Tammyla Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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amo_mea_filiis. Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bensmom Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 Lots of love and prayers for your sis and the entire family:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoPlaceLikeHome Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BatmansWife Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 :grouphug: :crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missiemick Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 :sad: My heart breaks for you. I really hope you are able to spend lots of time with her. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frontier Mom Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 ((Prayers to you and your sister.)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 My sister died of breast cancer when I was 16. She was 27. I'm glad that everyone is being honest about the possibility of little time being left - that way you can make the most of it. When my sister was dying everyone was so upbeat and positive - I never thought she would die. In the end, I didn't even get to say good-bye. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I am so sorry, Sarah. It's horrible not getting to say goodbye. I didn't get to say goodbye to my brother, either, and it still haunts me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlmiraGulch Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 I'm so very sorry. I can't even imagine. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yellowperch Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 :grouphug: I'll keep you in my thoughts, fellow RIslander. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiberia Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 I'm very sorry. I'm praying for your sister and your whole family. Be realistic in your expectations, but don't let it rob you of hope and peace. God is with you.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 So sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 I am so very sorry:grouphug: Prayers said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katilac Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 My thoughts are with you. My sister died from cancer at age 40; you are welcome to pm me if you ever have a question or just want to talk. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Violet Crown Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 :grouphug: I am so sorry. Many prayers, through the intercession of the Immaculate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 (edited) My oldest sister who is 50 just found out that she has a fast growing breast cancer. She is either stage 3 or 4 and doesn't have long at all. It spread so quickly that chemo will only buy her some time. I'm in shock, I'm sad, I'm scared. I am only 33 years old, but will now have to monitored and have yearly mammograms. I'm afraid for my sister. I don't know why I'm pouring this out here on you all at this time of year. Prayers please for us all. If you aren't religious, then positive thoughts please. Has it spread to other organs? That is stage 4. Depending on which organs and how complicated the involvement is, stage 4 can still be beat back into a chronic illness. Stage 3 is still curable--(depending on the type of cancer) not just remission, but cure. Stage 3 means it is in the lymph nodes, but no where else. I have a friend who has been at stage 4 for years. One oncologist gave up on her and a friend got her to see another one a number of years ago, who not only didn't give up on her, but has maintained her health. The first was an oncologist at a very reputable local hospital. The second was an oncologist at a comprehensive cancer center. But even at comprehensive centers, there are good docs and not so good ones. Don't take the first opinion as a death sentence. It doesn't sound like you have very complete info. Perhaps your sister doesn't either. Did she go to a comprehensive cancer treatment center? If not, urge her to go to one. The fast growing cancers are often ones that respond to treatment really well. For instance, her-2 cancers are very aggressive, fast-growing breast cancers, but have great response to treatment because there is a targeted biological agent called herceptin that is incredibly effective in nailing them. People react differently to chemo--she may have a really good response. Don't give up seeking a physician who can treat her or at the least refer her to a trial. Find out what kind of cancer she has (get the specifics--name of the cancer--is it her2 positive or negative, estrogen positive or negative, etc.) Get the stage. If she is stage 4, find out what organs it has metastasized to. Then, research on reputable sites such as Susan Komen, cancer.org, etc. Where does your sister live? Edited December 3, 2011 by Laurie4b Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 I am so sorry. Sisters are precious. You all are in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LuvingLife Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 Praying for you, her and your family. At least she will won't have to deal with any pain.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grace'smom Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 Has it spread to other organs? That is stage 4. Depending on which organs and how complicated the involvement is, stage 4 can still be beat back into a chronic illness. Stage 3 is still curable--(depending on the type of cancer) not just remission, but cure. Stage 3 means it is in the lymph nodes, but no where else. I have a friend who has been at stage 4 for years. One oncologist gave up on her and a friend got her to see another one a number of years ago, who not only didn't give up on her, but has maintained her health. The first was an oncologist at a very reputable local hospital. The second was an oncologist at a comprehensive cancer center. But even at comprehensive centers, there are good docs and not so good ones. Don't take the first opinion as a death sentence. It doesn't sound like you have very complete info. Perhaps your sister doesn't either. Did she go to a comprehensive cancer treatment center? If not, urge her to go to one. The fast growing cancers are often ones that respond to treatment really well. For instance, her-2 cancers are very aggressive, fast-growing breast cancers, but have great response to treatment because there is a targeted biological agent called herceptin that is incredibly effective in nailing them. People react differently to chemo--she may have a really good response. Don't give up seeking a physician who can treat her or at the least refer her to a trial. Find out what kind of cancer she has (get the specifics--name of the cancer--is it her2 positive or negative, estrogen positive or negative, etc.) Get the stage. If she is stage 4, find out what organs it has metastasized to. Then, research on reputable sites such as Susan Komen, cancer.org, etc. :iagree::iagree::iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 Even stage 4 is not an immediate death sentence. Many women live for years at stage 4. Some go into remission for years; some are dealing with a chronic disease, getting chemo regularly to keep the site of the metastasis from growing. As long as there is not an inoperable tumor left after radiation and chemo, there is likely something that can be done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheApprentice Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 :grouphug: Prayers for you sister and family and for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nono Posted December 4, 2011 Share Posted December 4, 2011 Prayers said. I hope that your sister feels guided in her decision-making. