plansrme Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 Our friends and neighbors are soon to take their first-ever trip to Disney. We love Disney and have been there probably 10 times. Naturally, I think everyone else should love it, too. I know where they are staying and when they are checking in and was thinking of having a cake or cupcakes sent to their room (through the appropriate Disney bakery) the day they check in, with a "Welcome to WDW" note from us. My husband thinks that borders on stalker. Anyone else see it that way? For background on our relationship--our boys go back and forth between our houses all day long. None of this "can X come over at 2 on Thursday" business. If I have extra whatever from the farmer's market, I just send it over, and she does the same. Several times, when they've been crazy stressed or busy, I've texted to say, "I'm sending dinner over," and I do, and it's always welcome. We borrow ingredients from each other on almost a weekly basis. Our husbands play poker together. We have a basement, and they don't, so they come to our house during tornado warnings. To summarize, these are not strangers. Is there really any possibility that they'll think it's weird? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Kate Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 I actually think it is very sweet and not strange at all. Go for it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 well i wouldn't even do it for a family member, so yeah, I think it sounds a bit strange. Nice - but strange. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 For that relationship, it's sounds great! I want a neighbor like you! And I actually do love most of my neighbors. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lavender's green Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 For that type of relationship I think it sounds like fun! I could see my husband having reservation about it, though. Or, if we were the receiving party, saying "that's really nice of them...but a little weird." But I would say "OMG I love my neighbor!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 I think it will add to the fun and excitement! It's a great idea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChocolateReignRemix Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 I think it is really sweet. Go for it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T'smom Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 I say go for it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 Unless you found out their plans by searching through their trash bins and hacking into their computers, I think it is fine! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnIslandGirl Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 I love the idea of surprising them with a little bit of magic for their first trip! As I'm sure you probably know, the Disney Florist can put together a cute little gift bag with assorted items as well. Depending on the travel/ park schedule of your neighbors, a cake or cupcakes may melt in the room before they get a chance to appreciate them. Or they may feel obligated to tip if they are in the room during delivery. Just a thought. http://www.disneyflorist.com/?source=header Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eagle Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 Not stalkerish for the relationship you describe. I'll bet they would be excited. Yay for cupcakes!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 Unless you found out their plans by searching through their trash bins and hacking into their computers, I think it is fine! LOL to this one. I think it's a little much, personally, and wouldn't do it, but wouldn't think it's too weird if it happened to me. I might for a split second, but then think it was nice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 I vote that you're being sweet! Go for it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zebra Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 As the recipient, I would find it to be a bit much. Not stalkerish, but overbearing. Why is your DH saying it seems stalkerish? Just because he wouldn't like it, or because he thinks they specifically won't like it for some reason? There is no firm answer to this question. Every person and every relationship is different. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChocolateReignRemix Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 Giving someone cupcakes is never a bit much in my world. ;) And just so you all know...I will accept all delicious treats anytime, anywhere. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jan in SC Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 I think it's wonderful! If you helped them planned and that's why you know the info, I say go for it. It's a very thoughtful idea! You can also send little goodie bags with snacks they can take to the park, water bottles, little disney stuffed animals, etc... If you google, you should be able to find that info. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plansrme Posted May 24, 2013 Author Share Posted May 24, 2013 Thanks for the responses. I am baffled by--but appreciate very much--the responses for those who think like my husband. I think I used to be more on the "I won't do it because it might be weird" side of the fence generally, but then I got old and started to wear purple, or something like that. Now it isn't so much that I don't care--I just don't really think that maybe someone wouldn't like something I would think is nice. So I appreciate knowing that my husband is not the only one who would be a bit, shall we say, puzzled, by the gesture. If it were anywhere but Disney, I don't think I would feel like it was acceptable, but their first trip to Disney, maybe. I am still on the fence but will have to decide by tomorrow. Thanks, everyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 Unless you found out their plans by searching through their trash bins and hacking into their computers, I think it is fine! Not for anything, Jean, but you're practically advertising your super-secret agent status again! :D And as for the cupcakes, I would never think to do it, but I think it's a fun idea, and your neighbor's kids will probably love the surprise! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 I think it is strange that people would find close friends making a nice gift/gesture strange or stalkerish. What could possibly be overbearing about cake? Stalkerish would be showing up at Disney at the same time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plateau Mama Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 I thought you were going to say something like we decided to plan a trip too and surprise them. That would be stalker like. Cupcakes not at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forget-Me-Not Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 I thought you were going to say something like we decided to plan a trip too and surprise them. That would be stalker like. Cupcakes not at all. LOL! Surprise! We decided to crash your vacation! Cupcakes seem so unobtrusive compared to that :D Seriously, I think it's an adorable idea and their kids would probably love it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GailV Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 Giving someone cupcakes is never a bit much in my world. ;) And just so you all know...I will accept all delicious treats anytime, anywhere. My thoughts exactly! