses his dad too for his big day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GailV Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 :grouphug: I hope you can find ways to care for yourself. I wish there was something concrete we could do for you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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