Poll: Are you done having children?

[Prairie~Phlox]

Curious...

[MyBlueLobsters]

We won't have any more biological children, but would be open to adoption in a few years

[dawn of ns]

I'm with Emily. I've had my two bio kids...Give me a few years and I'm thinking I might like to foster and possibly adopt.

[sdWTMer]

We won't have any more biological children, but would be open to adoption in a few years

 

I'm in this camp, but we're probably completely done.

[Sandy in Indy]

There comes a point in life where you have to say...hmm, I'm too old! I'm 50; dh is 60. We're done.

[laylamcb]

As far as it depends on me (or as an old pastor friend would say, Lord willin' and the crick don't rise), yes. The old mare just ain't what she used to be.

[3lilreds in NC]

We made a permanent decision not to have any more biological kids when Schmooey was born. I'm a little sad about that now, but what's done is done. I would *love* to adopt and am just waiting for dh to think it's a good idea too.

[Jennifer in MI]

Maybe???? I'm happy with the kids we have. Dh wants more. We don't use any birth control. So, maybe so, maybe not. We'll leave it up to God.

[LG Gone Wild]

and, as I found out with JuJu (we were *done* after chichi), neither I nor my dh may have the last word on this.

[OnTheBrink]

I'm 42 in two months and I have no husband, so nope, no more kids for me!

[abbeyej]

Dh is a "yes", I'm a "no, not if I can help it". Which probably means "yes", but it makes me really sad.

[elegantlion]

Yes, we are one and done. I'm 41, dh is 48.

[Binalina]

My dh says "why oh why would you want to DO such a thing?" I really don't have an answer and don't really need one. So, we shall see. TBC

 

BL

[Maria from IN]

I have a 13 year old, and the Tall Bald Guy has six children and three grandchildren, so I think it's safe to say no. :001_smile:

 

Granted, you know what happens when you say "no more" and give the crib away...I'd better clam up.

[Crissy]

My husband is 16 years older than I am so he was done before I was completely sure.

[Sahamamama]

We can NOT have any more children biologically, but are happy with the three girls we have. We are also open to adoption as a possibility, but are not pursuing it at this time.

 

My husband and I love our girls, and don't feel we need to "go for the boy," as some have suggested we do. :glare:

 

(I do love boys, though! But I helped my sister raise hers, so I don't feel like I missed out on loving and teaching little boys... They are 13 and 11 now.... :tongue_smilie: I feel old. I remember tiny hineys and little chunky feet. If I mentioned this to either of them now, they would be MORTIFIED. :lol: Where does the time go?).

[Jenny in Atl]

Yup, plumbing is too old and I'm too tired. :tongue_smilie:

[Meljoy]

As far as it depends on me (or as an old pastor friend would say, Lord willin' and the crick don't rise), yes. The old mare just ain't what she used to be.

 

What she said!

[E_Edgerton]

I am an "other, please explain" I haven't started yet! I am a home tutor for a home schooling family...which is why I am involved with these boards. I can't wait for this part of my life to begin!:)

[Jami]

I voted "not sure". Dh thinks this one will be it for us. But we also said that 4 years ago with #3. I think 4 will probably be a good number for us, but I'm not sure we'll make any absolute decisions any time soon. (I'm 32 and dh is almost-31) If we were to live closer to family (his or mine) and found ourselves with more financial wiggle room, that could possibly change the landscape somewhat.

[lwilliams1922]

We should be. 12, 2 and 1 in the house and we're both close to 40.

 

Since DH and I are both making 1/4 of what we were, finantially it's just not a good idea.

 

but if there were another surprise....

[Rebecca in GA]

Yes. Three is my number. :):):)

[Jennefer@SSA]

Not sure where to put myself if we are currently expecting #4 but won't have anymore after this. This will be my 4th c-section and I will be almost 37 when this one is born. Dr. says this is it and I feel he's right. I would be very open to international adoption if someone dumped a truckload of money at my front door! :D

[swellmomma]

mine is 2 parts, I am done if I stay single, but I know I am not done so if I remarry I'mhaving more

[Niffercoo]

We made permanent arrangements not to have more biological children after Reece was born. I have a hard time staying pregnant, and the thought of more miscarriages was too much for me.

 

A few years ago, I had a notion that I might like to adopt from Africa. But then Austin and Reece were diagnosed with ASDs, and I had to get to the work of giving them what they need.

 

So yes, we're done having children. That being said, if a child needed a home and someone approached me about it, I would never refuse (and neither would dh)!

[mom31257]

We are done and dh took care of it 4 years ago. I went through about 6 months a year ago wishing we had another. I still think of it often, sadly. We had some trouble getting pregnant with dd, then I had to take some stomach medicine that was a category C which put off our trying for another. When we finally got the okay, he took a while also. We felt like we wanted to be done with kids before 40, so they wouldn't be so young if something happened to us. We really didn't want 6 years apart, but I think it has had some great advantages. We are both 41. Who knows...maybe God will send someone for us to adopt?!?! It would have to be Him, because we don't have the money, so I know he'd provide it.

