Word Nerd Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 DD8 has a school music program coming up and has a cute new dress. She wants to wear a (fairly small, not overly blingy) tiara she got from my parents for her birthday. What does the Hive say about using a tiara as a fashion accessory? Should tiaras be limited to playing dress-up at home unless you are in a pageant or royalty? I don't have a problem with DD wearing this one, especially since it looks kind of like a headband. However, I don't want to commit a little-girl fashion fashion faux pas. Update: She wore the tiara and looked super cute! She also wasn't the only tiara-wearing girl there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spy Car Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I vote "cute" :D Bill Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 She's 8. She'll feel like a princess. I would let her wear it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mytwomonkeys Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I said nope, not tacky. If your 8 year old wants to wear a tiara- let her! Heck if my mom wanted to wear a tiara for that matter, who cares! There are worse things in life than offending someone with a bling-y headband. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mytwomonkeys Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 Oh...oops. I voted nope- but I meant sure! Ignore that! I'm poll challenged! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alte Veste Academy Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 a little-girl fashion fashion faux pas. An oxymoron if I ever heard one. :tongue_smilie: I think a big part of the joy of being a child is being blissfully ignorant of the arbitrary rules of society. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I think the line needs to be drawn at adults, unless you are a real princess or are Amy Farrah Fowler. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trinchick Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 There's a great ad on TV right now where a dad is getting a little girl ready for school. She comes out all dolled up with a tutu, wings, tiara, the works. Dad shakes his head no, and puts a cute but conservative dress on the frowning but accepting little girl. On the way to school, Dad looks in rearview mirror at glum DD and hears a big sigh. Dad cranks the steering wheel; then the scene cuts to a shot of Dad escorting a happily-skipping, fairy-wing-clad, tiara-wearing DD past a sign that reads "Class Picture Day." I love it. As a parent, I strive to be the one who can see that DD's happiness and self-esteem are more important than my views - or anyone else's for that matter - of how a child should be. I don't always succeed but I try. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThatHomeschoolDad Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 8, school gig, why not. 8, professional audition, reconsider. Situation-dependent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jayne J Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 Imagine the day when she wants to wear it but is afraid to, because the other girls will laugh at her, and she cares way more about them than about her own feelings. If she still *wants* to wear a tiara in public, she is not too old to do it. That goes for 40 year olds too. Life is too short to quibble about accessories. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FriedClams Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I picked the "depends" answer.... You DD - a resounding, enthusiastic, twirling, YES!!! Me - a middle aged, large, clumsy, oaf - an occasion by occasion call. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moxie Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 8--okay 38--not so much Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted November 13, 2013 Author Share Posted November 13, 2013 You convinced me! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delirium Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I definitely say let her. A small experience note without trying to derail the thread...A few months ago, I absentmindedly put one of those tiny toy tiaras in my hair while talking on the phone. Later in the day as I was leaving the grocers, I noticed in my reflection on the car that I was still wearing it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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elegantlion Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I gave my mom a "Happy Birthday" emblazoned tiara for her, well obviously, birthday. She's 77. She wore it to Walmart that day as we had to get a few things. Wore it proudly I might add. Somewhere between 8 and 77 there's a "well, that's weird" age, but 8 and 77 are okay to be seen in public in bling. IMO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigMamaBird Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I voted that it depends. Based on the situation you posted, I'd let her wear it. Any 8 year old should be allowed to wear a tiara anywhere at anytime. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigMamaBird Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 TeacherZee, I wish I could like that ten more times! Best scene ever on Big Bang! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lynn Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 at 8 let her wear it. It's just a tiara and it makes her feel pretty, why not. You should see some of the outfits my dd wears. I have to keep telling myself "it's just cothes, it's just cothes" with a few guidelines of course. One day it will matter "what others think" but for now let them be happy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 Sure. I took my niece out today in a track suit and nice shirt with a sun dress over the top----in Michigan where the windchill is about 15 right now. She was happy so who cares. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I just reread the thread title. No tiaras are not tacky, they make you feel better! Soon enough she will be told no jewelry for concerts. Enjoy being a child/princess! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 Well gosh, now I kinda want one. But I promised to wear it only in the kitchen. If Lady Mary can scramble eggs in a beaded evening gown, I should be able to sport rhinestones while fryin' up the bacon. OP, as for your dd, I vote cute and appropriate. If she is happy to wear it, don't squash her style. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flyingiguana Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I think they're tacky on royalty. The rest of us can wear them just fine. On royalty they're making a statement that they're better than the rest of us. On the rest of us, they're just a fashion statement. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justasque Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I gave my mom a "Happy Birthday" emblazoned tiara for her, well obviously, birthday. She's 77. She wore it to Walmart that day as we had to get a few things. Wore it proudly I might add. Somewhere between 8 and 77 there's a "well, that's weird" age, but 8 and 77 are okay to be seen in public in bling. IMO. Simon Doonan has some thoughts about fashion faux pas and the adult crowd. (Warning - his language may not be appropriate for conservative folks.) http://www.slate.com/articles/life/doonan/2013/09/simon_doonan_how_i_became_a_fashion_don_t_in_the_pages_of_details_magazine.html See also Ari Seth Cohen's Advanced Style blog. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 Imagine the day when she wants to wear it but is afraid to, because the other girls will laugh at her, and she cares way more about them than about her own feelings. If she still *wants* to wear a tiara in public, she is not too old to do it. This is why whenever I see a girl in tutus and sparkles at McDonalds or Safeway, my heart warms. Every.Single.Time. I usually make an effort to stop and tell her how beautiful she is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErinE Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I think the line needs to be drawn at adults, unless you are a real princess or are Amy Farrah Fowler. My all time favorite scene from the Big Bang Theory! