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  1. I have worked backstage at dance recitals for several studios. I've done this for our main studio's holiday show and end-of-year recital for almost 20 years. That studio has rules about this kind of thing, but there is always a family or two who just doesn't get it. First of all, we have a hundred or more kids backstage. We are busy getting them into costumes, doing quick changes, handling minor crisises like torn costumes or lost headpieces, encouraging the nervous beginners, hugging the seniors for whom it is their last performance, and generally trying to put on a good show. It is
  2. It is used in my community of frends, but not pejoritive at all, and usually in a gently teasing way from one bougie person to another. ("Gurl, how can you be not bougee? You go to a private school! <laughs>". "Yeah, I am pretty bougee, aren't I? <laughs>") (ETA: Mostly used in groups of people who have one foot in "bougee" and one in "not bougee", who code switch between the two.) Spelling, by the way, is all over the map online. That said, I don't remember ever hearing it from white folks, except as part of a conversation with black folks.
  3. Yes, I think small things, so that the guest can have little tastes of a lot of different things, are often a good way to go when entertaining, especially at a buffet or as appetizers.
  4. In my circle of friends, these wouldn't have been eaten. A small skewer of fruit alone, or perhaps with a very small cube of a homemade baked good (strawberries and brownie squares would be nice) would be more likely to be eaten. Processed baked goods are a firm NO for most women I know. Same. I like to bring fresh, healthy foods that are simple to make but taste good. After once making 30 cookies in the shape of the mainland United States for one dc's event, I vowed Never Again. A whole doughnut from Dunkin' ranges roughly from 280-450 calories. Munchkins are 60-70 calo
  5. Yes! When I bake, I get out my whole "baking" bin, and I can easily see what we have on hand. This is especially useful during the churn of kids going away to summer programs or college (needing a few baking basics, for which we "shop the pantry" first) and then returning. We put returning supplies right back into the appropriate bins, so although we always seem to have two half-used bottles of vanilla extract and three boxes of cocoa, we can always use the oldest first, and wait to buy new until there really is none left. It helps to reduce the clutter and reduce the waste of having to to
  6. I use my pantry for storage, and keep frequently-used foods in the kitchen. For example, I put all but one can of black beans in the pantry; when I use the one I bring up another. I make sure to put newer things in the back, and older things in front. I group things by food types - the proteins are at eye level - cans of salmon, chicken, beans. Nearby are the tomatoes/sauce/paste, and cans of corn. I have a section for soups and broths, where I also put the coconut milk (which I use for sauces). Ready-to-use sauces go there too. My herbs & spices & such are in the kitchen, in th
  7. Exactly. And the skills and confidence learned can transfer into home maintenance as well, which will serve him well in the future. I am big on DIY projects, not just because they can save money, but also because once I learn how to do a job, I am more appreciative of the work involved. This makes me better able to hire a qualified person else to do the job when necessary (because I know what to look for in terms of skills and quality work), and more willing to pay them decent wages for it because I understand what goes into it.
  8. If your ds's philosophy is along the lines of "buy quality, maintain it well, make it last", that's a reasonable approach to owning things. But "maintain it well" can be expensive and out of proportion to the value of the item unless he learns some DIY skills. The vast majority of teens simply don't have the income to support this quest for perfection. And even if a teen can afford it, often when college and marriage and kids come into the picture, it's hard to maintain this standard financially. I've done body work before. This is an easy fix. If my kid wanted his car to remain prist
  9. I've done this a few times now; here's my advice. BEFORE BUYING NEW, ask yourself, do I have an old one the kid could have, and we could buy the new one for me? I suggest this for two reasons. First, the obvious value of learning to make do which is good for a young person on a low budget. But also, we have found over the years that what goes to school doesn't always come home again, for one reason or another. So rather than investing in the best, lifetime-worthy pots and pans and such, or the nicest matching linens, consider sending your older ones and upgrading your own collection
  10. If you are dressed/groomed nicely, you can often confidently walk into the lobby of a decent hotel as if you had a room there, and use their lobby bathrooms. Walk in like you know where you're going and are supposed to be there. I have done this in several major cities, without incident, and the bathrooms have been super clean. (Like it or not, looking nice often gets you privileges and favors that you wouldn't otherwise get. And the previous poster's story of the fallout from letting the wrong person use your bathroom speaks to why. Pros and cons, obviously, to a complex issue.) The
  11. On my way out the door but - Main Public library, third floor or basement children's area. FIT museum (free), lobby to the left. Penn Station (and presumably other train stations). Parsons - the building where they do tours - people walk in to use this one all the time.
  12. As others have said, the "carry on" is the roller bag that goes in the overhead. The "personal item" is the backpack or purse or tote bag or whatever that goes under the seat. There are now fare classes that do not allow a carry on, although they do allow a personal item. I have always understood it to be that the underseat bag is the personal item. So if you could put your backpack into the small bag (or vice versa) you would have been ok. But if they are two separate things, they can't both fit under the seat, so that's where the problem lies. I am assuming here that you eithe
  13. I don't have a link to a specific one, but mine are mostly Columbia, Royal Robbins, and Magellan. I have long-sleeve, short-sleeve, and sleeveless versions. Long-sleeve is nice when you want sun protection; some folks wear them open over a cami as a "jacket" look. Sleeveless is when it's hot but you don't need the sun protection. And short-sleeve when sleeveless isn't quite appropriate but you don't want the long sleeves; it's more of a "camp" look. Most of the long sleeve versions have tabs so you can roll up the sleeves. The pockets aren't particularly useful because the fabric is so l
  14. Am I the only one here who has one of these shirts? And who, dare I say it, is obsessed with them? They are fabulous in the heat! Specifically, those 90+ degree days. And yes, they are lightweight, quick-dry, great for one-bag travel, and so on. Sometimes the women's versions are marketed as travel gear, and rightfully so given their properties. I call mine part of my "lady who works at the zoo" outfit; I wear them with a khaki-colored hiking skirt. I've just picked up a couple more for an upcoming trip. I don't like those with pockets on the boobs, but there are versions with stealth p
  15. Just wanted to add - while your MIL's behavior issues could be due to dementia, it could also be something simple like a UTI. Or it could be some other problem, possibly related to her fall in some way - stroke would be another thing I'd want to rule out. (Maybe the fall contributed to her current issues, but maybe the fall was caused by a medical issue rather than just being a misstep or slip.) If she's in a nursing home, they are probably savvy about such things, but get your dh to double-check that they are looking for a cause for this behavior rather than just assuming it's dementia. I
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