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  1. I am in love with my stadium chair. The backrest is critical for long days on the bleachers. I have a stadium chair in both vehicles. I also have lawn chairs, blankets, and a poncho in my van as well as sunscreen and bug spray in the summer. I have kids in sports year-round, and I try to always be prepared.
  2. Could part of the issue be he has a difficult time asking friends for a ride home earlier than the group plans on being done for the evening and/or the friends aren’t reliable? If I expect my non-driving kids to be home by a certain time and they don’t have a parent driving them, I make sure dh or I are available to drive. I don’t want them to have an easy excuse for not meeting expectations.
  3. Now I have to ask....What are the curfew and other unreasonable expectations?
  4. Are you sure about the school testing schedule? Our local K-12 public school does state testing at the end of the year. Our local K-8 parochial school does testing at the beginning and end of the year. Neither school would test mid-year.
  5. We insured our first driver as the primary driver of a 13yo vehicle with liability only. Our insurance agent told us it is cheaper to insure her on that vehicle versus having her insured on our other, newer vehicles. We bought her college car this summer, a 2013 Equinox, and her insurance went from $60/month to $100/month. Our second driver will be 16 in 6 months. I expect we will find another teen car for him to drive with liability only insurance. I’m hoping he will be about $100/month. I have found immense value in having my 16yo’s drive. They gain experience and independence, and I am semi-retired from my chauffeuring job. I want my kids behind the wheel as much as possible before they leave home, which is similar to my thoughts on giving them other adult exposures while i still have daily molding access. It’s not just the act of driving, but also the reasons they are driving somewhere and all the decisions that go along with each trip. For instance, my dd wanted to travel to the City for a late-night event with her friends. The event ended at midnight, and it’s a three hour drive home. I told her the trip itself was fine, but they needed to stay overnight so they aren’t driving when tired. if she is out late at her boyfriends’ or the weather conditions are bad, I have her stay at his house so she’s not on the roads. At 16yo I had her drive to the City with me as a passenger to get to a state tournament so she could go back the next day by herself. All those decisions and experiences will (hopefully) help her make wise choices when she’s on her own next year.
  6. Sounds like you are worried your boss won't like you asking for more hours? If so, that's crazy talk. All bosses like to hear their employees want to work more. I would simply be honest. "I really enjoy working here, and if the budget allows, I would love more hours in my current role or another role." "I really enjoy working here. When available, I would like to add another day to my schedule. I am open to another role within the team as well." "I really enjoy working here. Do you foresee an opportunity now or within the next year that would allow me to add another day to my work schedule?" "I love my current role and team, and I would really like to be able to grow more professionally. When possible, I would like to add another day to my schedule, whether on my team or another team."
  7. This is tough. When my teens start dating, I like to be around so I can get to know the significiant other and the two of them as a couple. I want to help mold my kid as he/she enters new relationships. My two oldest started dating their freshman year and are still with those significant others. We are very blessed that both sets of significant other parents are fabulous and have similar parenting styles as we do. At first, we required a parent to be home when they "hung" out at either house. This was fairly easy to accomodate since my kids couldn't drive when they started dating. As we interact with them as couples, their range of freedom expands. I don't see where overly restrictive rules truly help the kids. I want my kids to grow and learn how good relationships develop, and that means they need freedom to grow and make their own decisions. Chaperoning my 15yo has been more difficult just because our schedules don't align as well with when the kids can hang out. Both sets of parents have determined we are OK with them hanging out while siblings are around rather than parents. It's not perfect, but it's either give a little flexibility, restrict their time together, or have my schedule significantly interrupted. My 17yo has been driving for 1.5 years and dating her significant other for 2.5 years. My dd has spent the weekend with his family at their cabin and she's stayed overnight at his house. They are going on vacation together in May and staying with his grandma. I never imaginged we would have been OK with that a few years ago, but it has evolved naturally. Her boyfriend and his family are great. My dd's personal boundaries are excellet. I have no issues with her romantic decisions, and I have no issues with how their freedom has evolved. They have certainly earned our trust.
  8. Really? Is this because the default assumption is that teen boys are sex predators? If so, I find that extremely disturbing and offensive, particularly as the parent of three sons.
  9. Agreed. Anything longer is going to be dorky. What is the actual concern with 2.5" inseam shorts? Is it concern over seeing underwear? Is it concern over seeing a part of the leg? If we could narrow down the actual concern, perhaps we could offer solutions. For instance, some of my dd's running shorts (with 2.5" or less inseam) have built in underwear. Two layers provides less risk of seeing undergarments. Another option - wearing thong underwear would make the undergarments virtually invisible. If concern is seeing part of the leg, then compression shorts are probably the answer, but those are likely to put her in outlier territory. In my experience, dressing like an outlier in high school does far more damage long-term than any 2.5" inseam shorts or tighter jeans could do.
  10. Our booster club covers those expenses. I wouldn't expect a non-parent coach to pay their own travel expenses. For K-6, our wrestling booster club also covers entrance fees for kids whose parents can't afford it. For 7-12, our booster club covers expenses the high school won't cover, which includes team travel expenses. The boosters also cover camp fees, transportation, and gear (team shirts, bags, etc) for kids who don't have the resources to cover those expenses. We don't turn anyone away, and everyone gets equal coaching and opportunities. Booster clubs for my kids' other activities opperate the same way, but I'm not as close the actual booster leadership. Regardless, coaches don't pay their own travel and we aren't assessed any fees to cover. We do donate heavily to all activities so we do cover our kids' portion by the time it is all said and done.
  11. I live in the rural Midwest, and skinny jeans and leggings are all the girls wear. AE is the go-to store for my teens and tweens. I would never shop for them at Eddie Bauer, and they would not wear clothes from there either. Well...maybe they would find Eddie Bauer pieces in my closet for nerd day. lol I don’t mind the tight clothing trend as I think teens today feel much more comfortable with their clothing and bodies than teens from my generation. I see all sizes of girls wearing all styles, and I am pleased the girls seem to be comfortable in their own skin. I’m Glad they aren’t trying to hide themselves. I think my 17yo is beautiful, and I think she looks best in form fitting clothes. I wish I had my teen’s bodily self-confidence at the same age.
  12. Dd1 - 15yo-16yo lifeguard and swim instructor during summers, sporadic babysitting year-round. 17yo - waitress at golf course + lifeguard and swim instructor during summers. Planning to work during senior school year, not sure where yet Ds1 - 13yo-14yo rock picked in spring and lawn mowing in summer (started handyman business with classmate); 12yo rock picked ds2 - 11yo-12yo rock picked in spring, mowed neighbors yard in summer Working during the school year is difficult with their extracurricular commitments. Dd1 is considering quitting her sport her senior year, so she will then replace those hours with a job.
  13. My high school kids shower in school after PE and after sporting competitions. They don’t have much time to shower and dress in PE, so there is no taking turns as an option. Showers are not individual. Not showering, at least for boys, is a social negative.
  14. Before paying for advice, I would look for a financial forum (similar to this forum but based on finances rather than homeschooling) and ask your specific questions. You are likely to get high quality advice for free. Bogleheads has a great forum. Maybe Mr. Money Moustache? Babycenter has some finance boards as well.
  15. I would calculate what the lost vacation is worth and include that amount in your new hourly wage. Have you asked if they have options for time off without pay? That might be a way to bridge the loss of vacation. This sounds like a government job, though, which will be difficult to negotiate. They base your wage on your education and experience. It just depends on how they value your experience.
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