MercyA Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 (edited) Okay, my daughter is being a bit stubborn. I was fed up with the selection of girls' shorts this summer--some are so short that the pockets hang out the bottom, and they are pretty much all tight. She likes to be comfortable. She likes pockets. She likes to be modest. So I bought her these: http://www.gymboree.com/shop/item/boys-denim-cargo-shorts-140165165 http://www.gymboree.com/shop/item/boys-the-easy-on-short-140164920 http://www.hm.com/us/product/66311?article=66311-A&cm_vc=SEARCH She admits they fit fine. These will be worn with her large selection of glittery, girls tees with unicorns and butterflies and all that good stuff on them. Justice is her favorite brand, IYKWIM. She has long hair and loves jewelry and sparkly headbands. She is worried that she won't look feminine. What says the Hive? ETA: She also wants your opinion on her sweatpants. She just found out those are boys', too. ;) Edited June 6, 2017 by MercyA 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tanaqui Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 This arbitrary distinction between "boy" clothes and "girl" clothes is a conspiracy by the patriarchy to keep women from having pockets. She'll look like a girl because she IS a girl. But if she's concerned, tell her you'll help her add some iron-on appliques of butterflies and flowers and, I don't know, firebreathing dragons, whatever she thinks is sufficiently "girly". Maybe you can sew some lace to the hems :) 33 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 shorts are shorts I would never look at those and say they are for boys or girls. They are just regular ole shorts. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 The middle short in particular, actually look feminine to me. Maybe it's because dd has some that are similar. I wouldn't give any of them a second look. Fair warning though, I regularly let my 4&5 year old share jean shorts, because I really can't tell the difference unless there is pink stitching or something, which I've only found with Lee brand shorts. On a side note, I think they're all adorable and might have to order some for my kids! :) And tell her sweats are sweats. Oh man. I made myself laugh out loud remembering the post with the lady in high heels and sweat pants. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 How old is she? If she feels embarrassed I say that trumps practicality 25 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 Will she wear boys athletic shorts? My petite teen girls love to wear size 12-14 adidas boys basketball shorts. They are comfy and super cheap compared to name brand adult shorts 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 I think they look fine. I'd wear them myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beaniemom Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 If it helps, my 10 y/o and 7 y/o daughters both said they wanted some like those when I opened the links. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 Bedazzle 'em. FWIW, I was usually able yo get good, modest shorts and pants at Lands End when DD was little. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted June 6, 2017 Author Share Posted June 6, 2017 (edited) Thank you all so much! My daughter is reading your comments with interest. I've had to explain a few things, like the conspiracy against pockets. ;) (BTW, Tanaqui, your comments made her giggle. She loves fire-breathing dragons!) Seriously, you are all very helpful. Barb, she does have quite a few pairs of basketball-type shorts, and they are definitely comfortable, but she would like some denim options, too. She is between 8 and 10 years old. (DH doesn't like me to be too specific online.) Edited June 6, 2017 by MercyA 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 I think they look fine, but I'm not sure that's going to be reassuring to a young girl. I do remember being embarrassed by some of my clothing as a kid. But I do agree that decorating them might help. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Strawberry Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 They are cute! I have some of these put away, waiting for Luna to grow into them. Luna is the spakliest, glitteriest, tutu wearingest girl I've ever seen. I prefer more understated bottoms to go with super girly tops. They work better than the frilly, lacy, sky looking girly shorts. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 (edited) Rather than elastic waist, what about a more fitted style that has the adjustable buttons? The elastic waist can pull weird on a girl especially if she has anything resembling budding hips. ETA: I supposed I should have said tailored rather than fitted Edited June 6, 2017 by Barb_ 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
domestic_engineer Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 I agree with you that girls shorts are so short, but I also agree with your daughter that I'd prefer something more feminine. Could you two compromise by looking at Bermuda shorts or Skorts or skirts with bike shorts underneath? Could you have at-home shorts (that are on the short side) and going-out shorts (more modest)? I know how exasperating it can be to work with a child's logic, but I'd try to find some middle ground before insisting on the linked shorts. Just my two cents. (If you divulge her age and then desired length - fingertip, knee, etc - , then perhaps the Hive can help you find some options.....) 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farrar Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 I was also going to suggest bedazzling or iron ons. I think they look fine. One thing you might do is if they're really long to hem them up, maybe even by giving them a little bottom pleat, which seems feminine to me. The "girl" shorts are very short these days and the "boy" ones are very long. If she feels they look "boyish" then it's probably because they're knee length or just above the knee. She could keep the modesty and have them taken up to a length in the middle that might feel more feminine. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted June 6, 2017 Author Share Posted June 6, 2017 Rather than elastic waist, what about a more fitted style that has the adjustable buttons? The elastic waist can pull weird on a girl especially if she has anything resembling budding hips. ETA: I supposed I should have said tailored rather than fitted I love the ones with adjustable waists, but pretty much all of them have a button closure in the front, and she doesn't like how those feel. She prefers all-around elastic or knit waists. Thanks for the note on elastic waists and hips! Not a concern now, but probably will be before too long! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
domestic_engineer Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 FWIW, I was usually able yo get good, modest shorts and pants at Lands End when DD was little. Another vote for Land's End ... although this year their Bermuda shorts seemed really tight. So maybe look for used Land's End shorts which would pull from previous seasons with more relaxed legs? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 (edited) Gap has some cute longer denim shorts for girls--even knee length. It's pretty easy to find coupons or sales for 40-50% off, especially on the weekends. http://www.gap.com/browse/category.do?cid=14403&departmentRedirect=true&mlink=6256,13425078,DP_Main_G_Shorts&clink=13425078#department=48 Scroll down. They are sorted by length And I see some elastic waists :) Edited June 6, 2017 by Barb_ 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 If they're comfy then they're perfect, imo! Jeans are often "just jeans" and don't need to be embellished. The rest of the outfit is what makes it feminine. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted June 6, 2017 Author Share Posted June 6, 2017 I agree with you that girls shorts are so short, but I also agree with your daughter that I'd prefer something more feminine. Could you two compromise by looking at Bermuda shorts or Skorts or skirts with bike shorts underneath? Could you have at-home shorts (that are on the short side) and going-out shorts (more modest)? I know how exasperating it can be to work with a child's logic, but I'd try to find some middle ground before insisting on the linked shorts. Just my two cents. (If you divulge her age and then desired length - fingertip, knee, etc - , then perhaps the Hive can help you find some options.....) Before this summer, we've done mostly skirts or dresses with bike shorts underneath, but they are getting harder to find as she gets older. The skirts and dresses that are long enough to suit me (above the knee but not super short) are too long for her to wear on her bicycle--they hang down on the back wheel. Also, the athletic shoes she likes look much better with shorts than with skirts. :) I've looked at lots of Bermudas, but they all look pretty tight and a lot of them have that rolled cuff at the bottom, which I think would bug her. She doesn't care for skorts. We'd both like something loose-fitting but longish. Somewhere between fingertip and just-above-the-knee. She wears a size 10. No worries, I'm not going to make her wear them if she's not comfortable with them. It's just that she didn't mind them a bit until I told her they were from the boys' section. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alisoncooks Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 My girls wear longer shorts, and I think the ones in the links are cute! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 they're fine - especially with all her girly stuff. only a clotheshorse would notice they're not this season's daisy dukes. I ended up buying MEN's hiking shorts and convertible pants. I want cargo pockets in my hiking pants - and I want them to be comfortable, not tight fitting where you can barely use the teeny pocket they have. or the hiking pants that convert to daisy dukes . . . 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EMS83 Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 I think it's totally fine, but my DD is in boys' jeans (Levi's 514), and boys' sweatpants, too. She's fine with this, as well. And I was such a tomboy I probably really did look like a boy for a while there, lol. I didn't even bother with sparkles and jewelry (still don't). 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TeenagerMom Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 The only ones of those that my DD would have worn at that age MAY have been the 3rd pair. If you had just posted the pictures without saying specifically which department they came from, I definitely would have still identify them as from the boys department. I think if that bothers your daughter, even at ages 8-10, she should be listened to. It is quite a crucial age for self esteem development (at least for my DD it was). Did you try looking at school uniform shorts? Those tend to be longer, well made, and pretty comfortable. Like these http://www.childrensplace.com/shop/ProductDisplay?urlRequestType=Base&catalogId=10551&categoryId=433014&productId=969457&errorViewName=ProductDisplayErrorView&urlLangId=-1&langId=-1&top_category=47511&parent_category_rn=47511&storeId=10151&departmentId=47511 Believe it or not, Justice can often carry longer shorts also http://www.shopjustice.com/tie-front-bermuda-shorts/prd-6430046 http://www.shopjustice.com/reversible-long-mesh-active-shorts/prd-6450052#color/659 And these have knit waist to be more comfortable http://www.shopjustice.com/knit-waist-denim-bermuda-shorts/prd-9476527#color/606 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 My girly girls would not like the 1st or 3rd options, my dd2(7yo) has a pair similar to option #2 she bought at JCPenney's in the girl's section, they have a bit of tapered fit with cuffs but aren't tight. My oldest 2 girls have very specific ideas about fashion and are very particular about what they wear. Of course I think wear whatever you want, boy/girls/ it doesn't matter BUT I also try to honor my girl's wishes. