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  1. We are very fortunate to have secure jobs. Our grocery spend has sky rocketed this month, and yet our take out spend has not decreased. Gas and kid activity related spend is approaching $0, but our Amazon purchases have picked up. I had expected to see a net positive to our bottom line, but it has not materialized. Dh (attorney) said his work is slowing down enough that he is able to clear some of his backlogged tasks. He will have a huge surge when this passes and he can get back to court. My work (corporate accounting) has not slowed down at all, and now we are starting to see extra work related to the financial impacts of the economy.
  2. I assume the 2nd doctor needed to complete a full exam before he felt comfortable signing the permission slip, which is reasonable in my opinion. The doctor's beside manner may have been lacking, but I can see why he would not short-cut the process if he is signing a form that says he completed a full physical.
  3. Sounds like a completely normal exam for your DS. I'm surprised your DD didn't also have a quick check of her genitals to check for signs of puberty, unless the doctor could tell from developed breasts perhaps? By those ages, my kids do not go to physicals together. After about 10yo, the boys have male doctors and my dh takes them, precisely because their genitals are checked. That way dh and ds can discuss what a male physical entails on the way to the appointment. I handle all the female physicals after 10yo, and the girls see female doctors. I have a similar conversation with the girls.
  4. Our schools haven’t closed, but I expect we will do what we usually do, excluding our activities. The kids will hang with local friends, play outside, play games, cook, and get far too much screen time. I find having unstructured time is great for the kids, and after a day or two, they always find interesting things to occur themselves. We’ve had the last days off school, planned non-Coronavirus days. My 9yo alternated between scooter, bike, pretend play, and Xbox. My 11yo spent yesterday working on a painting all day and today she helped me clean and cook. My 13yo spent the day with his two best buddies biking, shooting hoops, and having other boy fun. My 15yo spent his entire day with his Pokémon collection, which he hasn’t looked at in ages, and then he went to a bonfire tonight. My 17yo did college homework and helped me organize. Downtime is great for them and for me. if school is cancelled, they will be home by themselves. Dd’s boyfriend returned from a Caribbean island vacation today. Our biggest decision is going to be if they hangout. If school isn’t cancelled, they will be together at school, so that will make our decision for us.
  5. I would not take any extra kids along, regardless of the reason. Fair = oldest getting to view colleges without sharing time and resources with siblings. Unfair = any siblings going along on the visits. I would leave all the youngers home with the babysitter. If I didn’t feel comfortable with that solution at this point, we would have one parent stay home while the other parent visits colleges. For the record, dh and I do not both go on college visits, so my advice is actually what we do in our family. One parent stays home while the other goes on the tour. The college kid needs to experience the college without siblings underfoot.
  6. I am in love with my stadium chair. The backrest is critical for long days on the bleachers. I have a stadium chair in both vehicles. I also have lawn chairs, blankets, and a poncho in my van as well as sunscreen and bug spray in the summer. I have kids in sports year-round, and I try to always be prepared.
  7. Could part of the issue be he has a difficult time asking friends for a ride home earlier than the group plans on being done for the evening and/or the friends aren’t reliable? If I expect my non-driving kids to be home by a certain time and they don’t have a parent driving them, I make sure dh or I are available to drive. I don’t want them to have an easy excuse for not meeting expectations.
  8. Now I have to ask....What are the curfew and other unreasonable expectations?
  9. Are you sure about the school testing schedule? Our local K-12 public school does state testing at the end of the year. Our local K-8 parochial school does testing at the beginning and end of the year. Neither school would test mid-year.
