Marriage poll: Just out of curiosity

[Guest]

I was in junior high and he was in high school, same school.

[BigMamaBird]

I met my dh when I was 15 and he was 17. We got married six years later and will be celebrating out 12 year anniversary this year. :D

[BarbecueMom]

High school. We started dating when he was a freshman (14) and I was a junior (16), though I have a vague memory of watching him play a solo in his sixth grade band concert. We've been together for 12 years, married for 6.

[rwjx2khsmj]

I actually met my dh when we were in elementary school. We didn't date until I was in college.

[QuirkyKapers]

I married someone I met after highschool and college.

[JumpedIntoTheDeepEndFirst]

We met while in college.

 

However, we are friends with several couples that began dating in high school and have been married for around 20 years. Many of them waited to marry until they graduated from college so they have a long history of dating prior to marriage.

[Jenny in Florida]

My husband and I met while we were in elementary school.

 

We started "going together" (which then meant really that we just acknowledged we didn't hate each other) in sixth grade, started dating for real in junior high. We dated on and off through the first couple of years of high school, then broke up and didn't see each other for several years.

 

We got back in touch when we were in our early 20s and married a few years later.

[Nakia]

I voted high school, but we didn't go to the same school. We met at a church diocesan conference (went to different churches in the same area). We dated of and on, then "went steady" in college, but we were in different colleges, too.

Been married 26+ years.

 

 

Just an aside--It's funny when you reach that point of having known your dh longer than you haven't known him. LOL For me that was 12 years ago.

 

LOL! I realized 4 years ago that Patrick and I had been together half my life. :001_smile:

[In the Rain]

It is neat to read about those of you who have known your dhs for so long. I met mine after we were both several years out of college.

[thescrappyhomeschooler]

It is neat to read about those of you who have known your dhs for so long. I met mine after we were both several years out of college.

 

Yes, it is. I was engaged to my college boyfriend, but broke up with him shortly before graduation because I felt like I was way too young to get married and tie myself down to one person for the rest of my life. We maintained a precarious relationship after that, until finally parting ways for good. I still think about him every day, even though I wouldn't change a thing about my life. He had a profound impact on my life, and helped me to get to the place where I am right now, which is in a pretty secure place with myself. I know dh had a relationship like that as well. He always says that person helped him learn how to be a good mate. Dh was 43 when we were married and I was a couple months shy of 33. It was the first marriage for both of us, and I think it is a very different relationship than what either of us would have had if we stayed with earlier relationships.

 

I'm very impressed with people who have found the right person right away and spend the majority of their lives together. It's a very happy thought.

[NittanyJen]

I'm married to the only guy I ever even dated.

 

He asked me out when I was 16.

 

We dated all through high school and college, and were married 2 weeks after my college graduation.

 

I have a tendency to just make up my mind and go with something :lol:

[JMDRAD]

I was in my Senior year in high school when I met my future husband who was in the army and three years older than me. He's the first and only man I ever dated. We got engaged when I turned 18 and married the January after my high school graduation. This January will make 11 years for us.:)

[Stratford]

Met and married during college, we were living on the same block. I was 20, DH 22. Our 12th anniversary is in a few months.

[I talk to the trees]

We met in junior high school. I still have my 8th grade yearbook with the page he signed! We didn't get married until after college, though. We have been married 14 years.

[GoVanGogh]

I voted high school, but technically we are four years apart and our school only had 10-12th grades at the high school. We attended the same high school, but not at the same time. I was still in high school and he was back from college on Christmas break when a friend set us up.

We found out later that his family had lived next to my grandparents while we were growing up and my grandmother has pictures of my husband and his brother playing with her youngest set of children. My mother was estranged from her mother at that point, so we were never at my grandmother's house.

We just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary.

[MinivanMom]

I met my husband the summer after I graduated from college. I moved to a different state for my first post-graduation job and met him there. Strangely, he was supposed to start attending the college I had just graduated from. Those plans changed when he met me and he attended a different local university instead, so that he could date me. Good choice on his part.

[eaglei]

I met my husband the summer after we both graduated from high school. We lived in cities about an hour's drive apart, and met at church when my family visited his church one Sunday. We were in the same Sunday School class. That was in 1978. :)

 

This is very similar to dh and me!

--We met the summer after I graduated high school; he was already a couple years into college.

--We lived in cities not quite an hour apart.

--We met at a church youth function in my town on a Friday evening (although several months earlier, following an evening church service, a relative-through-marriage of his tried to play match-maker. I wasn't interested :001_smile:).

--It wasn't too many years before '78!

[dancer67]

I met my husband when I was a Sophomore in high school. I was just turning 15. He is the only one I have even "been with", and we will be celebrating 24 years of marriage in June:lol:

[luvnlattes]

I met my dh through a friend that I worked with.

[Denise in Florida]

My dh and I met and started dating in high school. We went to separate colleges for freshman year and married the following summer.

 

We have been married for 33 years. wow

 

If asked (I don't offer unsolicted advice to young couples :001_smile:) I would say wait. There isn't any rush. We have a good marriage and I am happy but sometimes I wonder what I might have tried or where I might have gone if I had not married so young (19 years old).

 

eta: fortunately he is very outgoing and willing to try adventures, we have done many fun things and have moved around the country. I don't feel stuck I just wonder sometimes. IYKWIM?

Edited December 29, 2011 by Denise in Florida

[Cinder]

Dh and I met in college via AFROTC. We would not have met otherwise as we never had any classes together, except AFROTC.

[mycalling]

I married just out of High School but not someone from HS.

[DawnM]

I was 29 when I got married. I did not meet him in high school or college. I met him when I was 27.