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Artichoke Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 DD and I agree with your daughter that 1 and 2 are a bit too boyish for our tastes. Target may have something that works for you. Is she old enough to wear women's Old Navy shorts.? Their shorts have pockets and come in several different lengths including 5inch and Bermuda. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 I just want to say that some of my girls actually owned and wore shorts from the boys section of Gap and Gymboree when they were 8-10 or so, but those were clothes they had picked for themselves. I think that makes a difference. Mercy, maybe next time you buy it online, have her try them on without telling her where they came from, then return them to the store if they don't work? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamaraby Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 (edited) My dds wouldn't go for them, but they live in skorts from Land's End. Seeing as I personally hate all skirts and dresses, I'm not sure whose children they are. :p I'd second Justice like the ones a pp posted. These (http://www.shopjustice.com/knit-waist-denim-bermuda-shorts/prd-2880052) are a denim short with a knit waist so no button. On the other hand, if your dd finds them comfortable and otherwise won't wear them because she thinks they don't look girly enough, then I'm with Tanaqui and others - bedazzle/iron on patch/embellish those things. Edited June 6, 2017 by mamaraby 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamakelly Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 My dd would not have wanted to wear those, she would have said they weren't girl enough. You can find longer shorts, you just have to look a little more. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lllll Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 (edited) nm Edited June 9, 2017 by tentwelve 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SebastianCat Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 These shorts from Justice are my almost-13 year old DD's favorite shorts (and others have linked to the same shorts already upthread). They are soft and super comfortable. The only thing she doesn't like about them is that they don't have pockets, but we actually saw something similar this week at Walmart with pockets. We have also found denim bermuda shorts at Kohl's. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
solascriptura Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 My daughters wouldn't wear them. Sorry! I found shorts at Old Navy with a cuffed hem. I just undid the hem so that they're longer. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2squared Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 My 9yo wouldn't wear those, and she immediately identified them as boy shorts. FWIW, 13yo and 10yo boys wouldn't wear them either. My 6yo might wear them, if the waste band is completely elastic. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
foxbridgeacademy Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 DD, almost 14, wears her brothers old camo, cargo, shorts with cute tops and looks adorable. She gets complimented ALL the time. I like the idea upthread of adding stuff to it. Iron ons are cheap and easy, so is a box of markers and an imagination. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie Smith Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 My niece who, I'm told by herself and her parents has TONS of clothes would wear them. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 Those look like awesome shorts! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bolt. Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 (edited) My DDs willingly wear "boys section" clothes, and I have intentionally cultivated a disregard for the labels since they were younger. Children's Place items have helped because I've often found stuff in their boys section that I'd be surprised to see on any actual boy. (ie salmon pink shorts, lavender button-up shirts for Easter.) So, I guess you'd say they are used to it. It helps if I buy an "outfit" with a very desirable top and matching plainer boys' bottoms. Neither my 12yo nor my 9yo have objected yet to the concept. (Occasionally they have rejected certain selections. A couple times, they want something, wear it, then suspiciously don't really wear it any more. Usually is not an issue at alll.) Edited June 7, 2017 by bolt. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 My dd10 only wore boy shorts for years, now it is a mix, but still mostly boys. LOL She liked the way boys fit her better than girl clothes. Better/softer elastic, looser fit (not so tailored), pockets and longer legs. She liked that she could play and roll around, do cart wheels, ride bikes/scooters easier in them..... because they were better designed for active kids. The other nice thing about neutrals, is that they go with everything. You don't have to worry about the wrong kind/color of flower on the pocket, or wearing a purple trimmed pair of shorts with a red shirt. Neutral bottoms are wayyy easier to work with. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 (edited) I think that they look fine, although they do look like guy shorts. It sounds like her top and accessories will pull it together as a feminine look. Her hairstyle will play a roll, too. As a side note, I gave up trying to find a tshirt in the women's department. I don't want low cut, too tight, thin, and too short. So, I buy my tshirts in the men's department because they're more modest. I try to always wear earrings and a small necklace, and maybe a cartigan sweater so that I don't look too much like a guy. :) If I really want to look more feminine, I wear a button down blouse. Edited June 7, 2017 by Fifiruth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebel Yell Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 Keep in mind my girls are much older, and even my very athletic girl prefers clothes that are clearly feminine but not pink (LOL doesn't seem to actually exist :( ) AND we all love superheroes, despise the lack of pockets in girls clothing, and more... but those totally look like boy clothes to me. It could work with the right outfit, but we would still see the shorts as boys clothing. Nothing wrong with it, but not our preference. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 If I could find men's shorts that would fit, I'd be so all over that (pockets, way they look, length, etc.). 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meena Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 (edited) We all wear longer shorts in our family, but DD and DS1 prefer slimmer leg shorts. That seems to be more in fashion now. It's also much easier to be active when you don't have to worry about your shorts riding up or ballooning out. If you're not opposed to a slimmer fit, Justice has knit waist denim bermuda shorts that are cute and look comfy. http://www.shopjustice.com/knit-waist-denim-bermuda-short-/prd-2883896?ref_page=search#color/605 ETA: Ha, obviously I didn't read the replies before posting. Edited June 7, 2017 by meena 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 I have four pretty staunch feminist dd's, but I'd say that these do look more like boy-shorts, and my dd's would probably say that too. Sorry! They'd wear them if they felt super comfortable, but I think they'd rather have something that allowed good coverage but looked more feminine. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 We all wear longer shorts in our family, but DD and DS1 prefer slimmer leg shorts. That seems to be more in fashion now. It's also much easier to be active when you don't have to worry about your shorts riding up or ballooning out. If you're not opposed to a slimmer fit, Justice has knit waist denim bermuda shorts that are cute and look comfy. http://www.shopjustice.com/knit-waist-denim-bermuda-short-/prd-2883896?ref_page=search#color/605 ETA: Ha, obviously I didn't read the replies before posting. Hey the plus size would fit me. I like those! :laugh: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 My girls have had a very distinct taste from the time they were toddlers and it was not because I was trying to make them girly girls. I was never into frofro stuff, I didn't put bows and ribbons in their hair or any of that stuff. But by the time they dressed themselves at 2+ they knew what they wanted. DD2 likes very unusual pairings, like leopard print and strips or something, Saturday for church she wore black leggings, brown fur lined boots, and a light pink lacy vintage looking dress over it all. Dd1 is quite often embarrassed by her style, she likes trendy stuff and is more apt to wear shorter shorts and tank tops whereas dd2 will wear longsleeves and pants when it is 80+ degress outside. A friend recently gave us some hand me downs and neither girl would even touch the girl khakis shorts, I tried to convince them they were ok but they didn't believe me. We do most of our shopping at Goodwill. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xahm Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 Reading this post is like hearing about my own child. I've tried, without success, to avoid the idea that some clothes are only for boys and that everything must be sparkly. If I offered her those shorts, she'd say, "well,I guess I could paint in them." I'm going to remember the iron-on suggestion for when we face this problem. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 Some kids just have stronger preferences. My daughter never liked anything sparkly and never wanted princesses on her clothing, but she had definite ideas about her style. This had nothing to do with what I did or didn't do with regard to clothing. Even now she is pretty fussy and it can be difficult for her to find the right clothing; for example, she is supposed to wear khaki trousers or shorts at work in the summer, but she has a hard time finding what she likes. She is also hard to fit (long-waisted, very slim). Anyway, the more I read this thread and the more I think about it, the more I believe, Mercy, you are not going to convince your daughter that those shorts are OK if she thinks they are not. No matter how many hive aunties say they are great. :-) 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paige Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 (edited) Revolution! If we all quit buying ridiculously short and tight girl shorts they'll quit trying to sell them to us. I think they look fine. My daughters would complain if they knew so I probably wouldn't have told them. I only buy bermuda shorts for them. ETA: I would try to convince my girls that we were fighting the system and resisting the patriarchy. They might get on board with that. Edited June 7, 2017 by Paige 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 Hey the plus size would fit me. I like those! :laugh: They have them in sizes for me too :) The legs look too tight for me though, I'm very curvy so I have to have shorts with loose legs. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LMD Posted June 7, 2017 Share Posted June 7, 2017 Teach her to sew? I think they're fine. But then, we were extremely annoying parents when dd was little, intentionally fighting the 'pink/girly/sparkly/frilly' stereotype... 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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