sparrow Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 I've talked here before about how my mom is living with Lewy Body dementia. She has declined pretty significantly in the last year and I'm now needing to help her with personal hygiene, at times. I went over to their house today to help with that and so my dad could run out and pick-up a walker for her. She is becoming more and more unsteady and has fallen a few times :(. Well, my dad got her walker, a few groceries, and a dozen roses for Valentine's Day :crying:. It was so sweet. And unexpected. It was everything I could do to hold it together. My dad is NOT a great caregiver. He's doing the best he can, but it's not in his nature to be nurturing. He loves her a lot, though. I'm sorry. I'm not sure what I want, or need, for posting this, but I'm just feeling sad tonight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :crying: That is really sweet. I'm sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Inna* Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Random Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 That is absolutely beautiful. I would have sobbed if it had been my dad and mom. :grouphug: I'm sorry about your mom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StaceyinLA Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 It is hard to watch our parents' health go downhill. My dad has been gone nearly 17 years, and my mom's health isn't great. I take care of her because she lives on our property, and it's very hard to see on a daily basis. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teachin'Mine Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i.love.lucy Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 So sweet. I'm sorry for what you all are going through.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melissel Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 Oh, that is truly sweet and heartbreaking :( I'm sorry your mom is doing so poorly. That must be beyond difficult :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forget-Me-Not Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug: It sounds like your mom is truly loved by you and your dad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErinE Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 So lovely. Hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Lulu* Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joy at Home Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 Oh Sparrow, :grouphug: heartbreaking. Lisa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abigail4476 Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 Aw. :grouphug: Thanks for sharing. Poignant, and made my night. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
C_l_e_0..Q_c Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 Very lovely, though, even though it's also sad... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in MI Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 Awww. This brought me to tears. What a wonderful gesture. :grouphug: I'm so sorry about your mom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tex-mex Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alicia64 Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 Thank you for sharing such a wonderful Valentine's story. :grouphug: Alley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lmrich Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 When I read your title - I thought broke your heart in a horrible way. I am so glad it was a sweet and touching way. Hold on to these sweet memories and the love your parents share. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug: Beautiful. I am sorry for your pain though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mabelen Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug: Bitter sweet! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patches Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 I'm sorry:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen in PA Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
awisha. Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KnitWit Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Beautiful Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 That is such a sweet story. They are blessed to have each other, and to have such a sweet love in their lifetime. As someone else said, I would have bawled if they were my parents. I'm quite emotional! I'm sorry they are going through this part. It must be so difficult. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 That is so sweet. Be thankful that you have parents who have loved each other for so long. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annlaura Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
besroma Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TX6 Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shawneinfl Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 That must be so difficult to watch. I wish you the best. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mytwomonkeys Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug: brought tears to my eyes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*~Tina~* Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug: my mom was diagnosed with cancer and kidney failure last year...she is now on dialysis 3x a week, has lost a lot of her hair because of some of her treatments and her mobility and strength have declined significantly. It is so very hard to watch. I admit that I read your post and thought how sweet it be if my Dad had stuck around and could make such a gesture. :crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparrow Posted February 14, 2012 Author Share Posted February 14, 2012 I want to thank you all for the hugs, good thoughts, and prayers. I truly needed them and I'm feeling much better tonight. It's a tough road that I know many of you are on, or have been down. I think why my dad's gesture struck me so much is that he's a really difficult person to read. We have never had a great relationship, but my mom's illness has brought us together by necessity. My parents' relationship was not fantastic either, but they stuck it out. Their marriage was much more complex than I realized. I guess it's just one of those moments in time, where as an adult, you step back and realize your parents have this whole history and love that is theirs and has nothing to do with you. Does that even make sense :confused:. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest CodyCo Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 I have not posted on here yet, and felt compelled to respond to you. I don't want to get all, "I know what you are going through", blah blah blah. Let's just say treasure those little moments, because they do. The man that you see before you is a romantic soul, maybe not storybook, but enough to have raised a family and keep a wonderful woman that would love him if he brought home roses or her favorite take out meal. I don't know you or them, but for you to be the kind of person to want to be there for them says a lot about them. Reading your post I could almost picture a woman getting Valentine roses from her love and him not making a big deal about it, but her lighting up like school girl getting her first little dandelion. I love that you shared that with us. I appreciate your candidness. Hope that I do not offend you or anyone else on this thread. Peace be unto you.....:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 I've talked here before about how my mom is living with Lewy Body dementia. She has declined pretty significantly in the last year and I'm now needing to help her with personal hygiene, at times. I went over to their house today to help with that and so my dad could run out and pick-up a walker for her. She is becoming more and more unsteady and has fallen a few times :(. Well, my dad got her walker, a few groceries, and a dozen roses for Valentine's Day :crying:. It was so sweet. And unexpected. It was everything I could do to hold it together. My dad is NOT a great caregiver. He's doing the best he can, but it's not in his nature to be nurturing. He loves her a lot, though. I'm sorry. I'm not sure what I want, or need, for posting this, but I'm just feeling sad tonight. Oh honey! :crying: I'm so sorry. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 I want to thank you all for the hugs, good thoughts, and prayers. I truly needed them and I'm feeling much better tonight. It's a tough road that I know many of you are on, or have been down. I think why my dad's gesture struck me so much is that he's a really difficult person to read. We have never had a great relationship, but my mom's illness has brought us together by necessity. My parents' relationship was not fantastic either, but they stuck it out. Their marriage was much more complex than I realized. I guess it's just one of those moments in time, where as an adult, you step back and realize your parents have this whole history and love that is theirs and has nothing to do with you. Does that even make sense :confused:. It does. I'm glad you're feeling better. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lailasmum Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 That was a lovely gesture from your dad. My dad had lewy Body dementure and died when I was 19 I know how hard it is to watch the decline. My mum lost her husband a long time before he actually died. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura in MI Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Live2Ride Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sahamamama Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 Yes. My dad was diagnosed with esophageal cancer just before Christmas. My parents' anniversary was in early January. When they opened their card from us, they made such a fuss over it. They read it together, held hands, said how pretty the card was.... as if they were savoring the moment of celebrating 49 years together, and wondering about the upcoming year. I came home and cried my eyes out. It's hard to watch, isn't it? :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 Oh, how sweet! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
runmiarun Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GailV Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 :grouphug: Very sweet and very sad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clementine Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 I have tears. :crying: I'm glad you were there to see it - you will hold the memory of those flowers forever. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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