[Peek a Boo]

We're at "probably."

Supposedly we're done, but we haven't done much to change what we were doing for the last 14 years ;)

 

:D

[Carrie12345]

We said we were done after #3. Then came #4. Now we go back and forth. I'd like to have another baby... if pregnancy were more like 9 weeks than 9 (10) months. We've also touched on the idea of adoption. We haven't made any real decisions yet. Or should I say again?

[CalicoKat]

not sure, . . . when the phone will ring again and we'll be back in babyland.

 

Our babies have arrived via caseworker in approx. 2 year intervals. Technically we mostly likely have a year before the next placement.

[Aggie]

We started late and finished late :)

 

However...if we had started having children earlier, I would have wanted 6. The early years are tough, but once they are all over 6 it seems much easier!

 

Aggie

[Parrothead]

I think we are done. When we tried so long for another, the doctor we went to said we "just got lucky" with the first one. We hoped for a few years but now we both have medical issues that would make it risky and difficult.

Although there is no protection being used, the likelihood of it happening is slim to none.

[PameliaSue]

We have multiplied 2x2=4

So we're done.

Dh took one for the team 9 months back.:D

[Philothea]

Not done. I still have so many great names to use up on my babies :)

[JenneinCA]

I wish it were otherwise. But we are done.

[Lorna in the boonies]

We're done. After complications ranging from placental abruptions (2) to neural tube defects (also 2 -- one very minor, one very major), my OB got in our faces about how dangerous it would be to try again. Dh has had a vasectomy -- something neither of us wanted, but both of us knew was necessary.

[Doran]

I sure as shoot hope so! :lol:

[eaglei]

Sadly, we are done. Biology dictated a late start for us and unfortunately the biological clock has stopped. I say "biology", but really, I have to believe this was God's plan - so we thank Him for the one He gave us (and look forward to seeing the one in heaven through a miscarriage). Had we had our "druthers," we would have had a much larger family.

[TravelingChris]

We waited for a while to be sure but last year, dh got the operation. I get better when pregnant but they are higher risk pregnancy. Given that we will both be 45 this year and our youngest in 11, no more biological children. We were foster parents before our first was born and we may do it again.

[WTMindy]

Dh had a vasectomy and so I'm pretty close to positive that we are done, but I must confess that if the Lord worked a miracle, I wouldn't be too sad about it!!

[KidsHappen]

My youngest just turned 9 and my first grandbaby is two weeks old. My hubby had the surgery eight years ago but we considered a reversal about two or three years ago. Luckily, I got over that and moved on to the next stage in life. I am happy with where I am now. :)

[LauraGB]

You know, we got lucky with one pregnancy and two kids...why rock the boat? Seriously, we're pretty fortunate to have had 2 healthy kids and for that we're grateful, but I am not planning on reliving the baby years - I don't even remember much at all about the first 2 years - I'm sure there is a good reason. :D

 

Anyway, if I had another baby, dh would kill me, what with the vasectomy and all...

[JFSinIL]

I'm almost 50. My kids are 16, 16, 14, 12. I am looking forward to grandkids in about ten years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Elisabeth in IL]

I said yes, but God can always make it a no.

[Miss Peregrine]

I hope not, but it sure looks that way.

[Kathleen in VA]

I'll be 50 this year so, yes, we're done. On to the next chapter.:)

[caitlinsmom]

I am pretty sure we are done but there is still that possiblitly ya know. I dont really want anymore but I wouldnt freak if it happened. :)

[Elaine]

We're done. We were done after 2. My hubby had a vasectomy and a week later I found out I was pregnant with Joe!:lol:

 

 

I would adopt though.:001_smile: I would love a little girl.

[MeanestMomInMidwest]

dh would like have more and I told him to get to work growing a uterus so that could happen. I figured out what was causing that and put a stop to it! No more for me.

[Sparkle]

I picked other. I'm pretty sure we're done from a biological standpoint (I'm almost 44), but I'd love to adopt. So we'll see.

[NevadaRabbit]

I am going to confess that we are done and I am greatly relieved. Miscarriage robbed me of much joy during pregnancy, postpartum depression robbed me of much joy when my babies were babies, and frankly I spent the toddler years wishing my children were old enough to send to college. I realize how truly awful that sounds and hope none of you take it in any sense other than me just being honest that those early years were awful for me. I LOVE parenting now, but emotionally I could not do babies again. DH was snipped several years ago and I had a hysterectomy in March - so if God intends for us to have more, He'll have to leave us a basket at the door. :)