AprilTN Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: I can't imagine, but when I tried to imagine myself in your place, tears immediately came to my eyes. I know she did it out of love, but I can see that it would hurt in ways I can't even imagine. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veritaserum Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meriwether Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rgrin Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThisIsTheDay Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen in PA Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Kari C in SC Posted January 24, 2012 Author Share Posted January 24, 2012 You guys are great! I came back here to read and I feel like I have been hugged. My niece did ask us before she chose his name and we gave her our blessing. It was very hard for me when my nephew had his baby girl last year too. My nephew is the same age as my son would be. I had to wait a few months to go see the baby because I just didn't want my sadness to overshadow any joy the baby brought. My nephew's wife was so sweet and understanding. I am very blessed to have an amazing family. I think that every time a new baby comes it is going to be hard for me for quite some time. And then realizing he is named for my Timmy - I feel pride and sadness. It is a very strange mix of emotions. I just can't put these feelings out for my family because I don't want to my niece to ever think she did the wrong thing. She did it with nothing but love and I know that. Thank you all for being here. You all are just amazing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcconnellboys Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 Love to you! Perhaps this is her way of trying to give you a grandchild.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jennsmile Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: My son is 3 and there are still times when his name is bittersweet from my parents. So :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: And know it is completely normal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Florida Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 I think mixed feelings are absolutely understandable. Sending more hugs your way . . . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ma23peas Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 I really just do not know how I would respond...I think it is sweet, but maybe if it weren't so soon after losing a son...maybe a grand niece's child or a generation removed...I am sorry, I would be sad and conflicted as well :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silliness7 Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luvnlattes Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ohdanigirl Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
higginszoo Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug: How bittersweet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PentecostalMom Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 What an honor and :grouphug:. Hang in there Mama, it's an honor being the proud mom of a solider. :patriot: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Inna* Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myfunnybunch Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ereks mom Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 My niece just had her second baby boy today. She named him Owen Timothy for my son. I am thrilled that she did. At the same time it just hurts so much that anyone is naming their baby "after my son". I don't know why I am posting here. I guess because she doesn't come here and I just don't want her to think for a minute that I am not beyond happy they chose this. I am so honored they did. I just am having a really hard time knowing I won't ever have grandkids from my son. Thanks for listening. :grouphug: Praying for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
didadeewiththree Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug: I also enjoyed reading your blogs, so many heartfelt memories of your son. You have such a beautiful family! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
love2read Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 It would have to be painful to hear that and certainly nothing will ever replace your son. In a way, by naming her baby after your son she has given you the gift of honoring him now and enjoying your son in the future. Little Owen is going to want to hear stories about the Owen he was named for over and over, and your son obviously was someone your niece wanted her newborn to emulate. It's painful now and you have my prayer :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anneofalamo Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 I don't know you and I read this and was confused, then I read your siggy and burst into tears... my tears are nothing to your loss :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparrow Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2cents Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lisabees Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 Oh Kari. HUGS to you. :grouphug: I remember the day you shared the news, like it was yesterday. I think of you all of the time. My heart breaks for you. I wish we could take this pain away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeW88 Posted January 24, 2012 Share Posted January 24, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: I can't even imagine how bittersweet this is for you. Although it's a lovely way to remember Tim, I'm sure it brings pain with it. But how nice that your niece thought so highly of him that she wants her own son to be honored with his name. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetMissMagnolia Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Praying or you! :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 How sweet :) The bitter part of the sweetness will fade a bit with time. I named my son's middle name after my cousin and also his Great Grandpa. It's a bit sad, as my cousin should be here for me, but happy... because I'm honoring both of them with my son's (middle) name.... Hugs to you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lovedtodeath Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 Praying for you Kari. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BakersDozen Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 What a lovely honor. :iagree: Lovely indeed. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iona Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
desertmum Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I believe your niece's heart was in the right place, but I know it hurts anyways. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KS_ Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ezrabean2005 Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 :grouphug: You are the world's strongest mom. God bless you with peace now. He's holding you through this pain. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CountitallJoy Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 Just wanted to add one more :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 My niece just had her second baby boy today. She named him Owen Timothy for my son. I am thrilled that she did. At the same time it just hurts so much that anyone is naming their baby "after my son". I don't know why I am posting here. I guess because she doesn't come here and I just don't want her to think for a minute that I am not beyond happy they chose this. I am so honored they did. I just am having a really hard time knowing I won't ever have grandkids from my son. Thanks for listening. I totally get it, Kari. :grouphug: My baby girl's name is sacred to me. Sometimes I'll meet another young Lydia and a part of me enjoys hearing the name, while a part of me is thinking, "My Lydia will never be on the volleyball team..." and that part makes me so sad. :grouphug: I think it's perfectly right for you to come tell us. There are often no venues IRL where we can safely express those feelings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 What a lovely honor.:grouphug: Yes,it is. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AuntieM Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 Aw Kari, I already responded once, but I can't stop thinking about you. Here are some more hugs. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I just wanted to echo that your feelings, though conflicted, are perfectly normal. Heck, I'd be surprised to hear you felt any other way. And your comment was so sweet - she named this child solely out of love - what a gracious acknowledgement. I pray that this child will be special to you in a way that will bring you much joy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quiver0f10 Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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