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JenC3 Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 Do it! Why is something nice stalkerish? You are also FRIENDS, not just neighbors. I think it's so sweet and fun and shows how excited you are for them to have a great trip and you want to somehow help it start out well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danestress Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 When in doubt, I think it is always best to err on the side of extravagent displays of affection, especially if it involves cupcakes. Go for it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plansrme Posted May 24, 2013 Author Share Posted May 24, 2013 When in doubt, I think it is always best to err in the side of extravagent displays of affection, especially if it involves cupcakes. Go for it! This should be on a t-shirt. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 I have changed my mind. I have decided that it would be a terrible idea to send the cupcakes to your neighbors. It would be much better to send them to me, instead. MUCH better. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I talk to the trees Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 Not trying to sound like Mr. Rogers, here, but... Won't you be my neighbor? :D Following them to WDW is creepy. Cupcakes? That's just sweet! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in MI Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 There is something about Disney, isn't there? I think it is super sweet and I think you should do it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChocolateReignRemix Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 I have changed my mind. I have decided that it would be a terrible idea to send the cupcakes to your neighbors. It would be much better to send them to me, instead. MUCH better. :D Listen, I can put up with a lot on this board, but hogging the cupcakes? Them's fightin' words. Somebody hold my earrings and flip flops... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scrapbookbuzz Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 Sounds like your love language is giving. And based on what you've said about your relationship with them, I think they would be quite pleased to see those from you. What a wonderful thought! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathryn Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 Given the relationship, not stalkerish. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 Listen, I can put up with a lot on this board, but hogging the cupcakes? Them's fightin' words. Somebody hold my earrings and flip flops... :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: If she sends them to me, I'll be happy to share them with you -- come on over! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zebra Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 I also hated WDW, so you may want to consider that :lol: . For fun I enjoy doing my taxes and returning library books on time. Also, flossing my teeth. What got me to even respond to this post was that your DH thought it was stalkerish, I just wanted to point out that he could have a point. He knows both parties involved, which is why I would take his opinion seriously. I just would want to know WHY he said that. Did he say it because he was grumpy at the moment, or didn't want to pay for the cupcakes, or he knows something you don't. That would just concern me, if I wanted to send cupcakes and DH thought it was stalkerish. And if he said, "I don't want to waste the money on cupcakes." Then I would know it was just about the money, and I was not stalkerish. BUT, if he said, "Well, Mr Neighbor told me last week that Mrs Neighbor thinks you're stalkerish." Well then, I would realize maybe sending cupcakes wasn't the best idea.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hikin' Mama Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 I would be touched if someone did this for me, especially given the relationship you have with them. It's a wonderful gesture of friendship! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TN Mama Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 I think it's a fun idea. Go for it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 It's a very pixie dust-ish idea! :) You could even sign the card from Tink or Mickey. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in MI Posted May 24, 2013 Share Posted May 24, 2013 It's a very pixie dust-ish idea! :) You could even sign the card from Tink or Mickey. ;) oh yes!!! Do this! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeW88 Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 I love the idea of surprising them with a little bit of magic for their first trip! As I'm sure you probably know, the Disney Florist can put together a cute little gift bag with assorted items as well. Depending on the travel/ park schedule of your neighbors, a cake or cupcakes may melt in the room before they get a chance to appreciate them. Or they may feel obligated to tip if they are in the room during delivery. Just a thought. http://www.disneyflo.../?source=header Yep, Disney Floral is my go-to resource for stuff like this. And I use them all. the. time. They're amazing. And I don't think your idea is weird. I want everyone I know to love Disney, too!! :D And it is NEVER wrong to sprinkle pixie dust. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeW88 Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 Double post. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NicAnn Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 I think it's lovely, and more people should be so kind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RemsMom Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 Send the cupcakes. Are cupcakes ever bad? Oh, wait, I did read ALL of that very long thread about cupcakes so I guess some people think cupcakes are bad but I vote cupcakes are always the right thing to do! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 And it is NEVER wrong to sprinkle pixie dust. Yeah, this. No wonder people weep over the lack of community if friendship is stalkerish! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 It's lovely. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lovemygirl Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 I think this sounds great - I would love for someone to do this for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 I keep coming back to this thread and I have to admit it's because I like the title. Stalkerish is my New Word of the Day. "He's not really a stalker; he's just Stalkerish." "Funny, but you don't look Stalkerish." I'm telling you, people, it's a good word. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomtoCandJ Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 Oh there was a thread about the hive expanding your vocabulary :) sheeple and stalkerish are now my new words :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 I would think it sweet, and would call thank you for a lovely gesture! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 If it were anywhere but Disney, I don't think I would feel like it was acceptable, but their first trip to Disney, maybe. Yes, Disney is different. Magical surprises are part of the experience. Go for it! I think it's a great idea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 If you think your friends would like cupcakes, send them! :) It seems fun! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted May 25, 2013 Share Posted May 25, 2013 well i wouldn't even do it for a family member, so yeah, I think it sounds a bit strange. Nice - but strange. :( That seems kinda sad. How is it strange? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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