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama2Many4 Posted December 4, 2011 Author Share Posted December 4, 2011 Has it spread to other organs? That is stage 4. Depending on which organs and how complicated the involvement is, stage 4 can still be beat back into a chronic illness. Stage 3 is still curable--(depending on the type of cancer) not just remission, but cure. Stage 3 means it is in the lymph nodes, but no where else. I have a friend who has been at stage 4 for years. One oncologist gave up on her and a friend got her to see another one a number of years ago, who not only didn't give up on her, but has maintained her health. The first was an oncologist at a very reputable local hospital. The second was an oncologist at a comprehensive cancer center. But even at comprehensive centers, there are good docs and not so good ones. Don't take the first opinion as a death sentence. It doesn't sound like you have very complete info. Perhaps your sister doesn't either. Did she go to a comprehensive cancer treatment center? If not, urge her to go to one. The fast growing cancers are often ones that respond to treatment really well. For instance, her-2 cancers are very aggressive, fast-growing breast cancers, but have great response to treatment because there is a targeted biological agent called herceptin that is incredibly effective in nailing them. People react differently to chemo--she may have a really good response. Don't give up seeking a physician who can treat her or at the least refer her to a trial. Find out what kind of cancer she has (get the specifics--name of the cancer--is it her2 positive or negative, estrogen positive or negative, etc.) Get the stage. If she is stage 4, find out what organs it has metastasized to. Then, research on reputable sites such as Susan Komen, cancer.org, etc. Where does your sister live? Thank you for all of the wonderful info! I will pass it along and hope for a miracle. She lives in Rhode Island, as do I. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted December 6, 2011 Share Posted December 6, 2011 Thank you for all of the wonderful info! I will pass it along and hope for a miracle. She lives in Rhode Island, as do I. https://cissecure.nci.nih.gov/factsheet/FactSheetSearch1_2.aspx You can go here and look for the nearest comprehensive cancer center. It doesn't look like there is one in RI. The nearest ones are in Connecticut, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, and New York. However, if a patient must travel, the docs at the comprehensive centers will often design a plan that can be implemented at a smaller hospital. Again, it doesn't look like RI even has a cancer center, let alone a comprehensive cancer center, so I would encourage your sister to go for an evaluation at one of the comprehensive centers. The prognosis could change quite a bit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted December 6, 2011 Share Posted December 6, 2011 I am so sorry -- prayers coming your way. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trish Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 How is your sister doing? (sorry if I missed an update thread) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CalicoKat Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: I am sorry. My sil had breast cancer at 29. Please, please make sure you monitor yourself. I am so sorry for your sister. :grouphug::grouphug: Praying for you all, Faithe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Thinking and praying today for you.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 https://cissecure.nci.nih.gov/factsheet/FactSheetSearch1_2.aspx You can go here and look for the nearest comprehensive cancer center. It doesn't look like there is one in RI. The nearest ones are in Connecticut, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, and New York. However, if a patient must travel, the docs at the comprehensive centers will often design a plan that can be implemented at a smaller hospital. Again, it doesn't look like RI even has a cancer center, let alone a comprehensive cancer center, so I would encourage your sister to go for an evaluation at one of the comprehensive centers. The prognosis could change quite a bit. :iagree::iagree: It would be more than worth it to go to Boston or NYC's Sloan Kettering. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Going through it too with my beloved sil, so hard. I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 I'm so sorry. I'm praying for you and your sister. My mother and my grandmother and my great-grandmother all had breast cancer. (They all lived into their 80's, and my mother who first had cancer at age 42 is now 82.) I have mammograms and MRI's yearly. I'm glad I can be watched carefully. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emzhengjiu Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 I'm so sorry. Praying for your sister. :grouphug: Ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unscripted Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Oh gosh. I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: I hope the update is positive. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SailorMom Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aelwydd Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacia Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 (edited) I have been wondering how she is doing, too, and praying for a positive update. :grouphug: I know that you recently posted that she lost her hair from the chemo, and that you said that if she could live without her hair, you could too, so I know she's still fighting. You sound like such a great sister. Edited February 5, 2012 by Catwoman Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patches Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 I am so so sorry. :( We will be praying for you and your sister. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jasda Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Frightening time; I'm so sorry! Here's hoping that you and your sister make some wonderful memories in the time she has left! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peaceful Isle Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 Praying for your sister and the whole family! :grouphug::grouphug: I am so sorry your sister and your family have to go through this. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErinE Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 Prayers and hugs are sent for your sister and you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pretty in Pink Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm sorry, Mary. Praying for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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