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  1. Our collage is 4x6 mixed frames (black and brown wood mostly) arranged in rows and columns. Our kitchen cabinets are brown wood, the furniture in the kitchen is black and brown, and the walls are white. I really love those color combinations, and I think our picture frame collage looks really nice on the open wall.
  2. I have a collage in our kitchen - one picture from each vacation/trip. We really enjoy the theme, and the kids talk about the memories quite often.
  3. Definitly do them myself. We use H&R Block software free through the military, and it’s really not hard. We just have to enter data and answer questions. I have my teens/young adults work on their own taxes too. I consider completing and understanding taxes to be a critical component of their financial literacy.
  4. Oh, my gosh, yes. My comment was not intended to suggest that only young people have issues with figuring things out. I meant to highlight that critical thinking and execution are extremely important skills. I just got through a 40+ year employee’s retirement. Her skills had seriously eroded over the past few years, and i would have had to terminate her employment if she didn’t retire when she did. after that experience, I definitely worry about my aging process and effectiveness in the workforce. And…I see why older people do lose their jobs and why it’s hard to get another one. Aging sucks.
  5. I have two early 20-something employees, one who does figure stuff out and execute and one who does not. It is SO HARD to manage an early career professional who has to basically be babysat through problem solving. Learning how to figure stuff out and get things done is a critical life skill.
  6. We are entering this phase now, but I have been and am a kid who doesn’t live near extended family. I see all the updates I need on social media. If I want more, I will ask my parents. My parents don’t proactively offer extended family updates, maybe because I ask when I want to know? My in laws do volunteer all kinds of updates about family, community members, everyone. I don’t think they have much else to talk about, and I know my husband isn’t really interested in my in-laws community anymore. He hasn’t lived there for 30+ years. He also doesn’t ask for updates, but maybe that’s because he knows he will get them anyway? I don’t usually provide updates on my kids’ family or community acquaintances unless they ask or unless it’s an organic part of our conversations. If I do mention something, I say, did you see so and so’s social media update?
  7. I am a very basic bullet journaler! Very, very basic….I use Outlook for my work calendar and google for our family calendar, so my bullet journal does not include calendars. I really only use two signifiers - a dash for information and an empty box for to-do items. When my to-dos are complete, I fill in the box and if they are canceled, I put an x in the box. I use an 8.5x11 notebook with the pages split down the middle, and I just log in order of what happens during the day. I only use black ink, but I will use blue highlighter on the headers dividing the topics of my rapid log. My journal is super easy to scan and identify important items Periodically I create a two page spread - one side for my longer-term project/to-dos and the other page for notes from my team meetings. The first 1-4 pages of my journal are used for work reference data, like passwords, software codes, etc. here’s a link to my journal.I added stick-on pockets to the front and back covers this year. https://www.amazon.com/BookFactory-Journal-Notebook-JOU-120-7CW-DotJournalPF/dp/B01N673MZY/ref=asc_df_B01N673MZY/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=642204786218&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=11267547409307423679&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9019673&hvtargid=pla-801336053710&psc=1&mcid=47a2b67180553278a9b130c901e0aa1a
  8. It works really well. When the kids want to do something, they talk to their friend(s) to agree on what they want to do. Then my kid comes to me and ask me if he/she can do xyz on abc date and he/she tells me if a ride is needed. I then reply back if abc date works or not and if I am available to drive. If the date and times don’t work, I suggest an alternative. If I can’t drive, kid asks his dad or sibling or friends’ parents. it’s all the same conversations I would need to have with the parents, but I am not having those conversations. The kids are figuring it out and managing their calendars. My life is very busy and demanding. If my kids want to do something, they can take on the mental work of getting it organized. My dh is also responsible for his own calendar. These arrangements are a typical expectation where we live. The kid in the OP is the only kid whose parents contact me to arrange anything, so it definitely feels a little odd. Last weekend my 13yo arranged a sleepover and rides to/from another kid’s house. I wasn’t involved other than to give him permission when he asked and to send a thank you text after he returned home.
  9. I ended up giving a generic “that doesn’t work from ds tomorrow”. I feel bad, but I don’t want to be a fall-back care plan when my kid isn’t excited about the other kid, and I also don’t want to force friends on my kid. When we do say yes, the requests ramp up. It’s tiring. My DS is definitely friendly with the kid, and he does come over sometimes. And, like I said, DS has certainly given effort to seeing if a closer friendship makes sense. It just isn’t developing into as close of a friendship as the other kid desires. On the flip side, my DS is (finally) connecting with some boys who do seem like they are developing closer friendships I’m surprised that parents are directly involved in arranging teen social events with other parents. I haven’t had to do that since my youngest got a cellphone a couple years ago (except for this kid in the OP). In fact, that was one of the reasons for moving all the kids to their own phones at 12yo-13yo. My kids are in charge of coordinating their own schedules, including getting themselves to school, practice, etc. My 16yo drives himself, my 15yo gets rides from her friends, and my 13yo walks/bikes/asks for rides. I will gladly give rides to any of them, but they need to arrange and coordinate. If I was the arranger/coordinator, I know I would end up making arrangements that wouldn’t work for my kids’ schedules or with the wrong kids.
  10. Thanks for the lecture. I’m answering the question the OP asked. My kids are split between the local private K-8 school and the public K-12 school, and no one will see a mask in either school in the 2023-24 school year. The school website doesn’t mention Covid, and no one is testing for it. I guess I’m pragmatic with @maize
  11. I realize it’s not the same as a cold, but reality in my school district is that Covid is treated like a cold. No one is wearing masks and no one is testing for Covid. The school isn’t asking or suggesting or even thinking about it other than like a cold or any other illness.
  12. They do have gaps when practice starts at 4:30, and we do agree to have him come on those days (when they ask). We live a block from the school. Normally they practice right after school every day, so transportation isn’t an issue. Tomorrow the boys don’t have practice - a rare event - so they are basically asking for a play date. Otherwise, I would think he would just ride the bus home. At 13yo, they certainly don’t need adult supervision after school, and they won’t have any supervision at our house. ETA: I guess I don’t know how he gets home on a non-practice day, but they must have arrangements. The boys aren’t in sports every day of the school year. Most days, sure, but definitely not all of them.
  13. No one in our schools wears masks. Covid is treated like a cold, so no one would mask if they were returning from being sick.
  14. My 13yo has a teammate who really wants to be his friend outside of the team. My 13yo isn’t as enthused. DS has hung out with the boy a few times and even has had an overnight. So, I think DS has given the expanded friendship a good try The parents text me to ask if the boy can come to our house. The kids are 13yo. I haven’t managed my 13yo’s social calendar for a couple years, and I really don’t want to manage it. I want him to arrange friend events on his own, between the boys. i feel guilty because I know this boy really wants to be DS’s friend, and he probably needs more friends. I work with the boy’s grandmother too. Ugh Any advice on how to turn down the requests without sounding mean? I have a text right now asking if the boy can come over after school tomorrow until his mom gets off work. DS attends our local private school while teammate attends our local public school, both schools are in a very small, rural community.
  15. Would a job work to get him out of the house and meeting people? That seems like an easier option than finding a short-term overnight finance camp. And then he would have money to invest and use for finance learning and to use for college.
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