  10. We insured our first driver as the primary driver of a 13yo vehicle with liability only. Our insurance agent told us it is cheaper to insure her on that vehicle versus having her insured on our other, newer vehicles. We bought her college car this summer, a 2013 Equinox, and her insurance went from $60/month to $100/month. Our second driver will be 16 in 6 months. I expect we will find another teen car for him to drive with liability only insurance. I’m hoping he will be about $100/month. I have found immense value in having my 16yo’s drive. They gain experience and independence, and I am semi-retired from my chauffeuring job. I want my kids behind the wheel as much as possible before they leave home, which is similar to my thoughts on giving them other adult exposures while i still have daily molding access. It’s not just the act of driving, but also the reasons they are driving somewhere and all the decisions that go along with each trip. For instance, my dd wanted to travel to the City for a late-night event with her friends. The event ended at midnight, and it’s a three hour drive home. I told her the trip itself was fine, but they needed to stay overnight so they aren’t driving when tired. if she is out late at her boyfriends’ or the weather conditions are bad, I have her stay at his house so she’s not on the roads. At 16yo I had her drive to the City with me as a passenger to get to a state tournament so she could go back the next day by herself. All those decisions and experiences will (hopefully) help her make wise choices when she’s on her own next year.
  11. Sounds like you are worried your boss won't like you asking for more hours? If so, that's crazy talk. All bosses like to hear their employees want to work more. I would simply be honest. "I really enjoy working here, and if the budget allows, I would love more hours in my current role or another role." "I really enjoy working here. When available, I would like to add another day to my schedule. I am open to another role within the team as well." "I really enjoy working here. Do you foresee an opportunity now or within the next year that would allow me to add another day to my work schedule?" "I love my current role and team, and I would really like to be able to grow more professionally. When possible, I would like to add another day to my schedule, whether on my team or another team."
  12. This is tough. When my teens start dating, I like to be around so I can get to know the significiant other and the two of them as a couple. I want to help mold my kid as he/she enters new relationships. My two oldest started dating their freshman year and are still with those significant others. We are very blessed that both sets of significant other parents are fabulous and have similar parenting styles as we do. At first, we required a parent to be home when they "hung" out at either house. This was fairly easy to accomodate since my kids couldn't drive when they started dating. As we interact with them as couples, their range of freedom expands. I don't see where overly restrictive rules truly help the kids. I want my kids to grow and learn how good relationships develop, and that means they need freedom to grow and make their own decisions. Chaperoning my 15yo has been more difficult just because our schedules don't align as well with when the kids can hang out. Both sets of parents have determined we are OK with them hanging out while siblings are around rather than parents. It's not perfect, but it's either give a little flexibility, restrict their time together, or have my schedule significantly interrupted. My 17yo has been driving for 1.5 years and dating her significant other for 2.5 years. My dd has spent the weekend with his family at their cabin and she's stayed overnight at his house. They are going on vacation together in May and staying with his grandma. I never imaginged we would have been OK with that a few years ago, but it has evolved naturally. Her boyfriend and his family are great. My dd's personal boundaries are excellet. I have no issues with her romantic decisions, and I have no issues with how their freedom has evolved. They have certainly earned our trust.
  13. Really? Is this because the default assumption is that teen boys are sex predators? If so, I find that extremely disturbing and offensive, particularly as the parent of three sons.
  14. Agreed. Anything longer is going to be dorky. What is the actual concern with 2.5" inseam shorts? Is it concern over seeing underwear? Is it concern over seeing a part of the leg? If we could narrow down the actual concern, perhaps we could offer solutions. For instance, some of my dd's running shorts (with 2.5" or less inseam) have built in underwear. Two layers provides less risk of seeing undergarments. Another option - wearing thong underwear would make the undergarments virtually invisible. If concern is seeing part of the leg, then compression shorts are probably the answer, but those are likely to put her in outlier territory. In my experience, dressing like an outlier in high school does far more damage long-term than any 2.5" inseam shorts or tighter jeans could do.
  15. Our booster club covers those expenses. I wouldn't expect a non-parent coach to pay their own travel expenses. For K-6, our wrestling booster club also covers entrance fees for kids whose parents can't afford it. For 7-12, our booster club covers expenses the high school won't cover, which includes team travel expenses. The boosters also cover camp fees, transportation, and gear (team shirts, bags, etc) for kids who don't have the resources to cover those expenses. We don't turn anyone away, and everyone gets equal coaching and opportunities. Booster clubs for my kids' other activities opperate the same way, but I'm not as close the actual booster leadership. Regardless, coaches don't pay their own travel and we aren't assessed any fees to cover. We do donate heavily to all activities so we do cover our kids' portion by the time it is all said and done.
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