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  1. This is tough. When my teens start dating, I like to be around so I can get to know the significiant other and the two of them as a couple. I want to help mold my kid as he/she enters new relationships. My two oldest started dating their freshman year and are still with those significant others. We are very blessed that both sets of significant other parents are fabulous and have similar parenting styles as we do. At first, we required a parent to be home when they "hung" out at either house. This was fairly easy to accomodate since my kids couldn't drive when they started dating. As we interact with them as couples, their range of freedom expands. I don't see where overly restrictive rules truly help the kids. I want my kids to grow and learn how good relationships develop, and that means they need freedom to grow and make their own decisions. Chaperoning my 15yo has been more difficult just because our schedules don't align as well with when the kids can hang out. Both sets of parents have determined we are OK with them hanging out while siblings are around rather than parents. It's not perfect, but it's either give a little flexibility, restrict their time together, or have my schedule significantly interrupted. My 17yo has been driving for 1.5 years and dating her significant other for 2.5 years. My dd has spent the weekend with his family at their cabin and she's stayed overnight at his house. They are going on vacation together in May and staying with his grandma. I never imaginged we would have been OK with that a few years ago, but it has evolved naturally. Her boyfriend and his family are great. My dd's personal boundaries are excellet. I have no issues with her romantic decisions, and I have no issues with how their freedom has evolved. They have certainly earned our trust.
  2. Really? Is this because the default assumption is that teen boys are sex predators? If so, I find that extremely disturbing and offensive, particularly as the parent of three sons.
  3. Agreed. Anything longer is going to be dorky. What is the actual concern with 2.5" inseam shorts? Is it concern over seeing underwear? Is it concern over seeing a part of the leg? If we could narrow down the actual concern, perhaps we could offer solutions. For instance, some of my dd's running shorts (with 2.5" or less inseam) have built in underwear. Two layers provides less risk of seeing undergarments. Another option - wearing thong underwear would make the undergarments virtually invisible. If concern is seeing part of the leg, then compression shorts are probably the answer, but those are likely to put her in outlier territory. In my experience, dressing like an outlier in high school does far more damage long-term than any 2.5" inseam shorts or tighter jeans could do.
  4. Our booster club covers those expenses. I wouldn't expect a non-parent coach to pay their own travel expenses. For K-6, our wrestling booster club also covers entrance fees for kids whose parents can't afford it. For 7-12, our booster club covers expenses the high school won't cover, which includes team travel expenses. The boosters also cover camp fees, transportation, and gear (team shirts, bags, etc) for kids who don't have the resources to cover those expenses. We don't turn anyone away, and everyone gets equal coaching and opportunities. Booster clubs for my kids' other activities opperate the same way, but I'm not as close the actual booster leadership. Regardless, coaches don't pay their own travel and we aren't assessed any fees to cover. We do donate heavily to all activities so we do cover our kids' portion by the time it is all said and done.
  5. I live in the rural Midwest, and skinny jeans and leggings are all the girls wear. AE is the go-to store for my teens and tweens. I would never shop for them at Eddie Bauer, and they would not wear clothes from there either. Well...maybe they would find Eddie Bauer pieces in my closet for nerd day. lol I don’t mind the tight clothing trend as I think teens today feel much more comfortable with their clothing and bodies than teens from my generation. I see all sizes of girls wearing all styles, and I am pleased the girls seem to be comfortable in their own skin. I’m Glad they aren’t trying to hide themselves. I think my 17yo is beautiful, and I think she looks best in form fitting clothes. I wish I had my teen’s bodily self-confidence at the same age.
  6. Dd1 - 15yo-16yo lifeguard and swim instructor during summers, sporadic babysitting year-round. 17yo - waitress at golf course + lifeguard and swim instructor during summers. Planning to work during senior school year, not sure where yet Ds1 - 13yo-14yo rock picked in spring and lawn mowing in summer (started handyman business with classmate); 12yo rock picked ds2 - 11yo-12yo rock picked in spring, mowed neighbors yard in summer Working during the school year is difficult with their extracurricular commitments. Dd1 is considering quitting her sport her senior year, so she will then replace those hours with a job.
  7. My high school kids shower in school after PE and after sporting competitions. They don’t have much time to shower and dress in PE, so there is no taking turns as an option. Showers are not individual. Not showering, at least for boys, is a social negative.
  8. Before paying for advice, I would look for a financial forum (similar to this forum but based on finances rather than homeschooling) and ask your specific questions. You are likely to get high quality advice for free. Bogleheads has a great forum. Maybe Mr. Money Moustache? Babycenter has some finance boards as well.
  9. I would calculate what the lost vacation is worth and include that amount in your new hourly wage. Have you asked if they have options for time off without pay? That might be a way to bridge the loss of vacation. This sounds like a government job, though, which will be difficult to negotiate. They base your wage on your education and experience. It just depends on how they value your experience.
  10. I don’t enjoy hosting sleepovers, but we do partake. As far as boy/girl, we don’t have rules; we just go with what feels right for he situation i hope to host a boy/girl sleepover for my 2nd grader and his buddies from school, but my ds isn’t ready yet. My 16yo dd’s boyfriend and two other boys crashed at our house last month. I was surprised they wanted to stay, but it really was a nonissue for all four families. My 16yo has spent a weekend with her boyfriend and his parents at their cabin. That worked out just fine too.
  11. Everyone in our family has their own sock preferences, so we have our own socks. I fold pairs together to make our mornings a little bit easier.
  12. We are stashing away a healthy amount, and have since me early 20’s. Retirement has always been my priority #1. I think it used to annoy dh, but now that we are in our late 40’s, he is very appreciative. We should have $2m+ at retirement in addition to a military pension (reserves) and a state gov pension (small). Dh still has six years before the military pension is locked in, and we have five kids to put through college as well, so we still have large unknowns. If we are able to maintain our income and investment rates, we will pay for college and retire early.
  13. We aren’t really investing in 529s, but our college investments for our high schoolers are in more conservative (ie less risky) funds. We have money spread around between 529s, Roth IRAs, and regular investment accounts.
  14. I'm looking for recommendations for on-line auction sites for our school's annual fundraiser. Anyone have experiences to share? Our fundraiser has silent and live auctions. The silent auction would be online as would (hopefully) options to donate for Fund-A-Needs. I would want mobile bidding and payment processing online. About 175 people attend the fundraiser, and I'm hoping to reach a bigger crowd with an online silent auction. We are a small 31 family parochial school with a small budget. Recommendations and reviews VERY appreciated. Thanks!
  15. Have you considered looking for employment with mental health insurance coverage? I would seriously consider that option if I was faced with $500/week medical bills, especially since I would want services ASAP.
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