elfgivas Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug: it is a hard path to walk; i'm glad you are letting us all support you along the way. ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EmilyK Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 That's awful, Kay. I'm so sorry. Puts my woes in perspective. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MotherMayI Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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kalanamak Posted September 6, 2012 Author Share Posted September 6, 2012 Oh gosh. How heart breaking. A good translator is a must. Will the translation be in person or via telephone/audio only? Yes, but over the summer I've found one I think is very careful and calm and works well with this family. He is familiar with the story. And now I'm up with the first nightmare I've had in years: that a beloved cat got sucked down a storm drain. "Going down the tubes". It doesn't take Freud to figure that one out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Hugs for you. This family is so blessed to have you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in Neverland Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mumto2 Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Their blessing is they have you, who cares deeply, telling them. They won't know it's a blessing in their pain but we do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 I'm sorry. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BridgeTea Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug: So sorry you're having to do this, k. That family won't need a translator to understand your compassion. They may not be ready to process all you have to tell them today, but they will be grateful it was you that took care of their son. Thank you for your work. You're doing good stuff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Yes, but over the summer I've found one I think is very careful and calm and works well with this family. He is familiar with the story. And now I'm up with the first nightmare I've had in years: that a beloved cat got sucked down a storm drain. "Going down the tubes". It doesn't take Freud to figure that one out. thinking of you & this family and praying this morning. i hope you were able to get back to sleep and get some rest. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luckymama Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug: oh gee.....how horrible. I am sorry....for you, for them, For their child....:grouphug: Praying for a miracle....somehow.....sigh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NicksMama-Zack's Mama Too Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug: K Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Yes, but over the summer I've found one I think is very careful and calm and works well with this family. He is familiar with the story. And now I'm up with the first nightmare I've had in years: that a beloved cat got sucked down a storm drain. "Going down the tubes". It doesn't take Freud to figure that one out. :grouphug: :grouphug: And some more :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenpatty Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
southcarolinamom Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug: I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Canadianmumof5 Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 I can't imagine a job any harder than yours right now. Praying that you can be strong and that the young man's family will be also. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LinRTX Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Linda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hthnmamax2 Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patches Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 I'm sorry. Praying for you right now. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mirth Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 I'm sorry. Praying for you right now. :grouphug: Same. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Praying for you and them :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer3141 Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 I don't tell him these things. He can't even stand to be in the room if someone has a headache. Some people are freaked out by illness. I wish I knew what to say to the family. I have called them several times, but they never ask about prognosis, although I've given them hints that brain cells cannot grow back ... they are in the "bargaining" stage. Their son needs them to move on because they are going to have some decisions to make about medical intervention: how much and for how long. Oh K, I'm so sorry about that. I have a ritual for DH with this type of patient now. I make his grandmother's butterscotch oatmeal cookie and the kids "hug attack" him until he at least smiles. I usually get up with him in days like this and make sure to hug him hard on his way out the door. I wish you were closer so I could at least make you brownies or something. :( Did you get any rest? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twilight Woods Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amyable Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug: I'm sorry you have to go through this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catherine Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Oh, Kay, I am so sorry-for you and for this family and their child. How horrible. I will be thinking of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Having been on the other side of that table....I have always appreciated the compassion and love and grieving with which that news was given to our family....and that the doctor was very upfront about options and how could possibly play out at the end. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted September 6, 2012 Author Share Posted September 6, 2012 Did you get any rest? Yes, and now I'm off a bit early to try and call them before the father goes to work. I know my partner there, a psychiatrist who has a boy this age, is going to be in need of comfort, too. A lot of our patients eventually die, but not on our ward. Staff is being really great, despite the injuries involved. I really admire people who can be calm and caring after being spat on and worse while changing diapers. Everyone hug their babies today, no matter how old they are. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bzymom Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elfgivas Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: for our babies, and for you :grouphug::grouphug: ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan C. Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted September 6, 2012 Author Share Posted September 6, 2012 Everyone hug their babies today, no matter how old they are. Well, it was an all day affair, I missed lunch, and I'm hoarse from talking to doctors, nurses, families, medical directors, my boss, social workers, and nursing directors, but the patient is moving to a much more appropriate ward with quieter patients and a very caring staff. About as good as I could reasonably expect when I left the house today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blueridge Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Live2Ride Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Prayers and hugs to you and their family Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 I am so sorry. I am thankful for those of you who can do work like this. It's not the job for everyone. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTMCassandra Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaz Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FairyMom Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 and I just don't want to go to work tomorrow. It will have to be via a translator, too. And we don't know the cause of his dementia, yet, and may never know. :grouphug: Peaceful, positive thoughts! How hard. Words are never adequate for this. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tex-mex Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyinTN Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug: :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 Well, it was an all day affair, I missed lunch, and I'm hoarse from talking to doctors, nurses, families, medical directors, my boss, social workers, and nursing directors, but the patient is moving to a much more appropriate ward with quieter patients and a very caring staff. About as good as I could reasonably expect when I left the house today. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I hugged my baby extra today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ereks mom Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 Well, it was an all day affair, I missed lunch, and I'm hoarse from talking to doctors, nurses, families, medical directors, my boss, social workers, and nursing directors, but the patient is moving to a much more appropriate ward with quieter patients and a very caring staff. About as good as I could reasonably expect when I left the house today. :grouphug: Keeping you in my thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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