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 My 6.5 and 4yo got small nice looking tiarras for Christmas last year and I let them wear them whenever they wanted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cottonmama Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I will forever be known to some family friends as "Princess [Cottonmama]" because in second grade, class picture day was on Halloween, and I wore my princess crown for the picture. IMO that's on my mom, but I get all the flack for it. ;-) So I say don't let her do it if there will be pictures. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted November 13, 2013 Author Share Posted November 13, 2013 I will forever be known to some family friends as "Princess [Cottonmama]" because in second grade, class picture day was on Halloween, and I wore my princess crown for the picture. IMO that's on my mom, but I get all the flack for it. ;-) So I say don't let her do it if there will be pictures. There will be pictures—but I'll be the one taking them. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted November 13, 2013 Author Share Posted November 13, 2013 I will forever be known to some family friends as "Princess [Cottonmama]" because in second grade, class picture day was on Halloween, and I wore my princess crown for the picture. IMO that's on my mom, but I get all the flack for it. ;-) So I say don't let her do it if there will be pictures. When we were in first grade, one of my classmates was wearing a T-shirt that said Foxy Lady on picture day. It makes me smile whenever I come across that class composite photo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TeacherZee Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 This is EXACTLY what came to mind when I read this! Great minds :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomtoCandJ Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I think it more depends on the tiera. A little one more like a head band go for it, one of those huge ones like they show for pageants (where it looks about as big as the child... No Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I have been to many an airplane hanger for welcome home events when soldiers were coming home from deployment. I will never forget the woman who showed up in a prom dress and tiara. To each her own (as long as it isn't scandalous). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slartibartfast Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I let dd wear a tiara and a dress to the grocery store when she was eight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaxMom Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I have a collection of sparkly headbands because that is about as close to a tiara as a middle-aged, non-royal woman in the rural mid-Atlantic can get without looking like a loon. I get compliments on them all the time. From men of all ages... It's a little funny to have a 60-something, burly, biker-looking dude say he likes my sparkly headband. They might think I'm a loon for other reasons, though. In fact, I think I'm wearing one in my avatar. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan in TN Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I think a small one with an appropriately matching dress would be fine for a program. There are times a little girl NEEDS to be a princess ;) . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom in High Heels Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 8--okay 38--not so much WHAT? Not so much at 38? I'm 40 and if I had one, I'd wear it every freaking day. :) I used to have one that had "Princess" spelled out in the gems, and I liked to wear it when I cleaned the house. Unfortunately, it got broken. I need to replace it. James Bond offered to buy me a really nice, expensive one when we were in Disneyland Paris, but it was too much. :( I have a collection of sparkly headbands because that is about as close to a tiara as a middle-aged, non-royal woman in the rural mid-Atlantic can get without looking like a loon. I get compliments on them all the time. From men of all ages... It's a little funny to have a 60-something, burly, biker-looking dude say he likes my sparkly headband. They might think I'm a loon for other reasons, though. In fact, I think I'm wearing one in my avatar. More photos please? And where do you acquire said sparkly headbands? There are times a little girl NEEDS to be a princess ;) . There are times when a grown woman needs to feel like a princess! Of course I am the queen of the house. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dahliarw Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 My dd wears a tiara whenever she feels like it (the exception being she's not allowed to wear it to school). It's a cheap plastic one that is painted silver with fake pink stones. I don't think it's tacky on young girls. I probably would look like an idiot wearing one every day, though. I did get her a real tiara for Christmas (Goodwill!) and that one will be a special occassion tiara. I would let her wear it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crimson Wife Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 To my mind, they seem a bit debutante-ish/pageanty/bridal so I'd say no for my own girls. But I don't care what anybody else chooses for their own kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Χά�ων Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 I would allow her to wear it. I have allowed an 8 year old boy to wear one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 Aw heck, let her be a princess. Mine often goes out in full regalia, what's a tasteful tiara.(sadly there are no tiara wearing smileys) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sewingmama Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 I think my DD is missing out....She doesn't have a tiara...I'm adding it to the Christmas list. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alte Veste Academy Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 I must also say that I imagine a young girl with the confidence and quirk to wear a tiara out at 8 is probably the kind of girl who can pull off wearing awesome hats as she gets older. I am not that girl, but my DD is. I am green with envy! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom in High Heels Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 Aw heck, let her be a princess. Mine often goes out in full regalia, what's a tasteful tiara.(sadly there are no tiara wearing smileys) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 Is there ever a time you should not wear a tiara? Last year for new years my friends and I broke out our wedding tiaras and wore them all evening. Bonus points-horrified tween/teen children. She is 8. She has plenty of time for society to beat her into submission. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lmrich Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 My youngest wore a tiara every day for two years between 3 - 5. Let her be a princess. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 I miss the tiara years. My dd wore hers so often...her sister's boyfriend once saw her without it and was stunned- he said he thought it was bolted to her head! But alas they grow up and become adults and don't wear tiaras now...and I wish those carefree years had lasted longer. * Will the teacher care? You don't want dd to have her feelings hurt by her teacher telling her to take it off. But if it's small, no big deal- it's like a decorated headband. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momacacia Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 In the spirit of Tony Horton, "Bling it!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Little Nyssa Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 Once I was at a museum exhibition of jewelry from different royal families. I overheard a mom say to her little girl, "You can never have too many tiaras!" I agree! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Another Jen Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 I have a collection of sparkly headbands because that is about as close to a tiara as a middle-aged, non-royal woman in the rural mid-Atlantic can get without looking like a loon. I get compliments on them all the time. From men of all ages... It's a little funny to have a 60-something, burly, biker-looking dude say he likes my sparkly headband. They might think I'm a loon for other reasons, though. In fact, I think I'm wearing one in my avatar. Angela, You can't tease me like that without more info. Where do you get your sparkly headbands? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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