 

Dawn

[Live2Ride]

I met my hubby right after I graduated, but I missed meeting him by just a couple years at the Nuclear Base in Orlando where he was stationed. We moved there while I was in highschool, a couple years after he left, as my stepdad was on shoreduty for a time there. I worked on base at a couple different places and would have run into him if he'd been there, lol.

 

We ended up in the same area in the fall of '96, when I met him while working at walmart after his apartment burned down. We've been married almost 15 years.

[3peasinapod]

I met DH in college. He was in the Air Force, me in college. We were married when we were 21! We are happy now 12 years later, but it was really, extremely, tough in the beginning, as we were just very young.

[angela in ohio]

Dh and I met in college. Well, we were both going to the same university, but we met in a country western bar the day before I turned 21. :lol:

[KatieJ]

DH and I went to Kindergarten together. He went on to a private elementary and Junior High school, I went thru Public. We met as Seniors in Highschool and got married 3 years later.

4 of my close girlfirends from elementary and into highschool, met their husbands in highschool (3 of the guys had been friends thru elementary) and each of us have been married over 35 years now. We get together as couples as often as we can, but since we no longer live in our hometown, it's not as often as we like!

[Crimson Wife]

The thought of having married someone from my high school makes my stomach churn!

 

Me, too! My high school had a decided shortage of guys who were both brainy and physically attractive. Thank goodness for college when I didn't have to choose between brains and brawn ;)

[Ohdanigirl]

You need an other. I met dh when I was 11 years old. We dated while I was in high school, but never attended school together. We married while I was in college, after having dated about 4 years.

 

Danielle

[EmilyinND]

I didn't meet my husband in high school or college...I was in college, but we met at the grocery store. I just thank my lucky stars that I didn't marry my high school sweetheart.

 

My parents are high school sweethearts, though and are still married. They were voted cutest couple in high school.:001_wub:

[Cortana]

We're an "other".

 

We met when he was in 6th grade and I was in 8th grade, he was in the same class as my brother and I was in the same class as his brother. Dh was one of my brother's best friends. We didn't run in the same circles and didn't really take notice of each other until after high school when we were both in the same church college & career group. He was 19 and I was 20 when we started dating. We got engaged about 6 mos after we started dating but didn't get married for another year, he wanted to wait til he had a good solid job and was 21, lol! He said he wanted to be old enough to have a glass of wine on our honeymoon. ;)

 

We'll be married 15 years this coming August. Dh and my brother are still very close friends. :)

[edelweiss]

DH and I went to the same high school and "knew of" each other, but never spoke to each other. We met in college and have been married for 18 years. :001_smile:

[DusksAngel]

We met in high school. He was friends with my brother, so I knew him but we didn't become a couple til years later.

[LostSurprise]

I voted 'College' because we met there, but we dated after I graduated (although he was still there).

[Lisa in the UP of MI]

I met dh in college. He was 20 and I was 18. We were 21 and 19 when we got engaged and 22 and 20 when we got married. Though we were both in school, we started our family right away and our oldest was born when we were 23 and 21.

[Quiver0f10]

I met my DH while I was in highschool, but he had already graduated. I was 16 and he was 20 when we met and 18 and 22 when we got married. We will celebrate 25 years in 2012.

[mommaduck]

We met in and dated throughout highschool.

[Holly IN]

I voted "I married somebody I met in high school". I need to clarify this....We didn't go to the same high school. We went to rival high school in the same county. My school was always against his school. I came from the rival school district to the school district I graduated from. I still had a lot of friends from his school. They introduced us and we became high school sweethearts but not attending the same school. :)

 

Holly (married to this same fella for 20 years and going strong)

[Dustybug]

I married someone that I met while I was in college, but he wasn't a student. My DH is 7 years older than I am and we worked together.

[Renee in NC]

I met (and married) dh while in college - we're headed for 15 years.

[Blueridge]

My hubby and I met in high school, as freshmen, and married right after our college graduation. We'll be celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary in a few weeks. :001_wub:

[Heidi]

We met at a church activity when I was 21, he was 25. Married him 4 weeks later. Happily married for 9 years :)

[happypamama]

Technically, I knew DH when we were 12 and 14, but we didn't really meet until we were 14 and 16, and that's when we started dating. I've been his high school sweetheart, hometown honey, college girlfriend, fiancee, wife, and babymama. And always his best friend. We knew it was the real thing after the first date.

 

My brother is also married to his high school sweetheart. I realize that we're fairly unusual.

[cathmom]

I don't know how to answer this. Dh and I met just after I turned 19, he was 19 as well. But we did not meet through college, even though I was in college. We have been together 21.5 years!

[Kari C in SC]

I met my dh in the first month of 9th grade. We have been together for 25 years. I love that I met him when we were so young.

[skirch]

I'm an other. I was in high school when when we started dating but he had already graduated. I've known him since I was 11 when my family moved into the neighborhood. We started dating when I was 16 (he was 19) and married when I was 19. We've been married 25 years. While it has worked for us, I really hope DD won't marry so young.

[JenniferB]

My husband married his childhood sweetheart, me, but I wasn't sweet on him until we were young adults. We didn't go to any schools together, so I voted other.

[SweetMissMagnolia]

I didn't really date in high school...pretty sure hubby did LOL---we both got married kinda "late" -first marriages for both of us- I was 30 and he was 33 :001_smile:

[TheAutumnOak]

We met at a church activity when I was 21, he was 25. Married him 4 weeks later. Happily married for 9 years :)

 

Wow...

I met my DH at church when we both were in college...We became best friends and were best friends for a few years...He was like my brother, I never thought we would get married...Then one day I realized I was in love with him :001_wub:...We have been married for almost 12 years...He is still the greatest guy I know...